I found nudes, I found sexual dirty texts and I am completely heartbroken. A week ago, I was logging into whatsapp through my laptop. We've been sharing my laptop since his got lost. As I clicked on WhatsappWeb, I noticed that his account was already logged in, so I waited for it to load up so that I can log it out and log in mine. As it loaded, I saw the word threesome in one of the chats. I hadn't opened the chat yet but I could see the word under the name of some girl. Curiosity got the best of me so I clicked the chat and ... oi. He had deleted most of the chat but I could see that he was receiving nudes. And he had asked her if she would like to have a threesome. And that he would want one with her.

I have been with this man for 6 yrs. We are planning a wedding, its literally a month to our wedding. I feel angry and my heart is broken. I havent told him yet because of how I found out about it all. I wasnt intentionally trying to invade his privacy but after seeing that word in one of that chats, I knew I had to look through that chat. I keep crying on my own at night because I cant believe he would do that to me. I opened up my heart and my body to this man and he just handed my heart back to me, shattered ... Right now, I am not right in the head at all and my emotions are everywhere, I dont know what to do. So I am turning to you Reddit, what should I do?

TL;DR: A week ago, I found nudes and dirty texts in my fiancè's whatsapp and with a month to our wedding, I do not know what to do. I am heartbroken.

My (24F) boyfriend (30M) asked me to delete pictures with my ex since they make him uncomfortable, especially if they pop up on my phone and he happens to see them.

For context, I dated my ex 5 years ago. We were friends for a year in college, dated for a year and a half, then broke up but stayed friends. Then, we were sort of on and off for the next 4 years. Whatever we had was never strong enough to turn into something real.

I started dating my current boyfriend around 4 months ago. This was a totally unexpected, organic relationship. I love him a lot and this is the happiest I've been.

He is very understandably uncomfortable with pictures of my and my ex (not that it matters, but I don't have any risque pictures with him. just regular selfies etc). I hate us fighting about it but I am seriously having a hard time deleting photos for various reasons. 1. I am huge memory hoarder and do not want to/like to delete a single thing from my past (unless it is especially painful or traumatic to me of course) 2. I don't want to keep the photos because of my ex, but because those photos are memories from an important time of my life - the first time I lived away from home, college life, etc. 3. I actually sat down to delete them one day - hadn't looked at them in ages - but I felt so uncomfortable looking at those old photos, I just couldn't sit for half an hour to delete them.

I know there is nothing lingering that is stopping me from deleting them - it is just my discomfort with losing my past/important parts of my life. I am also feeling this more strongly I guess because this relationship got very serious very soon - we talk about marriage already - I don't mind because I love him, just get nervous sometimes. So maybe it feels even more strange to just delete huge parts of my life. Don't get me wrong, his request is completely reasonable and he has never forced me. But we always end up in a cold war or a fight and I'm tired of that. Have tried to explain these reasons to him but it doesn't work. What to do?

TIA

TL;DR: Boyfriend (very reasonably) wants me to delete pictures with my ex (1.5 yr relationship that was on&off for 3-4 years) who is still a friend. I feel uncomfortable doing it because I don't want to delete important parts of my life/my past (the first time I lived away from home for college). Not sure how to deal with this.

TL;DR: I 26(m) have been having great problems with my girlfriend(25f) due to her being anxious if she is pregnant or not and im seriously tired of having to comfort her again and again when shes overthinking.

Weve been together since i was 23, weve constantly discussed about family planning and the future, but she says she isnt ready to be pregnant yet and so of course we try to stay out of having sex, when are in the mood though the most we have done is bj, fingering and handjob. We dont do that anymore though because of this problem. She always overthinks whether shes pregnant or not (She doesnt want to be pregnant because of possible financial issues). I have had to tell her every single detail about sperm cells their survivability and the probability of her being pregnant. Even when she had a period shes still overthinking and now i had told her every single thing about periods and how they work, I feel like what im saying doesnt even matter anymore.

How should i deal with this? I am seriously tired, i have been depressed because of this and its ruining our relationship.

Maybe this is an obvious answer, but I’d like to hear some takes. My girlfriend has chronic pelvic pain that she believes is due to endometriosis. Unfortunately, the only way to diagnose and cure endometriosis is surgery. I’ll spare you the details of the insurance battle she’s going through, but just know this surgery is not covered and an appeal could take months. It’s not helping that her pain is worsening by the week and she can hardly walk without pain.

We found a very good surgeon in the next state over that is taking on her case and got her on the schedule for surgery. The issue is that they charge out of network patients $2k upfront, and the rest of the bill could be upwards of $20k.

And it’s not guaranteed to be successful in eliminating her pain. The endo could still come back within a few years if the surgeon misses anything.

My parents are wealthy and retired early. They’re no mega millionaires, but their house is about to sell for a million and they came into a lot of money when a family member passed a few years ago.

We’ve been together for 3 years and plan to get married in the next few. My parents love her like their own kid. Hearing about her issues, they offered to pay for the surgery. I haven’t told my girlfriend, but I know she would be uncomfortable accepting that much money from them, even as a gift. I can’t blame her, it does seem like a lot of money. I worry that they are only doing this to improve their relationship with me, which is somewhat strained.

Should we take the gift and be incredibly grateful?? Or will this end in us being in their debt forever? Or is it just weird in general?

TLDR: My wealthy parents want to pay for my girlfriend’s out of network surgery and we both feel guilty about it.

Am I overreacting? My husband went to fish with a coworker Saturday afternoon around 2pm and he had told me earlier that day he’d be home by 12am no biggie right? So I fall asleep at 10 thinking he’d be home soon but nope, I woke up at 3 am to him still not home.

So at this point I’m worrying since he was fishing in the mountains I’m thinking all types of possibilities and even texted his dad since he works with them I figured he’d have the coworkers #. He texts me back at like 3:30am saying he’s still out there fishing and sends me proof I do believe that part. But the issue I have is the lack of respect for me. He’s been gone all Saturday mostly so I took care of our kids, and now I’ll have to take care of them alone again today Sunday since he’ll be sleeping from being out all night fishing.

He sees no issue and when I called told me he doesn’t care if I’m mad because he had a good time out there. I’m over it and told him I’m gonna start looking for a job because I don’t wanna deal with this anymore😅 he used to do this to me when he’d go to the bars which I’m glad it’s fishing not that but it’s just the principal.

