r/makingfriends Jul 14 '22

Not sure how to make friends? If so, would you be interested in free live workshops over zoom where we practice how to solve this?

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Hey guys, I've noticed a number of you feel lost on how to make friends - particularly as adults (over 21) - and I wanted to gauge interest in how many would like to take part in live workshops over zoom where we solve that.

The workshops will be free and will be made up of two parts:

  1. Theory on one part of making friends
  2. Live practice with me and others on the zoom call

So for example a workshop could focus on the topic "how to start a conversation with a stranger". The session would start with theory on how you go about this - followed by live practice.

I will lead the training so let me tell you something about me:

I'm 35 years old and around 6 years ago felt disappointed with my social circle. I wanted more friends, particularly close ones where I could be myself and not have to filter my thoughts or comments in any way. At the time I had one friend who was decent, but he was in a bad place which frustrated me because his mind was often somewhere else or was too busy to hang out and chat when I wanted.

It was a lonely feeling. The heart and spirit wanted to share, laugh, vent, seek advice and just hang out with no expectations. But there was nobody to fulfil that.

So since then I began getting active. I tried things and realised how simple making friends is. And it is simple. Stupid simple, but when you're self-conscious you forget that.

Here's two really important things I realised which made things easy:

A) Most people (over 90%) are lonely in adulthood. Life is fast and working life mundane. Add to that the political correctness rubbish and they also feel constrained verbally. People crave more friends and better friends.

B) Though most people crave deeper friendships they are not proactive. Don't expect others to seek you out for friendship. But once you take the lead you will be gobsmacked by how fast you make friends.

C) A good friend is an asset - and therefore everyone wants them. Even people with a good social circle want another quality friend. Now, this requires honesty on your part. Can you honestly say you're trustworthy, light-spirited and honest? If so, building a social circle of incredible quality will be easy. I legit mean that.

Today I couldn't be happier with my social circle - which consists of 3 parts:

1) Close friends. People I don't filter my words with in anyway, seek advice on guarded personal issues, and would trust to keep £10,000 safe for a few days before taking it back.

2) General friends. People I socialise with on a less frequent basis but I genuinely like and get on with. I have their phone numbers and we joke and message reasonable regularly.

They're fun to mingle, joke around with and they form my wider network (which is incredibly useful if I need advice on something I know nothing about - e.g. I've broken down on a road and a certain bit of my engine is smoking). In time, some of these may develop into a close friend.

3) Good acquaintances. I don't know these guys too well but I've spoke to them and got on well. Often these are friends of friends or people I've briefly met out and about. It's nice to meet these guys again or see them out and about somewhere you didn't expect. Plus, it's nice knowing more people.

In short, I'm genuinely happy with my friends and social life - and should we go ahead with the workshops I believe that will come through.

But yeah, let me know what you think guys - and if interested, leave a comment to say so. Also feel free to share problems you've been having with friendships, what you'd like to solve or anything else related to making friends which you would love help on.

I will read EVERY comment and will take it on board :)

UPDATE - 3rd Sept 2022

Thank you for the replies. It seems there's enough interested - and I will start the workshops soon.

Announcement on an exact date and structure to come soon.


r/makingfriends 1h ago

[14/f] alone and bored asf!!!!

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i am super duper bored i've used reddit in the past and although their are definitely lots of creeps on here theirs also nice cool people sooo... hi!!!!


r/makingfriends 1h ago

Hoping to make friends

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Hi I’m 22F, and like the title says I'm here to make friends. I have gotten comfortable with being alone and finding hobbies to do in my free time, but I still feel the need to talk to people. I think I'm best at deep conversations relating to life but lately I've been trying to get better at regular small talk. It can take time for me to warm up to a conversation. But as I become more comfortable talking with someone, I worry less about what I should say and just say what I think. DM me/comment. (Post got taken down in a different subreddit, so im sorry if I’m doing something wrong)


r/makingfriends 1h ago

41M Looking for a chatty girl, ghosting free

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The big part of writing a self description is that we can overrate or underrate ourself so I'll try to jot put any judgemental word but I'll just try to write down who I am.

I was raised catholic but at the end I felt that there is something deeply wrong in religion and in every religion institution so now I'm atheist, Anticlerical and I'm also excommunicated.

I was always interested in science and in the universe since I was a kid, I saw a series of documentary about space when I was maybe 10 and that was the beginning, now I'm an amateur astronomer and I do astrophotography.

Other than that I was raised in a family of musicians so I sing and I play keyboard (or at least I try to do it).

What I'm looking for? A chatty girl, the one who can carry on with a conversation and has no boundaries about what to talk about.

