Before I get started, I'd like to apologize if anything is misspelled. I was born with severe dyslexia, and although I have managed to fix most of my problems with it, I still struggle with grammar. I also over-explain a lot of things. This is also a bit incoherent, my apologies. There's a lot that's hard to explain when it comes to my social problems so feel free to ask me to elaborate on anything.

I'm 18 and near the end of high school, and could not be ending it in a worse situation. Everything I've built for myself has fallen in on itself mostly because of things out of my control. Most of my time in high school was characterized by meaningless one-sided friendships and situationships, which have given me serious issues with keeping and maintaining relationships with other people on all levels and made me feel lonely in anything outside of romance and being physically close to someone. This all made me very depressed, and after a failed relationship with somebody, I ended up spending the summer of 2023 in an outpatient program where I met someone who ended up significantly helping me in putting my life back on track. They gave me motivation to work harder in life and were able to support me in all the ways I needed, and they would eventually become my partner. My 11th year in school and the following summer are the happiest I've been in my life I ended up going to prom with them, I managed to get my driver's license and a job, and I felt like I could conquer the whole world. During this time of happiness, I still had issues, mainly with making friends, because people just don't really like me that much, probably because I talk too much, and I have ADHD and have a lot of issues picking up on social cues, and I'm incredibly socially awkward. People still like talking to me, they just don't want to ever be my friend. My incredibly weird range of interests does not help either. The next school year started off decent. When I turned 18, I took my partner camping right after my 18th birthday and received news that I would be able to pick up more work hours at a different place since because of school, I would only be able to work 4 hours a week. I was thrilled by this news since I had been waiting to hear back from this store for 4 months (not an exaggeration) and those people ended up being absolutely miserable to work with and made me realize how different my brain is to people who are not Neurodivergent. They scheduled me for about 6 shifts before just ghosting me because I have no idea why. The classes I took the previous year that brought me so much joy just felt dull. I tried to join a friend group, but just ended up not connecting very well with people, and began to feel worse about my social issues, but still tried to form friendships with people and was semi-successful in forming one with my neighbor, I started smoking pot with them and doing stupid things because it was the only thing that seemed to make me feel like I am able to be close to people in a non romantic way. My grades began to decline, as well as my physical health. I've lost 15 pounds since summer, as of writing this, and have difficulty gaining weight because of digestive issues. I'm only 130 pounds now, and before I lost the 15 pounds, I was already below what I should have been. I've gotten sicker a lot easier this year; a simple cold made me miss nearly a month of work. I've had a skin infection that has been there for months despite treatment, and I feel defeated by a flight of stairs, and I've been visibly noticing what muscles I have left disappearing. My family decided to move, and now what used to be a very short commute to 90% of the places I need to go has turned into over an hour-long drive. Half of the 200 dollars I make every two weeks ends up going towards gas money. Also, my neighbor cannot do anything beyond short notice, which is no longer possible. I have tried five times now to see them with zero results. I found out the therapist, who is probably the only one to understand what I mean when I talk about my social issues, is moving all the way across the country at the end of the school year, and I will no longer be able to meet. i still tried to finish the year out strong I tried to get my future organised and realised I would not be able to do a lot of internships that I'd need to go into what I want to because I would not be physically capable of and I would not have the time to get in shape before they start. All of this has made me depend more and more on my partner for support and company, and just a few weeks ago, they finished the process of getting off their antidepressants, and now everything they used to love to do with me, they are overwhelmed by and that they no longer want to be my partner or that emotanally close. It felt and still feels difficult to understand. Just a few weeks ago, they were all over me and talking about stuff they really wanted to do with me, and now it feels as though there is a gulf between us; they don't feel like the same person at times. They were the most caring and were the nicest anyone has ever been to me. They would always give me handcrafted gifts on my birthdays and were incredibly understanding of the issues I have when being close to someone. We are still friends, but it hurts to talk to them and be around them now, most of the time, but I also have no one else to really go to besides my therapist. As of writing this, I have missed the sign-up opportunities for the internships and don't have much of an idea for what I'm doing next year.

