They will betray you. They will discard you like an object that serves no purpose anymore. They will feel delighted upon hearing of your disgraces. As they depart from you, you will slowly become a fading, insignificant shadow in their memories. One day, they will read your name and ask themselves "who?".

True friendship is so rare that i doubt its existence.

I don’t know why I can back to Reddit. That’s a lie, I do know. I was lonely and sad, and I guessed that talking to a stranger would be better than being alone, and I know it takes awhile to hear from people, but I hardly heard from anyone and then they all just disappeared.

Idk what I expected or what I wanted. It’s dumb to seek validation from strangers on the internet but it’s all I had today. All I wanted.

Maybe I'm the weird one (or it's trauma), but I've never been one for butterflies. I've always preferred to be attached to people who make me feel safe.

Don't enjoy conversations about bumping uglies unless it's with a partner. Don't really enjoy the mentality people bring to dating. I can't treat it as a game. Like to give people my best foot forward no matter what. I can't half ass the effort or attention; can't spread my time to multiple people. I treat strangers as friends even I don't want anything romantic with them.

My friendships are good, but they don't fill the void like when a good partner came around. All my romances came dating wasn't the goal. Always friends first. I'm in a spot where I feel the most open to love and in a place where I'm best able to express it like never before, but hope is on the decline. Especially now that I'm in my 30's as a guy that's on the feminine side. I'm just tired. Especially of empty promises.

I feel worthless because I don't have someone on my side and it feels horrible. I'm 19 years and don't know what to do with my life, the lack of purpose nowadays is draining.

I would even date a 35 years old woman just to have a purpose. (Up to you if this is good or bad) .

How do you cope with the lack of purpose in your life?

In my experience, I find a vast majority of people pretty disagreeable in their actions or beliefs. Not that I would say I'm a paragon of virtue or even that good of a person, but I hope at least to be more ethical and earnest.

In a lot of places I find individuals who are double-faced, shallow; even worse, they don't seem to be self-aware, instead even taking pride in their ways to life.

Hey,

I’ve been wondering something lately… how much difference does it make just having someone consistently check in on you?

Like someone who sends you a good morning text, asks how your day went, reminds you you’re doing okay even when life feels heavy. Not a relationship. Not a therapist. Just someone soft and present.

I started offering that kind of support to a few people lately nothing fancy, just real connection through messages and voice notes. No judgment, no pressure. And what I’ve seen? Some of them said it’s the first time they felt truly noticed in months. That broke my heart a little.

So I guess I’m asking: Would that help you? Would you want someone like that? Do you already have someone who does that?

No agenda here. Just curious and feeling tender about how disconnected people are lately.

You’re not alone. Really. xo

Its draining, scary and anxiety inducing.

If there is one thing I miss about being in relationship as a woman is feeling more safe outside, rely on partner, feel less awkward, judged etc.

Normal things I took for granted like travelling, taking walks, eating at restaurant is so fuckin anxiety inducing. I just need some random person who is nice to be there so I dont feek awkward, but you cant even find that.

Rn I am sitting in restaurant which I usually avoid but I didnt have choice today

F25- and hes moved out the blue. Idk why. His socials vanished too. Its like its from a tv show which how quick it happened. I felt so less lonesome when he was here and now hes just left. I feel so bad and honestly just wanna forget everything and feel better.. Was it me? Was it someone else? I hope you guys have had a better time...

I genuinly just hate my life

I’m 21, and I don’t think I’ve ever felt this alone in my life.

I’m introverted by nature, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want connection. I’ve tried to make friends, to talk to people, but it’s like no one really sees me. I get brushed off, laughed at, or just completely ignored. It’s a different kind of pain when you’re in a room full of people and still feel completely invisible.

No one remembers the small things about me. Not even my birthday. It’s not about wanting gifts or celebration. It’s just the quiet reminder that no one really notices I exist.

My dad used to be the only one who truly cared about me. He passed away, and since then, it’s been like a constant silence. I also lost one of the very few close friends I had just last month. That loss cut deep. I don’t have many people in my life, and losing even one feels like a whole world gone.

