Debating if I have to force myself to accept the consequences of my actions lol. I work closing shifts, which makes my bed time routine extra harder for reference. I keep telling myself I need at least 4 hours before work so I get things done.

Most of the time, I am okay. But these past two days, I stayed up way late after getting home from work. Instead of waking up at 7am, I am getting up at 10am, and then going to work 12pm. I let myself sleep in cause I'm like oh didn't get enough sleep. When I was younger it didn't affect me that much to be sleep deprived but now that I am getting older when I wake up with less then 7 hours of sleep it hits me hard.

Anyways this was a long winded way of asking, ladies do you force yourselves to wake up at your set time even when you didn't get enough sleep the night before? I think imma have to start tbh cause I don't want to keep wasting my life with my nightly procrastination

A few weeks ago we found a rat inside the house. We figured it must have snuck inside. We got it out of the house.

A bit after that my dog was crazy sniffing the kitchen and the basement, running back and forth. Didn't see anything.

Then on March 27 she was aggressively pawing at the couch. I could feel something so I pulled on it. It was a DEAD rat. I melted down.

I called the exterminator. His first question was had the the city recently done any sewer work. We recalled a few weeks back having water pressure issues. My partner stepped outside and saw the city working on the sewer. We got no notice about the work. The exterminator said when this work happens it pushes that rats down and they look for a new place. we needed our our sewer drain capped.

So we had the plumber come over the next day. It involved a lot of work as it was more than just replacing the grate they chewed through. It was super expensive and now I won't be out of credit card debt for several more months.

Then today April 5 my partner tells me we have at least one hiding in the house. It ate our butter.

I nearly threw up. All I can think about now is finding rats. Or rats crawling on me. In grad school I lived in a mice ingested home near the water. I had at least one mouse crawl over me in my sleep.

My home no longer feels safe. We're calling back the exterminator as he said to call if the plumbing fix didn't solve the issue as that's how they got into the house was the sewer line.

I need something positive to redirect me. I feel so sick. I'm scared to go into the basement into the laundry room which has so many places where it could hide.

I'd be sobbing right now but all my meds make it very difficult for me to cry.

Hi, 14F. I recently talked to my high school counselor about getting into honors bio for freshman year, but she said that she'd put me in the regular class instead because I have a C+ in my current science class. It's stupid to be frustrated about, I know, but I also know that I'm smart enough to do it. I love biology and science in general. It's just because my current science teacher assigns so much work to the point I can't keep up and have a ton of stuff missing. I understand the material and could even teach another person about it.

I feel so frustrated at myself for not being able to remember to just turn things in and getting overwhelmed the moment I see even one missing assignment. I'm on the verge of giving up completely and letting my grades sink even further.

My spring break is about to end. I planned to do my missing work during this time period but I ended up wasting the week away and only finishing one thing. I wish I could just sit down and work for at least an hour without getting distracted.

P.S: I am on medication. I might need to talk to my doctor about getting the dosage increased.

Hello Women and Folks,

First off, you’re absolutely incredible. Secondly, remember that our existence and life experience is how WE make it. You don’t need to fit into a box to be worthy. You’re already so deserving. Give yourself a break.

LOVE YOURSELF. EMBRACE YOURSELF.

Maybe it is annoying forgetting to do things and having analysis paralysis, but that doesn’t mean you’re less lovable or worthy. We all fuck up. We all make mistakes. BUT WE ARE ALL WORTHY!!

I’m 33 and have been diagnosed since I was 6 years old. Then diagnosed twice after. Life is hard. Being in this money driven society is hard. But we’re special. Literally. Our brains work harder than neurotypical people. And most of us are much more intelligent than they are.

And if you’re having a difficult time, you’re not alone. I’ve had burnout so badly that I wasn’t able to even shower daily. I’ve spent days crying about myself and why I’m not able to get “better”. And I’ve realized… there is no better. I’m already enough. I’m already doing what I need to.

Just be gentle with yourselves. You’re all more than this diagnosis.