I feel lower than I ever have in my life. I tried everything in my power to ensure that this year would be successful, and it has still fallen apart. I don't feel like I have anyone to turn to. I'm so sick of this life, I've gone from my highest high to the lowest I've ever felt. I've been shown what I am capable of in life, then thrown back down into my depression. Over that summer, my suicidal thoughts left, and now they've come back stronger. Everything makes me think of how it once was. I would chop off a hand if it meant I could go back to the way things were last year.

Me and my ex broke up 4 years ago. This was after a steady stream of parnterships and loves through high school and a few years past. I haven’t so much as felt the loving touch of a woman since. I try and fail once or twice every few months to get myself back in the dating market. Either apps won’t work for me or I’ll get to talking to somebody and eventually fizzle out due to my schedule of working a second and third shift job. The loneliness is creeping in again and another talking stage is fizzling out as I write this post. Has anybody else experienced this and what did you do to figure a way out?

Haven’t had a fun couple weeks. Throwing my thoughts down and sending it out there.

Going through a breakup. Probably romanticizing, it was the best relationship I (29M) have had. She (24F) and I were together over 2 years, lived together and have known each other for 5. Throughout we’ve agreed that we both see each other together long term; I can only speak of myself but her words have conveyed that she does love and see herself with me.

We were too dependent and had communication issues. This was a topic throughout our relationship. Both of us feel that we lost ourselves and some time apart will be good. I have faith in us, I have faith in her. I’m her first serious adult relationship.

She made a friend at work a couple weeks before the breakup, good she doesn’t have many. They got close quickly. It’s obvious he lusts for her. She denied this until recently. I moved out of our apartment a couple weeks ago. He has been over multiple times, asked to sleep over, and brought her flowers. I am certain he has not spent the night and nothing has happened. There was another “emotional cheating” earlier on in the relationship that was resolved smoothly, still f hurt and damaged my trust in her a bit. I forgave her. Today she admitted all of this about her friend and it f destroyed me. She said she felt she was stringing him along and had to have a talk with him.

I love her, I do. I believe in us, I do. But this broke me and I’m struggling. I want to have faith in us. Every time we’ve been together since the breakup has been very enjoyable and good. We were supposed to get back together. I believe she does need space and to figure herself out. Honestly, I do too.

I feel hopeless, betrayed, and most of all hurt. I don’t know what I need but this sure does suck. I believe we have something good, but everyone will make their own decisions. It’s felt as if she never committed to the relationship fully. I believe she sabotaged it, she struggles with self esteem. I’m not perfect, our relationship wasn’t perfect. But there was something there. Honestly, I’d give anything for her to get out of her own way but alas there’s nothing I can do. Just sucks, if you read this thanks.

TLDR: Girls suck

The creator of this sub, Joe Truax (I don't know if that is his real name) is a scam artist who has been scamming redditors for years.

DO NOT give him your money under any circumstances, he has already been proven to have made fraudulent GoFundMe accounts, and has been known to solicit money from other users on this sub from multiple accounts.

I was banned about a month ago from this sub, but managed to talk my way back in. I have screenshots of the whole interaction if anyone is interested, and if anyone has any additional information please share.

Please, my brothers, don't give this man anything. He is not your friend. I hope you see this before it inevitably gets taken down, and if you need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to reach out.

I love you all.

Stop scamming people Joe, you can be better than that.

I (24m) just got a job at valvoline, however I know nothing about cars. I’ve been working really hard on learning what they want me to learn but I’m just not getting it. They want me to say things with confidence but I’m the least confident person, I’ve done standup comedy and been able to tell my terrible jokes with confidence.

On top of it all I’ve got a girlfriend who I love very much and she loves me but I feel like I’m dragging her down. She’s been paying for groceries for months now and I’m trying I really am hence why I took the job at valvoline, it could lead to a career and I could start a life with the woman I never thought I’d meet.

Whenever I think I’m doing good at valvoline I get reminded that I don’t know anything and I’m certainly not confident at what I’m doing. I’ve got a last resort plan where I make her the beneficiary of a settlement I’m receiving and off myself and every week I’m talking myself out of it but idk how I could do that for much longer.

I love this girl more than anything like I genuinely never thought I’d click with someone but I’m failing in every aspect. It doesn’t matter that I’m trying what matters is that I’m failing.I just don’t know what else to try.

