Libra ☀️, Aquarius 🌕, Gemini 🌅

Ah wow, so many similarities! So sorry things ended on Valentine’s Day of all days but it’s great that you are now able to build yourself a much better, healthier and happier life. This is what I tell myself when I feel sad or triggered by something, and it really helps. This may not be your thing but some poems have seriously helped me through my darker days, e.g. some poems by Mary Oliver - particularly ‘The Journey’.

Anytime you’re struggling and want to talk to someone, let me know! Sometimes it’s nice to vent and talk about this stuff with friends and family but its also so therapeutic chatting to someone who really understands what it’s like.

Ps. proud of you for fully forgiving him. I am still working on that one as there were so many instances of emotional cheating, as well as the cheating with someone he works with. I selfishly hope he hasn’t turned into someone who will treat the next person he gets into a relationship with properly, because I’m so bitter with all that I went through. I’m trying to let go and forgive and forget, but it is so hard 😣

I read this comment and I resonate with you so much @trolling4tea! I experienced a very similar dynamic in my most recent relationship - I was with a troubled avoidant for 3.5 years and while I definitely wasn’t perfect, my ex was totally incapable of communicating openly with me. He ended up getting to know someone at his work place and basically cheating on me (note I used to work at the same place which is how I’ve come to know this). My heart sunk that night when I realised what was happening. We ended things ‘mutually’, and while I wasn’t in love with him in the end, I was completely destroyed by his disrespect and actions.

He love bombed me in the beginning, and after signs of unfaithful behaviour and total disrespect for the first year and a half of being together, I tried ending the relationship, but he threatened to end his life. I stayed but eventually managed to break up with him shortly after that, but I was so attached and scared (traumatised) about what might happen once we broke up, I convinced myself to get back with him.

Some things changed, but the pattern of me wanting us to work through things together and talk was shut down almost every single time. I was gaslit and called angry and mean every time I tried having a conversation with him, which made me lose my sense of self over time. I am so glad to be free from that relationship, and I never want to see or think or hear about him again, but I’m still struggling so much.

Like you, I love my ability to communicate and I’ve been told by family and friends and strangers alike that I am so easy to talk to. Please don’t let your ex make you feel like you aren’t good enough or aren’t a strong communicator. I let my relationship grind me down to a shell of myself and I am trying every day to build myself back up. It’s been about 3 months now and I’m struggling with overcoming the betrayal I experienced, but things are becoming so crystal clear that it was a doomed relationship from the beginning.

If you ever want to chat to rant / talk about things having been in a similar boat, just message me!

Thanks! Seen that all over Reddit and TikTok and already got it downloaded

I would love to visit, just depends on timing and budget! If I end up in Singapore I’ll let you know. Would love to hear some recommendations :)

Ahh exciting! Have a great time 😎

Yeah this is something I’m a bit nervous about. I haven’t ruled out stopping at more places including those that you’ve mentioned in Thailand, it’s just that the places I have in mind are listed.

I’m aiming to travel for 5-6 weeks and have a budget of around £2k once I’m there, so fully aware that I may not be able to go everywhere I want to this time around.

Going 3rd March! 😊

Haha true, I meant more the less conventional order / starting in Hanoi rather than the classic fly into Bangkok or HCMC. But you’re right, thanks

Please don’t apologise - it’s good to be open and honest when you’re struggling and that’s what places like Reddit are for. No job is perfect and I’m already quite weary of the challenges and changes ahead of me so this hasn’t phased me at all! Just hope that it’s all temporary for you and it will get better in the next few weeks.

That’s very kind, I might send you a message if I have any questions about the experience before applying for places :)

Hello, I’m so sorry to hear you are having a hard time after qualifying. I’m currently trying to switch from a corporate career to SLT and it seems like an incredibly rewarding job, but so much work and so intense from a studying perspective. Thanks for being so open about your struggles.

I have felt as unhappy as you in a few jobs, it really is horrible as work takes up so much of our time. I’m sure you are doing better than you think, and in terms of the day-to-day isolation and challenges you are facing, you should try reaching out to other newly qualified SLTs working in similar roles to you as I’m sure you aren’t the only one having a bumpy time.

If it helps, I’m 28 and have only just figured out that I want to do this as a career, but I need to find a way to land an assistant job or way to build work experience in order to get accepted onto a masters or apprenticeship. It’s all so tough. Above everything, you should be so proud of what you’ve achieved, and lean on your loved ones when the anxiety is hitting hard. I hope it gets better for you and you start to fall back in love with SLT!

Loumi and his Pom Pom obsession: he sniffs and bats the poms around as though they are alive and he is trying to tame them, for hours on end (guests and family have all commented on how weird this is).

Once done playing around, he carries them in his mouth and plops them into his water glass, then stares at them while they slowly sink to the bottom of the glass. He then puts his paw into the water, flicking water everywhere, retrieves the soaked Pom Pom into his mouth, eventually carries it off, and throws it up and down the stairs, all to begin playing again.

This cycle continues with nap and food breaks throughout the day and night. So far this obsession has lasted over 6 months and we have around 30 Pom Poms in use

Thank you 🥰 going to get one!!

Oh my goodness where did you get that? 🙏😍

Hilarious, emotional, obsessive 🖤🤍

I bought a pair them in size M Petite (I’m a UK size 10/12 and 4’11). Sadly they were way too wide and long for me 😣 grateful for their return policy which I wasn’t aware of but really struggling to find any trousers that fit and flatter me

Before finding this sub we called it ‘The Howdy’ 😂 cat crab makes a lot more sense

Very good point. We all have our own triggers

We think so too 🥰🦀🖤🤍

Haha no way, that is pretty spooky!

I suspected so about the apprenticeships, I was hoping there would be the odd one through individual hospitals but I won’t get my hopes up. Will definitely get in touch with nnuh for shadowing / chatting to an OT.

Thanks again! Hope you continue to love it 😊