You will be heavily biased towards biting off more than you can chew, and you won’t question it because you are able to do it for a couple of weeks, and this won’t dawn on you until you repeat this pattern many times.

If the effect of the decision doesn’t affect you until after a couple of weeks have passed then it’s harder to make the connection.

The problem is that the people who maintain sustainable patterns in healthy ways (not as a coping mechanism, or because they’re pressured) do so mostly through humble steps that you will look down on.

Because of course you can’t afford to do that since you have to catch up and save what you can save.

The fear of not being able to catch up is the very reason why you can’t maintain the sprint, because you will almost always pick unsustainable steps.

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I've realized that the quiet story we hold about ourselves—the silent narrative we live by—might actually be the biggest reason why we stay stuck. It's not just the conscious thoughts we observe in meditation or daily life, but the deeper beliefs we rarely question about who we fundamentally think we are. These beliefs shape everything: our posture, energy, actions, decisions, and even our subconscious reactions. And yet, for many of us, this internal identity isn't something we've ever consciously chosen—it's something we've inherited from experiences, setbacks, or other people's expectations.

Here's why this matters: I used to think that simply repeating positive affirmations or trying to "think positively" was enough to make meaningful change. But often, I noticed a strange internal resistance, a kind of dissonance between what I was consciously affirming and what I subconsciously believed about myself. My body language, energy, and subtle behaviors kept reverting back to old patterns. It was frustrating, and I couldn't figure out why.

The breakthrough for me was understanding that our identity isn't fixed or permanent, it's constantly being written, whether we're aware of it or not. True mindfulness, then, isn't just noticing thoughts; it's becoming deeply aware of this inner identity and consciously choosing to shift it. It’s about becoming aware of the source.

Our internal identity shapes our reality, which means it’s important to recognize when our self-image is silently sabotaging our growth, and most importantly, how to genuinely rewrite it. So, I thought I'd share this one below too, in case it's helpful for anyone else exploring this angle of mindfulness and personal growth. My only hope is that this type of conversation at least gets you to question yourself and your inner thoughts in a good way. That’s where real change happens. 

https://youtu.be/HEKoBL1vRfs 

I'm curious about your experiences - have you ever felt your self-image or subconscious beliefs holding you back? If you've tried shifting your identity consciously, what worked for you? I'd love to hear your thoughts.

I walked past yummy food truck, after dessert truck, after fancy drinks. I ran around and became exhausted at a festival. I came home, and dutifully did my workout. It was a slog, had to use lighter recovery weights. But I still did it!

I cooked my meals. Brushed my teeth. And am going to bed early on a Saturday night before my kids even.

I was never this way in my early years of adulthood. It was always an excuse. If I could give my younger self some advice?

"Stop doing so much shit. Stop committing to so much work, too many school credits. You don't need a degree, you need a belief in yourself. You don't need two jobs, you need lower expenses. You don't need two girlfriends to feel worthy. You are worthy. You're worthy to take care of yourself first."

And that's the key... "You are worthy." I never needed discipline, I already was.

Some of y'all are disciplined about jerking off anywhere, the airplane, Grandma's house, even after sex. I read these posts! Some of y'all are disciplined in playing video games and watching TV. You do it like is your duty. Y'all are already disciplined. You just never felt worthy enough to be disciplined in what matters to you.

Think about that.

You're already disciplined. It's just manifesting in the wrong shit.

I built a chrome extension and it isn't being used as I thought why?

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A while back, I realized that trying to make big, drastic changes never really worked for me. What actually made a difference was showing up every day—just moving the needle a little, consistently.

So I decided to shift my approach: I’d pick one simple focus for the month and start tracking a few small habits around it. No pressure to be perfect. Just track. Even if I missed a day, I’d note it down and move on without beating myself up.

Over time, this mindset helped me:

• Build a consistent yoga practice
• Eat more fruits and nutritious meals
• Cut down on mindless scrolling on Instagram

The key? I wasn't hard on myself. I just tracked my habits. That alone made me more aware and motivated.

