This keeps happening and it is the most confusing encounter one can go through. Especially with working, like I always make sure to ask questions and get 100% confirmation that this is how I should do it... And then they act like I've lit their car on fire or something. I wasn't aware that I was supposed to read your mind beforehand to know what to actually do.

I just started promoting my art on social media outside of Reddit in February. Friday, April 3rd I had my first official art show and a business that is promoting my art and selling it. I’m so happy right now.

A few days ago, I tried to explain to my 9-year-old son (verbal but not good at communicating and has never had a friend) that he was autistic.

I had handmade a short picture book detailing the skills he excels in, the challenges he faces, and examples of famous autistic people, etc. However, within seconds of sitting him down and telling him that the doctor he sees has informed us that he was a "rare type" (an expert suggested to us that we use this term because it's apparently a Pokemon term that kids like) and his brain is wired slightly differently, he screamed "WHY? NO!", proceeding to tear the book apart, scream excessively, and locking himself in his room.

Most people on this sub seem to agree that parents should inform their child of their autism as early as possible, so I had been wanting to tell him for a good 5 years now (my wife was against it), but now I'm not sure if he was ready to have the talk.

So my question is the following:

1. Did any of you here have a bad experience when discovering that you were autistic? If so, what did it take to accept that you were autistic?
2. How long should I wait until I try to have this conversation with him again?

PS: He goes to a local inclusive school and spends about half of the day one-on-one with special ed teachers, but there are very few experts available for us where we live, so that is why I'm desperate for any input from you guys.

Mine's a bit stereotypical, but Star Wars. Yesterday, I ordered an autographed Thrawn Funko Pop by Lars Mikkelsen, and it's arriving in 1-2 days !!

When I was five, someone asked me:
"Do you think my new clothes are pretty?"
I looked. I thought.
And I honestly said: "No."

They got mad. I got sent to the hallway.
And my brain went into a full kernel panic — a loop I would replay endlessly, trying to understand what went wrong.

That moment was the start of my introspection engine, and the first line of what would eventually become my internal "social software package".

I’ve started writing down these early “crash logs” as a blog series called Kernel Panic. This is the first one. It’s honest, funny (in hindsight), and very, very autistic.

🔗 Kernel Panic #1: The First I Know Of

Would love to hear if others had moments like this — where a simple question somehow led to social disaster and years of internal debugging.

I'll go first, I lime to listen to kenshi yonezu (hachi) from time to time because I like his voice and his music slaps

We have to mask for years and for what, Jesus? Just to suffer little mental breakdowns along the way and even then be noticed by the 'mean girls' and the bullies? I'm tired of people saying that the solution is "going to the gym" or "be more like the other boys your age".

I don't know how many people will read this and I don't care. It just seems to me that NTs don't have to work hard to just be happy, while we mask but everything keeps falling apart anyways. I find it funny that NT cunts feel guilty bullying fellow NTs who maybe lost a leg on an accident but feel proud to call us weird, isolate us and say mean stuff just for the sake of it.

Me and my dad are both autistic and my dad is a complete conspiracy nut. I mean he believes the most insane shit. He thinks both dinosaurs and space are faked by the government, he thinks the holocaust was a hoax, he thinks the Earth isn’t round, he thinks Jews control the world, he thinks the USA invaded the Middle East to find portals to another dimension, he thinks Satan lives on Saturn, I could go on. It makes it hard for me to socialise with him, because anytime I see him he brings up his conspiracy theory bullshit. Recently he’s started going on about how all the Pakistani’s in our country (the UK) are secretly soldiers for the United Nations and that a civil war is brewing. He goes on about not believing everything you see on TV but eats up anything he finds on Facebook. All of this combined with his homophobia, transphobia, sexism, antisemitism, racism and so on make me despise him. People like him give Autistic people a bad reputation.

Here's a few of mine 😁 (i need to organize them better, i know)

Idk why I hold it so close to the point. I’ve just always done it

Everyone welcome to join the discussion, I would enjoy hearing as many perspectives as I can! Also I don't want this to come across as rude, so for the sake of clarity.

