Two missed calls at 1:20am. I had do not disturb on so that’s probably why she called twice, but I was not expecting this in a million years. Had to delete social media cause she’s been posting herself going out all the time. I know I shouldn’t respond but holy crap.

after 2 years, and after a breakthrough in our relationship 2 days ago. he just up and left. we finally came to an understanding 2 days ago about the things we needed to work on, and i had tremendous hope cause i finally felt heard and understood. he came to my house after spending the day with his friends, we were fine. i fell asleep and woke up at 5am to this. he just left me in the middle of the night and blocked me on everything. i don't know how to cope with myself. im genuinely crumbling and grieving so hard right now, and i have work in 2 hours. i literally can not breathe

I ask this because it has been many years, and I've never really been able to truly love again.

She had me at my best. We discussed marriage. Loved my family and they loved her. However, she got involved with the wrong crowd- which led to hard drugs and eventually infidelity on her part.

I broke it off with her in hopes of finding a good person for me. A woman who would never cheat. One who would treat me like I deserve.

Though my ex adored me. Wrote me letters. Wore my promise ring after. Begged for me back. Swore it'd never happen again... I knew she wasnt ready and gave it time.

I dated others, but literally every woman has treated me like a 4th or 5th option, and never prioritized me.

I think many men can relate when I say that the dating pool today is almost exclusively women that disrespect men and have an entitled view of what they want. I've had zero positive experiences on apps.

My last job I worked with all women, and they'd go on tinder in the break room and roast these honest, hardworking men's profiles, and swipe left on about 98% of them.

'His jaw is weird. Ew he's in construction his hands are dirty. I'd never date a plumber. His beard doesn't even connect. Not tall enough.'

Ghosting is insane out here today. Whenever I'd totally give up, some woman would come along and hit on me. Pursue me hard. Only to ghost when we were supposed to meet or escalate beyond texting.

At least my ex treated me like a king when she was with me. Never ignored a text or call. But times have changed. Supportive, affectionate women are becoming obsolete.

I know the women are going to probably argue this, but try dating women and get back to me on that. I'm not here to argue.

I'd see the bitterness towards men in my coworkers and it's quite terrifying...

I figured if I kept in shape and did the right thing, a good woman would come along and see that.

No.

It's been over a decade and my dad recently had a heart attack, I flew home and he had me go through my old stuff to see what to throw out. Amongst many things, I found my ex and I's old pictures together and handwritten letters from her.

We really had it all for a moment.

I went out to my car and had a breakdown.

Seeing how in love we were is hard to replay. How on earth could a connection so strong just end?

It's been over a decade since a woman said I love you, or treated me like I mattered to her. And the only one who did still cheated.

I looked her up on social media, and she's engaged now in a 7 year relationship. New profile, where she looks healthy and drug free.

She's lives in a high end neighborhood near where we grew up, with a supposedly high earning guy. He's actually a cop.

I know social media is mostly a lie. But damn, she's really able to move on like that?

She could mess her life up, cheat, sleep around, and just find a good man quick like that?

I built my career, never cheated, stayed in shape as yet get treated like an option, at best?

This girl walked miles to my house one time to confess her love for me. Saying she didn't want to live without me. And here she is doing it.

I just wanted her to get it right, apologize and come back to me.

I always thought we'd have another chance. But it looks like it's really, really over.

And yes, I know it's been a tremendously long time...

So my question is, have you ever been able to really truly love the same way again?

Because it looks like she does. And I just don't see how. I was never able to do it...

At this rate I will die alone.

I think I'll miss her for the rest of my life.

1. Sometimes you just have to mess up. I definitely did. A LOT, especially immediately after the breakup. I reached out, texted, called, begged. I broke NC way more than I would’ve liked to admit. But each time I did, the tint wore off my rose colored glasses until eventually I was able to see things clearly. Disillusionment hits hard, especially when you reach the point where you’re fully out of denial, and you realize that your ex just doesn’t want you. They made the decision to leave. And they meant it. Don’t try to convince yourself of something that isn’t there.

