Getting over a breakup

[u/sulapeace93]

I recently ended a 4 month long relationship with a man I became very attached too very soon. I am 31 now and I don’t crash out over men too often but I am hurt. No clue why I am so hurt because he didn’t do much for me and I lowered my standards to be able to justify why I was dating him- but it hurts all the same. I have it planned to workout more (core restorative yoga, and more walks) and to get back into my hobbies (woodworking, candle making, heavy reading) but I still want to free my mind of this man. I know that no matter how busy I make myself, I will still think about him and how I ended it (with 10 drunk but very truthful texts at 8pm). I wanted to ask advice on how to reroute my mind so I won’t obsess over this. I’m sorry this is long winded, I hope for a little bit of clarity from any likeminded women. Thank you 🤍

[u/Kitt0001]

You’re hurt because you lowered your standards. I think this is more of a disappointment within yourself rather than anything to do with the man. Sounds like you got a plan in mind, break ups suck with time you won’t even remember this man’s name anymore. & don’t lower your standards again ! 💛💛💛 wishing you healing.

[u/sulapeace93 → u/Kitt0001]

thank you so much for saying this. you are so kind 🤍