I got myself sober from weed granted I’m only a month sober and have been trying for 2 freaking years and the most I’ve been sober is 8 months. I’ve applied to all types of jobs not just minimum wage jobs that I know I can do. I’m willing to learn anything even if it doesn’t make sense and doesn’t really interest me.

I just feel like such an idiotic person who loses and a self pitiful one. I try and try and yet I keep failing her and I really just want the best for her. I’d rather lock myself in a glory hole and take it up the ass for decades than hold her back. I could rant for hours about why I love her, hell her dad gave me permission to propose to her. How could I propose to her and enter a marriage fully knowing I’m gonna hold her back in life and should be with a real man not a man child. So I guess my question is what do I do or if my reasons for justification are good enough?

So I made a post few days ago on this subreddit about like moving on and stuff like that while seeing her on daily basis at work

Now today she was acting so like close friendly to me and it made me so confused like what, then one of my work friend told me that she maybe seeing someone else and well my ex confirmed itself in some way ( not directly ) like she was talking to other co-worker “ although he like this thing” and I was crossing at the same time and well when I over heard that I am feeling so shitty rn

I get it our relationship was just 2-3 months and it’s been 3-4 months since break up but clearly it effected me much more and than her bcz I was invested too much and she was not.

And seeing her on daily basis acting all casual like nothing happened and seeing someone else

So yeah that’s all idk man what I should do or like how to get rid of this shitty feeling and forgot about her and let it go.

And I feel crying for some reasons

I don't see why I should continue living. I'm so tired of learning how increasingly hateful and divided the world is becoming, every single day.

I don't know how anyone does it, really. Unless you have kids, or some really close friends or a relationship, people who count on you to stick around, why bother? I genuinely don't see what is left to "fight for", why people get up and wade through the muck of society, work 40-80 hours a week... for what? So we can hear about how everyone hates everyone and no one cares about anyone else except themselves, if that? Or better yet, bury our heads in the sand, find something we can spend all our free time on, to help us ignore the state of the world?

I refuse to believe anyone actually thinks this world is worth living in, innately speaking. I feel like I'm being gaslit when someone tells me they've genuinely experienced happiness.... , like, happiness doesn't exist, what do you mean? It's just a concept made up by marketing execs to sell us stuff. Reality is just a bit of monotony, a touch of despair, a heaping spoonful of boredom, and a copious amount of dread to add some slice.

Anyway, yeah. Probably gonna end my life soon, or whatever.

Wife and I met when we were 19,20 and dated for 7yrs and married for 15yrs.

I found she was meeting a guy when I was doing 2months long army basic training.(she was 22 been dating for 3yrs). She said they were just going for a coffee and I stupidly believed it. I always had my doubt so I asked her about it many times but she promised nothing happened.

After 7 yrs of dating, we moved to Canada and got married.

Marriage has been really good. She supported me really well. I had no complaints. We built a great life together and have two young boys. We had to live with my parents for 1yr and she really took care of them.

6 months ago I found some evidence that she might have actually cheated so I pressed her.

Turns out they already kissed before I caught them and she met him AFTER I forgave her meeting him. He convinced her and they went to hotel one night. She said she was extremely nervous and she refused to continue having sex after a few minutes(nobody would believe this). He got mad and yelled at her. That was the last time they met or contacted.

Also she met two other guys (few dates, kisses, no sex). She was 22-25yrs old. All these happened before we moved to canada and got married.

She willingly took the polygraph test to prove she is not lying and passed.

She didn't make any excuses. She just said she was just too naive,dumb,selfish,emotional.

It has been 6 months since I found these out and I tried to forgive her(because our kids are young and she treated me very well after we got married. I mean she was treating me very well even when she was cheating. She was a typical cake eater type of cheater.) But it feels almost impossible. We both did some counselling and that didn't help with my anger. My resentment keeps building up and I feel like I don't love her anymore(I still care about her).

3 month ago she moved all her inheritance to my bank account(250k). And wrote a separation agreement. She will give up all our assets and even custody. She just wants to be around with me and our kids if we get a divorce. She begs me that I keep her as a "housekeeper" at least. She knows she can get half of everything but she understands how badly she screwed up because I was always be there for her since she was 19yrs old.

