Just a question for the people.

Sadness is anyone's duty and happiness is the compensation. Transcend the former and you'll get paid of the latter.

Everything seems to be ''two sides of the same coin'' as long as you know how to flip things.

Bored

Have you ever known a straight dude who just "became" gay or bisexual after one crazy night of partying or drinking?

When I started Testosterone therapy, I got some VIVID gay fantasies. Was I falsely convinced that I was straight?

I've tried to cut them off in the past to no avail, all I'd do was come right back to them because in truth I have Noone else but them. I have been friends with them for years, but for those years they have done messed up stuff to me. I do acknowledge that I've also done stuff to them, but I apologized where as them they mostly treat it as a joke and never hear me out.

I'm really frustrated, scared, confused. I don't know where to go and what to go, please help.

You are important, your story matters, and the world is better with you in it. So, don’t give up. It may take time, but you will heal Whoever you may be, I believe in you even if I don't know you. If anyone wants to talk about it, they are free to dm. No judgement at all because we all have been there

Im 16 and i have no hobbies and basically no friends

I have one genuinly good friend in and outside of school but apart from that i just speak to some people (on an extremely basic level) in school.

I have barely left the house and i have no intresting experiances to look back on Just consuming slop

At home all i do is scroll online I dont study so im practically failing all my subjects and i dont have any intresting hobbies or anything like that to make up for my friendless life

A few years ago a girl randomly added me on snap and i started speaking to her She was pretty and i liked her She was the only person i would speak to On thursday she blocked me on everything and said "i think its best if we stop speaking".

Its not even like i can have the release of ending my life, my mother would be broken by it and probably follow me.

I dont want to give up on life, i want to improve myself but i genuinely have no idea of where to start.

Anyone else in this situation?

I used to have good times. But they're gone now, and all I have left is some reminders of the good old days. One such example is my best friend group, who are more like acquaintances now. They're fairly similar to me, but probably on their own volition. They are just introverted and have no interest in most people. I am either ignored or actively rejected by others, even if not harshly.

And the worst part is that nobody gets it. My parents, who never actually engage with my arguments, because then they would have to admit defeat, tell me that I just need to reach out more, because surely they just think I don't want to spend time with them and that it's actually me who's shutting them out. But that is complete projection from their part. Well, I made it very clear that I am more than happy to do anything. Guess what? Nada. Their other favourite talking point is that I need to work harder and study, because then I will get friends. Haha. That's almost funny. This is so stupid that it makes me cry. More like an empty apartment for the remainder of this wasteful existence.

And then there is my "best friend" who, quite frankly, hadn't been acting like a best friend for a very long time now. He jumped ship just like everybody else, even if they don't admit it. When I try to tell him about my problems, he acts like I'm saying the Earth is flat and the Sun revolves around it. Sometimes he even claims that I am more popular in the larger group than him. Pfft, maybe a year or so ago, but definitely not today. All he (and pretty much everybody else) does only works to confirm my beliefs.

Is there a way out of here?

27M here.

My life has been full of many ups and downs. More downs than ups, but still a variety and phases in between.

These last few weeks, I’ve felt the loneliness I’ve ever felt. More lonely than I felt when living in my car back in 2020.

I’m jobless, collecting unemployment. I have no friends, I have $16 to my name, I have no girlfriend. My car is full of problems that I’m unable to afford. I want to drink, I’m tired of being sober. I’m 990 days sober today. I’m ready to go spend my last few dollars on a drink and just pass out.

I don’t know what I’m doing with my life. Lately I’ve been reminiscing on my life, the good times and bad. Old jobs. Old friends. I feel like life was better when I was an addict and still 20/21 years old but even back then I was miserable.

I just feel hopeless. Does this sadness ever go away? Will I ever become better? Maybe when I start working again I’ll be happier, I have a job interview on Monday so fingers crossed it works out.

I’m looking online for cuddle buddies and fwbs. I’m deprived of love and attention. I’m tired of being broke and feeling so far behind on life.

I’m just lonely, and I feel like every year it gets worse and worse.

the other day, i called a suicide hotline. i was telling the lady on the line about my situation, how i would be homeless soon, i dont have a car, cant get therapy, and i was worried about eating at night. i was at the end of my rope. i was outside, walking around, skipping school. i told her how i wanted to kill myself, how i have nobody. no friends or family i can talk to about anything. i told her i would od on sleeping meds soon. and she calmed me down. a few hours later at home, i got three or so calls, i thought it was my brother so i didn't answer. it was her, for 10 minutes, she was trying to get me to answer. this stranger sounded so worried about me. some kid she met a few hours ago, she was WORRIED i wouldn't wake up. i dont understand, how could she feel like that? why would she worry for ME? all she knew about me, is that i make art and live in Colorado. and she cared for me.

i dont understand, and it feels so confusing. why would she think about me?

Being a women suckssssss. Turned 18 way was life like so much better when I was younger.

