r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Romulox69420 • 14h ago
People who do this are unfit to be parents.
We have a locked dumpster area and someone just threw it over the fence.
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u/Technical-Prize-4840 14h ago
I'm not saying this behavior is ok, but at least the baby is getting its diaper changed.
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u/llijilliil 12h ago
That and the parent spotted those bins and despite having a young kid with them they walked over there to use them instead of just leaving it lying about somewhere.
When they realised they'd locked the bins, they obviously decided "well F you too then" and chucked it over.
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u/bankruptbusybee 13h ago
For real. This site is bonkers in terms of an overall moral compass. Littering is bad and I would never do this - in fact I had neighbors who’d throw their diapers into my yard - but to say they’re unfit to be parents is bizarre
You’ll get someone wholeheartedly calling for the death of another human who just has an opinion they disagree with, claiming the moral high ground on all things because they return a shopping cart…..
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u/Financial_Sweet_689 12h ago
Especially when new mothers are statistically overworked and under-slept.
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u/scrollbreak 12h ago
To say they are 100% unfit to be parents on this one event would be bizarre
To say they are not scoring points towards being unfit to be parents would be bizarre.
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u/pottedplantfairy 11h ago
I work as a gardener for my city and the amount of crap I've found in our flower beds, including used diapers, is really unacceptable.
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u/SangriaDracul 13h ago
Is it possible that the dumpster was too full and this was on the top and when the garbage men came to collect it it fell off to the side?
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u/DC9V 11h ago
People often put the trash next to the bin when it's full or locked. It then could be carried away by the wind, or put away by animals looking for food.
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u/Enough_Ad_9338 11h ago
Well, at least unfit to go out in public. All signs here point to a baby being taken care of.
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u/MessyIntellectual 14h ago
That’s a reach; just call it what it is. They’re littering.
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u/Prestigious_Mix_5264 13h ago
If someone can’t take into account that leaving their child’s shit and piss for someone else to pick up isn’t the behaviour of a fucking caveman, theyre clearly not mentally fit to have children. This isn’t just “littering” I’ll leave a snickers wrapper on your doorstep one day, then a bag of shit the next and you can tell me if it’s the same thing.
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u/MessyIntellectual 13h ago
… it would just be called littering. That’s like saying a dog owner who doesn’t pick up their dogs shit are neglectful owners. They’re separate issues. Argue with your mother.
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u/Prestigious_Mix_5264 12h ago
Like I said, I’ll leave a candy bar wrapper on your doorstep and human waste on it the next and you can tell me which of the two you had to pick up pissed you off more. Leaving your kids waste is a more serious offence than just littering in parts of Canada. So no, it’s not just littering…. Argue with your mother?
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u/Exciting_Screen_8616 13h ago
I see your point, but I think OP is looking at the bigger picture regarding the values of people who do this and the implications on their children. It's sad.
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u/MessyIntellectual 13h ago
OP is exaggerating. People unfit to be parents wouldn’t be changing diapers at all. You don’t have to like the littering, I’m just saying call it what it is 😂
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u/imtakingyourcat 13h ago
Changing diapers are the bare minimum, you can be a bad parent while also feeding/changing/cleaning your kids
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u/DlVlDED_BY_ZERO 12h ago
Yup, but nothing here implies anything about the way this person is parenting. So, we should just say that this person is an asshole for littering because we know nothing else about them.
This could be a dog's diaper for all we know.
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u/MessyIntellectual 12h ago
Are you able to stay on topic or? This is not a deep dive into people’s lives. Littering simply doesn’t equate to being a bad parent because they are two separate issues. Especially when there could be many other reasons as to why it’s on the ground.
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u/imtakingyourcat 10h ago
The post title mentions unfit to be parents. I am on topic
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u/MessyIntellectual 9h ago
However, it’s not a post about what does or doesn’t define an unfit parent. What you said is a given. Everyone knows.