She was emotionally very weak,undecisive, heavily rely on other people(usually me and I was totally fine with me) but when I wasn't there for her she easily built up feelings for the guys who helped her(she knows now they just wanted sex). She grew as a person a lot since our older son was born.

She said if she lied about any details of her cheating, I can cut her off from my and kid's life and kick her out. And I can do as many as polygraph tests as I want with different questions.

I can tell she is very remorseful but not sure if I can love her like before. I don't know what to do. She is a serial cheater who screwed up her second chance after all.

I know cheating was before marriage and they weren't full blown affairs but I can't move on. 20 yrs of lies.....

So my ex best friend she manipulated, and used me. I would ask her almost every god damn week hey how you doing, she never did that for me not saying I expected her to but you know she said she would and just so many other ways it's just I loved her plain and cut loved her and she used that against me. I once saw her as a person I could trust with my whole heart and now, I truly hate her. She is the bain of my existence every laugh we shared every thought we shared was for nothing. Was I just nothing to here. One thing that was great one I told her my biggest fear I told her that I was scared I would never be good enough and that I could never bring anything good to my name and wanna know how she responded to that by saying what she wanted to pursue was so much harder at becoming a name in the books so I shouldn't care/worry and I'm just I told you my biggest fear what I truly shakes me to my vary core what keeps me up at night starting at that celling. And all you can say is well I have it harder so you know no worries. Should I have gone oh let me just cut out that piece of my brain. But anyway. I loved her so god damn much she was my one true love (I know corny as shit but that's what I believe) and she used me. I was used. For her own selfish gain. And now the other part now we're not friends anymore. She was really the only true friend I had left the ones were you have those deep conversations. The brother from another mother.. only one kinda like that is my brother and most likely gonna move out in a couple months so now I'm truly petrified. Because I'm gonna be alone. No one to talk to. Just pure alone... And I don't know what to do (sorry for the bad Grammer I was just on a roll so yeah bye)(also I should say cause the rule I don't think every woman is like this cause there are Alot of great woman it's just her you know and I'm not blaming her for all of my problems cause there's a lot of other problems she had nothing to do with)

Well I broke down in tears in front of two strangers. Life isn't easy but things are looking up. I hate being 5'9 but I'm going to pretend I'm 5'10 just cuz

I just saw a post from a queer guy asking if he was welcome here, and the responses were so overwhelmingly kind and accepting that it actually brought me to tears.

As a gay man, it’s not always easy feeling comfortable around straight men. There’s often this quiet fear—will I be seen as “man enough”? Will I be accepted? I’m a pretty typical guy, but I’ve still struggled to form close friendships with other men. Not because I don’t want to—but because there’s so much stigma, and that fear of not being fully seen as “one of the guys” runs deep.

So seeing how supportive and open this community was—it hit me hard. It reminded me that there are good men out there. Men who lead with empathy, not ego. Men who create space instead of shutting people out.

Thank you for that. Seriously. You made someone feel seen tonight. And that matters more than you probably know.

I (23 M) was dating a girl for 3 months, she was very much into me, very cute, gave me a nickname. Also, her ex cheated on her and that was traumatic for her. She gave him another chance but he cheated again.I liked her but I thought I wasn't ready for relationship, we used to go out a lot. But, I went for a trip with my cousins and I told this girl that I won't do anything with any girl and that was my intention.

But, I got really drunk (no excuse, it was all my fault) and kissed a girl for a few seconds, that's it. Then, I came back and met her but didn't tell her immediately because I was scared. I hate cheaters (got a lot of trauma and abuse in my family because of it, my father also did it) and I became scared.

She asked me to come in a relationship, I still wasn't sure but I told her this first and said I'll come in a relationship if she's fine with that. But she immediately left me. I cried and cried for days, wanted to end it, despised myself on every level.

She blocked me from everywhere but came back twice but didn't work. She did tell me that it's not my fault and it's because of her trauma thar she cannot give me a chance. She was also traumatized, so much that she asked her ex to take her back (I'm even worse than his ex I guess)which he said no.