TL;DR: husband went fishing on Saturday 2pm and still isn’t home Sunday 5am, and doesn’t see an issue with how late he stayed out because he had fun

My boyfriend (18m) and I (18f) have been dating for around 5 years now. His family and my relatives are very close friends. Anytime something was going on at my house, he and his family would be there to join. We grew up together and went to the same schools. When I turned 13, he asked me out. I didn’t like him romantically, but because of our families, I said yes.

Now, we do a lot of things couples do. We go out, spend time with each other, and etc. He has always done everything he could to make me happy. I am thankful for it, and I tell him how appreciative I am. He always smiles when I thank him, and then we go on with our day. However, things have changed. He is still very nice towards me, but just a little distant.

On Friday we planned on going out. We went to the mall, ate and shop, and then I suggested we go home since it was raining hard (I don’t like it when we drive home when it’s raining). He didn’t say much but just took my hand as we got to his car.

Inside, he started the car and then turned it off. He then started to talk. He said that he loves me so much and he was always happy to ‘brag’ about our relationship to his friends. But he then talked about the issues he sees in our relationship.

1. He plans most of the dates and I don’t contribute to it (I have but it’s not as frequent)
2. His friends convinced him that I’m not interested in him/he likes me more than I supposedly do (they think my calmness is an indicator that I don’t like him)
3. He tells me he loves me a lot, but I’ve never said it back

I just kept looking at him when he said it all. I’m guessing he wanted me to say something back, but I didn’t know what to say. He then said that he knows I don’t love him. He sighed, started the car again, and drove me home. Usually, he texts/calls me when we finish our dates. But he hasn’t called me. Should I call him? It’s been two days (the longest we’ve not communicated).

Edit - I really care for boyfriend. He’s the only one in my life I feel the most comfortable with.

tl;dr - Boyfriend (18m) said that I (18f) don’t love him and hasn’t called/texted me in a while.

I (22F) have been with my boyfriend (23M) for three years, and this situation has been weighing heavily on me for the past six months. I’m looking for some outside perspectives on whether I’m overreacting or if my feelings are justified.

Back in August, my boyfriend’s family started planning a trip to Japan. At first, I thought it was just a family trip. Then, weeks later, I found out that one of his sibling's girlfriends was invited. It felt strange that only one girlfriend was included, but I tried to let it go since it seemed like a family holiday. 2 months later, I saw a text from his mom saying, “Are you sure [my name] definitely isn’t coming to Japan?” and he responded, “No, definitely not.” I had no idea she had even asked him about me joining.

I was hurt and confronted him about it. His reaction was defensive, and he said things like, “You’re a pain to be around on holiday,” “I don’t want you there because you’d ruin the trip,” and “I told my family I didn’t want you there.” He also said both the other girlfriends were going, but I was the only one left out, and that he was glad about it. This led to me completely breaking down, and I went non-verbal for hours. He dismissed my feelings, calling me immature for being upset.

My reasons for it being wrong was that he lied to me, clearly lied to his family about asking me, being completely isolated from his family and the other girlfriends (for context the girlfriends have been in the family for 10+ years, they all live in the same area and grew up there whereas I am from the other end of the country and they are all Caucasian and I’m a poc so I already feel like a minority and like I don’t fit in).

I eventually forgave him, though I still felt terrible about it. Over the last six months, we’ve argued about it repeatedly. I just wanted him to acknowledge how wrong it was and to genuinely express regret or remorse. Instead, I’ve only received what felt like empty apologies saying how sorry he was but with no action or responsibility.

This weekend, he went on the trip, and I’ve been struggling to control my emotions. The idea of him and his family and the girlfriends having dinner on holiday making memories of a life time while I’m not included feels unbearable. I feel like I’ll always be left out and that I’ll have to hear about it for the rest of my life.

When I brought it up again, he apologized, saying he wished he’d handled it all differently. He said he can’t change it now, and that he would say he wants me there but doesn’t want to make me feel worse about not being there. But it doesn’t feel like that he regrets what happened or even wishes I was there. I’m still haunted by the things he said back then, and I feel like I am not valued in his life the same way I value him.

I’m struggling with whether I’m overreacting. Am I wrong to still feel hurt by this situation? Should I just suck it up and get over it, or is it reasonable to still be upset after all this time? I love him so much and there’s a lot of reasons I’ve pushed through these feelings because he’s worth it but, I feel like he doesn’t really care about my feelings and the affect this situation has had on me and my self worth. Any advice would be appreciated.

TL;DR Not invited to a family trip with my partner and feeling left out because all s/o are going and was lied to about being invited. Am I wrong for still being upset?

I’m looking for solutions, I want to do better and want to stay in this relationship, I’m just not sure how to handle myself in these situations and could use others advice that have been in the same spot.
So I retreat to our bedroom occasionally to read. When I do, my husband comes in every 10 minutes to essentially check on me. He will ask how I am doing or he will just stand there and stare at me. It reminds me of a child looking for attention. I have tried different approaches: told him he doesn’t have to come check on me every ten minutes, told him it’s annoying, told him nothing has changed in the last 10 minutes but it doesn’t make a difference. Also, he will tickle me when I’m close to him. I hate it. I express that I hate it. I’ve told him to stop. He doesn’t. I purposely walk wide of him just to avoid it. Im going to try to explain in a talk tonight that I don’t like it. I don’t mind him touching me, I just want it to be more masculine like a protective hand on the shoulder. Does that make sense?
Lastly, what’s the opinion on slapping my butt in front of the kids? I feel like he is teaching my 8 year old son that this is appropriate behavior? Am I overreacting? I’m planning a sit down talk tonight but I don’t think it’s going to change as I’ve brought all this up before. So what can I do FOR MYSELF to get through this?

35m, 35f,

TL:DR annoyed with husband

I have known my best friend for quite some time now. She has always been there for me and I have done the same for her as well. I love her and I wouldn't give our friendship away for anything.

She has always been possessive, needy and clingy. I got out of a relationship some months ago, and I'm not ready to get into another anytime soon. I've got my own problems, studies that I want to focus on right now. I've already let her know that I'm not ready for a relationship.

Here's the weird part... she has been getting more and more possessive as each day goes by. Some of the things she does/has done:

1. Tells me I'm not allowed to have friends that are girls.

2. Gets upset if I find another girl beautiful.

3. Gets upset if I compliment another girl.

4. Gets upset if I don't reply to her texts for some time.

5. Tells me I can't have a girlfriend.

6. Insists that I call her 'darling', 'love', 'sweetheart', 'honey' etc.

7. Sent me a pic of her writing my name on various objects in her room.

8. writes my name on her wrist.

