I hate knowing this information. My friend started it out by saying she almost committed suicide, and then told me she is having an affair. She’s slept with the guy and is in love with him. Her and her husband have 2 little children together. I’ve known them both for a long time, and her husband was always a nice person to me.

I’m afraid if I tell him, she might follow through with her attempt. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want her husband to suffer, but I also don’t want to potentially cause my friend to be pushed over the edge and do something to harm herself. I hate that she told me this. I wish she would have just kept it to herself or, ya know, never cheated in the first place. What do I do??

So, my best friend and I have been super close for years—we’ve been through everything together. I love her dearly and would never want to do anything to hurt her or damage our friendship.

But recently, her husband brought up the idea of the three of us having a threesome. I was honestly shocked. I’ve never given either of them any reason to think I’d be into something like that, and it kind of caught me off guard. I don’t know if my friend is actually into the idea too or if this was just his fantasy, but now I feel weird being around them. I haven’t said anything yet because I’m not sure how to approach it.

I really don’t want to ruin our friendship, but I also don’t feel comfortable being in this position. Do I bring it up with her? Do I ignore it and hope it goes away? I’m just scared this could affect our friendship long-term, and I’m feeling really awkward now.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? What would you do in my shoes?

Okay so this morning before work my fiance who is marrying me in literally 20 days just put all her stuff out of my house over a whatsapp chat, ill explain.

My family doesnt want me to marry her because of precisely these abrupt reactions she has. She creates a lot of arguments that I feel can be either on a lower scale or just be understood and left there.

I woke up and had to go to work and she checked my phone which i thought was super rude so i got pissed off. I had told her that my father thought it was not a good idea to marry yet. And he said a lot more than that which were bad things toward her, which btw i defended her on the conversation. Anyways, she saw the msg and now says Im a liar and she cant trust me.

When i left for work she sent me pics of all her stuff ready to move out from the house and told me "if you dont fix this, then im done with you." And I asked "do you still love me?". She said yes and thats the only reason that has me considering to go back with her.

I just dont know how to apologize in a way she would feel better. Shes basically putting me in the spot saying, im the one who has to do something cuz shes tired and not gonna do anything.

I apologized and nada... i dont even know if shes worth it at this point. We could get married and then she leaves me all alone or divorces me with children if this is her attitude.

Need Advice. Thanks!

About a year and a half ago, my ex cheated on me while partying. She was the quietest, most low-key girl you could imagine—until she went out. After that breakup, I met my current girlfriend, and we’ve been together for about 10 months now. She seemed like everything I had ever wanted in a partner.

Around 3 months ago, she started working as a photographer for student parties (we're both still students). Ever since, I’ve been feeling extremely anxious, jealous, and on edge. The event staff she works with are all guys—about 7 of them—and to be honest, they’re all pretty attractive.

What makes it worse is that when she goes out for these events, she dresses in a way that feels quite provocative—something she never does with me. She often comes home really late, and it triggers my anxiety big time.

She tells me it’s just work and that nothing’s going on, but I can’t shake the feeling. Every time I check her Instagram, I see new guys from the events following her—and she follows them back. It really messes with my head.

I don't know if what she’s doing is wrong, if I’m overreacting, or if maybe she’s not the person I thought she was. A while ago I saw a picture of her with six guys and had a full-blown anxiety attack.

I really don’t know how to handle this anymore. I feel like it’s eating me alive.

My (26F) husband (25M) has a sister (8F) who he brings to our home almost every weekend and during holidays. I get that they’re the closest among their siblings and that he practically raised her. My MIL is also fine with her coming over since she’s busy with her business—so it’s basically free babysitting, right?

But lately, I’ve been feeling like it’s becoming a problem for me, especially now that we have a baby—our own little family. When we were still dating, it was fine. I loved hanging out with his sister, and we built a close relationship. But now, with a baby and new responsibilities, I feel like it’s too much that she keeps coming over.

For example, the day I was discharged from the hospital after giving birth, we even rerouted to pick her up because she wanted to see the baby. Another time, we were on a tight budget, but my husband still ordered expensive takeout as a “treat” for her. I also dread visiting my in-laws now, because that usually means she’ll be coming back home with us.

