Hi everyone, I’ve been in this group for a while and have wanted to share but as a man felt that it wasn’t appropriate. But I’m in dire need for some advice… my girlfriend and I of 6 months discovered she was pregnant for 4 months and we found out just a few weeks ago and honestly we were thrilled until reality set in we talked for about a week deciding whether to keep the baby or not…

Due to our cultural, family, social and economic conditions we decided to abort… we’re in a very long distance relationship and both University students.

She’s taken the medical pill route alone, went through the pain alone and all of a sudden a fetus appears, I was shocked so I can only imagine how she felt. I believe due to my ignorance I had no idea this would have happen.

She’s still in the midst of pain and bleeding and to me what looks like border line depression, she cries to me on the phone asking herself if we made the right choice and if God would ever forgive her. She’s always wanted a child moreover a son so… as her partner what can I say??

I too didn’t know this was so hard, how much more can I help her? Am I doing enough? We talk everyday but it doesn’t feel like I’m doing enough for her.

I met a guy from an app shortly after my 12 year old esa dog passed away. I was in a vulnerable place mentally and allowed myself to have unprotected sex with a man I just met. I got pregnant two months after meeting him at age 36. I thought it was a miracle. I was ready to be a mother but soon discovered this man was a drug addict. I decided to get an abortion even though I knew it was going to mentally set me back further at that moment. After the abortion, I cried everyday. The boyfriend never quit drugs and was in and out of jail and rehab. He told me often that if I kept the pregnancy he would have had a reason to stay clean.. Three years later I am constantly reminded of my decision. I struggle with if it was the right one. I see pregnancy all around me at work and in my family but it sends me into a depression of traumatic flashbacks. I don’t speak to the guy anymore but I can’t help but wonder what my life would’ve been like had I not gotten an abortion.

ive read that misoprostol can be inserted vaginally, has anyone done this instead of the traditional oral approach? can vaginal insertion cause the medicine to be less effective? id rather that approach over the oral route if it means not having to taste the medicine for 30 minutes, but if it can be less effective then i wont even bother. thank you!

Hi guys , as the title says, I went through an abortion a bit over two weeks ago. It was the most traumatic and painful thing I’ve done in my life. To be honest, I didn’t want to do it, but I did it more because I didn’t want the child to be rejected by its father. I found out I was pregnant around 8weeks and had my family support. A bit of background, he’s an international student (from France) and I’m also a student but taking a break and was working full time. We’ve been dating for two years, it started off casually/ hooking up and it’s grown into having a relationship. He’s met all my friends and we would get together every weekend and explore new places in the city and I would sleepover the weekends. That has been our dynamic for these two years. Every winter and summer he would go back to his country for vacation and during this time we would continue our lives separate with small updates here and there since he doesn’t believe in texting 24/7. I accepted this as his norm and accommodated to him. Also at the time I wasn’t sure if I wanted 100% a serious relationship as I was healing from my last one but now two years later I believed we had built something stronger and heading towards that direction. Since I went to visit him during summer break in France and met his mother and friends. He just recently met my parents a few weeks prior to learning about my pregnancy, I live with my parents (they’re conservative) , and they offered to support me through the pregnancy but my bf was so decided on not having it and even threatened to abandon me and the child if I had it. This triggered my own childhood trauma and it ultimately gave me the push to go through with the abortion. Now we had to fly out of state to do all of this and I got fired from my job in the process. We split the costs of the trip in half, and upon our return, I had a fall out with my family and have been staying with him since. It’s been difficult healing and dealing with the mental stress, and I feel that my life really took a turn and he came out unscathed from it all. I have mixed emotions towards him, I understand his reasoning for not having it (we’re not ready, he didn’t want to abandon his family in his country, and he felt he would have to give up on his studies) but also it hurts that our relationship of two years feels like it was nothing. I expected more support but instead I felt antagonized. His roommates had also taken advantage of the situation by asking me to pay rent when they knew I would be staying with him for a bit until I figured out my living situation. Financially I’m not in a good place, and can’t afford to pay them rent. I just feel lost and sad. I don’t feel valued , and I feel like maybe we never had a future to begin with and I have just been holding on for too long expecting things to change. He claimed he’s not in love with me , but I feel like I’m in love with him. I don’t know if it’s the hormones , but I’m not ready to let go. I guess I just need advice outside of my own circle, a bit of his background: he was raised by a single mother, didn’t have a father figure, and his driving fear was that he didn’t want to abandon his mom (about to retire) in his country because they don’t have much family, and he didn’t want to become his father either( wasn’t present in his life). I try to empathize and see where he comes from, but I’m starting to think that I was never really important to him and just a placeholder until he finishes his studies and goes back home. Is there any way to salvage this and make our relationship stronger? Should I give up and leave? Appreciate all the feedback and please be kind.

Sometimes I just wanna die so I can be with my baby. I know it's delusional and wouldnt act on these thoughts. The feeling comes and goes, especially around anniversaries. Had a MA around this time 6 years ago.