She got badly hurt some days ago and I called her 'darling', 'sweetheart' and things like that to calm her down while getting help (I wanted to be like one of those caring older brothers), but I feel like that turned on some kind of... bulb inside her. Ever since then, she has gotten uncontrollably possesive and makes sure there are no women in my life other than her.

Did I do the wrong thing there? Should I be ashamed of it? I don't know what to do if she ends up confessing... thanks a lot for reading. It means a lot to me.

TL;DR: Best friend is insanely possessive of me and does not want any other woman in my life. I'm in no place to get into a relationship right now if she ends up confessing to me and I feel like she won't take it well if I turn it down.

hi, i haven’t posted on reddit before, so my apologies if there’s issues with formatting. i’m just looking for some advice because i no longer know what to do, and ive lost all hope with this situation.

i (f20) met my now boyfriend (m20) in July. we sort of met for a second time, as we both talked when we were kids and then moved away to separate cities, and then found ourselves back in our hometown after about five years had passed. I was really excited to look into this relationship and get to know him once again, and it was really nice having somebody else who understood the feeling of being out of place after moving and coming back from a town right as high school had wrapped up.

When we first met, everything was good. I was excited to meet and get to know his friends, because I was trying to reconnect with those I hadn’t spoken to in a while, as well as meet new people in the town that I didn’t go to the same high school as (for the two years of high school that I still lived here, I went to a Catholic high school and my boyfriend and the majority of his friends went to public. Of all of his friend group, I was already friends with two of them and didn’t know the rest of them.)

The issue started after we’ve been talking for about a month. We had decided we weren’t gonna make things official until a month or so of talking had passed because we just wanted to take the time to make sure we were both ready to be in a long-term relationship. He would be invited to go to the bar with his friend group, and when the topic of me coming along came up, everybody would either make an excuse of why they could no longer go or would cancel out right. Because of this, the situation would often end with me saying I could just stay home and his entire friend group going out together without me (all of his friends and all of their girlfriends). those that had cancelled or made excuses would suddenly be able to come, and if I brought back up that I would come along now, they would go back to no longer wanting to go. I didn’t understand why I wasn’t invited and why there was an issue with me coming, but just assumed that maybe it was because we weren’t dating yet and they wanted to wait and see if we were gonna be in a relationship. Come to find out, the girls that my boyfriend had talked to or been hooking up with before me were able to come to hangouts regardless of how long they’ve been talking, some of them coming within three days of meeting him.

We made things official in late August, and he decided to have a fire with his friends, and then be the designated driver for the bar and when he told them that I wanted to come, the same issue repeated itself. The old excuses of not having room in the car didn’t really work because he was the one driving, so now they said that if I tagged along, it would take up a spot for one of his friends girlfriend’s friends that she wanted to bring with her to meet everyone (which was apparently fine and allowed) which wouldn’t be fair to her. This frustrated me because this wasn’t even a friend of the group or a girlfriend, and I had to once again give up my spot and stay home so they could go out even though it was my boyfriend driving. I didn’t understand why they were so weary about getting to know me, but tried to just keep my issues to myself because I still wanted the opportunity to maybe connect with these people in the future.

The first issue arose in about October. After a few months of this continuous cycle, I’d stopped trying to come along in general, and just decided to do my own thing going out and possibly see him and spend a bit of time with him if we ended up at the same bar. One night, my best friend (f20) and I went out on the same night him and his friends were out. For context, the main area for bars for people my age is one long block, and everybody goes between the bars there so people are often walking or outside for a smoke. We passed my boyfriend and his friend multiple times, and every single time my boyfriend wouldn’t even look at me or acknowledge me, which started to really upset me. I wasn’t assuming that I would be able to just follow him and his friends around and cling onto their group, but I thought I would at least get a hello from my boyfriend. we ended up inside the same bar as them by pure coincidence later on in the night, and the same thing happened. At this point, I was feeling pretty defeated as well as a little bit drunk and excused myself to go into the bathroom because I felt like I was going to cry and didn’t wanna cause a scene. During this time, my best friend approached my boyfriend, and told him that she thought he was being really rude, and that he was hurting my feelings and being unfair. This set him off, and I received a bunch of texts from him, saying, I was embarrassing him, and his friends. I was mortified, and texted both him and his friends, an apology, stating that I had no idea she’d say anything and that I didn’t wanna cause an issue. I do feel as though it was a bit of an overreaction from him, because my friend simply approached him on his own and pulled him to the side. after the situation had subsided, he revealed to me a couple weeks later that his friend’s (m19) girlfriend (f19) had pulled him aside before they left the bar and told him that he could confide in her with anything, or that if he wanted to send me a text, he could give her his phone and she could write up a good one to “humble me”. I found this extremely disrespectful, as I didn’t even know this girl and I wasn’t understanding why she felt the need to be involved or try to get my boyfriend to confide in her in things negative about me. another thing that makes me weary about this girl is my boyfriend and our mutual friend (m20) got fairly close over the winter and started hanging out as a trio often, even going on a trip together. On this trip, our friend confided in me that this girl had at one point, said that she found my boyfriend attractive when he first moved back, and I’m wondering if that has anything to do with her specific issue with me. she also has a constant habit of “accidentally“ leaving her phone in my boyfriend‘s car after the bar and needing him to drop it off to her house in the morning, insisting that it just be him that comes and if it is me, she comes out with a very dirty look or sends her boyfriend out to get it.

after this situation, I was completely disinterested in, trying to get to know his friends, and feeling very discouraged. The same cycle repeated itself in which they would make plans to go out and the second my name was mentioned. Nobody wanted to come anymore, so I stopped taking it to heart and stopped asking if I could come altogether, accepting that I’ve done something at some point to rub his friends the wrong way and there was clearly nothing I could do about it.

The second situation came in December. I had scored last minute tickets to a concert. I’ve been wanting to go to for a while that was out of province, so I went with my friend (f20) and my boyfriend offered to watch my cats while I was gone. He asked if he could have the two friends that I knew over, and I said that they were more than welcome to be there. Later on in the night, one of the friends had sent me a snap and his friend and the girlfriend that had mentioned weird things to him before we’re also at my house. I texted my boyfriend and said that I would appreciate if he let me know who was all coming into my house while i as away next time, but that they were more than welcome.