Don’t get me wrong—she’s a good kid, and I don’t have a personal issue with her. It’s just that she’s so attached to her brother, and now to our baby. She constantly begs her parents to let her come over just to play with the baby. My husband loves having her around too. But it feels like we never have a weekend to ourselves as a family when he’s off work.

I feel like a total asshole because this is about a child—and I don’t know how to bring it up to my husband. I’m afraid he’ll take it the wrong way, especially since it’s about his dear little sister. But I’ve been torn about this ever since, and I’m reaching my limit. I don’t know how much longer I can keep this in and I don’t want to resent this kid.

EDIT: Thank you all for the reality checks; they really gave me a lot to think about! I’ll reflect on everything.

And no, she’s not his daughter, but his sister 100%. Their mother just had her late.

I’m in a bit of a tough situation and could really use some advice.

I recently discovered that my boyfriend and my sister have been secretly texting each other in a flirty way. I found out when I went through his phone (which I know I shouldn’t have done, but now I’m questioning everything). From what I’ve seen, it seems like there’s some flirting going on between them, and it’s honestly making me feel super uncomfortable.

What’s even worse is that I think my sister might actually enjoy the way he talks to her, but neither of them know that I’m aware of their secret exchange. I don’t know how to approach this situation because I don’t want to make things awkward or hurt anyone, but I also don’t want to ignore what’s happening.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How should I handle this without blowing up everything, especially since they don’t know I know? Should I talk to my boyfriend first, or address it with my sister? I’m feeling really stuck and unsure of how to move forward.

Hi guys I'm M23 and i just wanted some advice. I'll give u some backstory. I grew up in a neglectful home and wasn't taught any hygiene I have high functioning autism and getting into new routines is hard but not impossible and I wanna take care of my body. I'm embarrassed by how long it's taken me to ask but like what are the basics I know brushing teeth but how often am I supposed to bathe/shower and does that mean shampooing every time? How often do I shave just things like that sorry

Hi all. Throwaway account because I don’t want anyone finding out who I am. I don’t have specific ages for people involved but would say late 20s early 30s.

I (30M) been working at a fairly successful start up for 6 months. It’s great and I really enjoy my job and co-workers. My boss who owns the company is similar ages with me. I wouldn’t say we are buds but he has been a good boss overall.

Anyway last night I realised I left some things at the office and went back. It was after everyone had gone so I wasn’t expecting anyone to be there. We all have keys to get in as sometimes things need done over weekend etc. I got the things I was looking for but heard some noises coming from my boss’ office. I thought it was unusual as usually we are all out sharp on a Friday so I went to check it out.

I opened the door and my boss was having full on sex with his girlfriend. I didn’t see much of him but I saw everything of her. I don’t know her very well, met a few times but my boss is always super private about her and his personal life. Anyway I just said something like “I was just getting stuff, don’t worry” and bolted out. They were both shocked and obviously didn’t expect me to be there but I didn’t hang around to chat about it.

Anyway I don’t know if I should address it with him or just act like it didn’t happen. I didn’t message him or anything as I felt it would be weird and he hasn’t got in contact. I guess I’m not looking for advice just wanted to get it off my chest. It is a really small company so no HR department or anything. Should I just ignore it? I feel weird bringing it up as it’s already awkward enough.

TLDR: I walked in on my boss and his gf and it’s awkward

My ex and I met at a place we were working together. He fell in love with me first and I did way later. At the time,him courting me felt like a burden but through his actions and words I later fell in love. He is my first true love. And I was his. Thing is,we were both working at my cousin's company. My cousin has a daughter who once came do a bench marking at our company coz her dad wanted her to see how we work and learn and open a business for her.The lady saw my ex and she fell in love,yk love at first sight. (The guy is very handsome). She started pursuing my BF and they used to meet up behind my back. Time went by and she later got pregnant by my ex. My cousin is a church man,who could not entertain her child having a child unmarried. So he rushed their wedding which was planned in 3 days after he knew the daughter was pregnant. I got the breaking news and the whole discovery took a toll on me emotionally. I attended the wedding just to make peace with the fact that my bf had made his choice and it wasn't me. I recently meet with him since the wedding and he's telling me he has filed a divorce with his wife, he's calling her his baby mama,and he has now realized that I was the love of his life,and my niece trapped him into marriage coz she wanted a child. I loved this man but I also respect my cousin and niece. I saw a future with him. And now he wants me back. What do I do? Your advice is welcomed

