For example I posted in r/aspergers about severe sensory issues i have with shoes... got a whole load of negative comments and was basically laughed out of the sub. Why are they like this? There isn't a predefined list of what's a "valid" sensory issues and what isn't. It's different from person to person.

So I love goats. We're talking happy flappy hands and wordless happy noises and spinning. Like, seeing one from the local herd on the side of the road makes me bounce so hard I shake the whole car.

After several weeks of a ton of life stress, today, we had a random goat appear in our village. I got to go give it pets and it's turned every single thing around for me today and I needed it very much.

Goats are the G.O.A.T.

Found on Instagram.

I found an app called “Does the Dog Die?”(stemmed from the idea of “I’m not watching the movie if the dog dies) And it has changed my movie watching experience- so I wanted to share it with you all! You search the movie you are about to watch and then scroll through to see if that movie contains things that might be triggering to you. If you are photosensitive, they have that in there as well! The devs are constantly taking feedback for new triggers to add to the app, and it’s been incredible. They have quite a few autism specific triggers already built into the app!

I am not at all sponsored by this app, but I wanted to share with others who might want to try it! It’s free to use all features, I think?

I’ve attached a picture of a screenshot of some triggers from the Minecraft movie to show you how easy it is!

Please don’t leave comments about “being too soft” etc, just be kind and move on :)

Just curious to see how my habit (percentage of abandoned comments) compares to others. While about as far from scientific as you can get, I’d really like to post the same question to other subs (ADHD, women groups, other large subs (sorry don’t have the words to fully express idea)). But in short I want to see if there is a variation across groups. Any thoughts/advice are warmly received and welcomed.

65% - 75% of the time a post catches my eye & spend time thinking it through, write, double/triple check post for detail, refine comment, and then I get doubts, think it sounds dumb or maybe could be taken the wrong way and ultimately abandon the comment. This isn’t a 3-5 minute process, it’s more like 10 min on the low side and upwards to 20-25 on the more involved responses. In the end, I feel like I’m wasting my time (probably because I am 🤣)

So I’m in burnout for the 3rd time in the past 12 months. I lost a best friend and 2 pets, had a massive fight with my sister, chronic stress for 10 months over a certain event. After all that, of course my body and mind are retaliating, I get it. My therapist keeps explaining that to me and I get it. But the burnout is so bad that if I do even the smallest thing, I end up shivering and crying with exhaustion and my body will feel so weak. So right now it’s looking like 2 days in bed, half a day for chores, 2 days in bed, half a day for chores. But that leaves no time for me to go outside or do my hobbies. I just don’t have the energy. I am SO bored. I miss all my creative projects. But even when I try to do them from my bed, I just cannot focus. The only things I can do are sleep, scroll on my phone, watch movies and play low stakes video games like animal crossing. But after 4 days of this, I am so done. I wanna get back to my life, I want to craft and go on walks and do things again. How do I feel less bored and shitty?

I've been struggling with terrible mood swings. One minute I'll be fine, the next I'll be angry or sad, I'll go from one extreme to the next. I feel like everyone in my life hates me. I feel shame for who I am as a person, I'm loud, I like weird things, I'm too much. I've been wanting to just leave everything I feel like everyone would be happier. I try and try to talk out my feelings with friends and family but they say "but you seem so happy? You were fine a little bit ago, you're just a moody young adult". They say they care but how do I know they just aren't lying and everyone hates me. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm sick of not being believed when I'm having these thoughts and feelings. What do I do now?

I've been aware of this and wondering about it for a while.

Most of my friends growing up, and today, are from different regions/backgrounds.

Basically, as the title says - the first person to say a word to me will lock in how I say that word aloud or in my head, for all of time. I can 'filter' and say it the way I believe I'm expected to say it, based on environment, but I feel inner turmoil and 'wrong' for doing so.

General example: 25 years ago, I first heard the word 'cilantro' spoken aloud by a Hispanic friend of mine. Now, I can reproduce the way it was said to me, and my brain feels OK, or if around white Americans, I can say it the way they do, to stop the comments that invariably follow, and feel like I'm saying it 'wrong'.

Does this happen to others?

The running joke is that my autism isn't self-diagnosed, its "peer reviewed". First brought to my attention when I was 24 when a friend asked my about my autism diagnosis experience and I told them I have ADHD, not autism. They were quick to be like "nahhh you got both". This launched a survey of everyone I know, every library book I could get my hands on, every quiz, hours of videos, and regular discussion with my friend group of nearly exclusively individuals diagnosed with autism.

There's no one who doubts I am autistic except me. I don't WANT to want an assessment. There are down sides, its cumbersome, it could potentially be problematic to have a 'pre existing condition' if things continue to erode in healthcare. I shouldn't need the clinical validation and yet I cant stop worrying I'm just faking it or reading into things or making up excuses. Problem is, I have looked into it and there is nowhere in my area that will do an autism diagnosis for less than $800-2000 that I dont have right now (they wont give a flat rate either so you can't even really plan for sure), and my insurance only covers children's assessment. (Because kids grow out of autism right? /s)

How would you recommend...coping with something like this? Any advice on what I can do?

