During my time in the military men and women had different physical fitness standards. Mainly men did more push ups / sit ups / pull up than women. At the time wasn't something I gave a second thought about. Recently SECDEF says he's doing away with those differences which causes me to raise questions.

That said this is where I'm looking for info to base an opinion. If I myself, a 37 year old male, and a similar aged female of same fitness level, weight, and age were to start the same workout routine would we see the same results? Or would I being a male expect to see better results strictly because I'm a male?

I know this cuts close to home given the recent climate but I'd like to know the science before forming an opinion. Thanks.

this is super embarrassing so i apologize in advance and thank anyone for their advice! so two nights ago i (f) was hooking up with a friend (m). he asked if it was okay to put his tip in my ass, and i said yes. he used his saliva and went for it. it felt good but didn’t last long at all because it was starting to hurt - keep in mind, he was only using his tip. afterwards i went to the bathroom and was bleeding a little bit and sore. the next day and today i’ve been having really hard stool, sore, and even some strands of mucous coming out of me. what should i do?

I was thinking about teachers who have had a positive impact on me. I wanted to see if she if she was still alive. She is, and her address came up. I swear I didn't do any special searching but I did double check with white pages.

I am considering writing a letter to thank her but I don't know if that's weird. She was my teacher for three years but that was 15+ years ago and I dont know if she remembers me. I would include my own full name and address. I also feel weird about finding her address so easily but is it much different than a phone book?

I do work at publix and I don’t care if I see someone taking food I ignore the situation because I have been that broke many times in my life and had to do what I had to do when my hunger wouldn’t leave me alone

I'll be the first to admit that I'm someone who gets passed by by many, many online trends.

But The Costco Guys are genuinely baffling to me.

I understand the weird toy review channels that got a bazillion views because 4 year olds go absolutely nuts for Orbeez videos and will watch them indiscriminately.

I understand weird parasocial relationships with videogame streamers, even if it's not something where it's easy to put myself in the shoes of a fan.

But what the hell are the Costco guys? A dad and his two young kids wonder around Costco and talk about stuff they find at Costco? What's going on here? Why would people need or want reviews of random stuff you can buy at Costco? I might look for a review if I'm interested in a specific thing I might get at Costco, but these people have an empire, a following of people who watch them wonder around and talk about random products. I find myself in a state of genuine befuddlement over what exactly people are turning to The Costco guys for. Help, I'm 32 and the world no longer makes sense to me.

I’m strongly opposed to dictatorship, especially when it’s justified in the name of communism. At the same time, being an atheist, I don't personally value religious freedom as much—as long as the state itself maintains a secular or atheist stance.

That said, I understand that it's a slippery slope, and I would never support any form of government-imposed restrictions on freedom of speech or freedom of religion.

Still, hypothetically speaking—if a country had no racism, no communalism, ensured food security , provides free healthcare & eduction and upheld economic equality, then apart from religious freedom, what other fundamental rights would people need to raise their voice for?

From an outsider’s perspective, it sometimes seems that Chinese citizens, assuming they are non-religious and not part of any persecuted ethnic group, might not face as many daily struggles. But of course, I recognize that this assumption doesn't hold true in all cases.

My question is: If a state genuinely provided equality, economic stability, and peace—but restricted freedom of speech while staying secular—would lack of religious freedom or "Cultural genocide or culturicide" be a serious concern?

be minded this is just hypothetical thoughts, I know the practical implications of restricting freedom of speech and freedom expression.

In the shower, in bed, when it’s cold or when it’s hot, I feel like I’m gonna do the funky chicken. My brain starts to feel like television static, it becomes hard to keep my eyes open, I lose strength in my limbs, my fingers lock up, and sometimes I vomit. I’ve had a CBC done recently and mostly everything is normal, so it isn’t my iron levels like I would have initially thought. I do have sexual trauma, but from years ago, and this has only really started happening the last two years.

Has anyone else had similar experiences?

(M20) humbly I would say I am a conventionally attractive guy. However I’ve noticed if me and my friend group (boys and girls) ever get asked about looks or get complimented on our looks , some people within the group always say something like

“yeah he is good looking but not as good looking as Henry cavil. He’s got nicer eyes than you”. Everytime I get complimented, it is always compared to a celebrity (not just Henry cavil)

As confusing as it sounds , my question is that is it unfair to get compared to celebrities or can people distinguish that most celebrities will have had work done or makeup or good lightning etc.. and that you can still be attractive despite other attractive people existing ?

given that black and indigenous people make up the majority of perpetrators. i dont think either is okay to say, i would pick the human over a bear

My folks have been going back and forth about my fathers infidelities and now after another recent fight l think something needs to change.

I first found out about it when I was 11. I was watching TV and then suddenly I heard loud arguing and screams from upstairs. Next thing I know, my mother comes running down the stairs, crying hysterically, runs straight to me, grabs my arms, and starts yelling to me about how my father betrayed her, the family, how he's negatively affected her health, etc. My father came shortly after and pulled her off me and took her back upstairs.

