My \husband\** (first time saying this) and I met through Bumble three years ago. Yesterday, we got married!

I get zero matches in Turkey and therefore i use travel mode tried other locations and i got matches in europe but not even one tried to chat with me they unmatched me , same in the other countries Outside Turkey too

I’m finding dating way harder than I expected. Is anyone else in the same boat? It feels like the dating pool is smaller, and people either want something serious right away or aren’t interested in anything longer term. Plus, balancing work, trying to have a life and dating is exhausting.

Dating apps are a bit of a headache too, a lot of options, but it’s hard to make a genuine connection. It feels like things were easier before. Anyone got advice or similar experiences?

Definitely if it’s paired up with “Christian” right? Can we assume if there is no religious tag that they might actually be moderate? Is anyone even a moderate anymore?? The more I think about it the more I think it’s just a cover up.

One of my matches started out with "Hey cutie, you're freaking hot" and I'm not sure how I feel about it. I''m new to casually dating and I don't want anything serious, so I probably need to adjust my expectations.

My pictures aren't suggestive or provocative. At least I didn't think they were lol anyway, this is good conversation and I'm looking to hear from men and women that casually date.

I’ve been on 5 great dates with a girl I met on Bumble. After the 2nd date, I stayed at her place. No sex, but we did make out a lot and slept together. After the most recent date on 03/28 we went back to my place and had sex. She stayed the night and most of the next day as well.

It seems like things have stalled since then though. She has a lot on her plate going forward. She started a new job this past week, her mother got knee surgery this past weekend, and then this weekend she will be out of town.

I did see if she was available to meet up last week but she said she was not due to the new job and the upcoming surgery. But she also said she appreciated me checking to see if we could hang out, said it sounded like I “really liked her” with an emoji ☺️, and that she was figuring out when we could see each other again.

I replied saying I really liked her, enjoyed spending time together, and that being with her made me feel happy/good. I also sent her my availability for this week to hang out.

That was 4 days ago. She has stopped texting me, which is a change in pattern as we were texting each other at least once a day, often more than that.

Should I follow-up again? Or leave it and just see if she replies eventually? I’m trying to be understanding given that there is a lot going on for her currently. But I’ve been ghosted so many times on dating apps that I’m getting that sinking feeling it’s happening again. Which is making me feel shitty because I do really like this girl.

UPDATE: I’ve got some varying feedback on how to handle this. But ultimately I chose to send one last text saying that I hoped her mother’s surgery went well. If she doesn’t respond, I’m going to take the hint and stop reaching out. I may also just take a break from online dating in general, because it has not been good for my mental health.

They quickly unmatched.

Seeing plenty of women talking about what guys do to give them the “ick” - guys, this time it’s our turn. I’ll start:

1. Being catfished. Kinda goes without saying.

2. Her life is a dumpster fire. I don’t need more chaos in my life. I need less. And as a divorced dad already paying alimony and child support for a bit longer, I’m not looking to support two women. Have a big girl job.

3. She is self-centered, doesn’t know how to carry a conversation, and shows no interest in asking anything about me.

4. Her phone is blowing up, and she’s frequently checking it, during the date.

5. She says her ex was a “narcissist.” Ladies - this is important. Virtually every single one of you think your ex is a narcissist. That is statistically improbable. We’re tired of hearing it. It makes you sound whiny and irrational and in the back of our minds we’re thinking “I hope I’m not the next “narcissist.”

Honestly, that may be about it. I feel like I’ve set the bar pretty low.

UPDATE: Well, damn. I didn’t expect this post to blow up. I wanted to add a couple general comments instead of responding individually to dozens below…

1. My post was actually limited to stuff that happens on a date - not the dating profile. But damn, I could write a book (well, a long Reddit post at least) on the crap guys don’t want to see in dating profiles. And a LOT of guys have provided excellent lists of those things in this thread.