I have to describe 1k logos per day with at least 2 words. It is a 6 day job per week... I am from Europe I get paid 300 dollars, I lose 20 in the bank so I end up getting 280$. People in my country make around 700-800 dollars per month. This job is from a nearby country and people there usually get 550$/month ....It is remote and I thought it would be flexible. It is anything but flexible. i am going through a break up from an abusive relationship, I moved back home to my parents who always called me weird and a freak.. I receive the 1k files in midnight and I have to give them back by the end of the next day otherwise the manager spams me. I have sudden days off because he did not work and in order to catch up I am being made to work nonstop. A family member of his had birthday and he did not work for 4 days then he pressured me to catch up. There have been times where I worked for two weeks nonstop. I have freaking brain lesions and I get migraines with aura, I do my best not to get them cause I am in danger of brain damage but I had one last week. I pull all nighters, I do not take care of myself. I have a bad sleeping schedule and I struggle to fix it cause my work schedule is messy, I wish I had every weekend off steadily.. A therapist told me to always wake up in the morning to do the files. They are a lot of files and I cannot concentrate, I have autism and ADHD. I did not give files yesterday and I got lectured by the manager, he told me to work tomorrow to make up. I am scared of leaving cause I am from a very extroverted and ableist country, very few people with aspergers work. I found a job where I can work 20 hours per week, sometimes less, depending on the workload. I will be getting paid more than now, the salary is per hour. I left a good job for no reason in IT support randomly last August and I regret it and I fear that I will regret it if I leave this one. I dont have many chances in life. I think I do not trying my best to be organized and wake up early to do the job everyday idk UGH

So, I've been taking 20mg of Adderall XR for about a week or two now, and they've been really useful. They felt a lot smoother then IR, that had its random ups and downs.

Until today that is, apparently. I took it like normal. Yeah I took it with a redbull, but it's far from the only time I've done so.

And I feel terrible. My mind feels like cotton and everything is annoying me. I feel zoned out, I don't like it :(. I'm just laying in bed closing my eyes because that's the only way it stops hurting.

It didn't have this effect before, so in a bit confused. Maybe it's a hormone issue?

Starting 20mg Tyvense tomorrow… does anyone have any experience with it? Is there anything I should look out for? Thanks in advance :)

Psychiatrist upped my Adderall XR to 20mg. In my state, only generics are allowed even if I wanted to pay for name brand. He tried to add "no substitutions", but the pharmacy said no. The AMG generic was ok. I have had name brand Adderall as a kid in another state and it feels like an entirely different medication. Had granules once before with milder side effects. After taking this batch for only 2 days, I have been having severe debilitating crying spells, headaches, new and worsening depression symptoms, NO focus, brain fog, ect ect. I'm not taking it again tomorrow, even if it means cold turkeying. Told my psych, haven't heard back yet. I looked it up and it seems other people have had this same issue. The pharmacy would require the psych to send a whole new prescription in, even if I surrender the remaining medication. Thankfully, I see the doc in 10 days but it's going to be a rough sudden withdrawal. Just venting because I feel so lost in this new adhd journey. It's only been 6 months and nothing has truly worked. I typically cry for maybe an hour if I'm depressed but this was insanely debilitating and had me mentally prepared to quit my job and drop out of college. What do they put in these generics??????

My husband and I for the most part have opposite trad gender roles. He decorates and cooks and cleans. I make money and pay all the bills. (very short version)

Both diagnosed, both medicated.

His family is coming over. We had the cleaning lady come Wednesday, not much to do. I put a new hand towel in the bathroom and he loves pink, it is spring. I helped tidy up.

Went to run errands.

I came home and he switched the hand towel to the pink tie dyed one with the bunny ears. His towel is definitely cuter, but there are at least three other places he could have hung his towel and my perfectly clean one is now in the laundry basket. I never clean to his standards. (I should clarify: when we have company. Otherwise he's a slob, so am I.) Partly because I don't care. Partly because his family's houses are disgusting, so they aren't judging us, and partly because I don't think it would matter. I could scrub the floor on my hands and knees.

I am in charge at work. How am I so upset at a stupid bunny hand towel? I never feel like I have RSD. Is this it?

I purchased 2 silk pillow cases recently as I've read that they are better for your hair and skin. As someone who struggles with self care I will lean into all the tools.

I had wanted to change my sheets. Could not find the second pillow case. Tore apart both storage areas where I keep extra bedding. No dice. Not underneath the bed. Not anywhere on my vanity dresser. I started to doubt that I actually bought a second one.