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u/imtakingyourcat 8h ago
You were saying unfit parents wouldn't be changing diapers at all, i piggybacked off that statement
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u/Tomytom99 13h ago
Picking up a dog shit bag? Yucky, but whatever.
Picking up some stranger's diaper? Immediate hour long shower. Plus, what else is the kid learning from their parents?
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u/Dazzling-Western2768 13h ago
So, THAT is the problem...The dumpster is LOCKED. Unlock it and the garbage will be put where it belongs.
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u/dizzydance 12h ago
Right?! Something tells me there may be more to this story. "We have many garbage cans for customers to use" ... are they routinely emptied? Are they accessible? Would it even make sense to put a diaper in any of those other trash cans (could the size, location, or vicinity to other people discouge use?)
Unless there was severe mental illness impacting the parents, I doubt they would habitually be using recycling bins or throwing them on the ground if there was an accessible & clearly marked trash can?
This sounds like a great opportunity to not attribute malice to that which is adequately explained by simple incompetence or misunderstanding (on both the customer and business's end).
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u/Romulox69420 13h ago
We have many garbage cans for customers to use. They are just too lazy and will even put diapers into nearby recycling bins.
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u/Wife-and-Mother 13h ago
You can't recycle diapers. If they're labeled as recycling bins, that would be, why.
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u/ljpwyo 12h ago
Am I the only one who read "It's in the locked dumpster area?" Did I miss something?
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u/demolitionmothers 9h ago
Right! Like?
Parent: > changes diaper
Parent: > goes to dispose of diaper
Trash can > locked
Parent: "i can't carry this used diaper forever" puts it next to bin because that's what people do with any other form of trash
Redditors > "THESE TYPES OF PEOPLE SHOULD BE PUBLICLY CANED." (Op actually said that.)
Why lock a trash bin and be mad that people aren't properly using the trash bin? Also, they may be having an issue getting to somewhere else as yk..they changed their child next to/near a dumpster. They may not have a stroller or something to carry their child in, and it is hard to just carry a child around a lot to go find another dumpster, or they may be in a hurry to be somewhere.
It's funny hearing people say someone changed a child's diaper but couldn't properly dispose of it due to locked trash cans is cps worthy, while we got nurse Hannah over here who let's her kids sit in piss for hours until they take a shit, and then she'll change it (which resulted in her children having multiple UTI's).
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u/TheScreenskeeperGolf 11h ago
Thank God that dumpster is locked though, to keep out the neighborhood shit.
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u/Disillusioned14life 8h ago
And those pads are multipurpose. Can be used as puppy training pads, to change diapers or to protect bed/bedding for someone who is sick or incontinent or to place underneath someone to protect the mattress when giving a bed bath. Also used to protect floors when doing wound care/dressing a wound.
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u/Romulox69420 8h ago
I figure they changed the baby on the hood of their car and then wrapped the diaper up in the pad and chucked it over the fence.
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u/JustA_Simple_User 3h ago
In the back seat mate, have you never even seen parent before? Back seat or boot depending if they have a mini van or not.
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u/AdVegetable7181 8h ago
My apartment has gates on the dumpsters and when people were too lazy to open them, and left trash outside the gates. So people started leaving them open all the time. But then people were too lazy to open the small "window" on the side of the dumpster so they'd leave their bag next to the dumpster inside the gate. So we start leaving the window open. People are too lazy to lift their garbage the two feet to the window and just leave their trash sitting next to the dumpster. And maintenance is too overly scheduled to deal with it and the garbage men won't get out of their trucks to deal with these bags, so unless maintenance can get around to it or a Good Samaritan takes care of the bags, trash will just sit there for weeks on end.
People seriously suck.
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u/Romulox69420 8h ago
Apartment dwellers can be terrible to their own space. My side Job has me regularly picking up after residents who can't be bothered to pick up their dogs shit. Even though poo bags are freely available and they know exactly where to despose of them.
