We have a small, sometimes reactive (to other dogs) 10yo chihuahua-yorkie-poodle mix. We are cautious about how baby interacts with him, if it all. We never let her near his beds and are good about not letting him feel cornered by her. He seems to like her, licks her to greet her and generally does quite well when we're just on the floor during playtime.

But today, the dreaded happened. In between the morning hustle, my husband on the phone with family, me trying to get the kitchen clean, both of us assuming the other "had her", she went up on him while he was eating. I'm not sure if she actually pulled his tail or even contacted him. I heard a snarl/growl and then her crying. I went yelling after him, rushed to her, and she seemed to be okay but definitely startled of course and scared.

As the stress of the situation settled I noticed she had two welt marks which almost look like a bite pattern. No broken skin, but it was right on her cheek near her eye. I'm just devastated. This dog had been my guy for 8+ years since I adopted him from a friend. He has a history of snarling and lunging at other, bigger dogs and puppies. I want to think this is just a one off but of course my baby's safety is top priority. But I'm just gutted to think about rehoming him after his loyal service to our family. Is muzzling an option? Strict gates and barriers?

I feel like we (the parents) failed both dog and baby today.

Please, any advice is appreciated if you've dealt with similar situation. Thank you.

I need some advice, in fact experience from people that went gor baby number 2😄 We have a 2 and a half year old, he is such a good child, really well behaved and sweet soul. We have finacial means, but we dont have any family in the city we live in. And we both have stresful jobs, we balance as much as we can so we spend as much time with him as possible, he goes to daycare. I am just so scared that it will be too stressful, hectic, and that I will have to cut time spend together with our sweet boy. Any advice appreciated.

My neighbors just suffered a miscarriage at 20 weeks. Her water broke early. I read suggestions about gifting a necklace or keepsake with the birthstone. I really like this idea as it’s subtle and something she wouldn’t need to explain to anyone. Should I get a birthstone of the miscarriage birth month, April- or their due date birthstone? I don’t want to remind her of death.. but also seems weird to give the due date stone. What do you all think?

Should I start diet or calorie deification? My LO is 19 month old.

For context, I posted about us being in a shelter at the moment due to DV from my abu$er with my two babies age 3 & 2 … one of the counselors gave us about $4 in change so the boys can get a snack since we have been STRUGGLING with affording food at the moment. The boys & I walk to the vending machine & get a honey bun, 2 packs of crackers & some skittles. The crackers were for me since I haven’t ate all day. We place it on our bunk and I took them to the bathroom. We come back with just the crackers on the bed 🙂🙃 gotta be a freaking low life to steal a 3 year olds snack. Especially when we are all in there needing some type of assistance. I’m literally crying once again & trying to console a screaming 3 year old. Mama’s , please pray for me. I just don’t understand. 🤦🏽‍♀️

I invited my son’s friend to the movies. I sent a message to his mum asking if he would like to come along. She said he would love to. She asked how much are tickets. I told her the price and said I would shout drinks and snacks. But I feel like I should have just said it’s my shout for the ticket. I was planning on paying for him anyway. I feel like it’s rude. What do you guys think?

Please help me with this. My son is watched by my MIL, his abuela. She cooks everything from scratch which is great. No complaints. But no matter what I do, my son will NOT eat at our house unless it’s a ‘fun food’ like nuggets or burgers or fries or fruits. Which I don’t understand because I’ve always provided a variety of foods, we have NEVER had nuggets/snacks as a staple. Always a treat. I try to make sure he has a good balanced breakfast and lunch and dinner. Mind you this was never the case until his second birthday. When he turned 2, our work schedules got a lot busier and he’s been over abuela’s house much more. He eats everything she makes. But when it’s time for us to bring him home, he flat out refuses to eat. He will turn his head and say no over and over. It doesn’t matter if he sees us eating, he won’t eat.

So I tried learning MIL’s recipes, but he STILL doesn’t eat. My husband has always given him an alternative like a burger and fruit or nuggets and veggies and fruit. But I’m so sick of this. I’m cooking full meals when he’s home to try to give him a variety of anything and he just refuses it all. I hate that my husband constantly gave him other options because now he thinks he’s just supposed to have those foods here I guess?

