My \husband\** (first time saying this) and I met through Bumble three years ago. Yesterday, we got married!

Definitely if it’s paired up with “Christian” right? Can we assume if there is no religious tag that they might actually be moderate? Is anyone even a moderate anymore?? The more I think about it the more I think it’s just a cover up.

They quickly unmatched.

Seeing plenty of women talking about what guys do to give them the “ick” - guys, this time it’s our turn. I’ll start:

1. Being catfished. Kinda goes without saying.

2. Her life is a dumpster fire. I don’t need more chaos in my life. I need less. And as a divorced dad already paying alimony and child support for a bit longer, I’m not looking to support two women. Have a big girl job.

3. She is self-centered, doesn’t know how to carry a conversation, and shows no interest in asking anything about me.

4. Her phone is blowing up, and she’s frequently checking it, during the date.

5. She says her ex was a “narcissist.” Ladies - this is important. Virtually every single one of you think your ex is a narcissist. That is statistically improbable. We’re tired of hearing it. It makes you sound whiny and irrational and in the back of our minds we’re thinking “I hope I’m not the next “narcissist.”

Honestly, that may be about it. I feel like I’ve set the bar pretty low.

I’ve been on 5 great dates with a girl I met on Bumble. After the 2nd date, I stayed at her place. No sex, but we did make out a lot and slept together. After the most recent date on 03/28 we went back to my place and had sex. She stayed the night and most of the next day as well.

It seems like things have stalled since then though. She has a lot on her plate going forward. She started a new job this past week, her mother got knee surgery this past weekend, and then this weekend she will be out of town.

I did see if she was available to meet up last week but she said she was not due to the new job and the upcoming surgery. But she also said she appreciated me checking to see if we could hang out, said it sounded like I “really liked her” with an emoji ☺️, and that she was figuring out when we could see each other again.

I replied saying I really liked her, enjoyed spending time together, and that being with her made me feel happy/good. I also sent her my availability for this week to hang out.

That was 4 days ago. She has stopped texting me, which is a change in pattern as we were texting each other at least once a day, often more than that.

Should I follow-up again? Or leave it and just see if she replies eventually? I’m trying to be understanding given that there is a lot going on for her currently. But I’ve been ghosted so many times on dating apps that I’m getting that sinking feeling it’s happening again. Which is making me feel shitty because I do really like this girl.

Me 21(f) him 23(m) started talking in january. After talking for 1 month we get to know about our mutual feelings!! And we met only once. He treats me verry well. Now we are in a long distance relationship and he is visiting me soon! and it's obvious that we'll have something.. so is it too soon to get physical or not?

Been about 3 weeks close to a month, and only 1 like. I’ve posted profile before on the Tinder sub and I was told I needed more face pictures which is where the birthday one came in, I feel like I also need Bio help, I had tried some funny bios in the past but didn’t seem to work so I went for a descriptive one with a true story at the end. Roast me GENTLY. lol

Outside of “apolitical” (which could be the same as just not filling this section out), there’s only “Liberal” “Moderate” and “Conservative”. This inherently implies a single axis political spectrum, which is fine for simplicity’s sake, but why choose liberal and conservative as placeholders for left and right?

It doesn’t make much more sense than having the options be “Marxist” “Moderate” and “Monarchist”. It leaves many people going “yeah… none of those.” At the very least, other dating apps have one more option to choose: “other”. Bumble does not even have this.

Why is it too much to ask that they use “Left” “Center” and “Right” instead of “Liberal” “Moderate” and “Conservative”? And then you can specify what kind of leftist, centrist, or rightist you are in a written section. Even better if they added “Center-Left” and “Center-Right” but I’m not trying to ask for the moon, here.

I’ve been casually seeing someone (not official yet), and every time I mention I’m going out, he always asks, “Who are you meeting?” (More like “what friend?”)

He doesn’t say it in a controlling or possessive way—it actually sounds pretty casual—but I’m starting to wonder if there’s a bit of jealousy behind it.

It doesn’t bother me, I just find it kind of interesting and maybe even sweet?

For those of you who’ve experienced this: • Is this just a common way of showing interest? • Or could it be a subtle sign of jealousy?

I’m not overthinking it, just genuinely curious how others see it!

Brett woke up and chose bitterness. I chose block & report for abusive language.