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u/Gloomy_Zebra_ 13h ago
Is that a puppy pad?
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u/MooCowQueen-16 12h ago
They’re actually really convenient to use as a changing pad under your baby. They’ve saved my couch and bed from getting peed on multiple times.
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u/signedupfornightmode 11h ago
Yeah we had a pee-er of a newborn. Cut up puppy pads were essential with every diaper change. Needed something absorbant, otherwise the pee got all over everything
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u/NattyGannStann 11h ago
For humans I've only ever called them 'chucks'. They are used under folks to protect whatever is underneath a person (bed, chair, wheelchair etc) from any manner of bodily fluids. They are handy to have but expensive. My experience is that insurance will sometimes pay for them especially after surgeries. They are a last ditch hope at a barrier. I can't imagine thinking that leaving that mess is in any way acceptable - so gross
Source - parent with a medically complex kid that is now an adult and thankfully handles his own bodily fluids
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u/otkabdl 12h ago edited 12h ago
When I used to bicycle a lot I found the amount of used diapers I passed on the shoulders shocking and disgusting. People just chuck them out the window of their cars. Besides various drink containers they were the most common (I mean visible while riding a bike...probably was more cigarette butts, paper bits etc...anyway) garbage.
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u/ChaiCreamLatte 13h ago
I once seen a woman throw her kids dirty diaper on the ground after changing it. I’m not sure how this woman plans to teach that kid anything if she doesn’t even have the decency to throw that shit in the garbage.
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u/uester 11h ago
maybe don’t have a dumpster that’s locked, like they were obviously trying to throw it into the dumpster 💀
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u/Romulox69420 11h ago
We lock it to prevent people from dumping stuff there! Wtf do you think the point of locking things is? There are publicly available trash cans near by! People are just lazy assholes.
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u/bexohomo 9h ago
You seem truly lovely. Complaining about the diaper while also spitefully locking the access to the garbage can.
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u/Romulox69420 7h ago
There are publicly availably garbage cans nearby this is a private use dumpster. if we leave it unlocked people will abuse it and dump things into it. Get your head out of your ass.
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u/FayMew 6h ago
Locking access to private garbage cans is absolutely fine. Please think maybe.
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u/Good_Presentation26 12h ago
One thing you don’t forget when wandering a shitty apartment complex in a hot day in Vegas is a Pomeranian stray dog dragging a half opened shit filled diaper across the street.
Or the fact you’ll find these everywhere but a trash can. Hell all the times I found them were in shopping carts at Walmart. Pissed me the fuck off.
I’m not having kids because this is one of the main consequences of having them.
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u/Shoddy_Nectarine_441 12h ago
Homeless parents make me sad. Not because they’re bad parents but just the struggle. I’m not excusing this behavior at all, you can just toss that out, but I do understand that’s the last thing on their list to give a shit about. It really sucks for everyone involved.
That said I also offered a homeless woman purées because she had an infant and she said no thanks I need rent money. Wouldn’t it save you money to not think about or spend money on your child for one night? Idk. It’s a hard topic to navigate sorry for ranting
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u/Lindita4 11h ago
It’s a Costco brand diaper so I doubt these parents are homeless.
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u/Shoddy_Nectarine_441 11h ago
What difference does that make? Genuinely asking
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u/Lindita4 10h ago
It’s an assumption of course but you have to pay just to shop at Costco, and I am assuming someone who is homeless would have such urgent needs that they could not afford to spend so much for nothing back. Costco also sells larger sizes of items than typical stores. The diaper pictured costs around $45 per box. I am assuming someone who is homeless would prefer not to have large volumes of items that need storing and also would not want to tie up so much liquid funds in something that could easily be stolen. Unfortunately, the homeless are often victims of violence and theft. That is my serious answer to your question.
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u/Responsible_Fee_9286 7h ago
Or someone bought the diapers at Costco and donated them to a shelter where a homeless parent might have gotten them for free.