Here's a few of mine 😁 (i need to organize them better, i know)

I've worked in my current job now for 7 years in June, Had a few issues at the start due to learning where things go and the structure of my job and role.

For the most part after the first 6 months I found it easier and quite enjoyed going to work for the most part.

After a few months I became friends with my work bestie. He was really supportive of my autism as his nephew also is autistic. Whenever I had problems at work he always supported my needs.

Recently I've come under fire due to being placed on a new work section which I dont like doing. I'm finding the workload is too much for me to handle. When I explained this to ny manager after being pulled aside regarding my performance I got called into the office.

I took my work bestie with me and my manager tried to place me on a work performance plan, When I explained that my performance has never been a problem to date and that the reasons behind it are because I'm on a completely new section that will take me longer to manage due to my autism. I was told we're giving you extra time to complete but we need this completed each night.

We've had 5 people leave recently and not had a single member of staff replaced. I know this is why they're becoming more strict and pushing more onto us. When I argued my line manager said in front of me and my work bestie (Had him there for support). 'A normal person can get that section completed plus the other half of this other section'

When I called him out on his bigotry and discriminative comment by asking him to define a 'Normal' person he Sat in silence and wouldn't give ne an answer.

I've now been forced by my line manager to speak to an Occupational Health professional who will have a virtual meeting with me to discuss my condition and understand why it is that I'm not getting the job completed each night.

Utter bullshit honestly, Each time I've tried to sit down with my managers and give them a basic understanding of how my autism affects me I'm met with... well I don't know how to help you, I don't know how your brain works etc.

Just feel like I'm not being supported

Mine's a bit stereotypical, but Star Wars. Yesterday, I ordered an autographed Thrawn Funko Pop by Lars Mikkelsen, and it's arriving in 1-2 days !!

I found out when I was 3 when I used to hand flap, rocked back and forth and walked up on my ages from an early age I was just wondering what was your very first symptoms were?

Oft, peoples speak unto me instructions relating a single central point. I then comprehend this point. However, an error seems to occur in communication- they simply continue on and on in expounding this point with justifications, pacifications and other such things which draw it out.

Is there any manner by which I may politely state that I comprehend the point and that they have no reason to expound on this, and thereby excuse myself? I do not wish to be rude or disrespect them.

Hello, I am autistic and in my thirties. It is painfully obvious by now that if I do not look for a girlfriend a relationship is never going to happen for me.

This is mostly a question for other autistic people, and I really am looking for some practical advice here. I have a hard time dealing with people both in real life and online after awhile. I get burnt out very quickly with both.

I am very fortunate in life that I am able to lead a very quiet and private life. Needless to say this lifestyle does not help with dating. I thought I would be alright if I confined my search for dates to the internet and to dating apps but even online, I am realizing how quickly I can get frustrated and burnt out reading and chatting online.

Maybe someday I will have to try more in person things to trying to get dates. But that scares me even more because in person I am often a wreck and have had panic attacks talking with new people.

So, like I said I really am looking for practical advice with how to keep up the mental strength of looking for dates when you get burnt out with people so very quickly.

Thank you.

I just started promoting my art on social media outside of Reddit in February. Friday, April 3rd I had my first official art show and a business that is promoting my art and selling it. I’m so happy right now.

This beauty belonged to my great uncle and it turned up while clearing his house. It's silver with an antler handle. The pen is for scale as I didn't have a banana handy. It has no redeeming features other than having some sort of family history, although no one knows where it originated from.

does anyone find it so uncomfortable and weird and awkward to talk to people on the internet? i mean complete strangers. i know it sounds contradictory to post on here where literally all of you who read this are strangers to me but its not a 1:1 conversation so i guess i dont feel that uncomfortable about it. most recently, ive started buying off ebay and vinted and i find it genuinely so awkward to talk to someone on those platforms, especially because money is involved too and that im a complete idiot when navigating apps like that. especially since reaching adulthood this year, i feel like i should know how to communicate and handle saying stuff on the internet and in transactions like that but i find it so crazy that anyone else just knows what to do and what to say. i just dont know what to say half the time and feel so singled out and spotlighted even through its not like anyone cares or is paying attention to my words realistically lol. i dont know if anyone feels like this but yeah.

Hi I'm Gio. Usually my fixations last about a month or span over the course of several, but right now, I find I keep flicking between them. I thought this would be a good thing, like "oh now I can draw characters from multiple different properties and people on my social media might get less bored with my art" but actually, it's been hard to finish more than 2 pieces at a time cuz I have so many ideas and can't decide what drawing to stick on. 😭 Over the past month I've felt fixation coming on from 3 different medias and it's been really hard to keep up. Like I've stayed up really late and neglected food and water while drawing (as per usual 😭), but it feels like I'm getting less art done than if I was hyperfixating on one thing.

Does anyone else have this problem?

In secondary school I had an SNA with me 24/7. Instead of helping me she'd constantly mother me. Like, talk down to me. Engage in arguments with me when I was clearly getting stressed and would presist until I had a full blown meltdown.

