Hi, 14F. I recently talked to my high school counselor about getting into honors bio for freshman year, but she said that she'd put me in the regular class instead because I have a C+ in my current science class. It's stupid to be frustrated about, I know, but I also know that I'm smart enough to do it. I love biology and science in general. It's just because my current science teacher assigns so much work to the point I can't keep up and have a ton of stuff missing. I understand the material and could even teach another person about it.

I feel so frustrated at myself for not being able to remember to just turn things in and getting overwhelmed the moment I see even one missing assignment. I'm on the verge of giving up completely and letting my grades sink even further.

My spring break is about to end. I planned to do my missing work during this time period but I ended up wasting the week away and only finishing one thing. I wish I could just sit down and work for at least an hour without getting distracted.

P.S: I am on medication. I might need to talk to my doctor about getting the dosage increased.

Hi I just started 20mg of vyvanse and its so quiet in my head now its unsettling and almost scary how silent everything is like I took a shower without having to argue with myself it's strange and I hope it gets better soon any advice or stories would probably help

I have to describe 1k logos per day with at least 2 words. It is a 6 day job per week... I am from Europe I get paid 300 dollars, I lose 20 in the bank so I end up getting 280$. People in my country make around 700-800 dollars per month. This job is from a nearby country and people there usually get 550$/month ....It is remote and I thought it would be flexible. It is anything but flexible. i am going through a break up from an abusive relationship, I moved back home to my parents who always called me weird and a freak.. I receive the 1k files in midnight and I have to give them back by the end of the next day otherwise the manager spams me. I have sudden days off because he did not work and in order to catch up I am being made to work nonstop. A family member of his had birthday and he did not work for 4 days then he pressured me to catch up. There have been times where I worked for two weeks nonstop. I have freaking brain lesions and I get migraines with aura, I do my best not to get them cause I am in danger of brain damage but I had one last week. I pull all nighters, I do not take care of myself. I have a bad sleeping schedule and I struggle to fix it cause my work schedule is messy, I wish I had every weekend off steadily.. A therapist told me to always wake up in the morning to do the files. They are a lot of files and I cannot concentrate, I have autism and ADHD. I did not give files yesterday and I got lectured by the manager, he told me to work tomorrow to make up. I am scared of leaving cause I am from a very extroverted and ableist country, very few people with aspergers work. I found a job where I can work 20 hours per week, sometimes less, depending on the workload. I will be getting paid more than now, the salary is per hour. I left a good job for no reason in IT support randomly last August and I regret it and I fear that I will regret it if I leave this one. I dont have many chances in life. I think I do not trying my best to be organized and wake up early to do the job everyday idk UGH

It's something I don't understand because I feel like I’m just contributing to the conversation and showing that I agree with what they're saying. Are we supposed to just take turns like its a pokemon battle? That doesn't feel natural to me.

long time lurker first time poster, but i HAD to show you guys this- for context, i went to college for theatre but haven’t been auditioning since i graduated. finally trying to get back in the game and went to film some self tapes today, only to discover i lost the iphone mount that’s supposed to sit in my ring light, hence this janky macgyver’d box situation (i attached my phone to the lotion with a hair tie lmaooooo) 🤦🏻‍♀️ would have saved myself an hour and a huge mess if i hadn’t lost a piece of plastic that probably cost 50 cents to make! see also my shade just leaning against my window bc i’ve been meaning to put curtains up for legit an entire year now

So, I've been taking 20mg of Adderall XR for about a week or two now, and they've been really useful. They felt a lot smoother then IR, that had its random ups and downs.

Until today that is, apparently. I took it like normal. Yeah I took it with a redbull, but it's far from the only time I've done so.

And I feel terrible. My mind feels like cotton and everything is annoying me. I feel zoned out, I don't like it :(. I'm just laying in bed closing my eyes because that's the only way it stops hurting.

It didn't have this effect before, so in a bit confused. Maybe it's a hormone issue?

Starting 20mg Tyvense tomorrow… does anyone have any experience with it? Is there anything I should look out for? Thanks in advance :)

Heyy, I work in finance as intern auditor. It’s very stressful job and we have many clients during this tax season. I made commitment to be at work 6 days a week upon my boss’s request but I am unable to keep up to the pace. I am constantly feeling stressed to be at work to the point that I missed my period this march. I work 10 hours daily and when I come home I apply to jobs and study.

I am underweight, and this schedule is taking a toll on my body. I try to eat more but most times I cannot because I am super tired. Now the thing is I have called out every week despite making a commitment to be there on Saturdays and now my boss has finally told me today that you are being unreliable and she’s afcourse angry now.