2. TIME. There is no shortcut. You cannot rush the process. It will take TIME. You’re not going to heal overnight, and you will have nights when you just feel like everything is hopeless. But it won’t last, I promise. You’ll get through this. You’re a human being, and humans are adaptable. We’re going to adapt and accommodate to the obstacles that come our way, and eventually we’ll grow accustomed to a stimulus that was once unfamiliar to us. As we heal, the pain will dull over time. Which brings me to my next point.

3. FEEL. Time is definitely a factor, but in addition to time, you’re going to have to put in the effort. This means facing your feelings. Feel out your emotions. Cry if you have to. Write out your feelings, whether it be on this thread, or in a journal. Talk to your friends, family, loved ones. Do NOT, however, talk to your ex. But do reach other to other loved ones. Any judgment free zone works as well, like going to a therapist. Express your grievances, weep it all out.

4. Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself. Do little things that make you happy, like maybe making some time for yourself in the evening after work to watch your favorite tv show, or going out to buy yourself that piece of jewelry you always liked. You deserve a little bit of self-love. ❤️

I have lost all self-esteem. I can’t stop contacting my ex. She’s so tired of it. She told me that if I keep messaging her, she will block me again. When she did block me, I went overboard and called her using a private number. I emailed her numerous times. I don’t want to do this. I keep telling myself to stop messaging her, but I just can’t help myself. I’m having mental breakdowns every single day. I can’t function. I feel like I’ve lost my mind and am now known as the “crazy ex.” Please help me.

It’s been a long time, but I was with this girlfriend who I loved dearly. I treated her like a literal queen. If anything, I was too nice. Always paid her all her manicures & pedicures, always drove to her place to keep her off the road, always had her surprises & gifts.. heck I even cleaned her place most weekends. Basically, never told her no and told her everyday how lucky I felt she was my girl. She even flew me across the country to meet her extended family. I thought I had met my spouse

Over a year into the relationship, she suddenly just changed her whole vibe and she dumped me via text because she wanted to go see other people. But, she wanted to “keep in touch” with me, she said.

I was shattered. I remember laying in bed watching the rain come down and I couldn’t even make myself watch YouTube or anything at all on TV, it just felt like the light of my life had went out.

I just basically did all I could to channel all my hurt into motivation. I lived really frugal. I paid off my student loan from my Master’s degree 100%, I have more in savings than I ever had, I’ve been getting new job offers and I finished my dream of becoming a licensed pilot. Don’t have plans of switching to flying for a job.. just a dream I achieved, since our split.

But despite me achieving things I wanted. I stupidly kept this forlorn hope someday she’d return and realize what she had lost. I had quit looking at any of her socials, but I just knew I still had that nagging thought of as long as she still followed me and saw my accomplishments, she’d realize her loss.

Anyway to wrap up, that’s no way to live. Although I still felt regret doing it and although I did it with no malice, I blocked her on literally everything. Every single social, she’s blocked. She has no road back to me, or to keep up with what I’m doing. Her number isn’t blocked, but it’s deleted.

In my mind, I wasn’t trying to be angry, I just decided it’s time to close that hope. Time to turn the page and 100% forget that part of my life.

Sorry for the long post. As a guy, I don’t really tell my friends or family these things. So it’s easier here to just post that I’m glad I did it, you guys.

To keep it short my ex (M35) and I (F32) were together for 2 years. He was my first boyfriend, and for a long time, our relationship felt truly loving and supportive. We never fought. He stood by me in so many ways… until everything in my life fell apart.

About 9 months ago, I lost my job, visa, and home, and around the same time, my sister became paralyzed. I was overwhelmed, and so was he. Eventually, he decided it was too much and ended the relationship on our anniversary. I moved back home in shock, in complete denial. I tried to rationalize everything. What did I do wrong, maybe it was this maybe it was that… I analyzed everything over and over again and i couldn’t be angry at him. He was crying as much as I was crying when he ended it and I just loved him.