To make the process easier, used a simple tracker with widget. Being able to glance at my progress throughout the day kept me accountable without feeling overwhelmed.

It’s been a quarters now, and I’ve genuinely seen a shift in how I live and think. Small routines really do add up.

If you’ve been struggling to stay consistent, start small—and track. You’ll be surprised what a difference it makes.

I'm a 20 year old guy and I like traveling. I daily workout and read books from last 2 years. I travel a lot of places and I always ask a question to people, "Why Discipline is So Damm Hard & Comfort Zone is Addictive?" They give me different type of answers, I'll refine them-

• Comfort zone is a trap. It gives us a short term reward and steal long term potential. And when we realized it, years are gone we can't do nothing.
• Comfort zone is like death. It keeps us warm and safe and slowly kills our dreams. It gives no reminder and no warning, only gives one thing and that's "REGRET".
• Discipline. It hurt us, It forces us for work. It kills our comfort zone. But over the time, It builds self-respect and confidence. That's why people hate "DISCIPLINE".
• Comfort zone is our enemy and Discipline is our friend and We don't want to accept it. When we accept it, The time gone and NEVER come again.

So do you want regret for lifetime or face discomfort for a limited time?

(Main Source :- Just from life experiences)

I am looking for advice to be more productive in life overall.

Hello r/getdisciplined

I have a big exam coming up and i need to figure out how to limit phone/app usage without prohibiting myself from using my mobile.

Whenever i study some school material on my phone, or watch an important video on some certain lesson, i often find myself wandering away from the video, and just scrolling on reddit or YouTube, this is very annoying, as whilst I would like to make myself more Concentred on my study, i cant do that by just removing my phone.

Hence why i need to figure out a way for me to block or limit some apps from my phone so i can only use it for the most necessary things.

I use my mobile phone for almost everything nowadays. My classes are online for one month. I use it to talk to friends, play games with them (I'm going to reduce this from tomorrow), receive and make calls, watch YouTube, etc. Earlier, this usage went up to 3 hours a day, which was okay for me. But nowadays, due to 6-7 hours of classes, it's a whopping 12 hours a day, every day for the past week. How can I reduce the stress on my eyes now?

Hey Reddit, I’m a 19M from India studying in a tier-3 college. Life’s been rough lately, and I honestly don’t know when things started going downhill. If it weren’t for my family’s support, I might not be here today. I just need to get this off my chest and maybe get some advice from people who’ve been through stuff.

In school, I had friends I thought were my ride-or-die — I lied for them, defended them, cared for them. Only to find out they had a separate group chat with guys from other groups, where I was the main topic… for jokes, gossip, and hate. That broke me. I stayed chill on the outside but felt like a clown inside. Still hurts to think about it.

Somehow, I still pulled through and got decent marks in my boards after grinding sleepless nights. I had dreams of studying in Germany, but I failed my Goethe exam because of my own laziness and procrastination. Wasted my parents’ money and fell into depression while everyone else from my batch made it. That gap year? Dark. Only thing that kept me alive was my family.

Now I’m in a tier-3 college. I started motivated, but slowly it’s slipping. Got a 7.9 CGPA in my first sem, but it might dip now. My mental energy’s just fading.

What really haunts me every day is this — I had a gym bro, a guy from school who inspired me to start working out. He was jacked, into calisthenics, strong as hell. Later, I trained with another friend during my gap year. We both made progress together, but I couldn’t afford protein anymore and had to cut my diet. He doubled down, started getting stronger. I was proud of him, celebrated his lifts like they were mine.

Then came college. I got sick every time I tried to hit the gym. The mess food is garbage, money is tight, and I started losing weight — lost 10kg, lost all strength. I cry a lot. Alone.

When I reach out to my old gym bros, they talk to me like I’m some loser now. Sometimes they don’t even pick up the phone. These were guys I thought were for life. They’re now deadlifting 190–200 kg… and I’m struggling with 50. I feel like a shadow of who I used to be.

