Hi guys, I made a new account for advice because I really have no one. Please try not to heavily mention how much of a true idiot I am. My boyfriend insisted on not using a condom when I backed out and did it anyway when I changed my mind, yes I know im stupid please spare your lectures. He’s broke (Literally like 10$ in his bank account) and I don’t know what to do. I’m in a heavy religous family, and both my parents are abusive. So telling them is not an option. What do I do? I’ve been lost the whole past few days and im an emotional wreck, my boyfriend isint Much help. I’ve been in bed refusing to eat just thinking that im doomed. How would i even terminate the pregnancy without my parents knowing? I work from home and really don’t have any friends so School and home are the only places I go so I can’t say im going anywhere. Any advice or words of guidance would be a huge help

Every morning when I want to clean, workout or shower, he hugs me. When I do stuff like that, I want to be left alone and not touched. If I say anything to him about not wanting to be touched at all some days, he'll automatically assume I don't love him anymore. It seems like no matter how hard I try to explain I don't want to be touched, he feels rejected and gets upset. He starts to say things like "so I guess we are like every other couple who can keep our hands off each other." How can I explain that I don't like being touched when focusing on things without him getting upset?

I also feel like I can't do anything without him getting upset over it. If he doesn't get hugs after a period of 20 minutes, he gets upset, which makes it hard to do things I like, like practice my singing, go on TikTok, social media, etc. If I enjoy anything that's not him, he gets upset. I try to incorporate these things to make it fun for him, like getting him to tell me if my singing is off, tell him about recent TikTok drama, but he doesn't seem to be into it. How do I ask for alone time if he gets upset that I need it since he doesn't enjoy things I like?

My partner and I haven’t had sex in about 2 months. He was out of town visiting his family and then Ramadan hit. We used to have sex every single day. We have insanely high sex drives. However, it’s so strange this year.. we had sex yesterday for the first time. He always had his hands all over me before Ramadan but now he’s not doing anything? He didn’t initiate sex tonight which normally he would. He always would for 2 years. He was never too connected to his Muslim faith. However, he’s converted to halal and everything the past year and I’ve supported him. However, this has never happened after Ramadan. Can anyone explain what may be happening? Is this a post Ramadan thing? Maybe having sex with while unmarried type of guilt? I’m so confused

A couple of days ago my ex called me and told me she is 8 months pregnant, and that the baby is mine. We haven’t talked for that whole 8 months once since we broke up, as it was not a good and sustainable relationship.

Before we ever got together, we both had the talk of neither of us wanting kids and she promised me up and down that if she ever got pregnant she would get an abortion. It turns out that the pregnancy was a cryptic preganacy which means that she still got all her periods and everything, and that she had no idea she was pregnant until the last week, leaving out the option for abortion.

She said that she does not expect or want anything from me, as we are not in a relationship and that it is her decision to not give the baby up for adoption. She has a very strong support system and a big family who understand the nature of the situation and can support her and the child.

Since we have been together I have moved and gotten a job in a place 3 hours away from her, and have gotten into a new relationship which is going very well. I told her that I will think on it, but that I don’t want to be a part of the child’s life as I was very clear and adamant from the start that I did not want one, and I never would have gotten with her if that did not seem like a guarantee .

I offered to pay her child support and help out with the finances, and she said thank you but that I don’t have to at all. I just feel very lost and confused as to what to do now, as this was all so sudden and I am in no place to be a father to a child.

I just need some advice or insight from people who have experienced anything like this. I have talked to my current girlfriend about it and she is supportive of me in any decisions that I make, but have not told anyone else. I feel very ashamed and just don’t know what to do, I feel that I can’t be a part of this kids life but that it will grow up loved and cared for, but I just don’t know.

Anything would be appreciated, thank you

About a week ago I found out that my partner lied to me about something big (won’t get into it, but it has to do with infidelity and another woman.) I found out because I invaded his privacy and read through his messages - which is a habit I have developed from being hurt in previous relationships, one that I have carried over to all my future relationships and one which feels often at times like a compulsion/addiction.