We’ve been in no contact for 7 months. I left him a gift before I left, and he sent a kind message wishing me well and saying maybe we’d reconnect one day. About 2 months ago, he liked my LinkedIn post about getting a new job and viewed my IG stories, but didn’t reach out again. I checked his a few weeks later, saw he was in London, and that was it.

What’s interesting is today, for the first time I felt angry. Not bitter, not resentful, but aware. Like I deserved better than that. For so long, I just felt sad, numb and missing our life. He didn’t do anything outwardly cruel. But still… he left when I needed him most. And now, my feelings are shifting.

If you’ve been through something similar just know that healing is slow, but it does happen. One day you’ll catch yourself thinking differently, and you’ll realize: you’re coming back to yourself.

Hang in there. You’re not alone.

Something hit this morning in a way that is difficult to face. I know he cared about me, but I just wasn't that important to him. As in, he was unable and perhaps, unwilling to put effort into keeping me in his life. When I needed reassurance that his feelings for me hadn't changed, he would be kind with his words and tell me that he wasn't going anywhere. However, that didn't mean that he would try to keep me in his life.

I wasn't asking for grandiose or expensive tokens of affection for him to prove he loved me. I really was asking for the basic glue that holds any relationship together. I want and needed a balanced dynamic. I noted the flags, but I couldn't correctly color code them. This was especially difficult because I'm not in a place to "settle down" but that doesn't mean I wanted something casual either. I thought we were on the same page about that at the start.

I'm not punishing myself for needing more time to collect more data. That's literally the entire point of getting to know someone. Through the grief process and committing to no contact- I am better able to organize those data points to create a more complete picture of what was really going on. However, there is a part of me that wants to reach out and ask him "Hey, so I remember you said ____ that one time. I took it to mean ____ but did you actually mean ____ or something else?"

I think that's the hardest part for me. It's having to come to peace with the real potential of never knowing what truly happened. I can make closure with the information that I have, but it will never be a complete explanation. I don't know if that's due to anxiety from the trauma of my formative years of living with an alcoholic parent- or being an obnoxious nerd that loves learning.

Either way, this knowledge of me simply not being that important to him is bringing up such difficult feelings to hold. This is the part of the "moving on" process that I hate- the transition of becoming indifferent to someone who is important to me, and that I deeply care for. It makes me want to reach out.

But I won't reach out, because to do so would reinforce that I'm okay with him being more important to me than I was to him. This was the crux of my responsibility in our unbalanced dynamic. This is what I have to hold myself accountable for. I allowed him to treat me like a temporary convenience. My anxiety was trying to tell me that my emotional needs weren't being met- and I responded to it with self abandonment.

I'm grateful that our relationship helped me identify the areas of healing I must work on. But shiiiiit... can I do that and not become completely indifferent to him?

Finally broke down this morning after a really long time, and over something so silly, i couldn't find my phone after waking up, i searched everywhere, couldn't find it, started crying really hard, i think it was that, i haven't been happy in so long, when something goes wrong no matter how silly, it just adds to that sinking feeling. But i realize, I've drifted weeks, weekends, days, hours just feeling lonely and longing, but still managed to do so much for myself, reflection made me happy cry for a second. And then my phone vibrated in my pocket. I laughed by myself for a good 30 mins. Life is hilarious man, it'll be okay

She hasn’t responded to my message but our breakup only occurred on Wednesday. Should I have responded differently

So first of all I’m a person with very little self control. Even though I was cheated on by her, I can’t help sometimes feeling like calling her or texting her. I’m totally pathetic I know.

The good news is that I’ve actually moved on a fair bit after her, even had a few rebounds but they were more ONS than a fling. At this point, the ex is also still calling me and hanging up, or texting me that she misses me. Once she out of the blue texted me that she dreamt that we met. I know, a cheating weirdo.

