I (29) female and my husband (31) male, have been together for 11 years and married for 7. We have been struggling to have a baby for 5 years due to Male Factor Infertility. We have gone through 2 rounds of IVF along with many other treatments that have all failed. Along with this, my husband’s mother passed away just 2 years ago. Needless to say, our marriage has seen a lot of hard days the last few years and recently, I’m not seeing how to move forward. My husband dropped a blindsiding bomb on me a few weeks ago and told me that he was content not being a dad. I think there has been a lot of pain for him through infertility that he was hiding, and now it’s built up so high he’s called it quits. He is completely done and doesn’t want to proceed with anymore treatment, or even talk about it. It feels like we are just roommates these days. We hardly text throughout the day, or talk when we get home. He doesn’t kiss me anymore, touch me, or act like he’s in love with me. We never have sex unless I try hard to initiate it, and I just found out yesterday he is masterbating occasionally behind my back. This is so hurtful to my self esteem and makes me feel like he’s not attracted to me anymore. What do I do? Where do we go from here? I’ve obviously thought about counseling, but we are already in so much medical debt from IVF, I don’t want to take on another financial burden. He reassures me he’s in love with me, recognizes the way he’s been treating me, says he’ll “fix it”, but nothing ever actually changes. How do we recover from all this pain? I have supported him through everything without wavering. I’ve never once blamed him for anything, and stepped up for him and his dad when his mom was passing. My heart is just broken, none of my needs are being met and I’m quietly suffering. What would you do?

Just had a really strange night and honestly, I don’t know how to feel about it. I could really use some advice…

Last night around 2:30 AM, I was asleep in my room when I suddenly woke up out of nowhere and saw a dark figure standing over my bed. Naturally, I freaked out and after a second, I realized it was my roommate, whose room is right across the hall. I immediately asked him what the hell he was doing just standing there watching me sleep. He muttered something weird about forgetting something in my room and looking for it, then quickly ran off and shut my door. It took me about an hour to fall back asleep.

The next morning, I tried to confront him about it, and he gave me some BS excuse about thinking I was awake and claiming he knocked before coming in (which he didn’t). I didn’t have time to push it further since I was already running late for work.

Then when I got home, I found out from our other roommate that he packed a bag and said he’d be staying at his parents place for a week or two. After that, he sent me this two-minute Snapchat video apologizing but he also tried to justify what he did by saying he was stressed and needed to talk to me about something important. He said I should reach out when I’m ready to talk.

So… what do I even do here? I feel like this crossed a serious line and I don’t know if there’s any coming back from it. I’m honestly not sure I want to talk to him at all it just feels super awkward and uncomfortable now. Is this friendship even salvageable? I mean we live together with a third roommate and we’ve still got 4 months left on the lease.

I (17F) have a mom (36F) who has a history of cheating. I recently told my dad about something she did—she left the house to hang out with a guy in MY car while I was taking care of my younger siblings (5F, 12M, 16M). This happened when my dad was gone, and I was left to take care of them. The next day, while my parents were out, my dad mentioned the guy she was with had been using some kind of scanner on my car (something my mom had told me), and then my mom called me right away, asking if I had told my dad. I was confused at first, and then she hung up. When they got home, she got into a huge argument with me and my dad, blaming me for their marriage falling apart.

Later on, they decided to get a divorce (though they always threaten that and never follow through), and she told me she no longer trusts me because I told my dad what happened. What’s really bothering me, though, is that now she’s ignoring me and acting passive-aggressive. She doesn’t ask if I’ve eaten but is giving food to my brothers and little sister. It’s making me feel anxious, as I’m constantly worried about when the next outburst will happen. I used to feel like I had to walk on eggshells around her, but now it’s even worse.

My dad and brother have both reassured me that it’s not my fault she got caught cheating, but I still feel horrible. I really hate that this is how the new year is starting. I’ve never had a great relationship with my mom, but I feel like the little progress I made with her has been completely undone, and I’m not sure what to do. I’m scared this situation will affect my schooling (I’m homeschooled) and my overall life. I really need some advice. Thank you, Reddit.