I don't know if I'll ever be able to forgive myself for this grave moral error. I'm trying my best, it's been 3 months since this happened, I still cry a lot. I've gone to a lot of dates with many girls but I don't care anymore. I have a lot of other issues in my life, my mother and brother are financially dependent on me and my family has always been a huge mess, abusive (father). I cannot even stop working, I work night shifts and have insomnia, I have to slept properly in 1.5 years. I'm done, I'm just pushing for my mother and brother.

Will it ever get better? Will I ever forgive myself.

21M (struggling to stay alive, only alive so my parents don’t have a dead son and my brothers don’t have a dead brother) TRIGGER WARNING (SA and suicidal talk)

I’m 5”5, chubby and not the best looking.

i’m so tired of hearing it’ll get better. i can’t get better, im so mentally broken and insecure and no one can help me. i can’t help myself cause i can’t stop thinking everyone in the world hates me and is disgusted by me. i haven’t felt normal in forever i just want to be happy.

I was bullied by my childhood friends and grew up with them cause i had no one else. i missed out on all the activities you do as a kid like go outside to play with friends, go to birthdays (cause i was never invited or no one ever shows to mine) i had no one other than my bullies when i was in school. i only just started recently finding friends but it’s hard to feel like i belong anywhere or feel like im equal to others. i always feel like no one wants me around.

Trigger warning (SA): i was made to do stuff as a child and it carried on for years. i was made fun of for the way i looked and my size. i was made to do things i didn’t want to as i was told it was “normal for people to do”. now i feel too uncomfortable in my own body and can never get past the idea that i am disgusting and ugly to everyone. i’m not confident that i will be able to please anyone and can’t believe that no one wouldn’t be disgusted by the sight of my body. i know women want a confident man and i just can’t be that for them with my insecurities.

I have never been in a relationship, i have tried so much but every time ive been made to feel like im worthless and ugly. i’ve either been friend zoned or used until someone better came along. i got used and led on by this one girl i opened up to the day before about about being led on. she said “stop acting like my bf” after treating me like one for weeks. (turns out there was another guy and she wanted to talk to me again after he got rid of her). my first ever date (don’t think she saw it as one) i spent sm money on her cause she was struggling with money and i wanted to make sure she had a great day out, it wa showing so well and she acted like she was having a great time with me and then ghosted me the day after. i was on call with a girl and her mates and they all ended up making fun of my height and the way i looked, laughing at me. i had one girl tell me shes “willing to give me a chance at being with her” and after a few months of doing everything for her and making her feel special and loved, she randomly told me “i don’t see you in that way and don’t want a relationship with you so wanna stay friends”. then i had someone tell me they didn’t want a relationship with me cause… im not joking… “someone better might come along who is better looking” and they didn’t want to hurt me eventually cause they would have to break up with me 😐. and my last and most recent, she blocked me cause i was on the phone to the hospital after breaking my hand at 2 am cause apparently i was on the phone to one of my friends instead of her. she only talked to me for money and ended up breaking things off cause she was pregnant with her exs child. no matter what i do i just can’t find a way to be loved by someone.

i’ve lost my personality and confidence cause of all this and am unable to talk to anyone without feeling like i’m worthless and that they will want better. no one is going to think i’m worth trying to understand or help because i have nothing. all i have is kindness and care to give. other than that to everyone in my life im just an ugly, shy, small guy that’s a burden.

i just want to be happy and not feel like im not good enough for anyone. everyone says you have to live yourself before you can be loved but how can i love myself when the only reason i don’t love myself is because of the fact no one could love me.

TRIGGER WARNING: i nearly gave in yesterday and killed myself, i got 4 pills in and all i said was “im sorry mum” and didn’t go through with it. im scared im gonna do it one day tho and leave my parents without a son. i’m scared im actually gonna kill myself so i can be happy and feel relief. but what i want more is to just be happy in life and im slowly losing the hope that i can be happy. i just want someone to understand me and help me get through my trauma but no one is going to look at me and think im worth that. i just want to be loved for who i am.

Whatever you're struggling with, take it one day at a time. You're doing your best. You got this. Be patient when becoming someone you've never been before. You've never been on this road before. It's uncomfortable, it's unfamiliar. I'm rooting for you!