The next weekend, I was invited out with the entire group, including the friend from before and his girlfriend. Quite a few ended up cancelling last minute, which was expected, however those two did show up. The entire night, I tried to make conversation, even offering to buy a round of drinks for the table, but was completely ignored. I would try to say something directly to either one of them to break the ice or strike up a conversation, and instead of responding or acknowledging what I said, they would just stare blankly and then go back to their conversation or start a conversation with somebody else. I was very confused and hurt, so I just focussed on another friend I bumped into at the bar for the rest of the night and didn’t mention anything going home.

I once again stop being invited, and at this point I finally asked my boyfriend if Id done something wrong. he told me that the reason his friends felt uncomfortable around me was because of two people I had hung out with when I first moved back because they didn’t like them. This confused me, because I hadn’t been friends with these people in months and was very vocal about the fact that I no longer hung out with them. Another thing that made the situation even more confusing is that the girlfriend (f20) used to be friends with these people as well. I assumed because of this, she would understand my position and understand that I didn’t know what these people were like when I first started hanging out with them and had immediately cut them off the second any weird drama began.

fast-forward to now. We’ve been dating for nearly 8 months, and the same issue just continues to repeat itself. I’m not invited, when I ask if I’ve done anything wrong instead of getting that excuse, I now get random answers or just told that he doesn’t know, but he doesn’t wanna bring it up and cause problems with his friends. I’m very hurt because all I was ever trying to do was get to know his friends, and I have no idea if I’ve done something to rub them the wrong way. As I’m writing this post, there are plans to go out tonight that I am once again not invited to. This time around, my boyfriend blatantly said to my face that he was going out and that I shouldn’t bother asking to come because I’m not invited. I confided in a close friend about this situation, and he offered up a solution that he said I wouldn’t want to hear but needed to consider. he said that maybe there was a chance that my boyfriend was saying negative things about me to his friends, or he was the one saying that he didn’t want me to come or that I wasn’t invited and just flipping the story to me so that I wouldn’t tag along. This upset me because if it’s true, I don’t know why he would be doing this or how to even salvage the situation at all.

i’m at my wits end, and I don’t know what to do. I really wish that I could find a solution to this, because it would be nice to be able to put myself out there with new people as well as be able to attend the various fires, get-togethers, and hang outs that they often throw.

another reason this is a concern for me is because my boyfriend is about to go back to work. In the summer, he works for up to 12 hours a day, and has only one day off per week. Last summer, he would often use that one day off to see his friends when I wouldn’t be invited and because of it, I often only got to see him on long days after 12 hour shift and he would simply drop in and go home, which I understood. I just really don’t want the same issues to repeat itself this summer where I’m only seeing my boyfriend once or twice per week for less than an hour and he’s continually using his one day off to go to the bar with his friends and make it very clear that I’m not welcome.

for a small amount of additional back up information, my boyfriend has never really stood up for me in these conversations, and simply takes their discomfort as an immediate note. I haven’t seen him ask them what the issue is, and when they ask to go to the bar and he brings my name up and they immediately get weird about it, he doesn’t ask why and doesn’t just bring me along anyways.

Does anybody have any advice or any idea ideas as to what I could’ve done or how to solve this situation?

thanks for reading, eager to hear advice :)

TL;DR: my boyfriend‘s friends hate me for no reason and I don’t understand why. I don’t know what to do anymore. I need help knowing if this situation is worth salvaging or if something is happening that I’m not considering.

So over the course of the past year and a half I have had some concerning thoughts about experiences with other women.

Background: I have been with my partner since we were in our late teens, we are two very different people but we seem to balance one another, I'm more of the fun, outgoing one and she is much more reserved, I have experienced and done a lot over the last 7 years with her and I love her very dearly, she is also my best friend. I wasn't initially wanting a relationship when we first met as I had just come out of another long term relationship, my ex cheated on me.

Anyhow over the past year and a half I've had some strange inner feelings of wanting to experience more before I settle down and commit the rest of my life or having kids and getting engaged. I thought they would go away but they haven't and Im truly concerned that I'm going to hurt her if these feelings don't go away. It is very important to me that I don't hurt her, because I know that pain.

Last night I went out to a club with friends and ended up dancing with a french girl all night (I was rolling), I remained very careful of not crossing any lines that could possibly be considered cheating and just enjoyed the music on the love drug dancing with this girl. She left a bit earlier then me and I continued by myself for a bit before I left the club, as I walked out I noticed she was outside ordering an Uber and it was her first and only day in the city I live in (flying out that day), she asked if I could take her to a sunrise spot and I reluctantly said yes, as we walked she flooded me with compliments - I took her to a park and we sat together watching the sun rise over the harbour, holding each other as it was cold. She grabbed my hand and held it and At this moment as I looked at this beautiful girl something sparked inside of me, I realized I have never felt this feeling before, It felt adventurous and like nothing mattered at that exact moment and these are experiences I truly believe I need to have before I can commit myself to one person forever. Nothing further happened with the French girl, I let her go home although she asked to come back to mine.

I have only ever been in long term commited relationships since I was 17 years old, but it's always been important to me that I experience as much as I can when I'm young, so I don't regret missing out when I'm old, these include having experiences with women. My partner and I are getting to an age now where it's time to get serious.

I don't know what to do.. Do we have a break, so I can grow up and realize how silly my thoughts are but possibly lose the best thing that has happened to me, do I tell her about these feelings im having, all I know is I cannot keep doing this as it'll only get worse.

I feel like such a horrible human and never thought I'd have these thoughts, let alone put myself in a situation where I could possibly cheat.

TDLR: Constant thoughts that I have not experienced enough with other women to commit myself completely to my current partner.

My BF 25M and I 22F have been together for 4 years. We're at the point where we're both starting serious jobs and we want to move in together. But one thing is holding me back. For the entirety of our relationship there's been the same hurdle to overcome again and again. I need reassurance, and my BF struggles to give me that. I guess reassurance is a love language of mine that he doesn't speak. Literally.

The first time I brought it up, it was in regards to him never complimenting me. I would spend hours getting ready, doing my hair a different way, putting on a nice new dress. He wouldn't say anything. So one time I told him it made me a little insecure. He said I get enough compliments from other people, he didn't think it mattered if he gave them too. He wasn't wrong, I often get compliments, but I don't care about other people's opinions, I want to hear it from him. And after that, I started noticing it in other things.