If you are someone who want to convince me about something, just don't write me, I'm open to discussion about everything but I'm not open to any type of conversion.


r/makingfriends 9h ago

Hey Everyone! 24M trying my best to make some new Friends

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Hey everyone! 24M here looking to make some new friends. Open to anyone adding my snap or wanting to text


r/makingfriends 3h ago

Golden bird poop

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come hang out and watch me paint a story and open chat for all

come some shade with me youtube @ istartheartist

https://www.youtube.com/live/8SGLikpp8XQ?si=he8f08LVjWMEBR5I


r/makingfriends 4h ago

Anyone ok playing a game? I(23M)got a busy day tomorrow and lots of laundry to do before I go to bed

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I’m an EMTB student and I have my first 12 hour clinical tomorrow and it’s got me really anxious and I wanna wind down by playing some games while my laundry does its thing in the machine. I got a PlayStation, and aa far as MP games go, I have Fortnite, Marvel Rivals, Fall Guys, Rocket League, The Finals and then I have Minecraft: Bedrock edition that I can play regardless of what platform you use.

Be forewarned, my nose is stuffed and I’m breathing out of my mouth like a Neanderthal rn and it’s not fun


r/makingfriends 8h ago

27F Anyone up for a late-night chat? Let’s see where it goes!

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Anyone else still awake and in the mood for a fun chat? I’m looking for someone to share random thoughts, laughs, or maybe even dive into those interesting, unexpected conversations that pop up late at night. If you're open to something casual and fun, let's see if we vibe! No pressure, just two people talking and seeing where it goes. What’s on your mind tonight?


r/makingfriends 5h ago

Finding Friends

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First, to start off I would like to be really safe when finding total strangers online but I have had a really hard time making friends at school and stuff in general so I was hoping as a last result to find someone on Reddit. I know it's not ideal but look I have nothing to lose or gain from this. I am trying to get to the right people. Does anyone like doing bird spotting/Photography? If so that would be great. As you read don't think of me as a spam account or anything I am a 16-year-old high schooler in Northern California. Hopefully, this gets to the right type of people.


r/makingfriends 7h ago

23M looking to chill and talk

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Hey! I am bored and loved to talk to new people, I am from Canada and a very good listener and love to do jokes.

We can talk about everything but I love music, tv shows, movies, hiking, camping and edit videos for fun.

If you wanna vibe and talk, I am available😁


r/makingfriends 17h ago

20F just want someone to talk

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Hey, I'm a 20 year old female. Life is going hard these days. Just want to speak to random strangers. Like talking about anything would do. If interested dm me.


r/makingfriends 10h ago

26M - looking for people to form friendships with

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I am looking for genuine friendship. Maybe i'll learn something from you and you'll learn something from me. Who knows?

Things I love:

-Metal, rock, house kinda music

-Anime, movies, and shitty reality tv shows (Kitchen nightmares, 90 day fiance, my 600lb life, extreme cheapskates etc.)

-For anime genre; isekai, action, or anything with magic basically

-Started reading manga & manhwa. My first manhwa was solo leveling and it was the best (oh god finally they made into an anime).

-I like sending photos at random times (it could be something i saw on the road or online)

-I also love Harry Potter, Fantastic Beasts, Star Wars (recently started and not going well so far).

-I have weird curiosities

-I have random information about many things because i love doing research about random stuff

-I have a small humanmade skull collection such as skull rings, candles, globe etc.

I hope you have similar interests or go wild and be the opposite of me (i have never tried this so it might just work)

I live in EST time zone so similar time zones would be better.

Please send a chat request with introducing yourself a little.


r/makingfriends 12h ago

21M

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Hey, I’m 21M from India, just joined Reddit. I’m kinda shy but want to make friends. Love music, UPSC stuff, and random talks. What do you like doing? Hit me up in DMs if you’re free


r/makingfriends 18h ago

Add my snap: emmavaj

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r/makingfriends 16h ago

Making friends as an older guy is hard!

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50m from New England. Looking to create friendships online and in person.

Likes & Dislikes:

Sports - New England Fan: The Bruins are by far my favorite but I love the Fleet, the Red Sox, Celtics, and Patriots.

I’m not a big gamer but enjoy my Switch and phone games.

I like to geocache

Enjoy traveling

Love history, art, and culture.

Recently binged the show “Shrinking” and loved it (I guess you only binge things you like)

I don’t drink or do drugs.

Divorced after 32 years together (not my choice).

If you are interested in making a new friend as well, let me know!


r/makingfriends 18h ago

17M looking for a friend

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I’m 17 make from Portsmouth. Just looking for someone I can talk to on Snapchat. Don’t really do much so would be nice to have more people to talk to.


r/makingfriends 18h ago

Can we be good friend? Snap: emmavaj

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r/makingfriends 23h ago

29M UK - A strange stranger looking for strange friends

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Just a 29 y/o married British man back looking for weird and wonderful new friends on this gorgeous spring day. Just want a quick chat? I'm your man too.

I like food, travel, listening to and playing music. I cycle, walk and do yoga. I spend as much time in my garden as I can. I take photos of my cats doing silly things and yes I will share them with you. I like nerdy pursuits and unusual interests that people are passionate about. I'm learning French - can you speak it?

