Hiii! So I do want to make it clear to all dommes especially the newer dommes that not EVERY SUB enjoys being bullied and degraded especially upon first encounter. Some also get bored of being told to send over and over again with little effort.
Yes for some this is a major turn on but for a handful it’s not. Especially if you seek to establish any long term dynamic. There are much more creative ways to dominate someone financially without repeating “send. 🙄Tribute loser. 🙄Send more. 🙄Approach piggy🙄” like some GTA NPC’s. My first sub was actually the one to tell me this was the reason he ghosted another domme. You don’t want that to be you especially if it took you a bit to find a sub in the first place!
I don’t blame any of you for behaving this way because you have seen the success it has given other dommes. Especially if you found this kink community from X or TikTok because that’s usually what’s promoted. However most of those dommes won’t tell you how long those subs stick around, if they have long term dynamics, if they have any consistency overall etc etc.
At the end of the day Findom is a Power Exchange kink that involves money. You do have to dominate someone financially at the end of the day. You need to make them want to send. Not just once. You need to make them feel like them sending to you is the only thing that they should be doing in that moment. Like their desire to send to you outweighs all reason in that moment. Like the only thing they should be doing is exchanging monetary power to their goddess who they want nothing more from than their attention, acceptance, and approval.
There’s soooo many ways to do this without being rude or flat. Get in their heads. Use your words. Embody the Goddess you are and act accordingly. If they’ve already approached you that’s half the work done. You have the control now, so fucking wield it. Turn this into something more than just a quick little send.
Here are some examples of things I’ve said with my own recent dynamics that have worked flawlessly to give you a better idea of what you can try. That will not only have them so needy for you but can also help you easier reach some personal financial goals you have easier.
“That send was cute but not enough to make me entertain you much after this.”
“You know you’re really teasing me from the full amount of (insert name of whatever gift you want on your wishlist.) That’s almost insulting. Naughty Naughty.”
“With that amount..is that how little you get turned on by me? Your message history says otherwise so you better correct that accordingly before my patience is lost for good.”
“Such a shame, you could’ve been my favorite if you did a little more.”
“Youre so much cuter when you go above and beyond you know…Are you feeling like you want to be my cutest sub today?”
“The heels you bought last time are also useful for kicking you to the curb if you don’t give me exactly what I want. And I don’t think you want that. ”
“Sorry my phones do not disturb function only turns off when my sub is eager to please. With the amount of $ notifications I’ve gotten from you…it doesn’t seem that you’re eager.”
Do you see what I mean? Clearly drawing the line of who has the power here in every line. But not by calling them loser, pig, whatever other degrading copy paste word.
I could go on and on but I’m typing this out on my
phone during my morning walk and no doubt there are probably a million typos and word vomit. Lmao.
Does this help or am I just talking out of my ass here? 💀
I think what I’m trying to say overall is that you can push for more sends ( within reason of your subs agreed upon budget ) without bland responses and mistreatment. Again I know some subs are very into that and those are fun little one and domes but I know most of you want to engage in a more fulfilling dynamic. Everything I just typed out is why I have 2.5 long term dynamics and more subs who immediately respect and beg to serve than I’ve had before.
I truly hope this helps all of you ladies and femme presenting dommes.
From one Domme to another, get your bag up and be submitted to the way you truly deserve. 😘