Don't have the friends cuz I don't fit in I'm too abnormal guess it's just coming to realization getting more and more fearful. guess it'd be like a weird girl who likes the outdoors like camping riding bikes hiking. taking kayaks out of the water like you're pretty much a guy in the way you act but you're a girl that's basically how I get described.

I guess I'm mostly different because I really like nature I like to see as much when it comes to the nature as you can imagine I like seeing the animals the type of plants the type of rocks I like the Earth and what it is I guess I'm weird. guess I just don't act enough like a girl as strange as it may sound.

I'm not shown any sympathy or empathy yet I'm expected to return it. Excuse me? What? Hello? Lol?

You're joking or you're stupid, or just a narcissistic ig It's not like many people genuinely have that, it's all mostly just an act. It's funny how It's actually harmful to oneself to be a proper human.

Mhm

idk what to do anymore, i feel myself losing who i am to just feel lover by a partner even if they arent healthy for me. I long to be loved unconditionally for who i am. Maybe im not ready to love and be loved? i hate this feeling of loneliness, it eats me alive. Starting to feel like im just not ment to be loved. That all my trauma is unlovable, that im too fucked up in my head to be loved unless im not ME. im really confused

I don't know what I did wrong. I never said anything mean and they seemed super nice. I had asked to play a game with them 2 days in a row but didn't play either time (something came up each time and I told them that, apologized, and I thought they understood). I told them good luck on whatever they were gonna do after we got done playing and they responded with a "thanks have a good evening". And thats the last they ever messaged me. I saw they unfriended me a few hours later (it was around 130-157am) and I was so confused. I found another way to message them a day later so I asked what I did wrong and a few minutes later I wasn't able to message them anymore so I still don't know why this happened. I don't know if I should try in a few days (because this happened on april 1st), few weeks, months. Or if I just wait to see if they friend me again. I sent a friend request to them last night. Not declined or accepted (as of now) so don't know if I should cancel or not. I don't know what to do but its been bothering me because I dont have an explanation and don't know if I ever will get one.

(PS: I had blocked and unfriended them out of nowhere in the past multiple times. But that was only because I got scared that I said something stupid and thats my "defense mechanism" for some reason. So maybe they are doing it to me back to let me know in a way how it feels?)

(this is my 2nd time posting this because I forgot to add some things)

I've been alone without any friends for around 2 years now, and it really gets to me sometimes. I am in college but nobody ever really seems to want to socialize, and I'm not doing anything else besides that. Everything else in my life is going well, but I have absolutely no social life.

I am wondering what people do to make friends, and what has worked for people. I have tried asking ChatGPT on ideas and they all just don't seem to fit. I am a very social and energetic person but it takes me months to come out of my shell and people never really put up with me long enough for me to be myself. What's stopping isn't really anxiety, but more of a fear of knowing how bad it will make me feel to try to make friends and have it not work out. So I'm really just curious if anyone has any ideas on things that have worked for them.

Some of my interests: Robotics, Calisthenics, Volleyball, Boxing, video games, anime, (never played but would want to try D&D)

I try being a good friend only to be used. Got used recently and now my GAF is broken.

Guess that means that I remain alone.

feeling a kind of lonely that i can't quite describe. i've been abandoned. nothing can fill this void.

I keep reminiscing about conversations with the people that use to be close to me & I wish I could get brain damage & forget it all forever. I know I'll get over it one day but it's a never ending cycle.

i haven’t left my house in weeks. today i participated in the hands off protest & was absolutely surrounded by people. people asked me to take pics of them, asked to take pictures of me(!), someone gave me a button - it was a really good time (as good as a protest can be??) & now that ive been home for a bit, i feel so much worse than before i left. i feel so sad and alone even though i was just in so much lovely community! i don’t understand why im not happy. can anyone relate or help me work through this? my whole evening feels thrown off & i don’t know what to do other than scroll 😭

I had a breakup recently, i am slowly moving on from him but he post break up loneliness is hitting me hard. I feel like i have no friends left. Please let me know if some one would just like to chat for a while?

Feeling lonely

I've been feeling lonely for a while now. During the week, work helps to keep my mind busy. But when I get home, even though it's all I want after a stressful day, I just feel empty. Weekends, especially sundays, are the worst for me. I spend the week waiting for my rest days and no matter what I do to try to avoid it, I end up feeling down. Not having someone by my side hurts too much these days. Someone to talk about everything. Someone to love.

I don't know, I've been feeling so sad. I just don't want to exist anymore.

If you've read this far, thank you. Also, listen to U.S.D.D.O.S by trauma ray. <3

I’m actually really scared of being left alone without a partner forever like i’m currently living. Lol

I woke up at 2 p.m. today, and like every day, I woke up to "0 notifications." I'm lonely. I spend hours on my phone watching 15-second videos, and once I turn off my phone, I'm submerged in pure silence. My thoughts start going, but not a single one is positive. I don't have any friends that I can go out with. Honestly, there's no reason for me to write this, but I think I just want to be heard in some way.