Hi there! You described me, for the most part. Just a few months ago, my therapist informed me that I'm a perfectionist, and a whole lot of stuff clicked into place.
I can plan for things, and I can do stuff when I'm not in my head fussing about it--but when I overplan or overthink any situation I get paralyzed by wanting it to go EXACTLY RIGHT. And knowing that it probably won't, I have a really hard time taking that first simple step, even it if would be pretty easy.
Are you my husband? One of the smartest people I know and can't complete a damn thing because the he can't ever start because everything is not complete upfront.
Please I had no desire to make anyone feel ashamed. I just feel frustrated for him, not at him. The one thing I wish I could teach him, is that if you wait for perfection nothing gets started let alone finished. For full disclosure my problem is I don't start things because I am afraid I will fail. Same result different path.
Apologies, my comment was too breaf to be clear. I feel the same and wanted to express how I feel in my relationship because of this, you know, to share an insight. But I didn't mean it was in any way your fault.
I wish you two the best.
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u/kherven May 30 '17 edited Jan 06 '18