My brother is 13 year old, and is obsessed with this girl he met at school for 2 years. He hasn’t seen this girl since he finished primary school last year and he is still talking about her constantly, things like he loves her and he wanna kiss her. This girl doesn’t like him at all, she hates him, doesn’t want anything to do with him, almost called the police on him, I don’t know what he did tho. Can I do anything to make him drop it? He’s talking about her all the time, even creating scenarios where he bumped into her and asked her out, it’s getting toxic.

I'm a [27M] , and I recently had an argument with my partner [27F] about not calling her at night before she goes to sleep. She said I’m not as invested in the relationship as I used to be. For context, I already call her three times a day—once when I wake up, again in the afternoon, and once more when I get home from work. We meet once a week.

I told her I think it’s okay if we don’t talk every single night, and that short calls should be fine some days. She’s also been upset that I’ve started gaming at night lately, because when she calls, I might be in the middle of a game.

That night, she got really upset and said she couldn’t sleep well.

The next day, I called to talk things through, and during the conversation, we argued again. Then out of nowhere, she passed the phone to her mother. I was shocked. Why would she do that? This is something between her and me. I felt blindsided, I felt betrayed.

Her mom asked me what was going on and said her daughter couldn’t sleep, and that we should support each other and find common ground. But now, instead of two people working through something, there are three. That’s not how I think conflict should be handled. I would never involve my own mother in issues between me and my partner.

Is it just me, or is this a red flag? She’s very close to her mother, and now I’m wondering. Could this kind of dynamic hurt our relationship in the long run?

EDIT: FYI: My partner has a big exam coming up in a week, and I think when her mother saw that she couldn’t sleep, she got worried. She kept asking her what was wrong, and eventually, my partner told her about our argument. I’m not sure if that really excuses it or not. :/

(she is 14 right now) she told me this today and I asked my mom for advise but she said there is nothing I can do, which is true. What is the right thing to do??? (Accidentally put the story in the title )

My husband has a son from his first marriage, but he doesn’t take care of him. I keep urging him to visit his son, to spend time with him and play, but all I get are excuses like, 'I’m too busy with work' or 'I don’t have time.'

Ever since we got married, he’s been constantly asking when we’ll have a child together—but I’m afraid that if we do, I’ll be the only one raising them. He pays child support to his ex-wife, but that’s it. Where’s the actual involvement in his child’s life? He claims he’s 'too tired,' but is that really a valid excuse? He hasn’t seen his son in three months. Don’t you think this is a major red flag?

We’ve been dating for a year. We’re both 21. My gf is on her period and is having pretty bad bleeding. She went out with her friend yesterday and they had a fight and she was feeling pretty upset about it. She called me to vent about it and then told me she doesn’t want me to come over anymore (we had plans to hang out at night) because I “definitely didn’t want to deal with her in this state.” This statement seemed to me like she might be hoping I would want to come over anyway so I reassured her that I didn’t mind at all and that I was still more than happy to hang out with her. However, it became clear she actually wanted to just spend the night alone so I was about to end the call saying something like “Well, if you change your mind…” and she just hung up on me. Under most circumstances I would consider this disrespectful but with everything going on I wonder if I should basically just “let it slide”. She has never done this before and overall is a great girlfriend. Either way I plan on just waiting until she reaches out to me and not contacting her first. Any advice?

Last night my dad and I were talking and he mentioned that my fiancé (26M) rubs him the wrong way. He didn’t tell me this before and my wedding is set for this summer. Idk why he waited to tell me this now. He said he’s not a bad guy but that he feels my fiancé only cares about money and that he never lets his “hair down” and my dad thinks he’s uptight and not “fun loving” and asked if him and I have anything in common. I assured him we do and told him the things we have in common. My dad thinks he’s too confident and not down to earth enough. For example, my dad asked my fiancé the other night what he’s going to do for his dads birthday, and my fiancé told him “my mom and dad and I are going to look at some properties at the coast since my parents want to build a second house there for themselves and then we’ll go surfing get dinner etc” and my dad was annoyed by that and thought he was bragging, but I could tell he absolutely wasn’t, he was just explaining truthfully what they were going to do. My parents have never tried much to get to know him very well though. He’s definitely way different from my family. My family is super down to earth, parties/has fun, but doesn’t worry about money much or plan things (which is something I grew up upset about) but they’re nice people.