Instead of confronting him and admitting I did this, I manipulated him into telling me, and pretended I was finding out for the first time. I then gave him a really hard time for lying and keeping things from me, and he is very apologetic but I refused to forgive him at the time.

A few days have passed, and my anger has subsided and here’s the thing I am now coming to terms with - I am a hypocrite and a pathological liar. I have cheated/micro-cheated, I have invaded his privacy countless times, I have manipulated him, and I have lied about all the above.

I know I do this because I’m absolutely terrified of being hurt and it’s become almost an involuntary protective mechanism. I’m in therapy and working on it, but I know it will take so much time to undo the damage and become the person I want to be.

Right now he is feeling awful about what he did, and waiting for me to decide whether to forgive him. But I don’t think that holding this false moral superiority is going to help me change my ways in the long run, even if I break up with him.

Instead I want to do something crazy - I want to confess to him everything I have done in the past, and I want him to end the relationship on account of my betrayal and awfulness, not the other way around. I have been doing so much shit and getting away with it, and I think that if I could actually confront the consequences of my actions it might actually help me change my ways.

This is obviously easier said than done. I love my partner, we’ve been together for 5 years and I have never felt so loved and so happy in my life. I don’t know if I’m strong or brave enough to throw that all away, even though I know deep down it’s the right thing to do.

I’ve had gfs before but my god this ones different. We call and text all the time. I love her so much. But I miss her in ways I can’t explain. Like it hurts me when we aren’t together. I’m always thinking about her. Her laugh her smile. She’s so perfect. She drives me crazy. When we are together, it feels like I can’t get enough of her. I’m always wanting to touch her and be affectionate. I love her so much thrjdjejdhrjejehrj. I love my girlfriend I really wanna marry her but I’ve never felt as crazy for someone as I have for her so I’m wondering if I have like a condition or something

Okay so this morning before work my fiance who is marrying me in literally 20 days just put all her stuff out of my house over a whatsapp chat, ill explain.

My family doesnt want me to marry her because of precisely these abrupt reactions she has. She creates a lot of arguments that I feel can be either on a lower scale or just be understood and left there.

I woke up and had to go to work and she checked my phone which i thought was super rude so i got pissed off. I had told her that my father thought it was not a good idea to marry yet. And he said a lot more than that which were bad things toward her, which btw i defended her on the conversation. Anyways, she saw the msg and now says Im a liar and she cant trust me.

When i left for work she sent me pics of all her stuff ready to move out from the house and told me "if you dont fix this, then im done with you." And I asked "do you still love me?". She said yes and thats the only reason that has me considering to go back with her.

I just dont know how to apologize in a way she would feel better. Shes basically putting me in the spot saying, im the one who has to do something cuz shes tired and not gonna do anything.

I apologized and nada... i dont even know if shes worth it at this point. We could get married and then she leaves me all alone or divorces me with children if this is her attitude.

Need Advice. Thanks!

I am 17 M 5'9 175 lbs. Two days ago my school had a water day. It included water from hoses being put in buckets then games and etc. People got dirt on their hands and some of the water would be blurry or brown due to dirt getting mixed in. Some one got a scoop of water and through it at me. It went straight up my nose and my head hurt for 30 seconds before i was fine again. Fast forward two days, I have a slight headache and the front part of my head hurts when I press on it. Is this anything to be concerned about? Thank you in advance.

I’m 14M and I ran away from home yesterday because I got into a fight with my foster parents. To be fair, they didn’t really do anything wrong and I just got really upset. I’m staying at my girlfriend’s house but my foster dad keeps trying to call me and texting me that social services is trying to contact me. I really don’t wanna have to deal with social services because when I did this last year they sent me to a mental hospital type of place and I don’t wanna be under surveillance but I’m scared that if I’m gone for too long they’ll send police out (I’m not missing - then know where I am, I just refuse to go back). What should I do?