My brother in law and I would talk politics regularly when hanging out but not exclusively ... few weeks ago he went off about "Russia Russia Russia, all the court cases, and something else" then he physically pushed me and I fell ... if it was anyone else I would have been standing more stable as he approached but I've known this guy for 15 years and whatever we've gotten heated about politics before but he just pushed me over

Got up, left haven't talked to him since but I think he might be thinking of reaching out ... fuck this guy - i guess I just want a bunch of people to tell me to ignore him or if i should give him a chance to explain himself

Sorry for bad grammar

My husband has traveled for work for the last 7 years. We were on the road with him until our oldest started school, so we moved home so i would have help with kids. He’s been struggling to find a job back home paying what he makes traveling, so he’s been working out of state. Im a stay at home mom to our two kids. A few weeks ago i went to a gathering at his grandmothers house with our kids while he was gone. His sister asked my husbands parents if she would take her child home with them (for the third time that week but that’s none of my business). I half jokingly asked if she would take mine for the night as well, then followed with how i could really use a break because my husband had been gone for 10 days at that point. She said no because “three is too much” for her. Whatever, that’s fine.

Fast forward to last weekend, it was our anniversary and we took the kids with us to our dinner because surprise, mil had her other grandchild again. No problem, our kids had a blast at the “fancy” restaurant. I was still really overwhelmed and overstimulated and really just wanted some time alone. Mentioned that to my husband and how much it upset me that his mom didn’t care that i needed a break, but is practically raising her other grandchild. My husband just nodded and said yeah. Got home and he left on a 3 hour fishing trip.

Now it’s today. He finally found a job in our town. Really, we couldn’t ask for it to be closer or better hours. He decided to take this week off before he starts, and he’s been planning fishing trips for 3-4 days this week. All day, 2 hour away fishing trips. I’ve been hesitant to bring up me needing time out because he deserves it too, but today i did. I asked him if he knew the last time i got time alone, more than the hour i have at the gym when i take our daughter to the daycare there. He said he didn’t know. I asked if he remembered the conversation we had last weekend about how i needed a break, then he came home and left. He said yes. That was it. He hasn’t spoken to me since. Do i have a reason to be upset, or am i being selfish? I know i took forever to vocalize my feelings but i finally did and it just feels like nobody cares about me getting time for myself.

So my mom has always been with be to doctors appointments and I don’t like it. I would like to speak for myself and I feel extremely uncomfortable with her in the room even at a regular doctor’s visit. But today I’m going to the OBGYN for my severe pain during my cycle. And I do not want her in the room with talking about private issues. I want to know what’s wrong with me even if they have to do a Pap smear BUT my mom would tell them absolutely not. And even if I did have to have one dose SHE WOULD BE IN THE ROOM cause I’ve asked her EXTREMELY nicely to leave to room cause they were doing a exam and she said” no I’m you mom and I’m paying for this I’m not leaving” or “ I said no cause I said so” . My mom is extremely strict and my dad and if I asked her to leave the room even to just talk to the doctor she would get me in trouble and my dad. I and not gunna be able to get the help I need if she is telling the doctor what she thinks is wrong with me. I don’t know what to do

I was with my ex who I will call Nate because if I’m being honest minus betraying a friend I was a Cassie

I don’t want to go to much into the details but for the last nine years I lost myself to Nate he was my world everything I did was for him, I helped him though depression, help get/keep his grades up even worked two jobs so he could focus on collage when his parents disowned him for nearly 3 years because they didn’t agree with the major or collage he choose bare in mind I was also a collage student

when his parents started talking to him again and started to financial support him we moved into a new apartment Nate said he wanted me to quit my job (I didn’t) because it was his turn to take care of me . For 16 months everything was great he spoiled me than I noticed he was more interested in his new friends at times he ignored me completely

Back in December he did a 180 and he loved bombed me the whole month he really went out of his way to make Christmas magical for me i honestly believed he was going to propose on January the 2nd he made me my favourite dinner and made this speech about me being his first love how I’ve been there since high school I kept thinking any minute now he’s gonna ask me to marry him