I’ve looked online at planc and innedana and all the sites seem so sketchy. Does anyone have any actually good sources for MA? For reference I’m in North Carolina and 4-5 weeks.

I've been with my partner for 9 years. At 21 and 23 years of age, I had an abortion both times because we were so young and it would be unfair on the baby as we weren't ready. I've just fallen pregnant at 27, and I'm feeling to guilty to abort but he's made it so clear he doesn't want this yet as we're moving abroad and he's so unhappy in the uk as it is. He feels the baby would ruin that and I've seen him cry because of the situation. He cares for me and loves me a lot, but I just feel lost in terms of what we should be doing. We're married now and I really thought the 3rd time I'd fall pregnant would be the time we'd start a family. Has anyone been through anything similar? Has your relationship survived it?

i guys i had posted a while ago about taking miso and bleeding for three weeks. well i had nausea so i went to get my OBGYN and i’m pregnant and everything is completely fine. like what.. she said i’m 6 weeks pregnant and that i only had like a failed miscarriage something like that. i already have a baby the only reason why i’m doing is because my husband and I cant have another child right now. I crossed to mexico to get a new box of miso i took 2 vaginally and 2 under the tongue is this how you do it? is there another way it could be more effective. I’m already laying down waiting

I’m 21F now! I had an at home medical abortion at 16. I definitely want kids in the future, I was just wondering how honest I need to be with staff. I know everyone feels different ways on here but I’m very ashamed of my abortion, I was careless and young. If I don’t need to be telling anyone about it I don’t want to be. I just was wondering if any of yall gave also gone through this situation yet.🤍

Will have D&E tomorrow and I am super nervous. I am really scared I won’t wake up after the surgery. I wonder what kind of sedation they use for D&E . And how’s everyone’s experience ? Thank you

Hello. I was 5 weeks exactly when I had a MA on 3/26 Bled until 4/4 and now I haven’t bled anymore . Day 1-3 was heavy with clots then I was light and turned brown and dark red . No smells or anything out of the ordinary. So it’s been about two weeks . I took a pregnancy test and the line looks way darker than when I did the MA . So this freaked me out a bit so I called my OB and set up an appointment for an ultrasound to make sure I expelled everything . I told them for miscarriage . I’ve also been worried and want the ultrasound because I have been have ovary pains and lower back pains that seem unusual. I think I’m just scared but I really do want the ultrasound to find out for sure if everything is ok .

I live in a legal state but I don’t want it on my record that I had an abortion . Is there anything else I should say at the appointment other than I miscarried ?

Hello, I was 6 weeks pregnant when I went with MA. I passed large clots and I bled for 1 week. It was already 5 weeks after the procedure but I haven't had menstruation again. Is this normal or is this something I should worry about? Thank you.

I had an abortion last year 2024 because my boyfriend didn’t want the baby and he really pressured/ guilted me into it. We just had our 1 YO son so he didn’t want another child so soon and though I did agree it would be too much, I am religious so it was very, very hard for me to go through with it. I am pregnant again and yes I am on BC and we took plan B just to make sure but it didn’t work, bad luck? I took an at home pregnancy test yesterday and its positive. Of course my boyfriend doesn’t want the baby again due to financial reasons as we live in my parents house in order to save for our own home. I am a SAHM. Also, just stress of already being parents is a lot. We did everything to prevent this but here we are. I just don’t know if I can morally go through with this again. I had complications during the first abortion. I bled so much I was admitted into the hospital and had to have two blood transfusions. It was awful, I almost thought it was my punishment from god for doing it. Idk if I can do it again. I still feel so guilty for the previous one. My boyfriend says he won’t pressure me this time that it’s “up to you” and he will support me with whatever I chose but he also added “but you know what’s going on with my job” (he works for the VA and Trumps admin might remove his dep.) I’m soooo conflicted. Edit: I had an abortion in my early 20’s and I feel like a piece of shit about it because I did it for no reason other than being selfish and not wanting it. I guess that’s why I feel so guilty now that these pregnancies have happened even when I tried to prevent them on BC and taken Plan B.

hi, i’m a 22 year old that’s started the process of an MA at home. i took the 200mg mife pill at about 2:30pm today and am so so scared to take the miso pills tomorrow. i have a debilitating fear of throwing up and i keep seeing people saying that they couldn’t stop throwing up and were so sick the entire time.

does anyone have any reassurance that maybe it won’t be so bad?? i’m terrified and can’t tell many people about this experience

hey guys, so im in need of abortion pills ( currently 5 wks ) and i was checking on the plan c website saw this website, i was wondering if anyone has ordered from them before ? they have 2-3 day express shipping, i know i still have time but i would wish to be with my boyfriend before i go back home and he goes back to work ( out of town ) im considering aid access because i know most of people on here have used them but i wish they had an express shipping option.