I just want to get my life back. I want to feel strong again — mentally, physically, emotionally. How do I bounce back from this? How do I build me again?

Any advice, even the smallest thing, would mean the world. I 'm going to post this in multiple subreddits . I wont give up. Please give me strength guys add me to your prayers. Thanks for reading.

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Long story short i’m 25M gonna be 26 in a few months. I live at home, failed business owner, failed investor, work part-time for last 9 years (been in full time in school most of that time)

From age 12-24 been massively lazy and a huge oversleeper.

Despite that, i’ve made about £400,000-£500,000 throughout the years but i’ve kept nearly none of it.

Not because i blew it all on myself, I was actually WAY too frugal with it and never enjoyed the earnings. I just made poor business decisions, poor investment choices, and just kept using money ONLY solely to make more money, which then netted me losses on returns over time.

Business I ran from home that has now gone to shit because the market demand has tanked, so i’ve got leftover money tied up in remaining illiquid stock. I’m now practically liquid broke (remaining money stuck in old business stock that i’m struggling to liquidate)

I have no money coming in except the part time job that i absolutely hate to my core, it gives me £500 to cover monthly bills like food, wifi, car insurance, phone, gym etc

I remember vividly at one point i had £250,000 sitting in my account and said i’m finally quitting that shitty part-time job once my shares from the company become available and i can sell them without forfeiting. By the time that happened i was already set back.

My drive is at All-Time-Low. Health is doing okay i go gym and i’m fit & in shape - but i either sleep 12-15 hours a day - or i sleep 2 hours trying to bang out work, and end up crashing out the next day catching up those hours because its not sustainable.

It’s not even emotions/depression taking a toll, its more like i’ve just accepted whatever’s happened has happened but i’m not doing enough to change it - I literally cannot find a reason to get out of bed i’m just sleeping/procrastinating constantly. Its that “given up” type shit which is sad to say.

Hey everyone 👋

I've always been obsessed with journaling, especially the kind that goes deeper than just “what I did today.” So I made something special: a guided journal called “A Letter to My Future Self” — it’s all about self-reflection, time capsules, and creative prompts that help you reconnect with who you are and where you’re going.

The design is super minimal with nostalgic, aged-paper vibes, and the turquoise back cover makes it feel like a little secret you’ve hidden for your future self to find.

If you’re into journaling or personal growth, I’d absolutely love your thoughts, feedback, or just to hear how you’d use something like this.

Here’s the link if you're curious: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F3HXT53V

Thanks for letting me share — wishing everyone here some peace and clarity in their journaling journey ✍️💭

I quit smoking about a year ago after realizing it wasn’t doing me any good. It wasn’t a dramatic or sudden decision. There was no app, patch, or external push just a quiet moment of clarity where I knew it was time to stop. The first few months were tricky, especially during stressful moments, but eventually, the urge started to fade.

What’s surprised me most is how gradually my stamina and energy levels began to improve. I used to feel out of breath after running just a few hundred meters. Now I can cover 2 to 3 kilometers. I still breathe heavily after the first stretch, but it no longer feels like my chest is giving up. The dry throat and that burning sensation I used to get after short runs? Pretty much gone. Even climbing stairs or walking fast doesn’t leave me gasping like before. It’s not a miraculous transformation, but it’s real, steady progress that I can feel.

I’m still working on my endurance and overall health, but quitting smoking made a clear, positive impact. If you’re on the fence or struggling to quit, just start. Give your body some time, and it will respond.

I’m happy to talk or share more if anyone’s going through something similar.

If your inner voice is your greatest bully, there's no such thing as having great relationships.

You will treat or make the people who mean the most to you feel the same way as you treat yourself. Especially in times of conflict, your inner voice will find its way into the real world.

Stop talking like an a**hole to yourself and embrace the fact that you have FULL control over how your self-talk should look.

How do you do this?

Compassion. All of us are hurt. All of us struggle. The only way forward is to turn your ego into your best friend - someone who is by your side when something goes wrong and guides you with a quick pep talk.

"You messed up again, silly you!"

can turn into

"Well, that didn't go well. What can you learn from this situation?"