But no he dumped me as his speech went on my world fell apart and as much he tried to sugar coat it he basically said “you were a good girlfriend but that’s what you always be to me a girlfriend I don’t see you as my wife or the mother of my children blah blah you served your purpose now I don’t need you anymore blah blah I need someone on my level blah blah you’re a gold digger blah I’ll give you 30 days to move out”

I couldn’t speak and he stared at me looking for a response I think this lasted 20 minutes before he said he’d sleep in the guest room than left, strangely I didn’t cry or get angry I just ordered cardboard boxes online than went to bed. The next day I waited for him to leave the apartment before I left my room than I called my boss asked (begged really) if I could transfer anywhere she told me there wasn’t anything but if something came up in my department she’d consider me. I than reached out to everyone I knew that wasn’t also Nate’s friend for a place to stay my cousin invited me to stay in her spare room for as long as I needed and I could move in straight away so that was amazing, in the four days it took me too pack my stuff and move out I didn’t see or speak to Nate I doubt he even noticed

I didn’t trust myself at the time to ignore a “you up text” so I blocked him and everyone close to him even changed me number/email to make sure he couldn’t reach me. The first night at my cousins was the night everything hit me I think I cried every night the first month i honestly felt like shit i thought about what Nate said over and over again it made me feel so low like I was nothing he only stayed with me because I was just there but thankfully my cousin sent for my mom,other cousins and real friends to give me an intervention which I badly needed , I believe that first month I wouldn’t have made it without my cousin

I’m still healing and waiting on that job transfer because I feel like if I’m not in the same city as nate and I have a place of my own the fresh start would do me the world of good.

I thought by now I’d be a distant memory for Nate but shockingly he sent flowers to my job today for my brithday which was on Sunday apparently he went to my parents house looking for me too and my mom admitted he’s been before dropping off stuff and tried to ask questions about me but they told him to fuck off

The flowers came with a card saying “dear cassie happy belated birthday I’ve been thinking about you for non stop for the last few months especially with how everything ended I need to get something off my chest that I feel will haunt me for the rest of my life if I don’t tell you this to your face but I’ve no way of contacting you if it’s possible can we meet up in the near future -Nate”

What could he want? What’s haunting him he needs to say to my face?
Everyone in my life is telling me ignore him but they hate him

I’m torn but I can’t lie my curiosity is telling me meet him to see what he wants Has anyone been in my shoes or in Nates?

I’m in complete shock. I (21F) was assaulted by my ex-roommate back in December 2023. I know, male roommate was a horrible idea. Trust me, I’ve learned my lesson and am in a much safer place now.

Today I found out that he also assaulted 3 other people. One of them was my best friend (20M) while he was temporarily staying with us for about a week a couple years ago. He’s also been accused by his ex-girlfriend and another man.

I definitely believe it but I fear it’s much too late at this point to go to the police, so I’m more just trying to find ways to support my friend.

Please be kind, this is a really difficult situation for me to process.

I’m a middle aged woman doing my middle aged woman thing: choosing to sit in the “quiet car” on my suburban train home in order to enjoy my 20 minutes of alone time reading my book.

There is a young girl loudly having a phone conversation on speaker sitting directly underneath the “quiet car” sign with the rules that prohibit exactly this. I feel a bit like Amy Santiago in 30 Rock, but I am irked! There are rules here.

One a scale of one to Karen, would you ever say anything?

I (21F) recently found out my boyfriend (21M) lied to me about going to his work function, and instead went to a club with his friends. I found out via the pictures and videos his friends posted. He was dancing, grinding on strippers and other unknown people , asking them to show him their tits in one of the videos. He had even asked his friends to not take pictures of him so I would not find out but i did. When I confronted him he denied it until I showed him proof.

He’s now constantly apologising saying I’m overreacting about the situation.

I’m starting to wonder if I really am overreacting. Should I forgive him and look past it ?

my dad has been getting more and more radical to the point i feel uncomfortable being around him. he drinks a lot and i get scared he'll get into a fight by offending someone bc of the disgusting shit he'll say about poc. i'm a minor and i don't know how to deal with this. i'm scared of going in public especially right now because we are on vacation and he keeps drinking and can't quit talking about his crazy opinions. my mom agrees with him i think because she doesn't want to deal with his temper and tbh i don't either bc he gets really loud and defensive. should i tell him to go to aa? or maybe call him out on his bs (not suddenly bc he'll get angry)? or just ignore it and keep going till i can move out?

edit: i've decided to just thug it out, ty to everyone for commenting i tried to respond to everyone but i don't really know how to use reddit lol. i might delete this post soon bc my dad checks reddit a lot so ty again everyone for ur advice.