At this point I want her completely out of my life, and I would like to move on without even thinking about her and all the horrible things she did. So I’ve been blocking her for awhile. But being a person with no self control means that I once in awhile still go into my blocked contact list to see her number. I haven’t memorized her number (I’ve already deleted her contact so I can only see the blocked number and her profile picture). I think I should unblock her, and then her number will be gone for good, and I will have no ability to contact her again. I don’t have socials, so that’s a bonus.

The last time we spoke, I pretty much told her to fuck off. Hopefully she got the idea to stay away. Is it a good idea to unblock her and lose her digits once and for all?

We were together for one year (on and off) and I know it's not a long time but I can't get over her and she's on my mind, even in my dreams. We broke up one year ago and i was supposed to move on by now, but nothing seems to work. I'm very focused on my job and my college, i have a bunch of hobbies and I'm a very occupied and busy person but even when i do all those things, she just pops up in my mind randomly and my day becomes shitty again. I don't love her anymore, not the way i used to before, but I don't understand why is she still in my head if i don't have any feelings for her anymore?

Hi How many of you guy's have an ex that reached out while they are"in love" with the rebound?
Was is in/after the rebound? How much time took it after breakup?

FUCK YOU.

YOU DONT GET TO TOSS ME ASIDE AND BELITTLE ME AND DISGRACE MY NAME AND CROSS BOUNDARIES THAT YOU YOURSELF SET IN PLACE AND LABEL ME AS SUCH HORRIBLE THINGS SO YOU CAN JUSTIFY YOUR BEHAVIOR TO YOURSELF.

I CARED ABOUT YOU AND THOUGHT THAT YOU CARED ABOUT ME AND YOU BETRAYED ME TO THE HIGHEST EXTENT.

I LONGED FOR YOU. I SOBBED WITH NOTHING BUT THE FLOOR TO HOLD MY NAKED CONVULSING BODY. I PUT MYSELF THROUGH SO MUCH MENTAL AGONY TRYING TO CONVINCE MYSELF THAT IT WASN'T WRONG TO TRY AND MOVE ON FROM YOU BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO ABANDON MY BEST FRIEND WHO'S SCARED AND LOST AND NEEDS HELP THAT NO ONE IN HER LIFE CAN GIVE HER BECAUSE SHE WON'T TELL HERSELF (LET ALONE THEM) WHAT SHE'S REALLY SUFFERING WITH.

I LOOKED AND TRIED AND SEARCHED FOR SO GODDAMN LONG TO FIGURE OUT A WAY FOR US TO WORK OUT AND I BENT MYSELF SO FAR OUT OF SHAPE AND RESPECT FOR MYSELF TO PUT UP WITH YOU DISCARDING ME AND STOMPING ON MY FEELINGS OVER AND OVER AND OVER. YOU EVEN CONTINUED TO LIE TO ME AND BASH ME AFTER YOU GOT TO YOUR “SAFETY” AWAY FROM ME.

IT IS SO CLEAR THAT YOU LACK ANY SENSE OF EMOTIONAL MATURITY AND NO AMOUNT OF TRYING TO FIX OTHER PEOPLE IS GOING TO FILL THAT VOID IN UR HEART OR MAKE U CONQUER THE FEAR THAT EVERYONE WHO YOU LOVE YOU WILL LEAVE YOU AND BETRAY YOU.

YOU ARE NOW THE CAUSE OF THE TRAUMATIC AND CRUEL EXPERIENCES IN SOMEONE'S LIFE WHO TRULY TRIED TO KNOW YOU, LOVE YOU, AND CARE FOR YOU.

I HOPE YOU CAN FIND THE PEACE AND LOVE AND HOPE AND JOY THAT YOU HAVE WRONGLY SOUGHT OUT IN THIS FEIGNED INDEPENDENCE.