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u/Shoddy_Nectarine_441 7h ago
Ohhh yeah I understand what you’re saying! I needed diapers once when I was poor af but not homeless and got a “sleeve” of Costco diapers from someone who’s kid grew out of them before the pack ran out, I thought there might be some secret “Costco scam” or something lol
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u/HelpingMeet 12h ago
She was probably hoping you’d give her cash she could spend on a high of her choice if she was saying that
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u/Shoddy_Nectarine_441 11h ago
Yeah I don’t offer money, just help. Your baby needs formula/food/diapers, hell even just a toy I’ll go get that. But I am not giving you cash because I don’t know if you’ll use it properly. I’ve also bought food for homeless adults and sometimes even a tall can if they’re nice (never the ones with kids with them tho). Where I’m at there are so many homeless parents that just refuse the food or ask for money instead. Must not be struggling that hard
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u/lazuli77 10h ago
All I’m seeing is a parent who, due to lack of family-friendly infrastructure, had to change their baby IN PUBLIC on a PUPPY PAD. Think about that. And then they couldn’t even find an unlocked public trash can to dispose the diaper in.
And then OP has the audacity to say that they aren’t deserving of parenthood. Empathy is truly out the window these days.
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u/Kyleforshort 13h ago
Same people who throw their fast food garbage on the ground in a parking lot. Also the same people that don’t put their shopping carts in the cart corral.
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u/truffleshufflechamp 7h ago
Find the triggered parents in the comments
Challenge Level: Easy
This is freaking nasty!
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u/Romulox69420 6h ago
Truly. I think all the contrary comments are just parents trying to justify past actions that ruined someone else's day.
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u/ShadyVermin 6h ago
I don't get why a lot of people don't seem to understand the core concept here.
Garbage cans: Plentily available
Dumpster: Locked to prevent excess dumping such as furniture or full bags of household trash, like most privately owned dumpsters
Diaper: Tossed over the fence without a single attempt to throw away properly into one of the many available garbage cans
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u/Romulox69420 6h ago
Thank you for getting it. I do everything I can to make this kind of thing as preventable as possible. I even invented new locations for trash cans to prevent people from improper dumping of trash. and still shit like this happens all the time. to a point where the only explanation is laziness and entitlement.
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u/JimBob-Joe 8h ago edited 8h ago
Worked at a costco once upon a time and can confirm people regularly would change their kids in the parking lot and toss the shitty diaper on the ground.
Then I'd be the one to have to clean it all up at the end of the day.
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u/Romulox69420 8h ago
Yeah exactly this. And I bet those people could have easily carried the dirty diaper into the store and put it in a trash can.
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u/JimBob-Joe 8h ago
Yup, there were a ton of trash cans in the parking lot they could have tossed them into.
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u/Romulox69420 8h ago
People can't even walk 50 feet or what ever to do the right thing. Working in the service industry shows you how entitled and selfish a shocking number of people are.
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u/JFK2MD 8h ago
People who do that are unfit to be people.
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u/Romulox69420 8h ago
We live in a society damn it. There is a social contract. Good people don't do shit like this.
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u/Dogtimeletsgooo 10h ago
They have a pad for the baby, diapers to change them, and they TRIED to dispose of it properly. The problem here is the locked dumpster. You're mad at the wrong person
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u/Melodic_Spot9522 12h ago
Wrong sub my dude, this isn't mildly infuriating, it's extremely infuriating
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u/Radiant_Gas_4642 12h ago
I mean, the baby is having their diaper changed and honestly, sometimes you’re wrestling with them so much you forget. Maybe it was a mistake?
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u/TheDreammweaver 9h ago
One time I was at a restaurant and people left a dirty diaper on the table. Like.. there’s a bathroom right next to you
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u/Romulox69420 9h ago
It's crazy to me that a person would just leave a bag of human shit somewhere where someone else will have to deal with it.