Hi. My boyfriend and I are both 20. We had our son when we were 18. I've just come to learn a couple weeks ago that I am pregnant (now 8 weeks). It's been like 3-4 weeks since I found out and I still can not come to a desicion on what to do and am looking for advice. I just got accepted into school that is a two year long commitment starting in August. Our son is just about 16 months by now. I also recently found out he cheated a month after having our son and it's been hard trying to rekindle our relationship. I'm so excited to start my new career and am not sure how my relationship will turn out. I am so scared to be pregnant and I have no idea what to do. I am torn between my two options. Keeping the baby or have an abortion. My boyfriend is also to begin school to be an electrician. We have so many plans we have made for us and this is horrible timing. I already payed $150 for the pill off of aid access but I don't know if I can do it. Please give me opinions

Edit: I think I'm going to go through with the termination but, has anyone ever actually used aid access? If so, would you recommend ?

Has anyone had a prescription on hold from hey Jane, how long did it delay the process?

Hello, can I ask how to abort the fetus inside me? I'm exactly 9 weeks pregnant and from Philippines where abortion is illegal. Thank you.

Hi everyone! I had my medical abortion today and wanted to share my positive experience on here for anyone whos going through the same thing or considering getting an abortion.

About 3 weeks ago I discovered I (21F) was pregnant. It felt like the end of my world. I've only been with my boyfriend for about 5 months and we had (and still have) what felt like a perfect relationship. I seriously couldn't ask for a better partner to have gone through this situation with. So we weighed out our options, went back and forth between abortion and following through with the pregnancy, but after many long conversations, and tears I came to the conclusion that I was not ready for motherhood just yet. I always thought prior to this situation if I ever got pregnant I would just have the baby until I actually was put in the position of being pregnant. So I ordered an abortion pill through the Hey Jane website (highly recommend) and the medicine and instructions were delivered to my house no more than 3 days later. The package also came with anti nausea medication and painkillers. I had pretty bad cramping throughout the process (felt like intense period cramps) and obviously a lot of mental baggage but other than that the actual experience of the abortion wasn't so scary. I thought I might regret it but I don't. As sad and hard as this situation has been, Its ultimately whats best for me.

I just wanted to share my experience on here because I have found so much comfort throughout this process on this website, and really loved reading everyones experiences. Abortion is never easy and if anyone reading this needs any support or has any questions about my experience/ in general please just message me! I would love to help out anyone i can because it can definitely be such a isolating and lonely experiance.

Wising you all well :) thanks for reading.

I'm going to be doing it at home and I'm just feeling super anxious/scared and could use some words of encouragement/positive advice.

I have support, but my support will be watching our child so I am going to basically just be chilling in the room and finding something to watch and hopefully going to try and sleep as they are sending in promethazine pills. Hoping they at least help me sleep.

I don't know why I'm so fucked up right now, but I have to wait until Monday to do it after it work all weekend because they are not coming till Thursday, and then working Saturday and Sunday it won't work to do until Monday.

Positive encouragement appreciated XOXO

Does anyone have any helpful tips to help with the emotional aftermath? I know it's partially the hormones, but I am struggling after terminating yesterday. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you

We have two boys 6 & 5.im a sahm. He works all day everyday.. although he provides I get very little help from him.. we don't ever communicate and when I try to talk to him about anything he's very dismissive. The small amount of time that we get to ourselves as a family he wants to spend it with his parents/siblings/cousins. I absolutely can not fake my happiness anymore.. I've been feeling so empty and for some foolish reason thought getting pregnant would magically improve things. It's been 8 years of beimg together and it seems we're just roommates.. we announced to our families and friends of the baby on the way. Everyone is so excited except for me.. idk what to

I took the miso pills at 11am (it’s 2pm now) and now I’m severely cramping in my left lower side. Right side is very little cramping. I’m worried for ectopic..

My doctor did a beta hcg to make sure it wasn’t, and she said the levels weren’t concerning. So I went ahead with the MA. But now I’m concerned it’s ectopic because of the severe pain. Could the MA rupture anything? When should I go to the hospital if needed?

Hi, English isn't my thing, so I apologize for any mistakes. Well, I just found out I'm pregnant. I can't have it. It's illegal in my country, but some friends can get me some medication, misoprostol. I'm asking for advice on how to take it and what I should do. I'm really scared.

I just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant and I've alr ordered the abortion pills but the thing is I'm cut between ties between keeping it or not I mean I alr have two kids, my first born just turned 2 this past march and my second born is about to be 1 the end of this month and I've had 2 c-sections alr and and like I don't know if that make me selfish because I just am not mentally ready to go through the procedure again. Esp since I've had them 2 years back to back and if I kept this one it would happen again for the 3rd year. And i lowkey did tell everyone im pregnant but only because im impulsive asf.... idk I need advise if I do follow through does tht make me selfish. And to mention rq im 314 pounds This is the heaviest I've been ever in my life and I just don't think it's healthy to have another one eps since my last pregnancy I couldn't even walk because it hurt my coochie. I just turned 24 on the second of this month as well and I've been on a weight loss journey because after my second born I was 350.