Come and talk to me about anything and everything in a judgement free zone. There's plenty more to learn about me. I only ask you be curious, can hold a conversation and are prepared to give as good as you get.

If you read this far: what is one experience you've had that you'd love to go back and relive? Anything at all, no matter how weird, I want to hear it.


r/makingfriends 1d ago

16 M, I HAVE LOST MOTIVATION, HAVE NO FRIENDS & NO ONE TO TALK TO. I WANT A GIRLFRIEND REALLY BADLY, I HAVE GOOD LOOKS BUT AM SHY, SO NEVER HAD A GF & I THINK LIKE THIS MY YOUTH WILL RUN OUT OF TIME.

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Hey, I'm Ryou. Second time using Reddit. I don’t have friends or a GF. I just want someone close to talk to daily and feel heard. I used to be in a regular school till 10th with full attendance and some friends, but after moving to a non-regular school in 11th, they stopped replying to my texts and calls. Guess I’m not useful to them anymore.

Never had a GF because I never got the chance to talk to girls alone. My old school barely had girls, and the few there acted like celebs. I think I look good—nice face, hair, and skin—but I’ve gained a little weight from sitting and studying all day.

I’m completely pure, never been in a relationship, and I truly respect women. I’m really close to my mother, which is why I value emotional connection and genuine care. I’m not expecting any amazing looks or anything — I just want a simple, normal girl who’s also pure and has never dated before. Someone new here too, so we can connect honestly and grow together.

I won't just jump into the Relationship, I would love to know her better.

All I want is one real girl. Someone I can talk to daily and feel excited about life again. That’s it.

Note: Age should be under 15-18.

I don't know it'll work or not, let's see power of Internet.


r/makingfriends 1d ago

33F Looking for Friends preferably on Snap

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Looking for a friend that likes reading and writing and creativity. Ideally either someone in a time zone that’s up now or a night owl if you’re here in the states like me. I like to right short stories to share and take your mind to another place, reading and discussing books, going down rabbit holes and talking interesting facts. Not looking for overly flirting men and no illicit picture vibes. Just chill conversations from a racing ADHD mind willing to go in any fun directions.


r/makingfriends 23h ago

24M bored wanna talk about anything spicy

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r/makingfriends 1d ago

19M let’s have a good chat

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19M From Australia yes kangaroos and spiders lol, South Asian descent so Greetings my fellow south Asians, some of my hobbies are sports: cricket, baseball, baseball, cricket, soccer you name it I play it! I also like to read, politics, and astronomy and watch movies and anime BLEACH IS PEAK and yeah that's a general rundown of myself!

I consider myself an amiable, outgoing extroverted person who looks to meet new people, see the best in life, and try to live it to the fullest, so feel free to message me and Let's have some good chats! I don't however talk to toxic or shitty people so Yes that's my only red flag other than people of all cultures and all countries come and chat

Also looking to meet asians so hmu!!


r/makingfriends 1d ago

Just a guy from India tryna find cool people to talk to

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25M from Tamil Nadu, India. Just here tryna find some chill people to talk to—life’s been kinda rough and I don’t really have anyone to vent or vibe with lately. I’m into gym, cooking up fancy stuff, reading books and manga, and getting lost in Netflix when something actually hits.

Even though I’m from India, I’m super curious about life outside—especially the US and Australia. Blame all the wild romantic scenes I’ve seen in movies, lol. Would love to connect with people from anywhere really, just for good convos or maybe even some creative collabs. HMU if you're up for it ✌️


r/makingfriends 1d ago

25m from india. Looking to make some new online friends.

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Im from Punjab, India. I hv been going thru some shit times and not really have anyone to talk to. I like going to the gym, cook fancy food and read books, mangas etc.

I like to binge watch Netflix if I find something good. I do not watch animes anymore but I have seen plenty of them. Ignore below

Im from Punjab, India. I hv been going thru some shit times and not really have anyone to talk to. I like going to the gym, cook fancy food and read books, mangas etc.

I like to binge watch Netflix if I find something good. I do not watch animes anymore but I have seen plenty of them.

Im from Punjab, India. I hv been going thru some shit times and not really have anyone to talk to. I like going to the gym, cook fancy food and read books, mangas etc.

I like to binge watch Netflix if I find something good. I do not watch animes anymore but I have seen plenty of them.


r/makingfriends 1d ago

F [32] just looking for someone to talk to

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May sound desperate or sad. But it would be chill to talk to someone, anyone. DM me if interested!


r/makingfriends 1d ago

Hi

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My name is Sarah and I’m 17 years old , a little bit about me I just quit smoking and drinking after being completely addicted for 2 or so years. I am looking for genuine friends to talk to that live sober lives , and have good advice and good influence on me. I like to game sometimes , go for walks , clean , draw , exercise , watch tv , and I’m trying my best to get a job and getting back into school.