There is only ONE procedure you have to follow. The moment you encounter your inner bully again, treat it like a child and its tantrums. You gotta be firm, but kind. Tell the voice that everything is okay and next time will be better.

Again and again and again.

Over time, you will notice that the once so angry "inner child" evolves to a compassionate voice that suddenly becomes your greatest supporter.

Out of nowhere, people will come into your life who you want to spend your life with. There will be less cheating, less lying, less abuse - and all of this started...

...within yourself.

Tame the voice in your head. Self-destruction or happiness.

It's up to you.

What if, while you’re working, you could see exactly how much money you’ve earned — minute by minute — and what you could buy with it? Like: “You just made $3 — that’s a coffee.” “You’re at $25 — that’s a dinner out.” “You’ve hit $70 — concert ticket unlocked.”

Would that keep you going? Or would it just stress you out?

Curious what others think — would this change how you feel about work?

Hey everyone, I’ve been trying to stay consistent with my focus and study habits, and something that’s helped me is aiming for just one 25-minute session a day (like a Pomodoro). Simple, doable, and it actually adds up.

I recently started an international group on the YPT app called Focus30 — it's a chill space where we aim to build discipline through small daily actions. No strict rules, just a shared intention to show up for ourselves.

Here’s how it works:

⏰ Study or work for 25 minutes a day — anything you’re working on is welcome

✅ You can check in with an emoji or message, or just study quietly

📅 We do weekly challenges, celebrate streaks, and post group updates (like total hours studied)

🌍 It’s international and low-pressure — the goal is consistency, not perfection

If anyone’s interested, I’d love to have you join — let’s build momentum together. Feel free to ask me anything or drop a comment and I’ll share the invite!

I'm falling behind on all my goals and targets and just spiralling on my phone.

I want to get my life in order and back on track. Would anyone be interested in working together and hold each other accountable?

My goals: 1. Get better sleep discipline. 2. Study up and switch to a better job 3. Get off the phone, detox and meditate to reduce anxiety.

🏆 Foundation phase complete! Celebration and reflection day. Share your biggest wins! Big day tomorrow. How do you feel about combining your workouts? #PhaseComplete #CelebrationDay

hello! I've been working on retooling my life so that I can better work towards my goals, and I've been pretty successful so far. I quit caffeine, quit my smartphone (use a flip phone now), started eating enough and exercising, and started reading / listening to music again as a downtime activity instead of scrolling. The only lasting issue I have is that I can't wake up early. I usually get up at 10AM or later, and it really hampers what I can do in a day.

Because I don't use a smartphone anymore, I have a physical alarm clock. Very loud and pleasant to wake up to (it's a now & zen chime alarm clock). But I just get up, turn it off, feel cold, and climb back under the covers because it's warmer. Any advice on how to wake up earlier?

Advice to just match natural sleep cycles with sleeping / waking times doesn't really work for me because I will easily sleep 12+ hours if left to my own devices.

edit: I usually go to bed at 11 or 12 and set my alarm for 6AM. 6 hrs of sleep leaves me feeling about the same as 8 hrs, I think due to my extreme natural sleep inclination. I suppose I'm just looking for morning routine advice with this post.

Hi everyone,

I am unemployed (fixed term contract came to an end) and I have taken a bit of a break the past couple of months to decide what to do next. I have a great resumé, several degrees (M.Sc., Ph.D.), hitting great weight in the gym, overall very happy with my life.

However, as soon as I think about my next steps professionally, I am bombarded with mind-stress.

I do not know where to turn, what to do, or how to spend my energy. I read so many books on motivation, but everything feels impossible. I want to build a home lab, work on new hobbies, work on interesting research problems, learn lots of things, but I never put anything into action. My creativity is completely gone, and my faith in my ability is waning. I have lost interest in most things that relate to my career or profession.

I don't know how to break this cycle, and I'm going out of my mind trying to solve this issue. Many suggested a break, which has done nothing for me. I never miss a day in the gym, but I fail to apply my discipline to my career. What the fuck is wrong with me!