Another instance, I was 17 and again they paid no thought to have their fight out of ear shot or out of their kids vicinity. Funnily enough, I actually found out that one of his mistresses was the older sister of my girlfriends classmate.

Another instance, I was visiting home during college break and they fought in the garage in the car with my little sister WITH THEM in the car. I stayed home and could actually hear them all the way from the garage, from which I heard also heard my sister go to her room and cry and I had to console her.

Fast forward to yesterday. I'm now in my mid 20s, sister is 12, brother is 5 and I'm home visiting again and again another fight where everyone can hear. It's fucking infuriating because I can actually understand both sides.

My parents were young when they had me, meaning I was an accident for their lives. Over the decades, I've been able to gauge their personalities, and from what I got, my dad is a fun loving party guy, friendly personality, evidently is a ladies man as they find him attractive and he loves a good time with anyone, his friends, family, his kids, etc. But now, because I was born, he was forced to be domesticated and I don't believe he wanted to settle that, therefore he's been retaliating ever since.

In general, he's a good father in terms of, he provides, protects, is kind, etc., but on the flip...he's disloyal to my mother, he disrespects, disregards and manipulates her feelings.

My mother, just simply lovely, fantastic mother, giving, always there for her family even it means sacrificing herself because she's also very bubbly and outgoing but she's very strict when it comes to religion and its principles and follows them to the letter.

But she has a tendency to take on too much by herself and I feel like she's been prioritizing her children for too long, even to the point of her expense. I just think it's time she thought about herself for once cause over time things eventually calm down after a big change. We have multiple family members who went through divorces and it did seem rough initially but over time, they've never been happier.

I just think this cycle is too toxic and will eventually implode one day. It starts off with him cheating, then they fight, then the mood around the house is foul for a few weeks or months, then he changes his behavior, then mom's happy again but then it starts all over again after a few years.

Apologies for the long post. You're thoughts would be really appreciated.

6 months ago we broke up for the second time (well she broke up with me and the first time was a year prior to that). I never grew up around a strong representation of what love should be ( my father and mother would often cheat on eachother) and I never treated her the way she deserved to be treated, I constantly told myself as long as I don’t cheat on her then I’m doing better then what I was shown and so I’m a good bf (that was far from the truth).

Just before our break up it was decided that I was moving away from her (roughly 29+ hours away) for the weeks before that I was high and doing things I really shouldn’t have been (drugs, alcohol etc) and it all culminated into the worst thing I’ve said in my life. I described a pose she was doing as a “hoe pose” i don’t even know why i said it. I have no excuses nor any reason that warranted that (not that anything could). I apologized profusely for the next weeks but the damage was done. Roughly a month after that night she texted me basically saying it was over.

I wish I could say I took it like a champ, but I didn’t. I cried all that night begging her for another chance but she was adamant that i didn’t deserve one (which she’s right). now this is where it gets confusing. After that night i had managed to sway her into basically allowing me to do what i want, in a sense I told her, let me try to show her an effort so maybe i could get her to fall back in love with me. Since at this point, i realized i didn’t want to change for anyone else besides her. We continued like this for 5 months. I texted her goodmorning and goodnight everyday like we always used to, she would reply the same way we usually did. We played imsg games. She called me if she needed help with HW or if she was stressed. We would flirt with eachother. And she said next time I’m back near her we should go see a movie/hangout as friends I took all these as good signs. But when I asked her the question, does she love me her answer would always be the same “I can’t love you”. Last month, all that changed. She texted me saying we can’t continue like this, she wants me to be happy and I need to stop. I tried the same thing as before I told her “I would be happy as long as I have a chance with you, I don’t need you to love me but I need you to know I love you” but it was done. She told me no and that was it. I haven’t texted her in a month, (I do leave songs on my instagram notes hoping she sees them tho).

Now there’s a chance I might move back near her in a few months (life’s funny) but even if I don’t I still love her. I’m determined to change but I want to change for her, I don’t want to “love and learn” or move on I want her she’s the only person i genuinely love I just wish I realized that sooner.

I just don’t know what to do, we hurt eachother throughout our relationship, we were both figuring it out after all but I made too many mistakes. I want to text her but idk if i can and most of all I don’t want to be the reason she cries anymore. I want to leave her alone but my heart doesn’t agree with that sentiment. And my brain wants to do nothing and if I move try to talk to her in person (my anxiety would let me do this I’d pass out the second I saw her).

I’ve been sober for 6 months now (which she never knew abt my problem), and just trying to be a better person in all aspects of my life. But I’m still terrified, what if our relationship is unrepairable, what if she really does hate me.

I don’t even know what I’m expecting to get out of this post, but anything would help.

Thank you kind strangers.

Here's my situation, and why I'm not sure what I'm about to do is entirely legal..

I'm basically a vagabond. I travel for work, almost entirely for "destination jobs" and don't technically live anywhere.