Hi, im 20m and my gf are 19f, and lately, she's been telling me that she's been feeling signs of pregnancy. She has not had a period to miss yet, but she told me that she has been feeling her breasts swelling up, she's always tired, and she's extremely hungry all the time. I told her I was not ready to be a father, and she said she didn't know if she wanted to keep it or not. I'm trying to tell her that we are not in the best condition to bring a child to life. what should I do

Update

I realized I sounded like I was gonna be a deadbeat. I still want to be there if she says she's gonna keep them, I just feel like I won't be a good father enough father. I want to bring a child into the best environment possible, and I don't feel like im there yet. I want to say that I have been making sure I pull out. we haven't gotten a test yet because she wants to wait until a period to be 100% sure.

I (15M) need some honest perspective here because I feel like a total creep. My sister (19F) and mom (41F) love tanning in our backyard in bikinis (mom sometimes topless) since we have a pool.

Here's the problem: Last week I got an erection seeing my sister in a string bikini and I promise I'm not attracted to her. I panicked because I think she noticed. Same thing happened when mom was sunbathing topless.

Now I'm avoiding going outside when they're tanning because I feel disgusting. My sister asked why I'm being weird and I made up excuses. Part of me thinks I should just suck it up and act normal since they're just existing in our own home, but another part feels like I'm being inappropriate by even having these reactions.

Anyone in a similar situation? Should I ask them to cover up>

Hi I'm a 13 year old guy who has never dated and my friend is dating this really hot girl and she said she can set me up with her hot friend but the the thing is one of my friends rated this girl before and it was for a while they did end it a while ago anyways do I date them or not

How can I get my daughter to realize life is not a fantasy and maybe it can be great for some people but most people live a regular life and that's okay. She's 25, didn't go to college, works at a doggy day care, has no direction. Now she has decided she wants to move to California and try to break into acting. She's shy. Is open to taking acting classes but not in person. She has no friends. I cant even get her to join a gym because she thinks everyone will laugh at her because she doesn't know how to use the equipment. She doesn't belong to a rich family so I can't help her. I don't have 50,000 to give her to support herself while she's trying to achieve her "dream". The only way is for me to die early so she can have my 401k. Which might happen cause I think something is wrong with me. It doesn't matter what I say to her, she doesn't listen.

As you can see I’m(f18) in panic and the condom broke inside me.. there was a lot of, you know. I can’t take the pill and I have washed inside myself in the shower. What to do!!! Pls real advice and no I can’t take a copper IUD..

went out with my girlfriends last night and one of my girlfriends (24) lives with her bf and he was supposed to come out with us tonight but he ended up going out of town on a boys fishing trip so he didn’t come and she came out alone to celebrate our other friends bday. She’s gorgeous so lots of guys approach her she usually just tells them she has a boyfriend and they leave but tonight we were standing at the bar and this super tall guy comes over and stands next to her and she kinda looks over and jumps and goes holy shit you’re tall how tall are you? (she’s REALLY small) and he jokes and goes 7’1 they laugh and chat for a little he asks her how tall she is etc it seems harmless and then we head to the bathroom. Well turns out tall guy was walking over there too so he starts joking that my friend is following him and she goes “yeah in your dreams buddy” and we go to the bathroom blah blah blah the night continues then fast forward we leave the bar & end up going back bc it was better there and as we walk in again tall guy is standing near the front and stops her as she walks by and pulls the stop following me bit again but this time she entertains it (we are progressively more drunk at this point) i leave her be and watch from a far bc she’s a big girl but she ends up chatting with this guy for an ENTIRE HOUR. like it was just them standing at the bar chatting together really closely because it was really loud and he is so much taller than her he kinda had to lean down into her to hear what she was saying. but they were talking foreverrr and not a single thing was interrupting their flow they seemed to really be getting to know each other and enjoying the conversation. Then some drama happened with the birthday girl and her bf and we all had to attend to her so she stopped talking to tall guy (after what felt like forever) and when i asked her about it she just said oh yeah he was a really cool guy! I kinda grilled her and she said she didn’t even know his name and that she didn’t give him her number or any social media or anything but she also didn’t mention that she had a boyfriend! (she said it didn’t really come up bc they were talking about other random stuff). does this still count as cheating if she says they were just having innocent conversation and they didn’t even exchange names or numbers or anything. she said he was just a cool guy that she will probably never see ever again but i think that’s its kind of weird she talked to him for like a whole hour. She really does love her boyfriend though so maybe it was innocent? she was just making a new friend? It just didn’t really look that way.