I broke up with my ex gf 4 months ago and I feel awful. She was very stressed from her job and would take it out on me, saying awful things about us and me. I thought she had a hormonal problem or medical issue because of the degree of moodiness she had and the rages she would fly into. But when times were good, they were GREAT, and that is where my magical memories with her come from. After we separated she was full of remorse and went to therapy, but I was still too bitter. Now I feel so sad because I could be missing out on the joy and happiness when she wasn’t angry because I was so bitter about when she was. Emotional abuse and perhaps a trauma bond are extremely confusing emotionally and my life sucks. What do I do?

My 13-year marriage is over although it has been a long time coming. Due to co-dependency issues on my side, I forgave a long and complicated affair which in retrospect was the wrong thing to do. Anyway, it is now completely over and although my heart is bleeding, and I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, I am trying not to be weak.

Recently, my son who I stuck around with his cheating mother for, has been developing behavioral issues as a result of a neurological disorder. My ex blamed me for his behaviors as she says he mimics my bad habits. We are struggling to implement good routine but her authoritarian approach is upsetting him further, and I am trying to be firm but empathetic. However, because I see results with my approach, and she doesn't see results with hers, I have been labelled a bad parent and the entire situation with our son is on me.

Then I come to find out that my ex has most likely seeing someone before the major arguments about our son began. I have a feeling now that she was using the arguments to completely close me out of her life so she could "escape" guilt free burn the bridge behind her so I may never cross back into her life. I know everyone will say this is a blessing in disguise and I should hold my head high and move on to better things, but it's difficult to accept someone can just throw it all away for what is essentially meaningless sexual endeavors.

It's easy for her, an attractive woman with so many options to do what she wants - as the saying goes - a woman chose who she wants to sleep with, a man sleeps with whoever he can. She does even care how I am feeling at this point, that I had to manage our son's latest hospital admissions, deal with the school about his behavior, getting attacked on all angles while also trying to maintain my own chronic health condition. Now, I am stuck in this lonely hotel room with my son, trying to maintain a brave face while melting inside as I know she goes off with some other married loser that is cheating on his wife knowingly too.

My life will now become about rebuilding myself and helping my son recover too. Dating just seems like it's out of the question anymore. The apps are rubbish and meeting someone organically will be difficult because I am too shy and insecure, so hopefully I can fight the loneliness to continuing being a good Dad and not a broken, shell of a man.

But heres the main point, the differences of parenting styles will continue to be an area of contention, maybe even worse now that we are apart and there is hatred and vitriol (from her side). She will continue believing her way is best and I should enforce her beliefs even at the detriment of our son's health. But if I continue my relaxed approach then he will not live up to her expectations and I will remain the bad guy. We are getting professional help, but they are more focused on making our son more resilient rather than these core issues.

This isn't supposed to be a pity party.

Recently going through a breakup, and as sad as I am to lose her - i'm actually just more sad by who I became during the relationship, all the nasty and selfish things I chose to do.

I used to have mixed views on my low self esteem. It's a thing, but I always assumed it was something superficial like my appearance, or the various small ways I let myself down because of laziness, forgetfulness and shyness. But i always got by because "But deep down i like myself, I think im a nice guy and im kind".

But it's worse than that, I don't like the person I am at my core.

I'm selfish, vengeful, jealous, manipulative, inconsiderate. I am so many really bad things.

I feel self aware enough to see this, but its not enough - I hate these parts of me but they're who I am.

I haven't cheated or done things that are objectively wrong. The ways I am wrong are all considerate and acted with plausible deniability - shame and guilt are some of those ways, thinking of something that would hurt your partner to hear, and then saying it.

What are you supposed to do when you're sorry for yourself and angry at yourself at the same time. What do you do when you realise all of your problems are in your head, you overthink problems into existence - that becoming hyper fixated on an 'issue' is your issue.

I'm not suicidal, and im trying not to sound like a dramatic teenager here. But I can't live with myself anymore. Change? Sure I can react differently to my thoughts, I can choose to not focus on them. But they're still my thoughts, all the layers peeled back I am bad.