My last resort was asking MIL to cook meals at her house and let me take some home so kiddo would eat. He STILL REFUSES. He is 100% fine with drinking water or water/juice all day without eating. Or sneaking and eating multiple bananas or grapes and eating nothing else. I’m really happy he’s not a candy-kid and he’s pretty healthy, he loves his fruit and veggies. But how am I supposed to feed him? People said it would take time and he’d adjust but he hasn’t and I feel like it’s going to get worse.

For context, this is the weekly schedule: Saturday afternoon-Monday home with mom and dad. Tuesday-Friday abuela’s house. So he is basically eating next to nothing for 2.5 days

My little brother (12m) has lived with my husband (32m) and I (25f) for about 6 months now because my father sucks and we thought this would be better for everyone. I love him and wanted to do this for him. It has went well overall. I feel really out of my depth sometimes and this is definitely one of those situations.

A few days ago he was out with one of his friends. My husband and I had not silent sex while we thought he was gone. Anytime he is home we are careful and quiet so something like this doesn’t happen. I didn’t know he heard anything until the next morning, when he was acting weird and looking at the camera. He has been acting really weird and distant towards me and really angry towards my husband. He acts like he hates my husband now. He picks fights with us but especially my husband. He has called both of us names and is clearly upset about it. I don’t know how to approach it with him and I want to prevent an argument breaking out between husband and brother. My husband is naturally protective so I really want to prevent a rift because my brother is being such a jerk to him. I am so embarrassed. I don’t really understand why he is that angry. I have tried to talk to him and apologize but he doesn’t want to hear it. He has also heard us fighting a few times, so I’m going to make sure this type of thing doesn’t happen again. I have asked my husband to have a supportive conversation with him but he refuses while my brother is acting the way he is. How should I handle this with him? Any advice from parents would be helpful, thanks

This will probably end up being a little long because I ramble a bit, so I apologize ahead of time.

I have a 6 year old daughter I will call N. She has gotten close to a girl in her class this year called C.

When the weather is nice and we don't have any time restricting plans, I have my kids dismissed as walkers and they come straight down to their school playground. I'm always there waiting for them, and they play with their friends for at least a couple of hours while I chat with other parent friends (and obviously keep an eye on my kids at the same time). This is how I finally got to meet C. She is a very energetic girl with a sassy goofy personality similar to N so I can easily see how they became friends. However, I quickly noticed that I never saw either of her parents around the playground. Turns out, C's mom sits in her car across the playground the entire time, always on her phone. I've only seen her get out of the vehicle once or twice when she needs to tell her girls it's time to go. I don't agree with not being nearby to keep an eye on your kids both to make sure they are behaving and playing well with other children, but also in case they get hurt or need help. But everyone parents their own way, and maybe she's not very social, so I brushed it off for the most part.

During one of our after-school-playground times, N was playing with C and I saw them run over to C's mom's car together when C had to leave. I kept an eye on N as she said goodbye. She climbed up onto the runner of the car to give C a hug in her seat, chatted for a minute with C and the mom, then all 3 of them came walking over to me. The first thing N says in a surprised/excited voice is "C and L (the younger sister) don't have any boosters or anything! They sit in the big seats!" C's mom laughs a little and says "I know, it's terrible! I really should have them in boosters!". Remember, C and N are both 6 or 7 years old, and L is 5 or 6. N says she and C want a play date some time so the mom brought me a paper with her phone number and C's name on it - not her own name - and asked for mine in return. I wrote my name and number down and thought maybe we could organize something in the future. This was probably 3ish weeks ago and neither of us have reached out to each other but N regularly asks if she can go with C when they leave the playground to get ice cream or donuts or wherever they are going. I always say no with a legitimate excuse like needing to get homework and dinner done, etc.