My ex had told me the I had a high sex drive and that sex it’s all I ever wanted out of him and nothing else. After that I had basically stopped with trying to show my needs/desires with him. Now in the present time, I’ve been talking to this guy and he said that it seemed that all I wanted from him was sex. I had thought I was being careful/cautious with my action with this guy because I didn’t want the same thing to happen. I didn’t want him to think that sex is all I wanted. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong?

I need some serious advice. My son is 6 months old, and his father, who's been MIA for 3 months with a double felony warrant, is a really bad guy. His family supports me, and I've moved across the country to raise my son with my own family. When I was pregnant, his father (Louis Smith) pressured me to name our son Louis Grant Smith, planning for me to marry him and take his last name. That obviously didn't happen. Now, I'm stuck with my son being named after him. My lawyer has everything ready to change his name, but I'm torn. We've been trying out other names, but it feels wrong since we all know him as Grant (his middle name). The other issue is, if I change his last name to mine (Grant), I can't really name him Grant Grant. So, I'd have to change both his first and last name. Should I even change his first name? Has anyone else been in a similar situation, especially with the last name issue? Everywhere I go with him, pediatrician appts, church, anywhere - people are confused by his name Grant and then knowing my last name… I don’t want to always explain..

I don't have any friends, and I've never been in a relationship. It's extremely hard for me to meet new people. Even if I meet someone and we kind of become friends, we eventually stop talking, and they disappear. It's been like this for 3 years, and I just don’t have enough energy to meet new people.

My closest person is my mom, but I suddenly realized that she’s not going to live forever. It scares me so much—I love her deeply, and I can’t imagine my life without her. I also have a brother, but we’re not close. We’re both introverts, so we don’t even talk to each other. Then there’s my dad—he left my mom when I was 7. We still meet sometimes, but we’re not close. There are no other relatives.

Also, an important thing is that I’m childfree and I’m probably a lesbian, so I’m never going to have a husband or kids.

So I realized that there’s a huge chance I’ll eventually end up completely alone—no close relatives, no friends, no parents, no partner, and no kids. How am I going to live? I don’t understand. What if something happens to me and there’s no one to have my back?

My brain’s been tormenting me with these thoughts for 3 days. When I open my eyes in the morning, it’s the first thing I think about. I’m even crying while typing this.

Please tell me that I’m going to be okay, that I’m going to meet people, that I’m not going to end up alone.

My friend and roommate was hit by a truck and was innthe hospital for 18 days of which her husband was not there but two days because he was at home with not one but two girls one obviously was the main one and doing this he put me in an awkward position now she's home and he's not here for three days since she got home and she doesn't know where he is and I have a good idea where he is but with him being gone it leaves me to take care of her and I don't mind but she is very worried about him and she's crying a lot. Do I tell her what I know or not?

I am in a horrible situation that is really affecting my mental health . I'm 61 and single . My son now 34 turned up 3 years ago with 2 dogs a cat to stay with me . Initially for a few months to get himself a job and own place to stay. 3 years later I lost the flat I was renting due to breaking the rules by letting him stay.that also incurred damages by his dogs to doors and carpets. I lost my deposits . I then bought my first home a small cottage and he moved in with me as again he would be homeless. He has never worked since being here. Studies OU at home and barely looks after his dogs who are big and prevent me from having the home and garden I deserve. My carpets are ruined, my house smells and my garden is so small I can't enjoy it . I've asked him to move out , he tells me he is trying but he has no income relies on benefits and its difficult when he has dogs to private rent in the UK, he won't let me speak because he accuses me of butting in or being angry when I am not , refuses to read messages. Tell me he doesn't feel welcome and tells me I'm a horrible nasty person pretty much daily .He's 34 was diagnosed 2 years ago with Aspergers . He has worked running pubs and night clubs in the past but now he is referring to himself as a disabled man . I feel trapped and my mental health is getting worse and worse. I am on my own and really need help with what to do .