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u/TheDreammweaver 9h ago
The poor waitress had to get another employee to take care of it, looked like she couldn’t deal with it which would be me in that situation
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u/sticky_applesauce07 13h ago
Same category as dog owners who don't clean the shit up and dispose of it properly.
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u/B4nn3dByChr1st14ns 2h ago
Until theres a 'parent licence' this wont change, have newly would be parents have to take up education on how to raise a child and then take a series of tests to show they are able to look after a newborn, toddler and child.
Also psych assessments to ensure the parents arent narcissists or ither bad actors that would only end up traumatising children.
Stops those who shouldnt have kids from having kids, and to stop people from popping kids out and neglecting them have yearly checkups with the parents, creates a tightly knitted community where support can be offered to parents of all backgrounds.
Fine the ones who deliberately try to have kids when they shouldnt, have the child(ren) put in care and then the fine money put towards children in care.
Until we try to remove and rid ourselves of generational cycles of abuse and actually uplift our people nothing will change, have parenting classes in school that way when kids grow up they know how much time and effort going into parenting, the costs and the consequences of making mistakes, this would also make them understand the parenting licencing idea i mentioned and how to go down that route if they wish to have kids as adults.
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u/o0_nub_o0 24m ago
Same with the parents that change the diaper in their car and leave the remains in the shopping cart because they can’t be bothered to walk their asses to a garbage can or take it home and toss it.
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u/Wife-and-Mother 13h ago
Can we please just discuss how utterly sad and american this is? I don't know where you're from, but I know you're in america just by this picture.
There are more disposable products on this picture than there was baby.
The fact that your dumpster was locked at all.
The fact that somebody changed their baby by a dumpster, not trash cans, therefore, not inside a bathroom.
The fact that you're publicly shaming the clearly desperate parents of a small baby.
In the comments, you said this happens every day, so this is not a one-off thing.
I don't know why so many americans are so selfish that they can't have nice things in public or keep things that they do have clean and require so much wasteful disposables.
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u/Technical-Prize-4840 12h ago
Because America is a highly individualistic society. Americans grow up with a "fend for yourself" and "no one is going to save you if you fail" attitude. You only have yourself and maybe your family to truly rely upon. It is deeply engrained in American society and isn't going to change anytime soon.
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u/Wife-and-Mother 12h ago
Agreed. And it's very sad that it is like that. Personally, I blame the obsession with capitalism.
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u/Technical-Prize-4840 12h ago
Well, most of Western Europe is pretty capitalist too. So, I think that is a bit of a stretch. But, yes, it is sad. I wish it were different, but people here lack respect for others. They are never taught it.
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u/Wife-and-Mother 11h ago
I suppose what I should have said is obsession with not looking socialist, as in the " you pay for your own way and nobody else's" mentality. I blame a Lack of social programs and, therefore, lack of belief in anything being "free".
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u/Outrageous_Quiet5479 12h ago
Please do not try to make this an “American” thing when there are plenty of countries that have much worse issues with littering. Just make your ignorant point without generalizing an entire population.
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u/Wife-and-Mother 12h ago
It was america, though, wasn't it? So no. I will not.
America is SUPPOSED to be a 1st world country. Comparing it to other places with more litter on the streets is ridiculous. They are 3rd world countries often without adequate disposal services available. Even if we were comparing other countries, america is the leader in creating waste per person. I also knew it was America because of how much product was used to change a baby in the street.
Generalizing, yes, absolutely! When a bulk of a population is so known for overconsumption and not caring for public areas or things, then ALL of a population should take note and create change as the society you are supposed to be.
Like I said, it is just sad.
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u/rickybobby2829466 12h ago
In certain countries (will not be named) babies were found dead in dumpsters and trash cans just for being born female. So let’s not start getting racist about litter
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u/Disillusioned14life 9h ago
Exactly, just because this was documented in America doesn’t mean that it doesn’t occur elsewhere as well. There are people all over the world who do things like this.