I will see my boss on Monday again. How can I make it look better now. I am also 24 and early in my career so have never dealt with such situations before. I should also add that this is an internship and I am not joining this company because I already have another offer. But my boss has been a great mentor to me and she’s very supportive so I don’t really want to disappoint her.

My husband and I for the most part have opposite trad gender roles. He decorates and cooks and cleans. I make money and pay all the bills. (very short version)

Both diagnosed, both medicated.

His family is coming over. We had the cleaning lady come Wednesday, not much to do. I put a new hand towel in the bathroom and he loves pink, it is spring. I helped tidy up.

Went to run errands.

I came home and he switched the hand towel to the pink tie dyed one with the bunny ears. His towel is definitely cuter, but there are at least three other places he could have hung his towel and my perfectly clean one is now in the laundry basket. I never clean to his standards. (I should clarify: when we have company. Otherwise he's a slob, so am I.) Partly because I don't care. Partly because his family's houses are disgusting, so they aren't judging us, and partly because I don't think it would matter. I could scrub the floor on my hands and knees.

I am in charge at work. How am I so upset at a stupid bunny hand towel? I never feel like I have RSD. Is this it?

I would just like to vent a bit/get some perspectives here. I can't tell if I am being unreasonable.

My partner and I both struggle with perceptions of time. In order to function throughout my life, I have coped with this with hyper awareness, being chronically early, and spending a lot of time in "waiting mode". I have very bare bones routines designed to minimize chances for distractions. I am not saying this good or healthy (the amount of time I spend in waiting mode/being early is my most disabling ADHD symptom), I am saying that with great effort and anxiety (and straight up being able to do a fewer number of things than I'd like), I can manage time.

Meanwhile, my male partner has always had a woman in his life to manage it for him, his mother when he was a kid, other girlfriends throughout his 20s and early 30s, etc. He was not even aware that this background management was happening for him until I asked a bunch of questions about his past relationships and his parents trying to figure out why he seemed sooo unaware of it (very different from my female friends who struggle in the same ways).

When we have plans, I get put in the position where I have to either manage his time for him by reminding him how long tasks take, which is very exhausting for me and also makes me feel like a giant nag, or he shows up (sometimes very) late and I feel terrible and anxious while stuck in waiting mode and losing large chunks of time to it. He also often does not communicate-for example he'll decide to make several stops on the way over meanwhile I'm not starting any tasks so I don't get sucked into anything that I can't finish, and then be shocked that I feel irritated. I am not a stickler about punctuality at all, but the cumulative amount of my time wasted on this does add up and start to make me feel shitty and turn seeing him into a source of stress.

It happens on the other ends of things too-like he winds up staying over later than we agreed upon no matter how many conversations we have about me needing to adhere to a rigid bedtime routine for my insomnia. I feel like I have to be a timekeeper and basically kick him out and it makes our time together a bit stressful and then makes me feel like a giant asshole. Like why do I have an alarm on my phone instead of him? Why am I put in the position of saying no to starting a 2 hour long movie 45 minutes before we agreed the time would end?

He clearly feels terrible every time this happens, which makes me feel like a jerk trying to talk to him about it, but it doesn't seem to matter? I think that he understands I find this tiring and upsetting but does not understand why it is-other women have just quietly dealt with the problem for him after all. So he apologizes, but the apology feels empty. I very much don't expect any sort of magic fix, I would just like him to try anything, even if it doesn't wind up working. I'm not sure if I am being unreasonable here but I am growing resentful and tired and I feel like I can't win.

I purchased 2 silk pillow cases recently as I've read that they are better for your hair and skin. As someone who struggles with self care I will lean into all the tools.

I had wanted to change my sheets. Could not find the second pillow case. Tore apart both storage areas where I keep extra bedding. No dice. Not underneath the bed. Not anywhere on my vanity dresser. I started to doubt that I actually bought a second one.

Today I was deep cleaning my bedroom and I started to organize the erotic book/toy collection basket. Discovered that's where my brain chose to store the second pillowcase. Why? I don't know. Another brain mystery.

Have had severe anxiety for years now . Seeing a therapist and she did assessment for adhd and said I scored high . So now have appointment with prn through the counseling center , and just has me super anxious not sure what to expect or how long this diagnosis will take ? Anyone have any info. On the process ?

Ahhh ok so I just started on adderall xr recently, I was upped from my 10mg dose which I felt absolutely nothing at and I'm at 20mg right now, but I'm still feeling like almost nothing and I am so slammed with work which I am just so mentally unable to work on right now, how bad of an idea would it be to try taking 40mg? I don't have another appointment with my medication provider for like two weeks but I am just not functional right now and its killing me.

