He was so kind and so sweet 🥹 We met through «X», and I like him so much!💓

You can put a picture or say something funny as long as you keep it SFW, I’ll delete it if it causes any problems 💖💖💖

I understand that, in theory, the idea of getting into findom can sound so fun to anyone who's only explanation of the kink is "you call men losers and they send you money". Anyone hearing it like that is going to assume this is just some infinite money glitch unlocked by being pretty.

I don't blame the dommes themselves for not knowing better, but I'm annoyed at all the influencers promoting this community in such a commercialized way just for the sake of grabbing attention and views. There are so many tiktok princesses making Dommes as a whole look like lazy finbeggars because they don't understand the depth of the kink.

I'm not trying to sound like a gatekeeper, but it's frustrating to see 100s of 18 year olds jumping in to test the waters when you've been swimming in control kinks long before it was aesthetic. I've genuinely been a domme for YEARS all because it just naturally happened in my relationships. I just NATURALLY fell into those roles and over the years I was able to learn and grow on it and enjoy it even more. It sucks to see subs genuinely seek the same thing I am, genuinely craving exactly what I'm craving, and knowing it'll be 10x harder to get through to them and connect because they're being bombarded with 20+ messages from people masquerading as Dommes.

Findom is a branch of Femdom. You can't fake a dominant personality. No amount of tutorials and cheat sheets can change who you are as a person. All you're doing is wasting your time and your sub's time, because if you're not into the kink you're just regurgitating what you think they want to hear, and that's not fulfilling for anybody.

I feel like I have to work so much harder than I should have to just to make connections with subs that are on the same page about what we want out of a dynamic. and in turn, I think it's also Pavlov'd subs into immediately dipping after a send, because they're conditioned into not expecting any effort to be put in after their send. They don't have hope or even expectations that they'll be able to find a dynamic that makes them happy because it's like everyone around them is a shark looking to exploit them.

Anyways, end of rant, thank you for coming to my TedTalk.

See how he sent without me having to say a word? Very demure, very mindful and veeeery cutsey🤭

im just a chill kitty😤

Just give me some keywords lol. I would say my entire aesthetic is purple, ethereal, hazy, dark fairy core, a little 90’s to early 2000’s-esque. I added some pictures of my throne for reference.

I have 3 LLCs, two failed businesses, and one decently successful business that’s on hiatus. One thing that I’ve learned is that you will not find success in your craft if you don’t have a cohesive, consistent aesthetic online (that is, if your target market is online). If your profiles and pages don’t look good within seconds of someone finding them, if they look chaotic (and not in the cute way) and like you didn’t put any effort, most people won’t even care to find out what you’re offering. Maybe it’s just me, but I always find branding and marketing to be the hardest damn part of business. Whether you’re selling services or products.

Ok enough with my little rant though. I wanna see y’all’s cute little aesthetics now! 🥹

I hope you have an amazing day filled with lots of new subs, sends and laughs. Don't forget to drink water queens.

~ Princess Kai

Meeting new subs is nice and all BUT I want to meet some of my beautiful fellow Dommes and make some friends! Does anyone know any discord servers or telegram group chats I can make some connections? :)

Of course we all love cash but are there other gifts we like on there? I’ve been looking through the clothing options and it’s overwhelming with a lot of brands I don’t recognize.

Would you

Where you’re matched by compatibility and wants like I don’t want a boring sub I want to yap about random things all day.

Edit:: THIS IS ABOUT MORE THAN JUST THE POST FROM THE OTHER GROUP TODAY!

I am so tired of reading about all these scammer dommes. I've been in the community for a while and they have always been here but holy fuck you leeches are really fucking up the scene. Findom is a SEXUAL dynamic, and it doesn't have to inherently be but it is. It is also a relationship, and yall don't want to build shit. This is not a side hustle , this is a lifestyle and to be quite honest most REAL dommes don't NEED shit from anyone, we deserve it. We should be spoiled but we can live with out.

Some of you guys thinks this is a side hustle or you can get a whale sub and live off of him and that's not it at allll.

There are few dommes I’ve come across that are just so gorgeous where I feel hypnotized. I’m not a finsub but when I see them I get the appeal of submitting to them. I’m like yes y’all better send to this queen she deserves it. Anybody else?

I keep a journal. Actually I keep several. One on my phone for general day to day thoughts I wanna get down quickly, or something silly or with a photo or whatever. One is visual - an A5 ringbound cartridge pad of mixed-media paper for doodling, painting and poems and my more lyrical expressions that strike me (I’m a songwriter). And one is for like, deep thought and self-examination. My psyche journal. My working on myself journal. My talking to my inner child and my inner demons journal. This one is a red A5 moleskine I bought myself.

As a domme I want to encourage my subs to engage in self-reflection. To be working on themselves and exploring their inner world. For themselves but also for me to feel secure that I’m communicating with someone who understands their own consent, relationship to power, what drives their kink etc.

Do you keep a journal? What’s your relationship to it? Both subs and dommes!

I'm sure I'm not the only night owl here haha. What are you doing while you wait? I'm listening to music and just vibin😌

I’d love to create a space for stoners in the kink world, dommes, subs. A chill, high vibe group to share our favorite stoner moments, content and maybe even a little financial submission for those who know the bliss of getting high and handing it over. Weed, control, and connection

What do you think? Let’s see if there’s enough ppl into this !

i used to have a sub that'd send for my coffee every morning and we'd play valorant together like 4 times a week, he was great. i really miss that kind of connection. i want a sub i can actually hang out with outside of kink, like to play games with or just yap. some subs are really set on only ever communicating about kink and that's fine but i just think it'd be nice to be friends with some of my subs. is that crazy?