Last week, N came home and asked me what sexy means. I asked her where she heard that word from. She told me she heard it from C, and that C told her it means "when someone is naked and they're in the pool and they flip their hair around looking all beautiful". I told her sexy is a grown up word and not appropriate for kids, and that I'm not sure why C knows that word or what it means, but that she shouldn't at this age. The next day we were at the playground after school and I asked other parent friends if they know anything about C's parents. I am not from this area originally, I moved here with my husband about 10 years ago. However, many of the other parents I am friends with grew up in the area and know more about other families than I do. 3 different parents that I trust completely (one of which is a local police deputy, another is a nurse at the local hospital, and the other is a firefighter/EMT) all had negative things to say. They did not have much to say about the mom, but the dad is a known cocaine addict and possible heroine user. He was fired from a big-name car dealership for theft and opened up his own auto sales business in return. As one of the dad's put it, he wouldn't trust buying a golf cart from this guy, let alone a car. They also pointed out that the mom only ever wears long pants and long sleeves/cardigans no matter the weather (it can easily get into the 80s-90s with high humidity in the warmer months here), which makes them wonder if the husband is abusive and/or she is hiding track marks herself. Many of them also had not so great things to say about C's behavior. She yells at and hits her mom very hard with the mom having no reaction other than giving her what she wants or bribing her with things to distract her. She gives a lot of attitude if another parent stops their daughter and C from doing something they shouldn't be while playing together, such as climbing on top of the tunnel slide and trying to walk on it, running into the parking lot without looking both ways first, things like that.

In general, it sounds like C's parents don't do much parenting as it is and C has behavior issues because she is given free reign of what she wants and does. I also am very uncomfortable with her parents' behaviors and lifestyle. I do not want my daughter over to their house, obviously cannot trust them to take her anywhere with them such as out for ice cream as mentioned before, and I'm starting to be wary of the things C is telling and showing N when they are together at school. I know C is just a very young child and these things are not her fault, so trying to stop their friendship from growing further makes me feel guilty. I'm also fully aware that outright banning them from being friends will likely push my daughter to become closer with C as a result. All of that being said, I don't know how to broach this situation with my daughter. I can only say no to these invites and play date ideas so many times before N starts to ask me why we can never hang out with C and why she can't go to her house, etc. I know that if I'm honest and say things like "I don't trust her parents", she will take that back to C and repeat it and things might snowball. I've never had to deal with a situation like this before. A little guidance from others would be really appreciated!

I’m going to let this go. But, I could not sleep last night. All I could think of was that 4 yr old little girl, 5 year old little boy being hit directly in their faces bc they are brand new people and no one cares enough or has enough fortitude to get their asses up and learn how to redirect behavior in small children bc they are lazy!!!!!!! If you hit your child it is bc you have FAILED as a parent and now you are doubling down on that failure. Your child knows fuck all and acts like a little hellion bc YOU have taught them NOTHING and then you HIT them!!!??? Incredulous. Go ahead and delete my post. How absolutely dare I tell the truth. And that “Mom” has another one on the way. Ofc. The ones that can’t be fucked to learn a thing about parenting are always the most fertile.

Hello! I’m due with my second baby in a month and I remember being unhappy with what I brought to the hospital for clothing with my first…I didn’t know how hot and sweaty I’d be, didn’t have a good nursing bra, and didn’t realize how uncomfortable anything fitted would feel. Maybe I was just overall uncomfy 🤪anyways, what did you use? Links are appreciated too! Looking for comfort and practical but also cute is great too. I’m having a girl this time!

Thank you!

My husband has addiction issues. He’s 8 months sober now and I’m very proud of him but I just found out that he was high while I was in labor with my now 10 month old. I have so many feelings about it and just need to vent- I feel stupid for not connecting the dots. Since baby was born I’ve been telling a “funny” story about him being infuriatingly stupid during labor that he’s always been embarrassed by. He just admitted to me that he’s ashamed about it because he was high- the behavior in question makes so much sense now and it brings back some anger too. Labor didn’t go the way I wanted it to. I was trying for a VBAC so labored at home until 6cm. Very much the movie-style screaming-through-contractions type labor. Got an infection and had to do a C-section after pushing for an hour or so. I felt a little alone in labor (even though husband was there the whole time) and I think finding out he wasn’t really there is just bringing back those feelings.

Obviously going to talk to my therapist about it this week. I’m never sure how much I can talk to my husband about this stuff because 1. I can get REALLY stuck on the negative feelings around the birth experience and 2. I try to limit the negative discussions about addiction because I want to be supportive of his recovery and don’t know how lingering on something that happened months ago can do anything positive… anyone with recovering addict partners?

Edit: marijuana. He was 1.5 years sober when we had our first because he would lose his job if they knew but couldn’t stop when he had access (going to work high). I don’t know why this is a sticking point for you all- what level of intoxication is acceptable to drive your kids around? 1 edible? Just a little heroin?

