I'm flying through this shit like a it's a water slide, and it's hard to make it stop.
I'm in my mid 30's, probably ugly, and my whole life I've been invisible to women. Just zero response when I walk in the room, like I'm actually transparent. If I talk with them in a friendly manner I'm stone walled with an insincere "totally" before they turn their body away from me, or simply walk the other direction. If I'm introduced through friends or coworkers things go a lot better, unless I show even the briefest, most mild form of flirtatious energy. Then they'll shut down and stop talking to me.
I'll take a brief beat to mention that I'm not socially inept. I've been described as gregarious, funny and confident by most who know me. When I do land dates I get lots of compliments about "not being awkward" like so many other guys, and I'm a good dancer who has a high taste level. I make six figures and create art in my free time. I have interests.
Despite this dating apps were abysmal when I first tried them in my 20's, and I would have to pay money to use them in any meaningful way. Just swiping nonstop, sunrise to sunset, until any progress was made. Over the course of a year I went on 19 first dates, and I would have gladly gone on a second date with any of these women. They all ghosted me, despite us having a great time together.
Pushing past this severe level of rejection I eventually found myself in a LTR, somehow. It lasted five years. She was a probably bipolar alcoholic who ended things when she gave me a horrific ultimatum - let other guys fuck her, and let her peg my ass, or she walks. I said no, and she spent the last month staying in our apartment, going out on dates and screwing half the town before crawling back in bed with me. She would say she loved me and that we should stay friends all while I cried and begged her to stop. "She" is trans now and has more than a few partners in Buschwick.
I recently left another five year relationship that ended just as traumatically, with her cheating on me for years and gaslighting me about it. I only found out about it because one of "our" friends who she was fucking drunkenly confessed to me, and also told me about at least three other guys we all know. Deep down I always suspected this and tried to have honest conversations with her about it - though I got nothing but lies and emotional manipulation in return. She's currently trying to buy back my love with expensive gifts. I've read similar stories from people here on Reddit and sometimes wonder if we're dating the same girl.
Anyways, I'm kind of just done with women now. They've never shown me anything but disdain and disrespect, no matter how I approach the situation. I can think of at least three other girls I used to date who casually cucked me or left for other men, sometimes even introducing them to me. I sit alone at bars most nights and don't bother trying anymore. Every now and then I look up from my drink, and through a haze of sadness I see something not meant for me. A woman glowing and smiling from ear to ear, leaning in and touching a knee, arrested by attraction. The man she's talking to is usually tall, fit, or a combination of those things. My body begins to buzz with a dense feeling of resentment as I realize I've never seen this look on a woman's face in my life. At least not directed at me. I have to steal it away from the shadows in a brief glimpse. When I hear women say that men are superficial I scream inside.