UNLIKE YOU, I AM NOT CRUEL TO THOSE WHO HAVE HURT ME.

YOU HAVE MANIPULATED, ABUSED, LIED TO, BETRAYED, AND ABANDONED ME IN SO MANY FUCKING WAYS AND I KNOW SOMEONE CAN STILL HELP YOU. AND I WOULD NEVER SAY DIFFERENTLY JUST TO HURT YOU. IT TEARS ME APART TO WALK AWAY BUT IT WONT BE ME ANYMORE. I DON'T KNOW IF I'VE EVER FELT SORRIER.

I REALLY HOPE YOU FIND IT AND STOP HURTING YOURSELF AND OTHERS JUST IN A DESPERATE ATTEMPT TO AVOID THE RESPONSIBILITY OF YOUR ACTIONS.

I was abandoned 4 years ago and took multiple tries of no contact lapses to finally get to the point of letting it go. I'm in another relationship now and don't have any contact with ex for years, even though she reached out a few months ago "just catch up". Nope.

No contact works, and i encourage those newly hurt to stick with it. It will be difficult when the wound is deep, and may never go away like in my case. The effort and emotional energy that it takes from you does get better with time. There's days like today where I still think about it but i know it will pass and i'm in a better spot staying no contact. I want to give hope to everyone out there that healing is possible

My bf broke up with me three weeks ago because he "needed time".

The context is a bit of a long story, but the TLDR is that I found out he was engaging too much with adult content. And even though he assured me he would stop, he broke up with me because of it.

I'm very conflicted as it is, because he refused my help and support. He also told me he wanted to stay as friends and see if we can still be together in the future. I told him I could not treat him as just a friend nor did I want to be treated that way by him, and preferred low contact until he figured out what he wanted.

So I guess we're on a break rather than fully separated but I've been grieving as if we're broken up.

A week after all this, he texts me and we talk a little more about the issue, but nothing really changes. Fast forward to this week, I text to check up on him.. despite it all, I do care about him and his wellbeing. The thing is, that he's acting so.. normal? Sends me memes or videos like we're buddies.

I understand now how NC is less painful than this feelings I'm having. I'm angry and I don't even fully understand why. Is not like I want him to be miserable and sad forever... but how can he act so normal? No questions of how I'm doing, what I'm thinking, just "look at this meme".

Damn.

This might not be helpful to some, it might seem really obvious or it might be something that you think doesn’t apply to you but hear me out for a second because it’s something to me which has taken a while to get to and it’s something that’s began to feel really powerful.

In short, you’re not doing it for them.

Some of you will be the dumper, some the dumpee. Some will be talking about attachment styles and narcissists and looking at this emotional turmoil through a clinical lens, going around in circles trying to make sense of what’s happened and how you’re feeling and going through some really tough times and my heart goes out to you but it’s not about them. It’s really not. It’s about you and it always has been.

I spent a long time punishing myself and analysing the situation looking for an answer but guess what? It never came. It’s only when you accept that at this moment they’re not in your life and you start treating yourself with love that the wounds begin to close and you start getting stronger and better. There’s always going to be some pain in this life but it’s your journey and you’re the most important person in your life so move forward and just be kind to yourself. Honestly, it sounds like bullshit and you might not believe it but it really does get you through.

Happy Sunday.

we broke up 2 yrs ago had contact on off till this year january and now its no contact. he is a typical avoidant cant tell me how he feels what he thinks etc.. i broke up with him because i couldn’t take it anymore i need someone who cares who will be doing anything to keep me but still i cant get over him its like he took something from me i really miss him so much its like killing me but i don’t want to break contact bc ik it wont change anything i just want to heel and find someone who values me like i deserve it

I have been debating if I should reach back out to her. We haven’t texted since end of February, which was about a week after it ended between us. Haven’t really been in contact since outside of a few snaps here and there.