Today I was deep cleaning my bedroom and I started to organize the erotic book/toy collection basket. Discovered that's where my brain chose to store the second pillowcase. Why? I don't know. Another brain mystery.

Have had severe anxiety for years now . Seeing a therapist and she did assessment for adhd and said I scored high . So now have appointment with prn through the counseling center , and just has me super anxious not sure what to expect or how long this diagnosis will take ? Anyone have any info. On the process ?

Hey all, I've really enjoyed the support here in this sub and wanted to post to see if anyone's had similar issues and solved for it. I have been on Vyvanse for half a year, and though it's leveled out a bit, I've still been getting good support from it for about 3 hrs once it kicks in. Then there's this big wave of feelings around not being able to continue to do things well - things seem really hard even the simple tasks, which I think its because the meds are wearing off. Is this normal for Vyvanse? Feels like it is wearing out quickly

How long until I convince myself to do the last 10 and organize everything ???

Literally my mom, my sister, my niece, my nephew, and I all have ADHD as well as me and my mom having autism.

Edit: I’m more so talking about ADHD being a dominant trait (at least for my family)

Husband and I are both ADHD. Cleaning is not a talent either one of us have. Executive dysfunction is an everyday thing. So is the fact that our house has become one giant depression hole. We also both have chronic pain conditions and just moving around day to day is hard enough.

My parents are coming to visit Sunday. I have a LOT of trauma around housekeeping and cleaning and feeling like it’s never good enough.

We are half the frog today. Most of the boxes are broken down, and most of the trash is out. We still need to finish a few trouble spots tomorrow and sweep/mop/vacuum. And clean the cat’s bathroom. We’re shutting the door to our bedroom and leaving it closed. It won’t be done.

But we made a giant dent in the mess today. I’m so fucking proud of us. And I’m in so much pain.

Ahhh ok so I just started on adderall xr recently, I was upped from my 10mg dose which I felt absolutely nothing at and I'm at 20mg right now, but I'm still feeling like almost nothing and I am so slammed with work which I am just so mentally unable to work on right now, how bad of an idea would it be to try taking 40mg? I don't have another appointment with my medication provider for like two weeks but I am just not functional right now and its killing me.

If its relevant at all I started on anti-depressants about a month and a half ago which have just made my executive disfunction so much worse

I've been on a newer med, Azstarys, for the last three years. It was a huge pain getting insurance to cover it at the beginning, but the company that makes it has a co-pay card to help cover the cost. I've been paying $25 a month. Out of nowhere, the pharmacy said my insurance isn't covering it anymore.

I'm packing to move states this weekend and was totally out, so I had no option besides paying the $100. Luckily, I've been selling a bunch of stuff ahead of the move, so I had extra cash. I can't afford to pay that every month though! Has anyone else had their meds randomly fall out of insurance coverage recently?

Friends,

I’m emotional from the responses and the enthusiasm of the information from my post last night. I read all the comments and I thought about a lot of things revolving the topic. Using this platform to advocate for women across the world means so much to me and I want to be able to adequately represent as many voices as possible.

If any of you would be eager or willing to share topics you would love to see/hear addressed, I will fight for us as much as possible. If you don’t feel comfortable commenting below, please DM me. I spoke about the following topics, but know it’s limited to my experience:

Rejection sensitivity Feeling like I’m “too much” which creates insecurity within me because I knew I “wasn’t like other people” Time Blindness Overstimulation How most women I know received their diagnoses as mothers because they’d finally hit a limit to some degree How most of my peers (white men) were diagnosed with ADD/ADHD as children but I didn’t know a single woman diagnosed How building routines is absolutely crucial in addition to proper diagnosis and medication

…..but there’s so much more to cover that’s outside of being a 33 yr old white female. This physician is incredibly eager to give us this microphone and wants to share it with the world. Let’s make some changes y’all 🥹

Some other things to touch on: • I will ABSOLUTELY share the interview here whenever it’s completed. Right now we shot an interview that spanned about 15-20 minutes, but they want to film more. They haven’t updated me on when that’ll be, but I’ll continue to update our group and will let you know the next time we film. • I would love for people have a watch party 🥹 the news station is WWL New Orleans (I believe channel 4 for locals) and the physician’s name is Corey Hebert. I have his permission to share this information/the photos from the set. I’ll post the picture of him and I together at some point because this man deserves his face to be plastered everywhere for the good he does in not only our community, but so many others that are marginalized. • Lastly, and very important, they’re planning on getting the LEAD PHYSICIAN of the diagnostic criteria committee to speak on this interview!!!!! I could cry. Change really feels like it’s going to come.