I recently discovered something that’s been tearing me apart: my best friend (who I’ve known for years) has been having an affair with my dad. The worst part is that my mom has always treated my best friend like a daughter, and she has no idea about what’s going on. I’m feeling so conflicted right now. On one hand, I want to protect my mom from this betrayal, but on the other, I’m not sure how to handle this situation without causing irreversible damage to my family.

I’m really struggling with what to do next. Do I confront my dad first? Do I talk to my best friend? Should I tell my mom, or is there a better way to handle this? I want to make the right decision, but everything feels so complicated.

Any advice or personal experiences on how to deal with something like this would be incredibly helpful.

This will hopefully encourage some helpful advice from others while also offering support as you navigate a really painful and tough situation.

my boyfriend is 18 turning 19 soon, and i’m turning 18 later in the year. we have been together for almost 2 years and want to stay with each other. i missed my period in march and i had this gut feeling that i was pregnant, i took a test on friday and it came back positive. i took another one yesterday morning and it’s l positive. i’m having so many conflicting feelings, we want this baby but we also haven’t even begun to start our lives yet. i don’t have a job currently (i haven’t had a job before and you need expierience to work at mcdonald’s😐), and my boyfriend works for his father and makes good money especially for right out of high school(20/hr). i know that isn’t enough to support a child i am not stupid, and i don’t come from money. i don’t want my child to suffer through being poor. i know that’s a big enough reason to just give up but i don’t know. i know the state of the world isn’t the greatest either. i don’t want to put it up for adoption because i am terrified of birth and i was adopted and obviously i didn’t turn out too great. i know when i talk to my grandma (who i live with currently) she is going to tell me to abort it and it is a thought in my mind considering everything in my life is against this pregnancy. i live in a blue state so thankfully i have the option to do so but it just doesn’t feel right. i have always been pro choice and ever since this happened i have really been upset at those who think differently because i don’t want to do it. i want this baby but i don’t have the income i don’t know how i would handle college with a child.

i just really need advice on my situation, preferably from a woman who has gone through something similar

and before you comment i don’t wanna hear how abortion is wrong(give me the money to pay for my baby then) and i don’t wanna hear how i got myself into this situation & i’m a whore(no fucking shit)

EDIT: thank you for all the nice advice!! i love hearing from these older people who still call me honey lol i feel so old even though i’m not and like everything is going so fast. this transition period in my life is so difficult. hearing people’s situations really put a lot into perspective and i’m really appreciative to those comfortable enough to share. i have to talk to my grandma soon but i think i know my decision. this shit is so difficult to deal with while i’m a couple months away from graduating.

OH YEAH AND TO THE GUY WHO TOLD ME THAT IM THE REASON ALL WOMEN DESERVE TO GET NEUTERED… i don’t have BALLS! and rich people don’t just proclaim they’re rich in defense to a 17 year old goofball 😭

my bf was telling be abt his ex that he dated for abt 6 months and he never had sex wit her. I've been dating him for 1 and he always wants to. Since like the first time i ever hung out with him he was alrdy. rubbing my 🐱while making out....Wtf did she have that made him respect her and not me ? like did i just give off slutty vibes to him??was i not supposed to make out wit him the first time i hung out with him ? 😭 just very upsetting cus he ALWAYS wants to fck while id rather just make cookies with him or something and it upsets me to think that he's done more fun stuff wit other ppl and with me it's just fcking..

My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months (talking for 3 before that). We met on Hinge right after I moved states for grad school. Things moved fast, we started dating within two weeks, and everything felt amazing at first. Boundaries were clear, the sex was great, we were constantly going out on dates, and we even started making long-term plans to live together.

We’ve both done therapy for past relationship trauma and tried to avoid falling into codependency, but somewhere along the way we slipped. He’s stopped hanging out with his dorm friends and is at my place every single day. If I want a night alone, it becomes a whole emotional ordeal (with guilt-tripping that has just enough plausible deniability).