I think part of it could be that my parents don’t have much money and my fiancé has a good job and comes from way more money than us. Or maybe he genuinely doesn’t like my fiancé, but I feel weird now and kind of sad. Do I tell my fiancé about this or not?

EDIT: I didn’t think this post about my situation would be as popular as it is. I am deciding what to do still, but will keep reading all the advice. I appreciate all the thoughtful responses and will try to get back to some of you. Thanks again for the advice 😊 (Besides the pervy joke people 🙄 🤣)

I (16F), found out tonight at a family dinner that my dad has another child but he doesn’t know that I know. Tonight, we had a family dinner with all my paternal aunts, their families, and my grandmother who live in different cities. It’s the first time in a while that the family is complete so I was having a nice time as I’m fairly close with all of them. However, while eating dinner, my mother and one of my aunts who I was chatting and catching up with landed on the topic of who my cousin looked like. Like a lightbulb moment, my mother blurted out that he looked like my father’s son who lived in another city. She didn’t seem to realize I was right there until a minute or two had passed of them conversing more about him (and me pretending to be on my phone and scarfing down whatever I first saw). The rest of the night, I watched as my father ran around with my cousin and that conversation just played over and over in my head. For the next 5 hours, I just kept zoning out. However bad it may be, I couldn’t help but ask myself why my cousins’ dads didn’t put them through this. Until now, as I lie on my bed as my parents sleep soundly in the room opposite mine, images of him and my cousin’s face is all I see no matter how tight I close my eyes.

Admittedly, I did know prior, but only because I vividly remember my mother sobbing as she bathed 4 year old me muttering, “I hate your father.” But I guess up to this point, a part of me didn’t accept that as reality. Maybe I just thought it was a bad dream I had once when I was a child, I don’t know. Perhaps thinking it’s true is actually very different from hearing that it is. No one had ever told me that directly, only in passing conversation to each other before my mother quickly shut it down or changed the topic. Thus, I also never knew anything more about it—not whether it was a daughter, a son, how old they were, or where they lived. Also, it’s important to say that years ago when I first checked my “blocked” list on Facebook (one my mother made for me when I was a child) that a woman I didn’t know was already blocked and I had a suspicion even as a small child that that was it. But again, maybe it just didn’t really sink into me yet.

Also, I feel it’s important to note that my grandfather (dad’s father) also had multiple children with multiple other women, some he went on to marry and even switch religion to be able to. And I was well-aware of it. However, my father and his siblings are in-touch with their half-siblings and we’ve even had dinner with them a couple of times. Maybe I didn’t want to believe that my father would put his own child in the same situation he was in. I love my father. He’s given me everything I’d ever ask for, material wise. He works abroad and prior to quarantine, he’d always be home for at least a full month but after he switched companies during the pandemic, he only stays for two weeks. Now, I can’t help but wonder if he also spends some time with his other family. I would be glad he stood up for that child as well but at the same time, it makes my stomach churn that there is another child that looks like me, that looks like my father. I do not believe I would ever want to meet them, to meet the woman my father was willing to share his love for his 4 year old daughter with. I don’t believe I am or will ever be mentally stable enough for it.

I’m not mad, I never was. In all honesty, it feels like cold water was just dumped on me and I’m just now seeing how both of my parents are flawed people. I’m hurt other people knew before me, I’m hurt that they didn’t think I couldn’t handle it, I’m hurt they never ask how I’m dealing with it. But I also don’t have the energy to confront them. I only have 1 week left with him, I don’t think I’m willing to rush the process of unpacking this and leaving it ‘til next year to continue. However, I want to be mad but I can’t bring myself to do so.