We usually call once a day but he never lets me hear from him otherwise. No good morning texts, no goodnight texts. When I go on a trip, no safe flight texts nor does he tell me he misses me or anything. For celebrations I usually make him a card. He's not very artistic so I wouldn't expect the same, but he doesn't even buy new cards, he uses old ones he has from museums or holidays or whatever. One time for valentine's day he literally gave me a card from a postcard book I had gifted him one time. He'll give me flowers for valentine's day but not throughout the rest of the year.

I've brought all this up many times but we always come to the same point. I tell him I feel neglected in this way and I'd like a little more reassurance, a little more intention. Then I console him because he tells me he's trying very hard and he doesn't know what else to do. He'll say he does think of me but it doesn't come up in him to tell me.

I love him so much and I hate to keep hurting him by bringing this up, but his lack of thoughtfulness also hurts me. I want to build a future with him but it's hard when I'm the only one who thinks about that future. In every other way I feel very connected to him, he understands me and sometimes he will say or do something that makes me think he really is listening, or I'll start to question how important these small things really are that I put so much pressure on.

It's like I get stuck in this disappointment because when I dress up, or I go away, or I drop a hint that tulips are back in season, I build up anticipation even though I know that my expectations are too high.

Sorry for the rambling. How can I find a middle ground with him? How can we break this cycle? Is there a way that I can remind him without it feeling like I'm the only one putting in the work and thus it feeling ingenuine? Or do I need to work toward letting this need go?

TLDR: My bf doesn't give me the reassurance I ask of him and we're stuck in a cycle of disappointment.

TL;DR! My girlfriend had a fight with my friend at work and wants me to text her to suggest she changes jobs.

I’ve been in my (29M) current relationship for 9 months. I love my girlfriend (23F), things are going well despite the occasional argument, nothing special. I also have a female best friend (29F) who I've known longer than my partner, but there has never been any desire for something more between us

At the beginning of the relationship, I introduced my girlfriend to my friend, they got along, and sometimes my girlfriend kept in more frequent contact with my friend than I did. I work at the same company as my girlfriend. She’s been there longer than me, recommended me during recruitment, and that's how I started working there. The same thing happened in March with my friend. My GF recommended her during recruitment, and now the three of us work at the same company, though in different positions.

Last week, I was off work because I was on sick leave, and something happened that I had considered might happen one day, but I didn’t think it would be now. My girlfriend and my friend had such a huge falling out at work that my girlfriend no longer sees any possibility of continuing a relationship with my friend. After hearing both sides, reading screenshots of messages sent after the argument at work, I believe my girlfriend is more to blame for the situation, and I feel bad about it. I know I should be loyal to the person I call my partner, but some toxic things that came from her during their argument make it hard for me to look at the situation differently.

Three days after their argument, I returned to work, and my friend went on sick leave, which we didn’t know about. My girlfriend was stressed at the thought of possibly running into my friend at work, but as I mentioned earlier, she was on sick leave and didn’t come in. My girlfriend cannot imagine working with my friend any longer. She says that either one of them has to change jobs.

My girlfriend accuses me of being blinded and always defending my friend, while I accuse her of thinking that anything other than agreeing with her is defending my friend. What's the truth? I don’t know.

And now, to the point. Yesterday, my girlfriend asked me to suggest to my friend that she should change jobs, which seems like a completely out of touch to me, but that’s what she suggested. What should I do?

There’s this guy I met at work. I started my job more than half a year ago, and I’d see him around the office here and there, but we only started talking properly over the past few weeks. And I’ve just grown to really like him.

It’s not just the way he talks to me—it’s how he interacts with everyone. He’s confident, honest, warm, and just… refreshing. Every time I talk to him, I feel lighter. Happier. It’s like he’s this small ray of sunshine in my life, and lately, when I’m not around him—on weekends or after work—I catch myself just wanting to talk to him more. Constantly.

But I don’t have his number. We’re not that close. And I don’t even know if he sees me as a friend. What’s been messing with my head is that I convinced myself I needed to be in a relationship with him. Then I paused and thought: Do I even know him that well? Why do I feel like this?

And I realized… it’s because I just want to keep talking to him. I want to know more about him. I want to be around him. All the time.

So what is that? Is that just friendship? Or am I genuinely crushing on him? Because it’s been getting more intense the past few days. He hasn’t left my mind. It’s actually driving me insane. The idea of him liking someone else—or being with someone else—makes me feel sick. And I hate that I feel this way.

He’s a little younger than me—maybe a year—which also adds to this weird feeling like maybe I shouldn’t like him. And he’s my colleague, which makes things even messier. I know a lot of people at work like him because he’s just that friendly, confident type of person. So maybe he’s just being nice to me. Maybe I’m not special to him at all.

But I want to know—does he even think about me the way I think about him? Or am I just someone he talks to in passing? I overanalyze everything—his body language, how he looks at me, how often we talk, how he says things—and I just spiral. I feel like I’m constantly trying to figure out if he cares even a little bit. And if he doesn’t… then what does that say about me?

I feel so consumed by it. It’s horrible. I don’t know if I’m lonely or actually in love with the idea of him or what. What am I even meant to do. Help me what do I do I feel like a headless chicken.

TLDR: I’ve developed intense feelings for a guy at work who I only started talking to recently. I don’t know if he sees me as anything more than a coworker. I find myself constantly thinking about him, missing him on weekends, and wanting to talk to him all the time. I can’t tell if it’s a real crush or if I’m just lonely and craving connection. I’m overanalyzing everything he does and it’s messing with my head. I feel like I’m going crazy not knowing if he thinks about me at all.

I have been seeing a guy for about a month who I really like -- so far, we share similar values and seem to be compatible emotionally and sexually. We met completely by chance when I wasn't looking for any sort of romantic connection but we immediately clicked.

We've gone on 6-7 dates and they've all been great - so fun and we have a ton in common. We both expressed we wanted to take things slowly and get to know each other.

But the thing is - right now, my life is kind of a dumpster fire. I have A LOT happening and not a lot of free time. I'm working a lot and have a ton of after hours work events coming up and a ton of deadlines, need to find a new place to live within a month, and haven't been taking the best care of myself / dealing with depression. I also recently got in trouble at work for my issues with lateness because I have been sleeping terribly.

I really like spending time with this guy - he's been understanding of everything and we always have a great time together. So far, I could see him as a potential long term partner.

Anyway - despite how much I like him, I realized this week that I am overwhelmed and really need to take some time to focus solely on finding a new place and moving and fixing my sleep schedule and routine so I don't lose my job. My priorities are out of whack and I need to reset.

I think it will probably take me about 4-5 weeks to get my shit sorted out.