I don't have anything against anyone who cannot mask, or refuses to mask.

I saw a post recently explaining that it's not uncommon for "types"/ symptoms of autism to clash.

To clarify a few before entering the body of my discussion-

• I am a high masking autistic, I cannot/ rarely can unmask and when I do no one likes it. Someday hopefully I'll find someone actually chill with it, but It's essentially not possible for me to unmask around anyone anymore. I used to have a VERY good friend who could unmask around but then they got annoyed about it so I dropped them- but unfortunately I cant unmask anymore after that it seems.

• I enjoy masking, it keeps me safe and I've leaned how to socialize almost normally because of it

• I also realize not everyone can, and for most it is extremely exhausting

I stumbled on a comment on another site of someone mentioning that they can't get along with many other autistics, because when other autistics dont follow/cant follow social rules/norms it makes them panic/annoyed. In a "You're not following the rules!" way

I realized that this is exactly how I feel, although I understand its not a "reasonable" emotion.

Heres a metaphor, imagine you had spent all your life learning the rules to a board game, how to play, and the strategy. Suddenly, theres a new player! But they dont follow the same rules as you, and it turns out they literally CAN'T. How do you play the game?

Thats sort of how it feels (?)

One can't (shouldn't) judge others on how someone else can or can't do something, so I dont judge.

But I also cannot be around someone that's being socially unaware/ actively visually unmasked. It sends me into a borderline state of fight or flight in a "you're putting a target on our backs for harassment!!!" Way.

I just wanted to know if there was anyone else who's high masking and could relate/ start a discussion.

Also absolutely nothing against people who are higher needs or low/no masking. I just wanna start a discussion about some experiences I didn't think anyone else had until today.

I finally cleaned my room and set up a chores/goals and reward system! I struggle a lot with cleanliness and taking care of myself, but I’m hoping that this system will help with motivation! (I live with my parents and am a minor, so that’s why it has nothing about keeping a house functioning)

During the week I sleep 6/7 hours, say from 12/1am to 7/8am.

Each day I get progressively more tired and lethargic.

I sleep for 12-13 hours every Saturday.

My wife and I are autistic and we both are easily startled. We sometimes sneak up and startle each other for fun but it doesn’t take much. I wonder if it’s part of sensory sensitivity to sounds: “BOO!”

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Greetings and salutations! Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Dan, and I am the author of the Akynd Chronicles, a fantasy series following vigilante mages in their attempts to fix the world.

I was diagnosed autistic a couple years ago, right after my daughter(almost 5). One of the strangest aspects about finally knowing why I am different is that I no longer try to force myself to do things the "normal" way. You see, I was raised in a household where you did things the right way, or you got the belt. I spent decades mastering the art of masking, to the point where I couldn't really tell where I started and the mask ended.

I am not sure what all to put in here, so I'll try to briefly summarize the highlights in case anyone has questions. I've been married three times, the first two combined lasting less than a year, and this one (the last one) just celebrated our twelve year anniversary. I've been homeless. I've been stabbed. I was a teen parent (he's 21 now). I joined the military. I've had knee surgery, a hernia repair, and LASIK. I've worked a variety of jobs, naming a few fields: customer service, IT, food service, construction, programming, insurance sales, and education, just to name the ones that come to mind.

My first experience with the world of fiction writing was in third grade when I was assigned (along with the class) a creative writing assignment. It had to be at least a paragraph long, but otherwise, just had to be creative. I turned mine in late, and went about 30 pages over the required single paragraph. It was a story about a mop bucket at our school that came to life. I got a 98% because, in the teacher's words, "it deserved 100, but it was late, and being on time matters." I have never been late since.

Some of my favorite authors include Anne Rice (the vampires, not the religion), R.A. Salvatore, K.A. Applegate, Jim Butcher, Brandon Sanderson, and the work of J.K. Rowling (not to be confused with her as a person, who I have qualms with).