True, it’s never out of nowhere in that something had been building for a while. The gist of it was a big problem with them managing their emotions and directing that at me, besides an almost constant doom and gloom outlook that could not be broken away from. And to my knowledge I think I did a fine job of hearing them out, talking about how I responded to things rather than telling them what they should do, and when needed just telling them it would be ok and I would keep them safe. Being human there were of course times I was not perfect at this.

Having been through this before though, when I got the disrespect I clapped back. And I admit, I didn’t need to give the same energy I was getting, but while I had responded I think quite tactfully when it first happened, after receiving apologies and being thanked for calling them out on their bad behavior without any change, my patience started to fray.

I was not ready to call it quits while also starting to realize this was beyond me. So when I was suddenly dumped two weeks ago, it didn’t throw me too hard. I know I did the best I could and that it was not within anyone’s ability to heal them.

That being said, having all of the blame put in my corner, whirlwind dumped, and completely cut from their life while being labeled an energy vampire is just…wow. I know she is externalizing her emotions and directing blame for her feelings on everything but herself, but god man. Imagine knowing what your partner went through before, talking about how important communication is, and then just peacing out like that. I know it’s her issue. But yet…the callousness of it all.

Good luck to her I guess, she’s got a ways to go before she hits rock bottom.

X, reddit, Discord…

Seriously, it’s disgusting how ok it is to start bashing men for no reason other than existing, and why does so much of this bashing get supported by other guys? Do you think you are more sexually attractive hearting and retweeting posts of communities alienating an entire half of the human race?

We all admit misogyny is horrible, and I stood by tearing down that hate, but now that everyone’s nose is turned up, and people shrug and say “it’s ok” when you have grown ass adults harassing sometimes even minors just because of their gender.

It sickens me, it makes me wanna lose hope in the world.

No, bad experiences are not an excuse. If I have to suck up my relationship abuse to make others happy time and time again just to stop triggering someone else’s fragile ego, the least you can do is check yourself before you shame another gender.

I (52m) don’t remember ever being happy. I’m married with a teenage daughter. I know that should make me happy. But, I think I’m so depressed that I can’t feel it.

I don’t look back at my childhood with any fond memories. I remember my parents talking up the athletic ability of my siblings and all of their social successes in school. I was the first born, and I don’t recall ever receiving any positive attention. I was discouraged from participating in athletics, and I honestly think that my father was probably worried about being embarrassed.

I was relatively successful in my first career. I know I did good work and did some good things, but I’m incredibly damaged emotionally(PTSD) from the career. Now, I’m retired and incredibly lonely. I find no joy in every day life. People tell me to engage in my hobbies. I go golfing, I go fishing, I go on walks outside. I just go through the motions. None of it brings me any happiness and none of it seems worth it.

At any point in the day, I feel like I could sit down and cry. I feel this way every day and I can’t remember a time I didn’t.

My wife says she loves me. We’ve been married for. 22 years and together for 25. But if I try to kiss her or have any physical contact at all, her whole body stiffens up as if she can’t wait for it to be over. It just adds to my loneliness and isolation.

I’m not suicidal. But I’m at point in my life where I understand why some people make that choice. I see no value in living. If I were to die tonight, the world would go on just fine. My family would probably be better off without me dragging them down in the long run.

I see a therapist every 2 to 3 weeks. I honestly don’t think therapy is helping me. I don’t see any end to this or see any way that it improves.

I reread what I just wrote and I feel pathetic. Sorry guys.

I'm sorry if this is an inappropriate or stupid question, but I can't find any story here that features queer (primarily gay) people at some point. It seems like a welcoming place, but I'm not sure whether people who are not straight belong. It's not like I want to discuss such things in detail or smth, just to make sure that it's okay

I'm using a throwaway account, but I'm getting married to the love of my life; a woman that has accepted me for all my flaws, and I told her them all. I'm lucky in that regard. We both live in America, but her family is Croatian and we are having the wedding over there. I know for any destination wedding, a lot of people won't be able to go. I knew this going in, but I never thought it'd be this bad.

