I'm not at all trying to be a dick here but those are exactly the feelings that lead me to get an ADHD diagnosis. Not caring almost feels good until said problem bites you in the arse.
If life is going well and you are happy then don't worry. If the tendencies you described are messing things up then maybe go get a test. My life is so much better now.
Serious question:
I recognized myself in that video and so clicked the link to the 21-question "Test for adult ADHD" in the description.
I answered yes to about 17-18 of the questions but I felt like a lot of the things are quite common traits that a lot of people could answer yes to.
Not really sure what my question is... I guess I'm just trying to figure out if I actually might have a problem or just exaggerating my problems. So any tips/comments to this would be welcome!
Everyone has some ADHD traits but the difference is whether those traits are impacting your life, holding you back or making you miserable for chunks of time.
Think about how your actual life is effected. Bills? Confidence? Relationships? Work? Anxiety? Health? Are you stressed or unhappy a lot? Are you failing a lot even though you think you should be able to succeed? If yes, go get checked.
If you don't want to/can't go get checked then look into /r/adhd and the youtube series How To ADHD. Try some of the strategies that those people use. You might find that you can sort some shit out yourself without getting a diagnosis.
It's also worth noting that if you have friends and family who are similar to you then shit can seem normal when it isn't so much.
I've always had a hard time concentrating, but being smart and good att performing right before deadlines has gotten me through school quite well anyway. It's much harder now with a job though, since I basically have to focus every day.
A lot of the stuff you enumerated definately effect my life a lot (unhappiness, confidence, anxiety etc), it's just hard to know if it is worse for me than for other people, since you only know your own thoughts..
I see where you are coming from but I don't think that's a good measure. Lots of people are miserable and not doing very well. That doesn't mean you should be too.
Say you have ADHD (or depression or OCD or you are an alcoholic or whatever) and don't really know. You feel crap and/or are failing a lot and you want to do better but you are surrounded by people with the same problem. You all look at each other and think this is just how life is so none of you get help.
ADHD especially runs in families and you are likely to attract friends who are similar to you. If you've got problems that feel like problems then you should get on dealing with those with or without a doctor and if that doesn't work/isn't working then that's why we have the NHS. Getting the right diagnosis can be a pain but worth it if there is something there.
That's just what I think. I'm biased in that I very much wish I was diagnosed earlier as does my friend.
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