One of the most interesting things about writing as an autistic author, to me, is that the traditional advice given to authors doesn't really work for me. I wrote book one in the series the "normal" way, and it took me years. Books two and three I wrote after deciding to do things my way, and I wrote them both together over a month and a half. They are, in my opinion, much better than the first.

I don't think I'll ever make a living as an author, but that's mainly due to some unresolved trauma regarding salesmanship. As is, I give the books away much more frequently than I sell them, hosting give aways evert pride month (one of the MCs is essentially trans, pictured, but I'll leave elaboration on that for if anyone has questions, as I can be a bit long-winded and there are character limits). To that effect, if anyone looks these over and wants to read them, but doesn't have the KU subscription, or the means to purchase them, feel free to send me a DM. I wont require you to prove it or explain or anything, I just ask that you are honest and only request it free if the money is why you cannot get it. Amazon does require me to say that free copies are given in exchange for ratings, but I will not chase you down.

Oh, and in the DM, I just need to know an email address where I can send the ebooks to, and also whether you are using a kindle or generic eReader, as the format is different.

For those who can only do audiobooks, I regret to inform you that only the first one is on audio. If was ridiculously expensive to get it put into audio format, and it's earned me about twelve dollars. I cannot afford to do that for the rest of the books unless I get lucky and go viral, or Oprah makes it her book of the month, or the Catholic Church bans it, something like that.

Speaking of banning, I suppose I should mention trigger warnings. The main characters are vigilantes in the line of Punisher or Boondock Saints, so naturally there is violence. One of the main characters is a child, so naturally children are sometimes involved with the violence. It doesn't get terribly graphic, nothing that should give nightmares or anything, but it does happen. There is also death (a lot), a parallel to addiction, and a trans character meeting their parents as "out" that does not go well.

I have rambled enough. If you read this far, and have no questions at all, please respond with "banana" so that I know that my words have at least been seen, even if you have no interest in the series or my life. That said, it's 1:30 am, so I am going to bed, and hope I wake up to a pile of questions and interest and such. Thanks for reading.

-Dan

yeah basically the title :)

does anyone else hate oil? like it makes your skin crawl and it feel awful that you have to wash it off immediately?

This beauty belonged to my great uncle and it turned up while clearing his house. It's silver with an antler handle. The pen is for scale as I didn't have a banana handy. It has no redeeming features other than having some sort of family history, although no one knows where it originated from.

i'm currently 21, and i started driving when i was like 18 or 19 but i stopped for about 18 months in between. i used to have such bad driving anxiety, but i was encouraged by my therapist to keep at it and use my coping tools. now my anxiety is mostly gone, simply out of exposure therapy, but i still don't think i should be driving.

i don't enjoy driving, but that's not really the problem. i'm actually just terrible at driving. i'm not good at the necessary multitasking involved, and i'm easily distracted and have very poor impulse control. i genuinely believe that i am unsafe to drive, but i can't afford to not drive. and i know i'm not the only person with this problem.

(it's also frustrating because i've seen people online vent about driving problems, particularly related to neuroatypicality, and receive the response "you're being selfish, get off the road". like yeah, i would LIKE TO. CAN YOU PAY FOR THAT SHIT?????)

i'm going to look into bus routes in my area since that's the only other affordable option. it's probably going to offset my daily schedule by several hours to and from destinations, but after almost having a potentially detrimental accident today (one of many close calls) i know that i simply can not keep doing this. it's not a matter of what i need to do to be able to drive, i can't drive. and it honestly frustrates me that no one accepts that answer. i'm also going to look into government transportation assistance, but i don't imagine i'll qualify since im L1 and am able to work.

anyway i kinda wanna cry now and life sucks uwu but lmk if y'all relate at all ig

People said they'd pay $20 bucks for smth like this :0

Now I think they lied cuz if only I got commissions T0T

none the less..

YIPPIIIEEEEEEEEEEEEEE