My little brother (m24) is growing more and more problematic or even bigoted every day. Whenever we try to discuss anything he always brings up that he thinks that the welfare state has made people lazy, (while he's getting money from the state and living with our parents.) He thinks that some cultures are just intrinsically worse than Swedish culture and that they have intrinsically worse values, and that there exists no class divides or conflicts. He says he values facts and sources above all else, but refuses to expand his views.

I (mtf28) tried to recently talk to him as candidly as I could about my willingness to transition, gender dysphoria, being trans and my depression.

He listened for a while, but soon interrupted and told me that this was all due to my depression. He told me there was no such thing as being trans because of my chromosomes and that people identifying as trans are mentally ill. I foolishly thought I could convince him by using sources like the Swedish Association for Sexuality Education, but he just dismissed it saying the sources I gave were biased.

It's gotten to the point where I don't want to interact with him and try to avoid him. I love him despite his flaws, but I feel more and more like I should somehow cut him out of my life, but I feel it would be very difficult.

I was talking to a fellow trans person who I didn't know was trans and then they told me they were trans. I was surprised and told them "I didn't realise you were trans, you look very cis to me."

Am I being transphobic by saying that they look cis to me?