im in high school im only writing this post out of desperation i wont bore anyone with the details but theres a chance im pregnant, i started smoking and other stuff that i promised myself and my parents from a young age i would never do my grades are at a all time low, im not even sure if this is the right place to post this im graduating next year and i feel like ive already thrown my life away and im scared

I live in a very small house. It was me and my boyfriend until a few days ago- and i told my friend he could come stay a couple days to get away from his ex wife. But a few ago my boyfriend beat me up for the last time and I finally called police and he’s gone. I didn’t even have a day to sit back and calm down, my friend and his kid showed up from several hours drive away. I told them last night that I had already arranged for a friend to come live in the spare bedroom and help with bills. I asked what they need to get home but they didn’t quite pick up the message… I thought they left. It’s 11pm and they just made a loud entrance inside. I work at 6am. I told them I have too much going on in the house and the landlord is kind of strict. I guess I know i just need to tell them to go. Just ranting I look like an ass too, because his son is disabled and there’s no bed for him tonight. This house is about the size of a small 1 br apartment and there’s 5 people tonight ugh I know I told my friend he could come but that was before I was beat up by my ex boyfriend. I feel like I’d give a person some space

Ever since about 5th grade I’ve had major social anxiety. I’ve gotten out of my shell a bit as I’ve aged, but recently that fear has come creeping back. Specifically when it comes to how I carry myself.

Personality-wise on the inside, I love cartoons, I love all things cute, Asian culture and fashion, I like rock music and country, alternative, top 40s. I love wearing the color black, but I like wearing glitter and being extra with my makeup. I love tattoos and piercings. I’ve wanted so many. I want choppy hair, I want long hair, I want colorful hair. I want to stand out. My humor is dark, I like the unknown and the weird. I don’t get uncomfortable easily, but I’m afraid of feet. I hate small talk and I love learning about the weird in people. Sex is interesting and I love talking about in a nonsexual educational way.

Personality-wise on the outside, I’m quiet, wear pretty modest clothing. I never curse, I always have black hair in somewhat conservative styles. I follow the rules. I never joke, especially not inappropriately. I wear the same makeup daily, usually nice and done up, but not as much as I’d like. I think of things and don’t say them or hesitate so much that I lose the chance. Most people find me boring, prudish, or just that “nice” girl.

I’m a 33 year old black girl. Every day that passes, I have one less day to be who I truly want to be. I can’t use the excuse I did growing up that I was stepping outside the mold. I see so many authentically beautiful black women…women in general who have broken social norms and just are existing, being exactly who they want to be. Every day fear stops me. What ifs stop me. What if that wasn’t funny? What if they think my makeup is too much. What if I say this and it sounds dumb. What if I don’t even know what I’m talking about?

Even around my boyfriend. I can’t even relax enough to be myself with him. I can’t make myself do the silly things I do when I’m alone. I think I’d have him thoroughly amused if he saw me at my goofiest, most comfortable self. But he sees a polished, good girl version who doesn’t disagree, is quiet, and tones herself down for the sake of who knows.

I want to finally be the version of me I remember thinking I’d be by the time I was in my 30s.

I’m a 27-year-old guy, and I’ve been struggling with a serious porn addiction for quite some time. Things got worse about a year ago, after the end of a 12 year relationship with my long-term girlfriend. It really took a toll on me emotionally, and unfortunately, I turned more and more to porn as a way of coping.

Now, I’m in a new relationship with a wonderful woman (24F), and we’ve been dating for around 4 months. Things are getting pretty serious, we’re in love, and I’ve already met her whole family. She’s kind, supportive, and genuinely caring.

Here’s the problem: because of my addiction, I’ve developed some sexual dysfunctions. I often struggle to get an erection, especially when things get intimate between us. I also get extremely nervous during any sexual moments, which just makes things worse.

I actually managed to stop watching porn completely for two months starting in January, but I’ve since relapsed and feel like I’m back at square one. I’ve been thinking that maybe opening up to someone about this could help me finally overcome it.