Hi I just started Wellbutrin about a week ago and since I’ve been having some weird side effects and wanted to know if anyone else suffered from them, and if I should keep going or try something else.

So this is obviously minor but my skin has gotten really bad, I hadn’t broken out in about a month and now I have a ton of spots, but this isn’t really the worst one lol. I also just feel like everyone hates me, like more so than with normal depression. Like it’s actually crushing me. I feel sick to my stomach thinking about my friends and the people in my life and think they actually despise me. I also get really mad a lot easier, and I feel like I’ve been saying really weird things that I normally wouldn’t. I’m actually overthinking every relationship in my life and am convinced that I genuinely don’t have any friends. I’ve always been a really outspoken person but now I feel like I’m just talking and talking, and everyone’s out to get me. I normally don’t have any anxiety so this is really weird for me, and I don’t know if I want to continue to be on it.

Please let me know if this is normal or if it’s rough at first and I got to stick it out, and thank you <3

Even with medication sometimes I just have horrible discipline with executive dysfunction. How do you guys motivate yourselves to clean or make it bearable?

This is my first post ever so any advice will be so appreciated. I(F 27) really struggle to consistently clean the house I share with my partner(M 29) and do domestic tasks. I will watch the basket fill up & just not be “interested” in doing the laundry. I do wash the dishes every now again but I struggle to pick up after myself, I’ll leave my clothes around the house & not close cupboard doors etc. I just can’t bring myself to clean or organise things even when I can see they’re not in the right place.

I can maintain being super clean for a few days when I randomly get the motivation but it doesn’t last.

Help me I’m so tired of being a slob.

I was a patient in a non-ADHD vaccine trial when I met the medical director over the study. Very friendly guy and well known in New Orleans as the lead physician on a local news station. We got to talking about all my diagnoses, including ADHD, and how I got it so late in life. He listened as I discussed my frustrations, how it’s impacted me, how it shaped and molded the person I am today, and is a lifelong endeavor of getting to understand myself in this new perspective (how to organize my life in ways that make sense for me) moving forward.

Turns out he’s actually on THE panel of physicians in the US that dictate diagnosis criteria and he’s wanting to make major waves about bringing attention to this topic. He’s developed new ADHD medications and is a big voice in the cause of women receiving late term diagnoses due to the criteria having very limited scope in what all actually encompasses ADHD. He asked me if I’d be interested in interviewing about this topic, and I enthusiastically said yes. That was months ago, so I was shocked when he texted yesterday to schedule for today. I came into the studio, we had a fantastic discussion, and before I went to leave he briefed me on what to expect (how they’d probably snip and clip parts of the interview for production so it wouldn’t be the exact interview). As he said this, the woman that had filmed us indicated that the news station thinks this topic and my story are important to tell. She said as she listened to my story, it struck a cord with her because she had a similar experience going through school/life and it made her interested in pursuing getting tested.

They decided they want to intertwine my story with the work he’s doing to push for change on diagnostic criteria. I’ll be filming more with them sometime soon, and they’ll also be interviewing the head physician of that committee he’s on. Admittedly this was an exciting experience, but what matters most to me is the potential impact it could have on other women who may not realize that this applies to them too. I hope people feel seen, and feel a sense of hope towards getting answers.

I'm just curious if anyone has tried the Anti-planner. And uses it long term? I know there are a lot of knockoffs but I'm specifically asking about the original by Dani Donovan. It was suggested by my therapist who is also ADHD.

I have one. I actually have had it for over a year and just never opened it lol. (Well actually 2 because my brain said I needed a backup surprise, I Do Not). I decided to use it today. And it seems pretty awesome. But knowing myself I'm worried the novelty will just wear off. I'm trying not to read through all of it just to keep some surprises in store to keep me coming back to it.

Does anyone have actual long term success with it? I'm thinking personally I should avoid using it all the time and only use it on rough days or I'll get bored of it.

Any thoughts on it? Experiences? Successes? Failures? Fun anecdotes? Commiserations?