I’d love to create a space for stoners in the kink world, dommes, subs. A chill, high vibe group to share our favorite stoner moments, content and maybe even a little financial submission for those who know the bliss of getting high and handing it over. Weed, control, and connection

What do you think? Let’s see if there’s enough ppl into this !

Context : I’m an easygoing domme outside of session , can chat/shit talk etc

So I have this sub who like being chased 😭. He’s always ‘I think this ain’t gonna work out’ and he expects me to be like ‘noooo don’t go’ and this goes on and on and on omg. Thoughts on what gaslighting , mind bending method this is?

Just to keep you doms aware and alert of this individual. 💕

im just a chill kitty😤

Some days I feel like I’ve got it all figured out. Other days, I’m just winging it and hoping my gut keeps me afloat. Findom has been part of my world for a little while now, and the truth is really.. there’s no ONE way to do this right.

You grow. You mess up. You adjust. You protect yourself a little better the next time. And if anybody else thinks or tells you otherwise, they’re obviously not doing it for the right reasons and do not have good intentions.

What’s kept me here isn’t just the money (though, let’s be real, It is delicious on a fair note). It’s the connection and stories. The psychology. The quiet thrill of control and devotion.

I don’t really have a point, I just felt like sharing. If you’ve been in this for a minute or just started hope today’s been kind to you. Keep going!

I started this journey years ago…. Kind of fell into my lap and I’m so nervous with all the scammers out there now 🥺

For me , it’s audacious yo just start the conversation with a simple “hey” or “hi”, like show me you worth my attention show me you craving for it its really not that easy to have my attention !!

Hey guys I (20F) am new to the findom community but ive recently discovered that I like dominating (found that out months ago with my ex bf but didn't get the chance to experience). Now that I know it's what really turns me on ive been doing research about it but I have no idea how to find a sub who would be willing to guide me into this new world. Do any of you know of any site where I could find one ? Thanks a lot xx

A nice question to end the weekend !!

You can put a picture or say something funny as long as you keep it SFW, I’ll delete it if it causes any problems 💖💖💖

i used to have a sub that'd send for my coffee every morning and we'd play valorant together like 4 times a week, he was great. i really miss that kind of connection. i want a sub i can actually hang out with outside of kink, like to play games with or just yap. some subs are really set on only ever communicating about kink and that's fine but i just think it'd be nice to be friends with some of my subs. is that crazy?

Looking for general advice not a review of my profile.

Y’all I shouldn’t care because I have a solid flow of subs but as I’m trying to really force the internet on myself I want to set a follower goal. I often see people post their followers with a lot less karma than me but 4-5x my followers. (960 karma 25 followers)

I’m first working on actually posting anything because that’s hard for me. And know next I want to improve the quality of any photos I have( a long road lol but one of my subs got me a really nice ring light tripod and hoping for another to come through with a birthday phone).

Anything else you guys think might increase my followers or am I on the right path just needing to execute and or be patient?

I understand that, in theory, the idea of getting into findom can sound so fun to anyone who's only explanation of the kink is "you call men losers and they send you money". Anyone hearing it like that is going to assume this is just some infinite money glitch unlocked by being pretty.

I don't blame the dommes themselves for not knowing better, but I'm annoyed at all the influencers promoting this community in such a commercialized way just for the sake of grabbing attention and views. There are so many tiktok princesses making Dommes as a whole look like lazy finbeggars because they don't understand the depth of the kink.

I'm not trying to sound like a gatekeeper, but it's frustrating to see 100s of 18 year olds jumping in to test the waters when you've been swimming in control kinks long before it was aesthetic. I've genuinely been a domme for YEARS all because it just naturally happened in my relationships. I just NATURALLY fell into those roles and over the years I was able to learn and grow on it and enjoy it even more. It sucks to see subs genuinely seek the same thing I am, genuinely craving exactly what I'm craving, and knowing it'll be 10x harder to get through to them and connect because they're being bombarded with 20+ messages from people masquerading as Dommes.

Findom is a branch of Femdom. You can't fake a dominant personality. No amount of tutorials and cheat sheets can change who you are as a person. All you're doing is wasting your time and your sub's time, because if you're not into the kink you're just regurgitating what you think they want to hear, and that's not fulfilling for anybody.

I feel like I have to work so much harder than I should have to just to make connections with subs that are on the same page about what we want out of a dynamic. and in turn, I think it's also Pavlov'd subs into immediately dipping after a send, because they're conditioned into not expecting any effort to be put in after their send. They don't have hope or even expectations that they'll be able to find a dynamic that makes them happy because it's like everyone around them is a shark looking to exploit them.

Anyways, end of rant, thank you for coming to my TedTalk.

Do you have tips in how to start? Specifically, what app do you use to get money? As a canadian, we don’t have cashapp, etc. And I don’t want to give out personal information.

From just 2 devoted boys in 48 hrs.. a good Domme knows how to reprogram any sub into a good finsub, even if theyre low or mid-level earners 💸 And looks like I’m in TOP 1% on throne, just one of my many platforms yayy

They all go around food and tech and lord they be giving me snacks and tech galore. I'll even put the switch 2 here once available cuz I DESERVE IT xD

There is literally so many dommes out there, and sometimes it kind of feels like no matter what you do your NEVER going to fully stand out from the rest😂

What is everyones best assets or what do you do to stand out from the rest?🤔 i need some inspo because even though i know im a queen it can get deflating!

Has anyone ever had their paypig buy things off of a list? I’m moving into a new apartment soon and I feel like it would be so fun to have a paypig buy things I want for the apartment off of a list. Has anyone ever done this? Or had a lot of success with it?

Of course we all love cash but are there other gifts we like on there? I’ve been looking through the clothing options and it’s overwhelming with a lot of brands I don’t recognize.