Out of 34 friends I had on my portion of the invite list, only 5 are coming. It's really my boss (and her +1), my team lead (and her +1) and my coworker. That these coworkers are actually coming means a lot to me now. Besides that, every single one of my actual friends aren't coming. All of my fraternity brothers aren't coming and all of my high school friends aren't coming.

I know it's an expensive plane ticket and the economy is bad, but I didn't think that 85% of those I invited would say no. People that RSVPed yes turned around this week and changed to no.

Even my bachelor party almost failed because really no one wanted to or couldn't go. I had to have my older brother start getting his friends so it wasn't going to be only family going. The one of my fraternity "brothers" almost torpedoed the whole trip because he made it about himself. He got pissed at me because I wasn't running certain decisions by him first. He then tried to get everyone to gang up on me to force me to do what he wanted. It failed and he got kicked from the party. I ended up with only 2 friends actually coming. The rest was family and my brother's friend. It almost felt like a pity party.

I know it sounds like a tiny violin, but this is never how I imagined my wedding or bachelor party would be like. I know it is a destination wedding, but this still stings really badly regardless. It feels like a rejection. If I include all my guests, siblings, parents, cousins, uncles, aunts, my parents' guests, and myself, it's only 29 people. The other 70 are Croatians I've never met before. My wedding is full of strangers. I was a hopeless romantic as a child and always looked forward to my wedding from a young age, but I never thought this is how it would turn out.

Hi all,

I broke up with my gf of 6 months and am alot of issues processing it. I’m a 24 y/o graduating college in a month and this has shattered me, so many future plans and memories wiped.

She said she lost feeling about a month ago and some issues of mine (stretching the truth which was lack of communication, accidentally talking down to her, our dates not being much out of her house) had led her to this. We had such a good time together and now it’s gone. What makes it worse is I was recovering from an abusive relationship prior to it and now it feels like I’m thrown back in the dumps of that abusive relationship.

Despite this, I was with her through thick and thin. She cannot drive and has many medical issues (autism, epilepsy) and others which I stuck by with her despite them. I just feel so betrayed now that it’s all gone just like that.

I feel so lost right now, and now with this gone not even sure what I’m going to do after graduation and even a fear of finding a girl again, do you guys have any advice?

Thank you

My birthday was yesterday I woke up happy. As the day went bye I felt how alone I was. Me and my ex broke up we used to spend my birthday together. I lost a lot of my friends when we split. The day before my birthday I had to cut off a fling me and my ex had. She wanted sex but I wanted more, it was hurting me watching her like other guys. I went to the bowling alley for my birthday a few friends but couldn’t help get the feeling they weren’t really my friends half of them came because somebody else asked them to one of my friends was hitting on a girl I told him I liked. I mean it’s just life but the pain sucks. I wish I could be ok and move on meet new people like my ex did. I wish I didn’t wake up today wanting this to be my last birthday. I wish I didn’t have to grow live and become a better person when everyone else around me seems like they’re doing just fine where they are. I often times wonder why is it me that has to through this pain, But I learned that we all go through pain.

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I still miss my ex deeply (t-male). It has been two years since I've even been with him but even then I miss him so much.

We met during high school, and he was shy, passionate, but full of love and affection. I loved every moment I had with him. Every morning even though we didn't have the same classes it made my day way better. Especially because I was recovering from a deep depression COVID had brought upon me.

His parents were abusive. Not like physical violence levels but still enough to deeply shake his self image and thought process. I was not the perfect lover at all, im callous, very unattentive at times, and not very spontaneous (AuDHD), but he showed me the world, and I showed him it in return.

He had to move away across the nation at the end of our junior year. We promised we'd keep it up for as long as we could. It was still joyful to spend time with him.

He was clingy, his past made it so we were the classic anxious-avoidant relationship type. I still don't know how to help get out of the avoidant side.

I messed up one too many times with his emotions. I wasn't trying to push him sometimes it just happened. It was my fault and I fully acknowledge it. I wish I was better to him. Even now while seeing someone else I'm worried ill never get over him.

I know it was my fault and he was fully in the right to leave eventually. I fully respect his decision and im just happy that I helped him in the end with self image, and the such.

I just sometimes really really miss him. I hope I'll be able to get over him soon. It sometimes feels like he was the only one that truly loved me.