Hello, this is my main bumble account (I have 2 for testing purposes) and I really don’t get many likes/matches, I’ve gotten maybe 3 total in the past month? I plan to post my other profile at some point when I get home to my other phone but this is what I have for now. Appreciate it :)

I suddenly stopped getting matches about 6 months back. Before that, i used to get 2-3 matches a week.

Tried recreating the account, what do I do now?

Im sorry this is so long but it's the craziest thing that's ever happened to me and I need to get it off my chest.

Okay so I (24F) matched with (31M). Our conversation was very strong straight out of the gate. Each of us sending like 13 messages at a time, we were just going back and forth telling stories/jokes, we never ran out of things to talk about. It was great.

Fast forward a couple days of talking only on the app, he asks if I wanted to come over, it was like 10 or 11pm, so I'm hesitant, but I agree. Usually I would absolutely never but something was different about him. We instantly hit it off in person it was amazing like I've never felt sparks like that in my life. I jokingly said "It's crazy I'm at your house right now and I don't even have your phone number, my mom would freak out" we both just laughed it off, incredibly drunk. We're talking on his couch for HOURS before he finally kissed me and escorted me to his bedroom. Yada, yada, yada, we wake up the next morning and he's still cuddling me. He buys me Starbucks and takes me home. The whole car ride we're talking and laughing with each other at like 6 am. When we get to my house I jokingly mention again "you should like send me your phone number or something lol" and he says "I got you".

He never sends me his phone number or makes any kind of effort to move things off the app. I knew it was a red flag and super sketchy but I was having so much fun I didn't care. We had 2 more nights like the first. Talking about anything and everything for hours before doing anything sexual. The last night I saw him he didn't pick me up until like 2am, which means we didn't start getting freaky until like 5am because we were yapping. The sex lasted hours so we didn't wake up for the day until like 3:30pm. After we woke up he didn't mention anything about wanting to take me home, or the time. We got lost in conversation again and I ended up staying there until like 7:30pm. That was the last time I saw him.

Later that night he messages me long paragraphs (like usual) explaining everything he liked about the sex and me in general. He was my hype man. I've never received so many compliments by a man before and they felt so genuine. He was enamored by me. I like being the center of attention honestly and he gave me that.

Out of nowhere he messages me that he can't talk dirty anymore with me because he wants to be a Jehovah's Witness again. He used to be one as a kid. He just casually hits me with "Although we can't see each other anymore, I've had a great time meeting and hanging out with you" He mentioned that all along he knew that by April 1 he wanted to be done hooking up and delete the app. He also said he's going to "follow up" with me to make sure I don't miss my next period. My jaw was on the floor.

So he deleted the app. I never got his phone number. I can't find him on any social media. I didn't even screenshot any of his photos, so I literally have no proof this guy ever existed. I can't even remember what his face looks like. I am genuinely so heartbroken by this. I've never felt such a deep connection with anyone. We had EVERYTHING in common. Like there were actual sparks and I've never experienced that before. I know I didn't know him very long but what we had was special, even if it died too soon. I feel disgusted with myself. If he told me he had no intentions on seeing me past April I never would have gotten myself so invested. I feel like an idiot. I literally cannot stop thinking about him. He was PERFECT. And then just dropped off the face of the planet. I've been counting down the days on my birth control until he's supposed to "follow up" about my period. (He asked for my Instagram so he can reach out but never followed me.) I feel like a stupid clown like me literally imagining a future with this guy while he's just trying to get all of his sins and unclean thoughts gone by April 1. I feel so blindsided, like he's calling me perfect and spending the entire day with me, and then the very next day he is a Jehovah's Witness and can't see or talk to me anymore.

Any tips on getting over this? I'm still crying over it. I can't help but think that was my soulmate and he slipped through the cracks and I lost him. I miss him a lot. Those were the 3 best nights of my life. Please clown me I know I sound like a crazy psycho.

Every time, I delete and create an account in bumble, these two things happens all the time! One is this verified profile of a single mum, she will end conversation in the middle of the chat. This has literally happened 5-6 times (like how can she not even remember or recall that she has matched with me before specially if it has happened so many times.

The other is this "like" that I am never able to see. Even if I clear out all my filters. Is this a thing?

I think my profile is fine but I'm not getting any matches, anything that can make it better?

OK everyone I need some outside opinions. I'm inching my way back into the dating pool following the end of a long-term relationship last year, and I'm having a hard time making a profile.