How do I communicate this to him in a way where it doesn't sound like I'm making up an excuse? I fully intend to see him again once my life calms down.

TL;DR: My life is in absolute chaos right now and I'm extremely stressed out and not myself. Spending time with a guy I am really into is like an escape from the stress of real life but it distracts me from pressing issues I need to address asap. I need to put my own oxygen mask on over the next 4-5 weeks. How do I communicate this to him in a way where it doesn't sound like I'm making up an excuse?

Tldr My bffs boyfriend "confessed" to me at a gathering and told me that he has been thinking about me and the times we had before we both got into relationships, and now being with my bf feels weird

I (f18) have had a bf (M18) for a year now and Its been great, I'm slightly insecure and Suffer from retroactive jealousy since my bf was my first and I was his 7th, tho I've tried my best to get over it nothing really helped much. I at some point thought maybe we should break up because the thought of him sleeping with other people haunted me and i felt he didn't deserve that as he haven't done anything wrong. But this thought scared me because I really love him and I was scared I wouldn't find anyone that would make me feel like he does

Yesterday I was at a gathering with a lot of my friends including my bff (f18) and her bf (M18) who well call Danny. I was there before my boyfriend as he had to help his dad with something before the gathering. For a litlle context her bf had a thing for me before they started dating and we were talking a lot at that time, then I meet my bf and we started dating then he started dating my bff, later on my bff did cheat on him but they are still together. Anyway, so we were all having fun and Danny was making some weird comments like when we were playing a drinking game I asked if he could drink my drink because he was sitting next to me because I didn't like the taste and he said something like "well I'm not your boyfriend so I can't drink it now can I?" And laughed. I didn't think much at the time as I was a little tipsy. Then he pulled me aside some hours later and asked some questions about me and my boyfriends sex life like if I has ever finished and I said "no" he then said "I always make sure (bffs name) finishes before I do"

then we went to another room to talk more as I felt it was awkward to talk about that infront of a lot of people so we went to one of the rooms (sketchy i know, door was open tho) he then asked me if i had thought anything about him when me and my bf were together and i answered "no" since i haven't. we then talked about how my bff cheated on him and I said "you're a great guy, like you're genuinely a good person and you don't deserve that. I know you know that you don't deserve it but she doesn't deserve that you're salty just because you can't break up with her. You know it won't work out and I know you'll find the right person eventually" And he then out of nowhere went on a rant about how he had been thinking about me for some time when they were dating and that he loved his gf but couldn't stop thinking about me and that I was a great person and how he knows I'm the right person for him. I just sat a litlle dumbfounded and in shock and he said he didn't wanna ruin me and my bfs relationship but if we were to ever break up he really wanted to talk about things as he missed the times we had

He called me beautiful and talked about how there was no girl as beautiful as me. He sounded so genuine it was almost heartwarming in a way..

Now to the problem. I no longer think about my bfs body count and feel sick, I feel nothing about it. Being with him and sleeping feels almost weird? And sex feels like nothing, not boring just nothingness. I have no clue why I feel like this or why my bffs BF would say that to me?? I keep saying it's alcohol but he really didn't drink much at all and kept throughout the night saying how he really did mean what he said

Does anyone have an explanation as to why I suddenly feel like this or why he would just say this?

I, ‘21 F’ have been with my boyfriend ‘24M’ for nearly 6 years. we live together and this is a very serious relationship. Per him i should be expecting a ring in the next year.

Very early on in our relationship I told him I was uncomfortable (viewed as cheating) with porn/strip clubs etc., he agreed that that’s not stuff that he was into.

about 2 years into our relationship I found out he had made a second Tiktok account and his likes were filled with half naked girls. I confronted, he didn’t deny anything and deleted.

in the meantime, there have been several instances where i’ve caught him watching videos and (have known he was following OF girls) and I would go back to check his following they were gone the next day.

finally a year ago I confronted him again about the following of the OF girls and he deleted everything from the public eye (i don’t check his phone).

recently I glanced over and saw that he was still searching these girls up.

TL;DR!- the past few “confrontations” haven’t truly been a conversation and/or in person. he hasn’t seen my hurt from it until recently. He has now deleted tiktok and unfollowed EVERY female from instagram (i did not ask for these things to happen). I don’t know how to trust him again

Bf 29m had a Grindr before but we were on a break I 26f Still feel insecure sometimes it’s been happening lately in the mornings I don’t know why but I feel as if he has it again we’ve been dating for 4 years. I don’t want to break his privacy I don’t want to look at his phone. At the same time I feel pathetic bc I feel if I did find it I’ll probably stay to work it out but I did that before and it did not so I won’t if he did. Any tips how to stop feeling insecure? I never care if he gets on my phone I have nothing to hide but when I ask him if I can get on his phone for hw he sometimes hovers over me and that makes me overthink…

TLDR: how can someone stop feeling insecure in a relationship

My partner (20M) and I (20F) have been very close friends for four years, dating for nearly a year, (long distance for 6 months of that) and are now dealing with stonewalling and criticism. Everything was good until he came back from military training, and suddenly our communication is way, way off due to the schedule change. I can imagine he’s also under a lot of stress because he’s having to learn to re-integrate into civilian life, and they also break you down in training. I’m very afraid because this relationship is extremely important to me and I really want it to work.

tl;dr partner and I are going through a rough time right now and I’m seeing two of the Gottman’s four horsemen

(24 f) questioning my man (M) Jokes

So the person I'm talking with always joking teasing...we had known for each other one year...but since this is the person I like...one time...we were talking about his vulnerable amd he said when he paid off his debt he gonna move back to my state...I did asked a sensitive question what is this debt for..and he said " it for hooker and blow" i know it a joke, but if you like someone, would you joke like this? Is this disrespect or am I sensitive. Please advise :) I don't mind he in debt...but I just feel sad ..that...uk

TL;DR: I know my feeling is valid, but I don't know if this is red flag or i'm being sensitive. I grew up in a very reserved culture, and trying to have more open minded but what is the boundary?

One thing I've noticed in my life is that after people have kids, nobody cares about anything or anyone anymore with the exception of their own kids - which does makes sense in a way. It seems like most of the friends one has acquired in their twenties were actually just a "stepping stone" to get to the real thing. When people get what they want (i.e. a partner and their desired career path), they withdraw to themselves and usually start a family.

I've read somewhere that our societies (western societies) are work-based. There is a lot of thought that if someone is keeping you behind, lose them. You tend to judge people on their merit, and if they cannot keep up, it's "all-for-yourself" mentality. Every time we socialize, we need to have "news" to share, otherwise....why bother? 

