Hi there! You described me, for the most part. Just a few months ago, my therapist informed me that I'm a perfectionist, and a whole lot of stuff clicked into place.
I can plan for things, and I can do stuff when I'm not in my head fussing about it--but when I overplan or overthink any situation I get paralyzed by wanting it to go EXACTLY RIGHT. And knowing that it probably won't, I have a really hard time taking that first simple step, even it if would be pretty easy.
Oh..my...god. this is exactly how i feel, like a 100% what im struggling with. I suspected it was because i was worried of failing - aka things not going the way exactly how i want - but ive started to change my mentality and focus on the task, the present, rather than worrying about the results.
If it makes you feel any better, I am afraid of the same thing. Maybe it's because my father instilled this desire in me succeed no matter what and anything less than making money and being successful is "failure." I am afraid of failing, thus I don't try.
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