2. The messy car thing is real, and a real problem, and provides strong evidence of #2 on my list. Trash heap car = a lady who’s got a lot of chaos in her life. Same goes for selfies of you in a cluttered bedroom or in front of a toilet. Some guys love chaos if they’re just looking for a quick hookup. Nobody wants chaos in a long term relationship.

3. Ladies - stop telling us how to use the word “ick.” It’s OUR word now! Just kidding, but seriously, a lot of you kinda missed the point of the joke LOL. The bros are a little tired of the “ick” lists. You ladies commonly do some stuff that is really bad and unnecessary. Consider this thread a PSA (but apologies for a few trolls - it’s Reddit).

Just curious about what prompts you guys have had success with. My photos are quite good but I feel like my prompts are a bit boring and I'm looking for inspiration. Can guys who get a lot of likes share the prompts that have worked for you?

Me 21(f) him 23(m) started talking in january. After talking for 1 month we get to know about our mutual feelings!! And we met only once. He treats me verry well. Now we are in a long distance relationship and he is visiting me soon! and it's obvious that we'll have something.. so is it too soon to get physical or not?

Lost my chat with a girl I just went on a date with and now she's gonna think I ghosted her 😭😭😭

I was just trying to see if I could pause my account because I realized I don't have the emotional energy to date right now & I even had a message drafted to tell her how to keep in touch.

I'm so mad at myself!

Problem is on the header i know there are some more people like me but i dont know if its because of the algorithm or not especially i live in Istanbul and zero matches and when i use travel mode lots of matches but zero chats and a lot of unmatches i am really tired of this btw my name is Oguz and glad to see u reading this :D I know this sounds like bullshit and i am not desperate because i use it for 3 years now and didnt see any improvements i sometimes delete the app and redownload it however the things never change.Thats why i wanted to write here to get some advices.I just want it to be useful for most of the men and women.And also i am ready to give this text as a feedback to developers :) so developers if u see this please improve the algorithm :P

Outside of “apolitical” (which could be the same as just not filling this section out), there’s only “Liberal” “Moderate” and “Conservative”. This inherently implies a single axis political spectrum, which is fine for simplicity’s sake, but why choose liberal and conservative as placeholders for left and right?

It doesn’t make much more sense than having the options be “Marxist” “Moderate” and “Monarchist”. It leaves many people going “yeah… none of those.” At the very least, other dating apps have one more option to choose: “other”. Bumble does not even have this.

Why is it too much to ask that they use “Left” “Center” and “Right” instead of “Liberal” “Moderate” and “Conservative”? And then you can specify what kind of leftist, centrist, or rightist you are in a written section. Even better if they added “Center-Left” and “Center-Right” but I’m not trying to ask for the moon, here.

As the title really. Very cautious about fake profiles, catfish and scams.

Received a number of voice notes over a few days, the accent is really quite something. Is it possible for someone to send fake audio on bumble? The voice notes are specific to our conversation and questions I’ve asked, but I’m wondering whether someone could generate the answers via a voice changer or AI and feed that into bumble voice notes?

I’ve had someone send me voice changed audio notes via WhatsApp before so I know it’s possible that way.

Thanks

I've been on Bumble for a month and a half/two months and for the last couple of weeks the algorithm hasn't been showing me the girls who liked my profile.

At first, when I got a ‘like’, the algorithm tried to show me that person soon, but now there's no way. I've tried to set the filters as flexible as possible but it still doesn't show me those people.

Is this so that I end up paying? I won't, obviously.

I’ve been casually seeing someone (not official yet), and every time I mention I’m going out, he always asks, “Who are you meeting?” (More like “what friend?”)

He doesn’t say it in a controlling or possessive way—it actually sounds pretty casual—but I’m starting to wonder if there’s a bit of jealousy behind it.

It doesn’t bother me, I just find it kind of interesting and maybe even sweet?

For those of you who’ve experienced this: • Is this just a common way of showing interest? • Or could it be a subtle sign of jealousy?

I’m not overthinking it, just genuinely curious how others see it!