Partially venting and partially seeking input as to whether I’m off on this…

I have 2 young kids and am a SAHM. Husband works very long hours, and is barely around during the week. I feel lucky to be able to be home with them, but it’s a hard job! I live about 40 minutes from my parents. My mom does not work and enjoys being with our kids and helping out when she can. She does help sometimes, and I appreciate it. It’s generally a mix of her coming here and us driving to her in order for her to help/spend time with them. I feel hurt because it seems she is constantly helping my sibling’s family more. They live 15 minutes from her. They both have great jobs and have a full time nanny. However they are constantly having her help watch their kids, drive them places, fill in for the nanny, etc. Every time I talk to my mom it feels like she is telling me about things she’s doing for them - taking them to the movies, buying them all new sneakers, and much more. They don’t want to pay for date night sitters (even though that’s our only option) or summer camps for their kids, so they lean on her. Then it seems like she’s too tired to commit to much with our kids. She also acts as if they need the help more because they both work paid jobs, and that I don’t need or deserve help because I’m home with my children. She also is not shy about inserting her opinion that it’s better to stay home with your kids (I do not personally think one option is better than the other. It seems both have pros and cons and that no matter what, it’s hard when our kids are little). It’s especially hurtful because she also was a stay at home mom and I know she struggled through it. I guess I expected her of all people to understand that this is also a very hard job and still worthy of some help, so it’s disappointing that she does not seem to make that connection and that she seems to think they are more deserving of her time and energy.

To make matters worse, last summer my mom watched our kids ONE time so my husband and I could have a meal together and my sibling commented to me as if I was stealing her away. It seemed like they felt entitled to the help. Am I overrracting by feeling hurt by this?

I want to hear your stories.. This complication is so different for different people and I'm concerned about this happening and want to try to help catch it early and prevent the dangerous side of it. What would you have wished for to help you if you knew?

What do you think is the biggest gap in the market for pregnant women? Especially where stretch marks are concerned?

Moms , I keep reading posts of women saying they only get three hours of sleep a day and I’m wondering is this an exaggeration ? Maybe they get three hours some nights but more usually? Is it humanly possible to survive on 3 hours ? I like to sleep 8 hours but now with a baby get anywhere between 5-8 hours broken and when I get five hours I’m absolutely devastated and make up for it by day time naps and going to bed early . Then I think about those moms who say they get 3 hrs every night and I’m like …. Huh?!

lol in his six months of life ive never referred to them as thighs.. its always either chunky chunkers, chunky chighs or chunks

I am really trying to look my best. I am transitioning from maternity leave to working full time.

Lately, I have been getting shellac manicure's every 3 weeks along with brow threading.

I wear a light face of make up daily; mascara, (sometimes) eyeliner, concealer, light powder, blush and some kind of lip products.

I like to put togther an outfit I feel good and confident in, I have been looking at Pinterest for inspo and updating my clothes too.

I have long hair and I only like get a hair cut every 6 months

I do skin care every night along with a luxurious shower, remove make up, glycol acid, wash face, then apply retinol, moisturizer and if I am extra dry apply a layer of vaseline. In the morning I rinse my face with water and apply. vitamin c, moisturizer and starting with sunscreen too.

I am religious about getting my teeth cleaned every 6 months.

I am really wanting to begin working out but I haven't found the time for that in my schedule just yet.

For the past week, my LO has been waking up in the middle of the night. Up until now, he's been a great sleeper. But I'm pretty sure hes going thru a growth spurt and has been eating more. He also wont stop scratching his head and just starts screaming bloody murder in the MOTN. Last night, he woke up 5x and the last time I was so frustrated, I took him to his room and just held him the rocking chair while he was still screaming. I was so tired. My husband came in and took the baby and told me to go back to bed but I just cried and couldnt go back to sleep. I was also annoyed that it took me getting out of bed for my husband to takeover. My husband ended up feeding the baby and putting him to sleep in his crib (which is also the very first time he slept in his crib) and i couldnt help but feel like a failure. I was so proud of my LO for sleeping through the night in his crib for the first time and thankful for my husband; however, I just felt like crap and felt so bad for being irritated with my baby.