I would be in my maths class filling out the answers, she'd be right beside me. She'd put her finger on the paper and go "Wrong!". And I would try to have it corrected by like everyone else but my SNA would get into my face about changing it and the maths teacher would join in until I had to be taken out of the classroom.

There was numerous incidents like this. I wasn't listened to at all. Decisions were made behind my back, like removing subjects to the point where I didn't have enough to get into college. In my metal work class a misunderstanding over where I place the wood led to that class being taken away from me.

Nothing was done to build my confidence just constantly othered and being made step in line. No one reached out to me during that time. Or heard me or genuinely asked how I felt about things and followed through with it. Decisions were made based on autism symptoms I didn't even have. Like, having my exam away from everyone else even though I don't really have sensory issues. Making me skip transition year because "keeping a stable routine is better" even though I had no routine.

I would constantly have meltdowns in class. There was never any follow-up on why these meltdowns were happening in the first place. I was just sent home feeling ashamed of myself, thankfully my parents were understanding. But no follow-up on why this was happening and I was constantly reminded "oh, any other student would have been suspended for disrupting the class" and basically that I should be grateful. Same thing with my SNA, she'd constantly get in my face, cause meltdowns (half of my meltdowns were caused by her escalating situations and having arguments with me rather than knowing when to not press things). When I complained, I was told to be grateful and treated like a spoilt brat.

Now, this is the most important part. They decided half way through my first year to send me home during breaks. Like, my parents would come collect me and I'd have my lunch at my house. The whole time this was sold to my parents as better for me. I didn't want this but it still ended up being the case. I will admit, I was a very unruly 13 year old at the time and I did have behavioural issues but rather than make any attempt to help me they decided to isolate me. Classes SNA sat next to me 24/7. Breaks, I was sent home. Overtime, all this culminated in a situation where I felt othered.

By the time I started developing severe issues socialising and expressed a desire for a social life nothing was done to help me. Still constantly othered. There was a brief respite but there was a situation with a girl that I became obsessed with and I was put back in a leash. I know my actions were wrong but there was no follow-up. The way I acted to her should have been a massive warning sign that I needed help interacting with others, that maybe there was severe self esteem issues at play. Nope, just continue the othering process as if nothing happened. The end result is even now, in my community nearly ten years later I am isolated. They can't see me as a normal person because they've been trained not to. And that effect transcends my time in secondary school as they talk amongst themselves when I try to socialise. Leading to my alienation from the community and from employment opportunities. The othering process is complete. Segregation succeeded.

A few days ago, I tried to explain to my 9-year-old son (verbal but not good at communicating and has never had a friend) that he was autistic.

I had handmade a short picture book detailing the skills he excels in, the challenges he faces, and examples of famous autistic people, etc. However, within seconds of sitting him down and telling him that the doctor he sees has informed us that he was a "rare type" (an expert suggested to us that we use this term because it's apparently a Pokemon term that kids like) and his brain is wired slightly differently, he screamed "WHY? NO!", proceeding to tear the book apart, scream excessively, and locking himself in his room.

Most people on this sub seem to agree that parents should inform their child of their autism as early as possible, so I had been wanting to tell him for a good 5 years now (my wife was against it), but now I'm not sure if he was ready to have the talk.

So my question is the following:

1. Did any of you here have a bad experience when discovering that you were autistic? If so, what did it take to accept that you were autistic?
2. How long should I wait until I try to have this conversation with him again?

PS: He goes to a local inclusive school and spends about half of the day one-on-one with special ed teachers, but there are very few experts available for us where we live, so that is why I'm desperate for any input from you guys.

does anyone else hate oil? like it makes your skin crawl and it feel awful that you have to wash it off immediately?

We have to mask for years and for what, Jesus? Just to suffer little mental breakdowns along the way and even then be noticed by the 'mean girls' and the bullies? I'm tired of people saying that the solution is "going to the gym" or "be more like the other boys your age".

I don't know how many people will read this and I don't care. It just seems to me that NTs don't have to work hard to just be happy, while we mask but everything keeps falling apart anyways. I find it funny that NT cunts feel guilty bullying fellow NTs who maybe lost a leg on an accident but feel proud to call us weird, isolate us and say mean stuff just for the sake of it.

It's currently 12:27 pm where I am,and I haven't eaten. I lost track of time while scrollin' on my phone:/ I think I'll just go n eat a snack bar or somethin' before lunch. Edit: DONT WORRY YALL I GOT RICE CRACKERS I FEEL BETTER NOW :D

As a 26 year old man I know it sounds silly but I am very hypersexual and always have a high sex drive (is this common in neurodivergent people?) But im also still a virgin.

Im tall (6ft), good paying job, keep myself fit, I always take good care of my appearance and im very hygenic, I live on my own so im very independant, I dont think im boring but my life feels very lonely. I just cant seem to connect with anyone and I dont have any friends (I use to but they have all moved on), I would love to find a woman who im compatible with and who I can start a family with but I feel like I'll never find myself a woman who likes me enough to where she would want kids with me