As somebody who actually loves having people around me, this was a hard lesson for me. It feels like society forces me to concentrate on my career because everybody else does too. I'll give you an example :

When I prioritized "relationships" , you know what happened ? I lost myself. Because they prioritized their job and their partner - so I got left behind. This forced me to do the same, suggesting that our relationships are based off contextual utility. If I am not useful to people, I will have no meaningful relationships. Hence, I now will do the same : Work on my desired career path and start a family. i would love to meet people regularly and "have fun" and a big family but this seems to be discouraged.

TLDR: Thought people want to socialize just for the sake of it but had to learn that everything is based in utility, thereby prioritizing oneself which I now want to do as well because I am forced to.

Only three times in our whole 2 year relationship have I said no to a specific sexual kink. Which otherwise plays a huge role in our sex life at least 90% of the time.

Partner was lovely and understanding at first saying "of course, I'm here for you, I'm not here to push on your boundaries. I understand" But then either a few hours or days later has said the following:

1. "I feel something was snatched away"

2. Sulked and went quiet then said "I feel like noone cares about me. I feel self destructive".

3. "I feel shut down"

When I have brought up that this subtly underines my boundaries. Again, he's nice, kind loving and understanding at first but then I've had a barrage of:

"I can't help how you choose to see things"

"it's like you're trying to control the narrative by seeing it that way when that's not what I meant. I need to keep myself safe"

"I would let you share whatever you want at any time. I need to make sure it's fair and that I can share my feelings"

"it's not for you to act on. It's just my feelings. See, what happens when you share feelings is, it's just data. Has noone told you that before? It's not for you to act on. I've been to years of therapy"

"I do so, so much for you I'm always checking in at every moment. I even ask if it's ok to hold your hand. I'm burning myself out always thinking of the right thing to say"

"I didn't say it right after you said no, what happens is when you're in conversation. It's just 2 people sharing feelings. Have you not had that before?"

Am I just over reacting?

TLDR Think I'm completely backed into a corner with my partner. When I say "no" to things he puts his feelings onto it and when I say anything about it he says he can't help how I choose to see it.

You: 24-F.

Boyfriend: 23-M.

Length of relationship: 7 - 13 months.

This is hypothetical, so just say what comes to mind.

Again, pretend this is you and say how you'd react if you hypothetically experience this...

Let's say bf's mom, dad, uncle and a distant grandpa were there, and were smiling and being sociable, but your bf kept a pokerface and spoke very little. His 14y/o brother was playing PS5 on the side whilst you guys talked and bf was more interested in glancing at the game than the parent's questions regarding your relationship.

You were going at it with him for 7 months (that's how long ago he asked, but you knew him for around a year in total).

He knows most of your fam, but you don't know his due to his evasive behavior when the question comes up, but you managed to hold his throat and get him to drive you to his fam's house one Saturday since you wanted.

Again, he's 23M, you're 24F — this is the first time you're meeting with his fam.

When you guys arrived at their place, he was being too relaxed, no hugs, no kisses nor any of that apart from a brief intro of everyone to you. Although he said he was gone for 9 months, he came into their house and moved around like he owned the place, got whoevers left over pizza and coca cola from the fridge and said he'd buy them another one then began eating whilst the discussion was going on.

And by "discusssion", lets say it was mostly just you answering his parent's questions and making small talk while bf was stuffing his face with pizza, and giving little to no answers or vague ones.

This is odd behavior for him, since he seems too disinterested and relaxed. You know him to be someone whom is exciting, witty and fun to be around. He's an entrepreneur doing sales for businesses, which requires relationship building, so you know he's sociable enough and has the enthusiasm... But now, he seems more boring than a dishwasher, while you are smiling warmly at everyone and giving him the death stare (but he doesn't notice or is intentionally ignoring it).

And then, he just gets up, kisses your forehead and motions that he's heading over to the TV to play with his little brother on the PS5 while you are left alone with his mommy and Daddy plus those two others (only a few feet away tho from tv).

And he left mid-sentence, while his father was speaking, without bothering with the others. This behavior is odd as well since when he is at parties, he always exits gracefullly, letting the others know in a smooth manner. But now? He's acting as if he doesn't even care.

The others tried "catching up" with him, but he either brushed them aside or gave vague answers with a look of disinterest. His uncle asked about his Tesla (the one you two came in) and he lied that it was a friend's. He then looks at you, and you look at him, then he gave you the look that says "if they ask you, please play along"... You averted his eyes, then scrunch your forehead and blink rapidly to make sense of things.

You know it was a lie because the Tesla was his. His friends know it is his, and he has a few other cars as well.

He didn't look the others in the eyes much. It was either his pokerface or just a swift and straightforward response. The only time he smiled while you were there was when his little brother kept beating him in a fight game.

When you two got up to leave, he took out bundles of cash and handed them out to his mother, father, uncle, and distant grandpa individually. He did it so suddenly and left the others dumbstruck on how to respond. When his uncle got over the surpise and wanted to say something (probably thank him), he averted their eyes and said "don't mention it" dismissively. He walked out quickly too right after handing over the cash. You were already at the doorway waiting for him as he did this.

His mother came out with teary eyes shortly after, but a smile was on her face. The father and uncle, and little brother came out as well to wave goodbye (mostly to you, as bf didn't look back nor did he wave at them — again, this is odd behavior for someone like your bf whom is usually very sociable).

Upon reflection, he seemed very cold towards his family, and when you tried probing him about his behavior on the ride back to his apartment, he said, "i already told you that i don't like talking about my family."

You two then spent the ride being silent, with you looking out your window side.

The next day, he took you to a cinema and a fancy restaurant to apologize, but he still didn't talk about his family. You seem happy tho at the end.

...

TL;DR = BF is cold when with his family but pretty social and witty in front of other people. What's your reaction?

I wonder what others might think if a girl confessed first?

I mean, I don't know if I can call it a struggle? But it's rarely.....I really mean, RARELY that I get interested to someone.

I tried to ask if its okay to give him something on Valentine's day, which he said yes. I did gave him a gift like I had initially said I would before February 14. I did that and moved on. But someone said to me(this someone was present when I gave the gift to that person. I am so brave that I did it while someone was around lol 😂) that it is a tradition to them that they'll return the gift by next month, but I didn't tried to think more deeply into it. All I wanted was to give a gift and move on with my life after that—like, back to normal me.