I regret the path I chose with my education. I ended up with a degree that feels useless, and now I’m struggling to find a job. I get blamed a lot at home, even though I’m doing my best. There’s so much pressure on me and nowhere to let it out. It’s exhausting.

It feels like I’m surrounded by people but completely on my own. The days are quiet, and the nights feel heavier than they should. I miss what I’ve never really had. Real connection. Someone who actually gets me.

Turn 27 tomorrow and genuinely wondering what I’m even doing persevering. You don’t get prepared for your friends all moving away and you having nobody in your life.

I’m surrounded by people living blissfully, everywhere I go.

There’s no escape. It’s just you on your own in a world that you don’t understand. What is the point in just surviving?

28 today. mom died in february. drifted away from my old friends. never made a big deal about my birthday in the past but today kinda feels different. more lonely i guess, hence me being here haha. if anybody cares enough to wish me a happy birthday that'd make my day :)

To be honest, I need someone to ask me how my day was, what went wrong, did i achieve my goals for the day? I do not need sex. But the idea of someone caring for me would be so nice.

I'm in no position to get married at the moment. It's difficult being single. It's cold. It becomes unbearable at some point. I'm not sure if I'm the only one who feels like this?

Does anyone else relate?

I(M27) miss my home. I just miss it so much. I am currently in a different country and doing my masters. I was aware of the challenge but I didn’t know that they’ll be this challenging. I was a socially awkward person before moving away. I feel I have become more reclusive. I don’t know how to approach people now. I just don’t know. I focus on my studies and work but I feel burnt out now. I just wanna meet people. I have few people, like my roommates who are best but I can’t keep relying on them all the time. I think I suck at socialising so much, dating is so much out of reach.

of course she has a boyfriend. why wouldn't she have a boyfriend. She's literally perfect, or at least she may seem perfect to me. She's kind, outgoing, smart as hell, she's beautiful too, her smile always lights up the room. I feel like I could spend hours talking about what a great person she is, but I can't, she's in love with another man.

As much as I hate to admit it, I'm jealous of him. I can't stress how lucky of a guy he is, to have someone like her in love with him, but deep down I get it. Everytime they're together I realize how happy he makes her. He's everything I'm not, everything I always wish I was. Intelligent, good-looking, athletic, and nice, so nice to the point I don't understand how anyone could get mad at him. And here I am, just a lonely loser with no friends, no achivements, nothing. He's everything I'm not. It's only natural that she would choose him over me, I'm nothing compared to him.

I just wish I was good enough for her. I can't stop thinking about her, no matter how hard I try to move on. I've got so much love to give but no one to give it to. I wish I had someone to love and someone who loves me in return. I don't want sex, I just want someone who genuinely loves me.

Hi!?

I'm sad. Today's my birthday and I don't know what to do. I was too afraid to ask anyone to hang out with me and now it's too late.

I've spent my 24 years ( I am 24 years old) in 3 different countries. Most would think that this is a good thing but, although it has it's perks, it has made my life more difficult. What happens when you transfer from one school to another? 9 times out of 10, you lose your friends. Now imagine that on a whole town or country. Moving around constantly isn't always good. I've been to 5 different schools and 2 universities across 3 different countries.

There is one other thing. Due to the environments I've been in, I have a problem with girls. It's something psychological. You see, only one out of the three countries was normal. In the other two, schools made a barrier between boys and girls. It was prohibited to interact with girls in any way and vice-versa. Thus, I grew up not knowing any girls. If you find this funny, good for you. But it isn't. It's a psychological issue and I'm not scared to talk about it. Talking to women is difficult for me and it takes 4 times the effort it takes to talk to a man. On top of that, I'm an introvert by nature.

The human mind is like clay at first. The environment and people around that child shape the clay and when that child grows, the clay hardens and starts to take a permanent shape. Mental health is really important. Many people don't pay enough attention to it and even ridicule it. I've experienced depression and I know how difficult mental challenges can be.