Hey everyone, I’m currently an international student studying at a college in the U.S. Academically, I’m doing okay, but mentally and emotionally, I’ve been feeling really down lately. I go to a small school in a rural area, and it’s been tough making friends—especially as an international student from Asia. There aren’t many other Asians here, and since I’m naturally introverted, I feel like I come off as distant or even antisocial, which makes it even harder to connect with people.

Lately, I’ve been constantly stressed about my future as well—worrying about internships, what I should do after graduation, and even questioning what I’m truly passionate about. Because of all this stress and loneliness, I find myself locked in my room every weekend, endlessly scrolling on social media and wasting the day away. I know it’s not healthy, but there’s just nothing to do around here, and I feel stuck.

I also can’t help but feel homesick and jealous when I see my friends back home living their lives—dating, traveling, and having fun. Every time I check Insta, I feel even worse. It just amplifies my loneliness and makes me feel like I’m missing out on everything.

Has anyone else been through something like this? Any advice or words of encouragement would really mean a lot right now.

My work problems started over two years ago. I’ve always been ambitious, and I ended up in a job where I wanted to get promoted. I improved processes, created tools, and got involved in additional projects. I received two promotions and won the Employee of the Year award. Unfortunately, my grandmother started getting sick, and I helped take care of her. I began living under constant stress. She suffered from dementia, and I worked remotely from her house. I was a nervous wreck. At work, a project’s go-live was approaching. I pushed through, but it was tough. After that, I wanted less stressful tasks, but instead, I was given another big project. I had enough. I started getting irritable at work, and I became unfriendly with colleagues. I quit that job because I was done.

In my new job, I was supposed to lead new IT initiatives. During the interview, I was told that the role wouldn’t involve managing people. Unfortunately, before I started, my manager changed (it wasn’t the person who had recruited me). In my second week at the new job, my grandmother passed away. I witnessed her agony and suffering. I didn’t slow down at work. I worked, trying to meet expectations. Soon, I found out I’d be managing a team. I had no experience in that. This is when my mental escape from work began. I started spending most of my time on my phone, scrolling. I managed to get things done, but either late or just barely on time. The work gave me no satisfaction. After a year, a friend from one of my previous jobs called with a tempting job offer and great pay. I decided to take the new job.

And now? I can’t seem to grasp any procedures, I don’t listen during meetings when someone is explaining something—I just drift off mentally. It doesn’t interest me at all. I scroll the internet. Tasks that used to take me seconds now take me all day. I end up working late or getting up early to prepare for meetings, but to no avail. I’ve had enough. Additionally, my manager’s feedback is negative, and I...can’t motivate myself at all. I feel like I can’t handle my tasks. The thought of changing jobs gives me chills. The mere idea of having to onboard somewhere else makes me want to cry. I feel like I’m falling apart. I feel bad; I feel lazy. Any advice?

Edit: grammar mistake

A year ago, I struggled with even waking up on time. I’d hit snooze, skip breakfast, and start the day with guilt.

But one day, I told myself: Just get out of bed without snoozing.

That small win slowly turned into bigger ones: • Making my bed • Morning walk • Reading 10 mins • Planning my tasks

Now, my day starts with clarity — all because of one disciplined step.

What was the first habit that helped you build discipline?

I have a terrible habit I avoid hard big career change decisions or do very little. I try to keep both decisions open but then I end up finding myself in the exact same position after a few months. Not decided and pretty much forced into a decision.

I have a terrible anxiety that makes me avoid these things, and then at the last second I find myself forced so I have to confront it and just go with whatever life has forced me into.

In this case it's a career change I've been wanting to change careers and drop out of uni for a long time and I kept avoiding it for years due to fear so now im stuck and have no choice but to continue. I make the same mistake again and again, I either avoid, procrastinate or get distracted by stuff online, I dwell on the what ifs, causing me to mess up my future then again I dwell again and again and it's a cycle .

Whenever I wake up I feel the weight of these mistakes.