So why is it that moms just aren’t “allowed” to have a quiet moment? I’m in bed relaxing at 6:30 AM because my 10 month old is playing quietly in his crib and I want to be able to wake up slowly FOR ONCE. Oh no, my husband has his hands all over me and it’s annoying lol!! I feel bad but I rarely get these moments now, as you all well know. I love him so much but sometimes I want a zone out time just for me! I remember bugging my mom when she was lying down thinking, “She should be playing with me!” I feel bad now lol! Anyways, just a rant.

I (26f) have two kids (4f and 5m) and am pregnant with our 3rd baby. I want so badly to be the parent that doesn’t spank/pop my kids on their bottom or mouths for something if there’s a better way to go about it but find many times that’s all that will work. Popping/spanking is usually a last resort.

My problem is here recently (the past few months) we’ve had an issue with listening, attitude and being mean to other people.

For my son our biggest problem is how mean he’s been. For example, my daughter has a stuffed animal which she named Lemon, my son told her it was a stupid name. Now, she’s an arguer and doesn’t necessarily put up with it but that usually leads to bickering and arguing which is another problem all on its own. This is a Mild example but the first one I could think of, and it extends to adults as well. I was smacked in the mouth growing up so that is my first instinct and I’ve always worked really hard to not smack him.

They’re both having a hard time listening, it’s taking me yelling at them to convince them to do something. I know this is a normal kid problem but I need to know what others are doing and what’s working for them.

My daughter is a HUGE arguer about anything and everything, she’s even argued that I said she could do something when I didn’t, so I worry we’re crossing over into lying.

Naturally All of these things are made worse when older cousins are around, so that is also an added twist.

Issues: Being mean/disrespectful Arguing Not listening

Things we’ve done: Put their nose on the wall (one time I made them hold hands at the same time) Taken electronics Popped in the mouth Popped on the bottom Early bedtime

Anytime they’re mean to one another they have to say sorry

My in laws happen to be near town and have decided to come in 3 days. My husband and I both work full time again and have a 3mo old. They are saying they’ll watch our baby while they’re here and I don’t want to upset my husband by saying no… For starters, we pay our nanny a set monthly rate so we pay her either way, they’re aren’t like saving us childcare money by helping. Also, their mobility is really not great, when they were here when he was an infant, they would only hold him sitting down. I’m also a barely-enougher BF. Our nanny’s house is close to my work so when I’m inevitably a little short, I have the ability to drop milk from my first pumps at work on my lunch rather than having to use formula. (Absolutely nothing wrong with formula, but if my total milk is enough to keep feeding him, that’s what I’d like to do!) Overall, we JUST finally got in a groove with his bedtime and our mornings w/ pick up & drop off and working full time and I don’t want to throw the whole thing off for a few days. If they would just come for a weekend they’d actually get to see him and we wouldn’t be working or paying childcare??? I’m worried I’m being oversensitive because when they were here early postpartum they were the opposite of helpful 90% of the time and stressed me out SO bad, so I’m worried I’m being an a** bc I have a bad taste in my mouth from that.

ETA: I can’t even count the amount of times in the last few years I’ve told them to visit on weekends instead of weekdays because it’ll be a more enjoyable time.

Mine is buying matching pajama sets. Not the luxurious silk pajamas, just cotton sets from Amazon or Sams Club. BUT they have definitely made a difference by making me feel a little more put together. Even though my house is a hot mess & my toddlers are screaming banshees. I at least look like I’m ready for it 😂

Hey moms! I’m about to welcome my first baby at the end of this month (eeeeeekkk)! I can’t decide between buying a sleep monitor (such as the Owlet sock) or not. Honestly, they are just so expensive. At the same time, I have some pretty rough anxiety about SIDS and safe sleep. What have you done for sleep monitoring and have you felt like these items are worth it? Thanks so much in advance!

Hey moms out there. First off I'm a 29 year old son of a mother who is just the absolute best.

She is downsizing her garage and wants to find out how to condense us 3 kids memories like blankets shirts jackets into maybe quilts? And also she wants to maybe take pictures of our trophies or childhood toys and them put those into a digital photo frame.

I have NO idea where to post this so if you moms could help point me in a right direction for my mom I'd love any input you ladies have. Thank you for being moms to the kids like me just trying to help 🙏