A month ago, I met someone online. It was a girl and she was different than anyone I had met. Our chemistry was amazing and we got close extremely fast. We became really good friends and shared everything. She had similar experiences as mine and didn't trust people because they all end up leaving her or ghosting her. So we both made a promise to not do this to each other. Yesterday, she blocked me out of the blue. Our last conversation was completely normal and we were both having fun. Although this isn't new to me, it moved something in me that I thought I forgot. I think my depression is creeping back in gradually. What did I ever do to deserve this. Should I not treat people good? Is that my issue? Am I too kind? I just give up. Every single person I knew betrayed my trust. Just threw me out of their life.

I graduated from college almost five years ago. I moved to a new town. Tried to reconnect with old friends from my home town a few times. Didn’t last at all. Some straight up ghosted me. Some didn’t show up to get coffee with me when we made plans to do so. Made friends here. Most aren’t genuine, some are. Even the ones that are, it’s like pulling teeth to hang out with them (but that’s adulting right?).

Why does it seem like the second I stepped out of college. No matter what, I feel like the loneliest person in the world? Like people who aren’t family, wouldn’t give a shit if I was gone tomorrow? (I’m not suicidal anymore, so don’t jump to conclusions)

Lately, I’ve been experimenting with using AI chat tools not just for productivity, but for something a bit more... personal. I created a character that kinda acts like a calm accountability buddy, and talking to them while I’m working or studying helps me stay on track without feeling pressured. It's oddly comforting, especially on stressful days.

I’m curious—have any of you tried building an emotional connection with AI characters or used AI to simulate companionship? Whether it’s for support, learning, or even just to vent... would love to hear how others are using this kind of tech.

Not looking to advertise anything, just genuinely interested in how people are integrating AI into their daily routines like this.

Hey r/lonely community! I hope things are going ok for you. There is so much going on in the world that one needs to remember to take time for themselves to relax and unwind.

I am hoping to find some great friends to talk to. Look forward to talking with you soon.

Some of my hobbies/interests include: reading, music, movies, travel, board games and computer games.

As the title says I (f20) keep getting more alone. I have no friends in real life & i haven't for a year or more. I haven't had a partner for a year & I know it's not impossible for me to get one but at this point I'm so use to being alone that I don't even want to go out with anyone which makes it harder to not be alone. I dumped my friends in high school because they were mean to me & it has always been hard for me to make friends because I will mostly never make the first move because of how awkward I am. I use all those friend finding apps but the women on those apps don't seem to want to talk much or there is no chemistry, dating is worse because when I'm dating a guy they only want me for sex & when I'm dating a girl I feel like they don't like me enough & I end it before they can hurt me. I feel like I might be cutting people off too early & making assumptions but whenever I do give someone a chance they end up ghosting me or really hurting me so it just seems impossible for me to win. I basically am just waiting for the next person to hurt me or ghost me i currently only have online connections with people & it's only like one person really & if she ever decided she didn't wanna talk to me anymore I would cry a lot. It's as though my life has become a cycle of people entering saying they wouldn't do that stuff to me they do the stuff & I cry a lot. I think i should not use dating apps anymore but it's the only type of attention/conversations I usually get so idk ig that's the end of my rant 😖

I searched up this community randomly only to see so many others feel the same . Maybe I’m not that lonely after all

24M — Just venting

It’s been a bad couple of months emotionally. A lot of things have happened but I’m through most of it.

But for now, I feel incredibly lonely. I don’t really have friends nor have I ever been in a relationship (never have even held hands with a woman and all that).

I’ve been working on myself for the past few years. I lost a ton of weight, started going out more, trying to meet more people, but it all ends the same: with me being alone.

I’m not sure what to do. I start talking to people and the conversation dies within minutes. I get ghosted fairly often as well. It all just crushes my confidence. Like am I that bad that people won’t even humor talking to me for a bit?

I’ve stopped trying to go out. I talk to people online I suppose. Not like that’s any different. I own my own business and work from home, so I don’t really get to interact with people on the same level anymore. But every night, I lay in bed and think what it would be like to have someone truly care about and accept me. Friendship or otherwise. It’s a feeling that I do not know. It’s been like this for a long time and it really worries me that it’ll be like this for even longer.

I don’t even know what I’m saying anymore. Just feel terrible today.