What I didn't expect was him to return what I gave to him.......to which I thought of it negatively. I mean, it was my first time giving a gift on a Valentine's Day🥹 he gave me almost exactly the same thing I gave to him which it came to me that he's returning what I gave to him, because he doesn't like it.

I shared this to a close friend(a decade long term friend) which she says that the person was returning the effort that I did. Instead of thinking of it as a bad tjing, I should probably ask this person out like dinner and stuffs. I should take all chances since this person seems to reciprocate to me......which I'm actually falling for this suggestion. I mean, it's tempting to do it😅

TL;DR: I wanted to know from other's perspective, what would you be thinking if a girl asked you out like for a dinner?

PS: just so you know, this person I was interested to was a japanese😅 and I am not🙂

So, I (20F) have been dating a guy (26M) for 5 months. We met on a Discord server and I really enjoyed talking to him, and he felt the same. We started chatting there and slowly fell in love with each other. But we decided to take things slow and not rush anything. We used to chat all day and night, frequently calling each other on Discord. The more we talked, the more attached I became.

After a month of talking, we decided to share our Instagram handles. We started sending each other reels constantly, and everything felt so good. At first, he used to ask me for my pictures daily, saying he wanted to start his day with my face and that he liked looking at me. So, I used to send him pictures regularly.

In the beginning, I was a bit immature, and we did get into a lot of arguments. They weren’t major, but I still hated arguing with him. He was so sweet, kind, caring, and very loving. He made me laugh, flirted with me daily, and always made me blush. ‎

‎But I was hiding a secret from him. I was really falling deeply in love with him, and since I wanted to marry him someday, I felt I needed to tell him the truth before things got too serious. So at the end of December, I asked him if he could call me because I had something serious to tell him. He said okay and called me at 8 PM. That’s when I told him that I was divorced. ‎

‎He was really shocked—which was totally understandable. I told him it was okay if he wanted to leave me, but he said he loved me and that it didn’t matter whether I was divorced or not. He also opened up about his past relationship and how his ex hurt him a lot and gave him trauma. I promised him that no matter what, I’d treat him right and never leave him. ‎

‎I asked him if he was really serious about this relationship, because I wanted to let my family know about him. I was seriously in love and wanted to marry only him. He said he was serious too and wanted to marry me someday, but said we should first get to know each other more, and then involve our families—which I agreed to, we exchange our number's and started talking in WhatsApp and started to do normal call. ‎

‎But after that call that day, he started becoming a lot busier. Now, it’s hard to even talk to him through texts, and our calls have also started to lessen. He would text me early in the morning, but when I replied, he wouldn’t even read my texts for hours. I understood that he was really busy and didn’t have time, and I didn’t point it out because I knew he didn’t do it intentionally. ‎

‎But still, I had to literally beg him to call me. Most of the time, he’d say no, saying he hardly had any time to talk. He started changing a lot over these past 3 months. He stopped asking for my pictures, he stopped giving me time. I know he was really busy, but couldn't he at least send me a single text saying he’d be busy all day, and maybe only available at night? That would’ve been enough for me. But he never did that. ‎

‎He also stopped telling me where he was going or who he was with. He would go out with friends or family and I’d only find out after I asked him. He became really moody and started talking harshly and rudely, which hurt me a lot. I would cry at night sometimes after reading his messages because of how much he had changed. ‎

‎I tried many times to communicate with him, but he always avoided the conversation. He hardly ever opened up about what he was feeling, and it started becoming harder and harder for me to deal with. I never wanted to accuse or blame him—I just wanted him to understand me and my feelings. I just wanted to tell him how his behavior was hurting me, but he always took it personally and would stop texting me until I messaged him first. ‎

‎And since you know he was so busy, it was hard to talk to him during the day. So whenever he did message me, I’d instantly reply—no matter what I was doing or how busy I was. Just one minute of talking to him was enough for me. I never asked much from him—just love, loyalty, reassurance, and honesty. ‎

‎Some of his behavior felt really double-standard and hypocritical. Whenever he didn’t see my messages for 5–6 hours, it was because he was busy. But if I did the same, he’d accuse me of intentionally ignoring him. He even said I’m immature and overly sensitive. And I agree—I used to be immature, maybe I still am, but I’ve really been trying to change for him. ‎

‎Whatever he asked me to do—whether it was sending nudes, videos, or voice notes—I tried to do it. But sometimes I just couldn’t, because of privacy reasons. I live with my family, so it’s hard to take intimate pictures of myself. Still, I tried my best. But he’d still say I don’t value him enough or don’t give him priority, and that really hurts… because I was doing everything I could to please him. ‎

‎I’m not saying I’m perfect or that I’ve never made mistakes. I’ve made plenty—maybe they weren’t big, but whenever I did mess up, I instantly apologized. But he never, ever accepted his own faults. He always tried to make himself look like a saint, constantly saying he never does anything wrong. ‎

‎Everything was going well and we were both happy. Then one day, while we were teasing and joking around, he said he wanted 3 more wives (we are both Muslim, and in Islam, men are allowed to marry up to 4 women). It did hurt me, but I didn’t take it seriously because I thought he was just teasing me. I thought he’d drop the topic eventually, but he kept bringing it up again and again. ‎

‎Sometimes I got mad and asked him to stop saying that or I wouldn’t talk to him. He said he was just joking to tease me, so I let it go and didn’t say much more. Over the five months, we’ve had arguments and misunderstandings, but we always ended up coming back to each other and starting fresh. ‎

‎Fast forward to a few days ago—he brought up the topic of having four wives again while we were talking. This time I had enough. I finally confronted him and asked directly if he truly wanted multiple wives. I told him if the answer was yes, then he could leave right now because I’m not okay with sharing my man, and I’ll never accept him marrying other women. ‎

‎That led to an argument. He didn’t text me the whole day until I sent him a good night message, which he replied to at 4 AM. I texted again asking if he’d had lunch, and he mockingly replied, “Main lunch nahi karta, ayasi karta hoon.” Then he said he was going out of state for a vacation and that he’d tell me his decision—whether he wants multiple marriages or not—after 10 days. ‎

TL;DR: I (20F) have been dating a guy (26M) for 5 months. Things were amazing at first, but he slowly became distant and hurtful. I’m feeling confused and hurt, trying to figure out if this relationship is still worth it.

‎ps: we are both in long distance relationship , he was from udaipur ( rajasthan) I'm from Kolkata ( west bengal)