If there’s anyone here who went through something similar, how did you cope and move on? Did you ever see your father the same as before? How were you able to face him? How do I process all these feelings and how do I stop thinking about it 🥹

This guy has like me for a very long time now and I like them for about a month but he wants something serious like a real relationship and I told him I'm not ready for a relationship I barely just started liking him and he also used to date my best friend so I don't want to do that to her but he keeps insisting that he wants me more than friends and I told him that I'm not ready for relationship and he doesn't take no as an answer what do I tell him?!

Okay so, I hate traveling alone and will have to take a greyhound bus back to the state where all my family lives in right now, and at the moment I’m getting bad anxiety just by thinking about traveling alone.

I’m constantly thinking about all the negatives in the situation, can anyone give me good coping advice or anything at all? 🥲

I have nowhere to go and everyone hates me. 3 weeks ago I left my house because my dad raised his fist at me and said “I’m gonna fucking kill you”.

I am currently staying at my boyfriend’s house. I need somewhere else to go, but I lost my job a little over a month ago, I have no friends, I have no other family, and I can’t afford an apartment.

I’m in Illinois. I don’t know where else to go or what to do. Please help.

We have been friends for the past 9 years , i think of him as a brother, one day he texts me "can i tell u something" every time someone says that to me it will be private n personal, he says " i have had feelings for u for the past 3 years or so" i was very shocked n stunned but i was calm i said " sorry dude i don't like you like that" in that spectrum , after that it has been very awkward between us but some days its not awkward but the next day it is, i still want to be good friends but its completely different now.

Me (22) male
what should i do?

Every morning when I want to clean, workout or shower, he hugs me. When I do stuff like that, I want to be left alone and not touched. If I say anything to him about not wanting to be touched at all some days, he'll automatically assume I don't love him anymore. It seems like no matter how hard I try to explain I don't want to be touched, he feels rejected and gets upset. He starts to say things like "so I guess we are like every other couple who can keep our hands off each other." How can I explain that I don't like being touched when focusing on things without him getting upset?

I also feel like I can't do anything without him getting upset over it. If he doesn't get hugs after a period of 20 minutes, he gets upset, which makes it hard to do things I like, like practice my singing, go on TikTok, social media, etc. If I enjoy anything that's not him, he gets upset. I try to incorporate these things to make it fun for him, like getting him to tell me if my singing is off, tell him about recent TikTok drama, but he doesn't seem to be into it. How do I ask for alone time if he gets upset that I need it since he doesn't enjoy things I like?

About a week ago I found out that my partner lied to me about something big (won’t get into it, but it has to do with infidelity and another woman.) I found out because I invaded his privacy and read through his messages - which is a habit I have developed from being hurt in previous relationships, one that I have carried over to all my future relationships and one which feels often at times like a compulsion/addiction.

Instead of confronting him and admitting I did this, I manipulated him into telling me, and pretended I was finding out for the first time. I then gave him a really hard time for lying and keeping things from me, and he is very apologetic but I refused to forgive him at the time.

A few days have passed, and my anger has subsided and here’s the thing I am now coming to terms with - I am a hypocrite and a pathological liar. I have cheated/micro-cheated, I have invaded his privacy countless times, I have manipulated him, and I have lied about all the above.

I know I do this because I’m absolutely terrified of being hurt and it’s become almost an involuntary protective mechanism. I’m in therapy and working on it, but I know it will take so much time to undo the damage and become the person I want to be.

Right now he is feeling awful about what he did, and waiting for me to decide whether to forgive him. But I don’t think that holding this false moral superiority is going to help me change my ways in the long run, even if I break up with him.

Instead I want to do something crazy - I want to confess to him everything I have done in the past, and I want him to end the relationship on account of my betrayal and awfulness, not the other way around. I have been doing so much shit and getting away with it, and I think that if I could actually confront the consequences of my actions it might actually help me change my ways.

This is obviously easier said than done. I love my partner, we’ve been together for 5 years and I have never felt so loved and so happy in my life. I don’t know if I’m strong or brave enough to throw that all away, even though I know deep down it’s the right thing to do.

Im gay and im really scared of my family i can’t resist it anymore im really sad thats my family are so strict and if they find out I might be a trash to them i cry every night and I just can’t take it anymore what should i do 😢