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u/7359294741938493 9h ago
The mental image of discarded shitty disposable diapers in parking lots is, for some reason, 75% of the reason why I cloth diaper. Yeah chemicals and yeah the environment but this gives me the ick so bad I don’t even want a new version of the same product on my kid 🤢
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u/Prudent_Valuable603 8h ago
That looks like an adult hospital diaper that’s placed under the patient’s butt.
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u/Romulox69420 8h ago
I'm pretty sure it's a kids diaper wrapped in a puppy pee pad they used to protect their cars paint.
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u/LucentP187 7h ago
People? There's more than one person doing this shit?
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u/Romulox69420 7h ago
This was kinda new. usually people just throw diapers into the recycling bins behind nearby restaurants. EVENT THOUGHT HER ARE PROPER GARBAGE CANS VERY CLOSE. People are so fucking lazy they take the path of least resistance and throw stuff into inappropriate place.
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u/4x4Vania 13h ago
Did you throw it away or not? I cleaned a 80 foot steep river bank along the susquehanna river. It was mainly diapers in trash bags. Right along where our town gets its water source from. If you took the pic and walked away it’s twice as infuriating to people like me. It’s not your responsibility or your child but after taking a pic or kicking it it’s your trash now. That’s how I teach my children. They don’t even bother kicking cans anymore they just pick it up and use the situation to cuss in front of me without being punished.
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u/DrTheloniusPinkleton 13h ago
What the fuck are you babbling about?
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u/Hakazumi 10h ago
That we should take full responsibility for taking care of biohazards even without proper protective equipment if we walk by someone's trash. I'm not sure if I'm supposed to take them seriously. Biohazard near water supply needs to be investigated by people responsible for the area, it's not average man's job. No way he dived to pick up diapers, I'm not buying it.
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u/dietcokelover2359 13h ago
This is a prime example of the saying ‘Every kid deserves loving parents, not everyone parent deserves to be one’.
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u/Wife-and-Mother 13h ago
Oh yes, the very common terrible litterer red flag that all parents who don't love their children but still change their diapers give off.
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u/AmishDoinkzz 14h ago
Not okay, but I wouldn't say unfit to be parents. Saying that tells me you are a child.
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u/FeedResponsible5518 13h ago
People who make poor choices/judgement calls are the exact definition of unfit parents.
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u/ChronoChigger420 13h ago
Isn’t setting a good example for your kids part of being a good parent?
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u/AmishDoinkzz 13h ago
A baby? LOL. No. I don't think this has anything to do with bad parenting. More like bad values and shitty habits.
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u/ChronoChigger420 12h ago
At what age does it stop being OK to toss your baby’s shitty diaper on the ground?
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u/badfruiit 13h ago
If you can't take care of throwing away garbage, how can you be expected to raise a whole human being? Silliness.
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u/InfiniteMangoGlitch 9h ago
I just don't know how people in my lower income bracket are affording kids. I can barely survive rent with my boyfriend and I. It's honestly surprising given the cost of childcare.
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u/Romulox69420 8h ago
It costs nothing to find a proper garbage can.
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u/InfiniteMangoGlitch 8h ago
I didn't argue about the garbage can..? I just said I don't know how people can afford kids in general.
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u/Majestic-Window-318 7h ago
To be fair, they kinda made an effort. Society has devolved to such a point that I'm willing to award points for "close," as in horse shoes and grenades. The diaper chamber could have left it open and lying on the sidewalk not near a trash can. I bet if the dumpster area weren't locked up (I know they need to be... another reflection on society), they would have actually put it into the dumpster. I mean... they even used a chux pad...
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u/Foo_Mey 13h ago edited 13h ago
Clearly, most of the people who shouldn't have kids are having them in lots without thinking, and the people who should have kids are being conscious about the impact of having them, and end up not having any because of the way the world is nowadays.