If its relevant at all I started on anti-depressants about a month and a half ago which have just made my executive disfunction so much worse

Took my meds yesterday and they didnt work at all. I just so happened to have skipped my antacid too so i thought “aw poo, that must be why” took my dose again today with the antacid and still no dice. Then I realized I am on my cycle. So basically a waste of two doses 😩

Have yall found any way to keep your meds working during your period? Taking extras during this time is not an option, I did that last time to accommodate the higher dose needed during my period and got in trouble with my provider when I ran out early (I get it, even though I did it for a logical reason it still wasnt pre approved and something I shouldve talked to my doctor about first).

Starting to wish I was back on birth control despite the horrific side effects. Atleast then my meds would work. My periods are super irregular, sometimes theyre monthly, sometimes theyre every 2 weeks, sometimes 4 months can go by without one. So tracking and planning for them is basically impossible.

Hi I just started Wellbutrin about a week ago and since I’ve been having some weird side effects and wanted to know if anyone else suffered from them, and if I should keep going or try something else.

So this is obviously minor but my skin has gotten really bad, I hadn’t broken out in about a month and now I have a ton of spots, but this isn’t really the worst one lol. I also just feel like everyone hates me, like more so than with normal depression. Like it’s actually crushing me. I feel sick to my stomach thinking about my friends and the people in my life and think they actually despise me. I also get really mad a lot easier, and I feel like I’ve been saying really weird things that I normally wouldn’t. I’m actually overthinking every relationship in my life and am convinced that I genuinely don’t have any friends. I’ve always been a really outspoken person but now I feel like I’m just talking and talking, and everyone’s out to get me. I normally don’t have any anxiety so this is really weird for me, and I don’t know if I want to continue to be on it.

Please let me know if this is normal or if it’s rough at first and I got to stick it out, and thank you <3

Even with medication sometimes I just have horrible discipline with executive dysfunction. How do you guys motivate yourselves to clean or make it bearable?

I listen to a lot of shoegaze and grunge style rock these days. I'm 26 and I was born in 98. My parents always listened to 90s rock when growing up, like Pearl Jam and Cranberries type stuff. My dad was also a music artist and made lots of songs in that style himself. This is the type of music that makes me feel safest and most grounded. I always feel like some healing nostalgia when listening to music that reminds me of what was played by my parents when I was growing up. Do you relate?

Only getting $2 back. But hey, at least I filed them on time! & I used a program that doesn’t charge me this year 💪

TW: probably ableism, quite a bit of shouting at children

OK, ladies. I'm not sure you'll be able to help me with this, but you are by far the best ADHD community on the internet so I feel comfortable asking here.

My son and my husband both have severe ADHD and are most likely on the spectrum. My husband (38M, I'm going to call him Mark) grew up in a authoritarian dad / permissive mom household and was untreated until he was in his mid-thirties. He's trying to do better than his parents, and he's doing a really good job. But there are some things he has trouble reacting to calmly.

My son (10.5M, I'll call him Luke) was diagnosed with ADHD at 5 when his kindergarten teacher noticed that he needed to be in a completely quiet room by himself in order to do anything. In his Montessori classroom, he would sit in the middle of the room and stare, either at the work packet they gave him or at the other students. After several years I've come to realize that his version of a meltdown is to "check out." He is only internally motivated, and has a difficult time expressing what the problem is. I'm also pretty sure he's in PDA burnout, but I think that's a different issue.

I also have ADHD and GAD, but I have the role of NT in our house. That usually means reminding everyone not to be an a*hole and trying to set us all up for success.

OK. Now to the problem. Mark likes to keep candy, treats, ice cream, and snacks on hand, and seems to have an internal limit on "acceptable daily consumption." Luke "steals" these things by not only eating "more than his share," but by taking them without asking. Mark then loses his temper, and will shout (usually along the lines of "This is unacceptable! I've told you this is unacceptable and I am livid!") It can be especially bad when Mark has "saved the best for last" on a personal treat and Luke takes it and eats it anyway.

I have tried SO MANY THINGS to set Luke up for success here. We've tried pre-portioning to make sure everyone knows what their share is. We keep Mark-only treats in our bedroom. When Luke showed a pattern of going into our bedroom and taking them anyway, we got a lock for our door (it's an electric fingerprint lock so we don't have to worry about a key because ADHD). I have reminder labels on shelves and on the freezer saying "ask first." I have a snack bin on the outside of the pantry that I do my best to keep full of approved snacks. I may not do these things perfectly, but I am trying SO HARD.