I’m seriously considering telling my girlfriend, but I’m really scared about how she might react. Given how supportive she’s been, I think she might understand, but I don’t want to risk damaging the relationship or making things awkward between us.

Do you think I should tell her? Could it actually help with my recovery and ease some of the pressure I feel? Or should I try to deal with this on my own first before bringing it up?

Any advice or personal experiences would mean a lot. Thanks in advance.

I'm 14 and I'm getting baptized in the Catholic Church soon and I'm going to have to do confessions. I wanted to know if I was committing a sin. I'm not ready to confess my selfharm to anyone face to face yet but I want to become closer to God and I think not confessing is wrong. I also don't want my parents to find out because my stepdad doesn't believe in cutting yourself or commiting suicide and the last mental struggle I had he just yelled at me so I'm worried. I would appreciate if anyone could give me some advice or opinions. :)

pretty much it. how do i play it off?

I just recently moved in with my boyfriend. (i’m 23, he’s 21) and everything is going great, except for one thing. His mom. I’ve known that he talks and spends time with his mom a lot but I did not expect her to turn this clingy once he moved in with me.

She’s really nice and stuff but her calling him multiple times a day is getting on my nerves and she visits way too often. On the first day she insisted to stay and hand wash ALL of our dishes even though we have a dishwasher (and they were clean already), then after around 6-8 hours he told her to leave and after that she called him probably three times after she left. Yesterday she showed up with some of his stuff and said she wasn’t gonna stay for long because we were gonna go grocery shopping. She stayed for over two hours and made jokes about how she’s gonna be here all the time because our apartment is ”better” than her’s. The constant calling is there even when she has visited the same day.

I have no idea how to handle the situation. I don’t want to be rude and I figured that she’s like this because she’s divorced and lonely. (Except she has a second son) For now I told my boyfriend to encourage her to get a dog because that’s the only thing I could come up with. And I tell him we should have no guests at all for a couple days but in reality I just don’t want her to visit.

Thank you for all to help me with this! You guys helped me in ways I didn’t even think could be possible.

My partner of 2 years told me they where asexual but I recently found out they are on the website to sex chat Ai bots, I’m stuck, it’s not cheating but it didn’t make me feel good, what would you say it is?

Hi all, I (18M) have recently reconnected with my younger cousin (14M) after years of not talking. We've been chatting a bit online, and while I want to be a supportive older cousin, I’m starting to get concerned about some things he’s shared with me.

He likely has depression and autism (not diagnosed), and while I know teenage years can be rough, his behavior is starting to feel more intense than just normal teenage issues. A few examples:

• He says he hates his parents and interprets their attempts to spend time with him (like asking him to go places or watch shows together) as controlling or manipulative.
• He has very few friends in real life. Most of his friends are online.
• He sleeps from about 3am to 2pm regularly.
• He’s a very strong student but often argues with teachers about grades or how he’s being evaluated.
• He told me he’s open to advice and has said he tries to communicate with his parents, but that they think they know what makes him happy better than he does.
• Overall, his worldview seems very negative and emotionally distant, even when people are trying to connect with him.
• There is also a family history of mental illness, including personality disorders and psychosis, on his side of the family—so I’m hyper-aware that this could be more than just teenage angst.

I’ve let him know that while I’ll keep our conversations private, I will reach out to someone if I ever think he’s in danger. Right now, I’m just not sure how seriously to take these signs. I don’t want to overreact, but I also don’t want to ignore something that could become serious.

My questions: - For those with experience (as parents, older siblings, or people who’ve gone through something similar), does this sound like something to be really concerned about? - What are ways I can continue to support him without overstepping or making him feel judged?

I’m quite an anxious person, so it’s likely I’m overthinking this whole situation. Any insight or perspective would be appreciated. I care about him and just want to handle this responsibly.

(Just in case he sees this: I know there's a chance my cousin might come across this post since he uses Reddit. If you do—this isn’t meant to talk behind your back or judge you. I care about you, and I’m just trying to make sure I support you in the best way I can. I won’t be sharing this with anyone irl.)