Brett woke up and chose bitterness. I chose block & report for abusive language.

Hello, this is my main bumble account (I have 2 for testing purposes) and I really don’t get many likes/matches, I’ve gotten maybe 3 total in the past month? I plan to post my other profile at some point when I get home to my other phone but this is what I have for now. Appreciate it :)

Im sorry this is so long but it's the craziest thing that's ever happened to me and I need to get it off my chest.

Okay so I (24F) matched with (31M). Our conversation was very strong straight out of the gate. Each of us sending like 13 messages at a time, we were just going back and forth telling stories/jokes, we never ran out of things to talk about. It was great.

Fast forward a couple days of talking only on the app, he asks if I wanted to come over, it was like 10 or 11pm, so I'm hesitant, but I agree. Usually I would absolutely never but something was different about him. We instantly hit it off in person it was amazing like I've never felt sparks like that in my life. I jokingly said "It's crazy I'm at your house right now and I don't even have your phone number, my mom would freak out" we both just laughed it off, incredibly drunk. We're talking on his couch for HOURS before he finally kissed me and escorted me to his bedroom. Yada, yada, yada, we wake up the next morning and he's still cuddling me. He buys me Starbucks and takes me home. The whole car ride we're talking and laughing with each other at like 6 am. When we get to my house I jokingly mention again "you should like send me your phone number or something lol" and he says "I got you".

He never sends me his phone number or makes any kind of effort to move things off the app. I knew it was a red flag and super sketchy but I was having so much fun I didn't care. We had 2 more nights like the first. Talking about anything and everything for hours before doing anything sexual. The last night I saw him he didn't pick me up until like 2am, which means we didn't start getting freaky until like 5am because we were yapping. The sex lasted hours so we didn't wake up for the day until like 3:30pm. After we woke up he didn't mention anything about wanting to take me home, or the time. We got lost in conversation again and I ended up staying there until like 7:30pm. That was the last time I saw him.

Later that night he messages me long paragraphs (like usual) explaining everything he liked about the sex and me in general. He was my hype man. I've never received so many compliments by a man before and they felt so genuine. He was enamored by me. I like being the center of attention honestly and he gave me that.

Out of nowhere he messages me that he can't talk dirty anymore with me because he wants to be a Jehovah's Witness again. He used to be one as a kid. He just casually hits me with "Although we can't see each other anymore, I've had a great time meeting and hanging out with you" He mentioned that all along he knew that by April 1 he wanted to be done hooking up and delete the app. He also said he's going to "follow up" with me to make sure I don't miss my next period. My jaw was on the floor.

So he deleted the app. I never got his phone number. I can't find him on any social media. I didn't even screenshot any of his photos, so I literally have no proof this guy ever existed. I can't even remember what his face looks like. I am genuinely so heartbroken by this. I've never felt such a deep connection with anyone. We had EVERYTHING in common. Like there were actual sparks and I've never experienced that before. I know I didn't know him very long but what we had was special, even if it died too soon. I feel disgusted with myself. If he told me he had no intentions on seeing me past April I never would have gotten myself so invested. I feel like an idiot. I literally cannot stop thinking about him. He was PERFECT. And then just dropped off the face of the planet. I've been counting down the days on my birth control until he's supposed to "follow up" about my period. (He asked for my Instagram so he can reach out but never followed me.) I feel like a stupid clown like me literally imagining a future with this guy while he's just trying to get all of his sins and unclean thoughts gone by April 1. I feel so blindsided, like he's calling me perfect and spending the entire day with me, and then the very next day he is a Jehovah's Witness and can't see or talk to me anymore.

Any tips on getting over this? I'm still crying over it. I can't help but think that was my soulmate and he slipped through the cracks and I lost him. I miss him a lot. Those were the 3 best nights of my life. Please clown me I know I sound like a crazy psycho.

I suddenly stopped getting matches about 6 months back. Before that, i used to get 2-3 matches a week.

Tried recreating the account, what do I do now?