Nothing seems to work. NT people will often say, "Just don't keep those things in your house" but then all of us suffer. I have talked to Luke several times about it. I have tried to have him empathize, even reminding him of when he's been upset about something of his being taken by a friend or sibling. He says all the right things; he apologizes. Then two weeks later it happens all over again.

I read a post a while back from an ADHDer traumatized by always being called a thief in his own home. I hate the thought that Mark is doing that to Luke! But I legitimately don't know what I can do to fix this!

TL;DR: Son seems to lack self control and eats dad's snacks. Dad flips out and treats him like a thief. Son acknowledges "the rules." Cycle repeats. Mom dies a little inside each time.

Have any of you gone through anything similar? Do you have any recommendations?

I'm just curious if anyone has tried the Anti-planner. And uses it long term? I know there are a lot of knockoffs but I'm specifically asking about the original by Dani Donovan. It was suggested by my therapist who is also ADHD.

I have one. I actually have had it for over a year and just never opened it lol. (Well actually 2 because my brain said I needed a backup surprise, I Do Not). I decided to use it today. And it seems pretty awesome. But knowing myself I'm worried the novelty will just wear off. I'm trying not to read through all of it just to keep some surprises in store to keep me coming back to it.

Does anyone have actual long term success with it? I'm thinking personally I should avoid using it all the time and only use it on rough days or I'll get bored of it.

Any thoughts on it? Experiences? Successes? Failures? Fun anecdotes? Commiserations?

Does anyone else not get short term hyperfixations that other ADHDers seem to get? I keep listening to podcasts where the hosts describe becoming obsessed with something for a few weeks at a time, ignoring everything else around them, and then burning out? I don’t experience this and maybe feel a little imposter syndrome about it.

My “short term” hyperfixations are quite a bit longer. For example, during the pandemic, I became quite interested in viruses. I studied everything I can about viruses, including the different types, hosts, virus reproduction, evolution, vaccines, and vaccine manufacturing. In total, the interest lasted about 9 months or so. But I learned everything I could with the knowledge I have.

i was hold up, i think i have been stimming my whole life and i ain’t know. the comments that i have autism, just helped me realize that i was different from others. i didn’t really know what to think of it. it does make sense, cause she would make jokes that i was sometimes more autistic than her, but in actuality, it was my adhd. but i had another friend say i have adhd, and that is when things really clicked for me. i would see adhd stuff and i would be like, i get my work in tho! the stigma against adhd really curbed me. but gosh girl, how many days did you spend not doing it vs doing it 🤨 sometimes i do think i also have autism, but it’s been hard to get a diagnosis for adhd, idk if i really want to get diagnosed with everything, it would just be nice to know. and they think i have ocd too, so im not sure i would want to add trying to get diagnosed for autism to the boat, especially when care for autism as adults is nonexistent. anyways, just silly to find out that i very obviously have adhd and seeing all the things i did from childhood and finally understanding.

So every time I start to clean I notice something….Like right now I was going to do a quick 10 min tops (I think) clean of my living room. But then I noticed how dirty my couch looked… which reminded me that I bout a lot a few months ago go to clean it… so I started to get everything ready for cleaning the couch… then I was like … WAIT!!! If I do this I will never clean the living room 🤔 the. I decided if I posted here maybe it would make me actually stick to cleaning today with no side quests! So I’m hoping by letting you guys know my intent to just do regular boring cleaning … I might do it!!!! Wish me luck guys 💕

Obviously the definition of “essential” may vary from person to person but have you bought any items or services that weren’t strictly necessary that have made your life with adhd easier? For example, I’ve been looking at meal kit services because I think that might help me eat better even though they’re kind of expensive. Other examples: hiring a cleaning service, buying organizational shelving units, buying an air fryer, etc.

I was diagnosed last year and have been taking generic vyvanse the past few months. It has been life changing. I am doing better at work. I no longer need antidepressants. My anxiety is under control for the first time ever.

However, I’m moving across the country (USA) in a few months. I haven’t told my dr yet because it’s overwhelming to think about.

I’ve had issues getting the prescription in my current city. I called literally dozen of pharmacies before one agreed to fill it. I can only get 30 days supply at a time.

Because of all these issues, I’m scared thinking about what it’ll mean to move. How do I find someone in the new state to fill the prescription? Do they have to be in psychiatry?

I am worried about facing a gap in medication during the moving process. Should I start looking for doctor’s in my new city from now? I don’t even know where to start.

Advice appreciated. Thank you.