Currently, I work in Alaska, north of the arctic circle. The way many of these jobs work, is that once passing many qualifications, a company will buy you a flight from Anchorage to your work site much further north. You are required to show up in Anchorage and pay for your travel to that airport. While youre on site, you live in a tiny hotel room, food, uniforms/equipment, lodging, entertainment, gym, is all included. This is why i don't have or usually need, a real address. I go work somewhere, then crash land at a hostel, or go camping, or rent short term, then move on. I've been doing this for 15 years.

My current contract requires that I stay and work for 4 weeks, and then my company flies me back to Anchorage for 2 weeks R+R, and I am then required to report to the airport and work another 4 weeks, in a repeating cycle. If i miss a flight, I could lose my job.

Just before I flew out here, I became informed that I would need a REAL ID, by May 7th. I didn't have the time to get one before leaving, but I brought ALL my necessary documents with me. My 4 weeks is up on the 23rd of this month.

Here's my question:

How do I quickly establish residency in Alaska(or anywhere), so that I can have a registered address, then report to an Alaskan DMV and have my new ID printed.

Thoughts: i could stay in a hostel for my two weeks off (I know of one and that was my plan anyway). Take my paycheck from this job, open a bank account in Anchorage with my address registered as the hostel. Apply for my ID with that address, and then open a P.O. box to have any mail sent to me redirected there. Is this illegal somehow?

I'm not sure what other options I have. Currently I have an Oregon ID (had been working on Mt. HOOD some years ago) but do not have a place to stay there, or anywhere.

Ill have 14 days to establish and address, and apply for and recieve the ID. If i can't do this is 14 days I will likely lose my job. I am also aware I could try applying for a passport, and pay extra to expedite that process, but that could still take as long as 4 weeks. Wtf do i do?

Feel free to ask any further questions!

I only had one relationship and it wasn't good. Lack of communication, long distance, no goal in the relationship, lack of physical contact and much more. One thing I was always curious about was when I am going through some difficult times, how does an honest support from your girlfriend (or any partner for that matter) feel like? Instead of hearing "You should deal with it, you're a man." Having someone who would encourage you and not push you away because you don't have every single thing under control right now.

I know this might sound a little desperate and I don't need to hear any lectures, I've heard them all, thank you very much, and been working on myself, I have a week moment, that's all.

When I'm on my knees in front of a bi married guy. Would it be a bad idea to start talk about how hot his wife is while I play with his balls, and right before I start sucking his cock?

I already searched this up a bit but im more curious for the girls that have tried it more than once

My ex has always been abusive towards me. None of his family except his mother speak to him because of his abuse towards them. He has criminal charges against him from all of his exes. All four of his children have been taken away due to his behaviour.

He has bizarre versions of events that he insists are true and remembers nothing bad he ever did. His stories change all the time. He accuses me and his whole family of gaslighting him, but I have proof that he's lying to me about a bunch of stuff that he now denies.

The medication he's taking right now is for schizophrenia, and allegedly his therapist mentioned disassociation disorder.

It really feels like he's gaslighting me non stop and his sister and CAS feel the same way. He says it's unfair to accuse him of gaslighting because he genuinely doesn't know what's real or not. But then he accuses everyone else of gaslighting when they try and defend themselves from his wild accusations that have no basis in reality.

So is it gaslighting or something else? Does he get a pass to act this way because he's mentally ill? He's saying that his behaviour is a valid reaction childhood abuse.

I don't want to accuse him of gaslighting if that's not what he's doing, but is there a better term?

I’ve always been curious to know if someone were to get sexually aroused during a legitimate massage session at a massage establishment, what happens? Is it common? Does the masseuse simply ignore it? I’ve been wanting to get a Shiatsu massage where they walk on me for some time now, but I’m afraid I will get sexually aroused and get kicked out since I have a foot fetish.

This question applies to other phrases for deaf people as well. Are there multiple ways to say the same thing? I've seen women do the universal sign for sucking dick, but if a straight man or lesbian woman wanted to say it, would they still have to sign like THEIR mouth is being used?

Edit - I should have put examples. Eg such as a man who's attracted to muscular women. And people who are attracted to cross-dressers.

My new girlfriend told me that she’s never in her life had an orgasm. At the same time, she told me recently that she has a high sex drive. She can’t really keep her hands off me and she usually initiates sex before I’m even able to.

The more we have sex, the more intense it’s gotten. The last time we had sex it seemed like she was right there at the finish line but I could be wrong.

I’m not really understanding this, how does a woman have a high sex drive without being able to orgasm?

I generally have 28-31 days of monthly cycle. I had unprotected sex on 22nd day of my cycle but then I had one dose of i-pill on 23rd day (within 24 hours). I read somewhere that ipill doesn't work if ovulation has already happened and I think I was only edge of my end of ovulation. I know there are still chances that I can be pregnant. Is there anything I can do to detect my pregnancy? I do not want to wait till my miss period. Or is there anything that I can do to prevent implantation if fertilization is already happened?

I'm not sure why I suddenly unfollowed all female celebrities, I don't see me liking a girl. I don't feel myself happy with talking to a girl, I'm straight. I feel bad energy when some girls coming to my life or when I approach girls. Is that anything wrong with me? You may think I had a love relationship lol no never had relationship