Prior to my relationship, I struggled with dating apps too where I felt like my photos were good enough, but I couldn't seem to get many matches. Similar story now where in the few weeks that I've been back on Bumble, I haven't gotten many matches and more than half of the matches that I have gotten haven't bothered messaging.

What do we think of the photos? Do you see a different reason for lack of matches/messages? I really just feel like I need another set of eyes on this to figure this shit out so TYIA!

I've had bumble for a few weeks now and I keep seeing my coworker on it I'm debating if I should ask her out since I'm visiting my old job soon and she will most likely be there.

Everytime she comes up I close out of the app cause I'm unsure what I should do. I'm not sure if she's seen my profile yet either and if she has she didnt swiped right cause I don't have any likes currently.

I'm pretty sure she liked me because when I worked there she was always finding a reason to come to talk to me and she was constantly find out new information about me and approaching me about it after. An example would be when she found out the area I live because at the time I was looking for a new job cause I just graduated college and so I started networking with managers at our building to see if they new about any opening that I could qualify for. She over heard one of my conversations and approached me about it and was telling me where she lived. There were other times where she did stuff like that but at the time I didn't really think much about it much because I was in a relationship with my now ex. She was always the one initiating conversation as well. I also visited my old job a few months ago as well and she was still there and she came up to talk to me it was a brief conversation cause I was in a bit of rush and was really only there to check up on my old boss cause he recently lost someone close to them.

I'm just wondering if it would be a good idea to shoot my shot and if I do how would I go about asking her? I don't think it would be a great to be like "hey I saw you on bumble". I'm also scared that might be reading it wrong and she might not actually like me like that.

I (24f) met this guy through bumble (27m) and we have been talking for a month and a half now, and we have gone on 5 dates. I have slept over at his everytime and I really like him.

He plans our Saturday date for us and is suggesting things and we are both enthusiastic through text about it! I’m elated he proposed all the things he suggested and confirmed that I would love to. This is the 1 day before the date. The afternoon of the date he texts me about the date and indicates I will spend the night (as I have been so I was happy!) blah blah. I was supposed to come a little bit earlier than our original agreed time and I asked him to confirm and he does two hours before the date.

I kid you not FIVE MINUTES after he confirms the time he cancels and says he’s honestly not feeling great and to reschedule the date for this upcoming Tuesday. Immediately my heart dropped cause I was super excited and all ready to walk out the door basically! I want to believe he really didn’t feel well, but the confirmation of the date and the cancellation being 5 minutes apart is really throwing me off. I asked him if he needed anything and he said it’s not bad and he’s just ‘worn out.’ If being worn out is truly the reason then why not reschedule for Sunday or even Monday?

It just sucks because yeah it was only 5 dates and yeah it’s only been 1.5 months but I still really liked him. I did agree to his rescheduled date. Should I say anything about the situation at all? I’m honestly worried he just rescheduled with me to not look like an asshole instead of actually wanting to hang with me now. I was thinking of saying “I was bummed we didn’t get to see eahcother Saturday, are you doing okay? It seemed a bit sudden so I just want to know if you still want to hang out?” How does that sound? Should I tweak this or is that okay?

The generalisation is annoying and thus it's like world war 3 in the comments section of both parties feeling attacked and rightfully so. I would suggest when talking about a Man/Woman, just make it specific to that person. Saves a lot of headaches.

Okay, so a guy on Bumble posed the following as his “ice-breaker” question. 'What’s a great piece of advice someone gave you?'

So, I racked my brains and could think of hundreds but settled on this one, just to say something, anything, to get the ball rolling, basically because he asked the question, and because I’m a Buddhist and his profile said he was a Buddhist:

“Suffer what there is to suffer, enjoy what there is to enjoy. Regard both suffering and joy as facts of life and continue chanting nam myoho renge Kyo, no matter what happens.”

I followed up with, "This was such a great question to choose. Do you mind if I ask you the same?"

His reply: Sounds like Churchill. Victory and defeat, treat those 2 imposters the same

If Churchill was a Buddhist😆

Me: Lol. Maybe he was 🤣 What's yours?

Him: I could pick anything

Do you need advice

 Er..... anyone have any thoughts about this? LOL

I match with a guy, send a cute opener, he replies with “hey”… and then vanishes. Like sir, you swiped right. Why are you acting like I cornered you in a grocery store?

Is this just how Bumble is now? Or am I doing something wrong? I’m not expecting Shakespeare, but maybe… effort?

Make it good