I never really made close friends here because I’ve spent all my time with him. Lately, he’s been having severe insecurity spirals, like full-on sobbing breakdowns multiple times in a month. Almost every hangout turns into a serious talk about our relationship, and I’ve emotionally checked out. I’m not happy. We haven’t had sex in months. I recently told him I wasn’t comfortable with the idea of moving in together next year, and he had a complete breakdown.

Now, he’s lined up a summer job assuming we’re living together. But I’ve realized I don’t want to live with him. I want to break up. But I’m terrified of how he’ll react, especially when he thinks we’re moving in together in a couple months.

How do I break up with someone who’s emotionally dependent on me and has already planned to live with me? I feel trapped and exhausted, especially with things like marriage and long term plans constantly being brought up.

TL;DR: My boyfriend (20M) and I’s (22M) relationship moved fast and now he’s emotionally dependent on me. I want to break up, but he thinks we’re moving in together this summer and already lined up a job near me. I’m scared of how he’ll react and don’t know how to end things without a meltdown.

Did this just pop up on anyone’s meta apps? It’s so creepy and dangerous it was sending me beauty links to products I had been discussing with my friend in a separate app on a separate call. This is concerning given that I don’t have Facebook/meta ai linked to anything else so it’s retaining information that 1. Shouldn’t be 2. Cross app tracking apparently?

It also appears to be turning my phone on in the middle of the night. This never happened before and it coincided with when meta ai appeared. I never gave consent either for this.

I can’t explain it, everytime he starts to do something to me it feels like the whole word is watching. It feels like my parents know what I’m doing. I feel like a slut.

I can’t even bring myself to moan because that alone makes me sick to my stomach. I just quietly sit there while he eventually asks me what’s wrong and it makes me feel terrible.

He’s explained to me that he loves me so much and how intimacy is one of the closest form of love or whatever. I see where he’s coming from, he loves me for me. I don’t understand why whenever he brings up having sex I get a sick feeling in my stomach and I’m reluctant to say yes. I even lost the drive for self pleasuring myself, I used to do it all the time but every single time after I climax I get the most disgusted and dissatisfactory feeling I have ever felt. Am I losing physical attraction? Am I asexual? Is there anyone else out there who knows what it is and is going through the same thing?

I am well aware I’m in the wrong here and deserve nothing but I just want to get it off my chest.

I got a new manager (call him bob) end of 2023. We slowly got to know each other more and more and became really good friends. There is 13 years between us. Eventually it got to the point where whoever woke up first would say morning and we’d talk all day until someone said good night with no longer than maybe an hour between messages.

People started to gossip about us and friends started to ask but I swore that although I obviously had feelings nothing would happen. He has kids and a wife and I have a bf. I genuinely believed I was better than what’s to come.

By around April, I fell out with my ldr bf, and we agreed to have some space. This was a long time coming/ never a good relationship. Bob was super supportive and gave me loads of help. I struggle with mh a lot anyway and he knew this. He is the first person I’ve felt actually cared with no agenda (how naive).

By this point he was no longer manager. He had been step up but had to return to old post (always planned) and we had another temp manager until hiring of perma.

One day it switched, suddenly the conversation became sexual (consensually) and we started planning meeting etc. this was difficult because of family and went on for a month. Meanwhile I was still with my partner and contradictingly wanted/was trying to fix it.

It went on for just over a month, he got the permanent manager role but for another team. And the day after told me it had to stop because he felt too guilty because he was married. It then completely changed. I went back to friends and he just stopped. Slow, dry replies and a complete lack of care. And suddenly the person I thought had no agenda, showed he had.

There’s things that make me think he’s still doing it with other staff but maybe I’m paranoid.

It’s obvious I had feelings. There’s so much I want to say to him but we are 10 months down the line and he just palms me off with the fact we need to keep conversations work related and otherwise we never talk. It’s killing me, eating me alive. I want to tell him how awful I feel and that I just want someone to hug me and on the other hand he clearly thinks nothing of me anymore.

Meanwhile still with my bf and feeling stuck. I genuinely love him. I told him everything that happened and we worked through it but now idk