r/needadvice • u/tgci_directions • 21h ago
Life Decisions University ruined my life and I don’t know how to make it better
I started University about 4 years ago, I should be done by now, however because of some mishaps on my part and a lot of mishaps on the universities part, it seems like I cannot attend the courses I still need in order to get my degree, essentially I have failed university. I’m the only one in my family who has EVER gotten this high of an education so the pressure has been on me since birth (only child). None of my parents or other members of my family know that I can’t get my degree anymore because I know that if I told them, my father especially would be insanely disappointed and extremely angry at me (for good reasons). The only person that knows about this is my S.O. and she has her own job problems to take care of, which has made her incredibly irritable in the last few weeks to the point that whenever I bring something up, that is upsetting to me, she immediately takes it personal and gets mad at me, making me feel bad for essentially feeling bad. I have the bad feeling I’m spiraling with literally no way out, I’m a creative person and I’m genuinely really good at what i do, all the jobs that would involve that however require some form of degree, which i am not going to be able to get. I live in a European country for those wondering and im just done, I have to clue what to do anymore. Any suggestions are appreciated as I am at my wits end. Thank you for reading this if you did.