Long story short, she asked if we could be friends because, she couldn’t commit to anything and felt bad because she felt that I wanted something more. I told her that was fine, but I told her the truth about having feelings for her, but also was not trying to force anything either, especially if she wasn’t feeling it or couldn’t commit. She told me that she had a lot going on, but was mainly still healing from her past relationship, so she’s not ready to be with someone or in a rush. I did ask if she didn’t feel the same or have any feelings between us since we were hanging out/hooking up plus I thought we were picking up chemistry. Ultimately, she didn’t think it was possible to while still healing from something else.

While it does sting to know that the feelings weren’t reciprocated, I still care for her at the end of the day, even if we’re not in a relationship. I have thought about trying to think of a way to talk to her and just let her know that I’d rather be in her life as her friend, than not be in it at all. Because I did really value our friendship and getting to know each other even before our fling. I just think since this conversation, it’s strained our relationship since the feelings weren’t necessarily reciprocated and it might feel weird/awkward now. Do you think there’s a possible way for me to do this or if I should? I want to respect her space, but I also just don’t want to be out of her life altogether. I thought at least one last message to show her I care. At the very least, I’ll know that I gave it my all in terms of being open and genuine. Idk it’s been weighing on my mind for a while now and has been hard.

We were together for nearly five years. It was a passionate and loving relationship but not without its flaws. From the start, she betrayed my trust several times by texting other men. Either reaching out for some sort of validation or, in some cases having more sexual conversations. Things she shouldn’t have been doing when you’re supposed to be building something together. I stayed though as I had moved in with her and we were trying to build a life together, I cared too much and thought things would settle down. We were both from failed marriages so I think we wanted this to really work. But the shadow that never went away was this certain someone from her past who I had always had a gut feeling about, and it never sat right.

Turns out I was right. After years of asking, she eventually admitted he’d been her long-term affair partner during her marriage. That confession hit me hard, but I didn’t leave as I was already in deep, and I’d already been through a failed marriage and I wanted this to work as I loved her.

We tried, but trust was never fully there. Eventually, things fell apart, and I will own up and say I failed her in certain ways myself, not making her feel like a priority and not giving her the time and attention she sometimes needed. Then, in September last year I looked at her phone after she’d been out and I just got a weird vibe from her! I found out she had cheated on me with him, the person she swore I didn’t need to worry about.

That was the end of us, officially.

But not really. We stayed in touch, all through the initial phase of the break up, me moving out and both of us trying to navigate the feeling of loss and sorrow we were both going through. We both joined dating sites and even met new people but we were somehow drawn back to each other never being able to fully let go. We kept on hooking up for about three months after we split as we had an amazing sexual chemistry. If anything it got better post break up. And the emotional connection was still there, as we had a lovely Christmas together and decided to give it another go to some extent.

Then she met someone new in January. She mentioned fate, seeing the number 11:11 and feeling a certain peace whilst she was with this guy. Although in the same breath mentioning he’s not really her type, that she’s not as attracted to him in the traditional sense, she even told me that they’re not as sexually compatible!

In the following 3 months she’s told me she missed me, that she loved me, that letting go was hard. She’s told me she dreamt about me, and even wanted to meet up but expressed concerns about feeling a rush of love and possibly not being able to resist kissing me. So at times I would go silent, and then she’d reach out just to say she missed talking. Breadcrumbing me to pull me back as her emotional safety net whilst she navigates this new relationship.

Three months this has been going on and then yesterday, she told me they’re engaged!

I’m still trying to process it and I’ll admit I didn’t take it well. I was honest with her and I said what I felt. That it was fast, too fast to really know someone and that it made no sense with everything she’s been saying to me. That I’ve picked up on her subtle doubts and fears over the course of our interactions and that it didn’t sit right as there appears to be something missing. She got defensive understandably, and now… she’s blocked me.

She was saying yesterday she’s ready for her “ever after” and that this is love. But I can’t help but feel this whole thing was built on emotional instability. He doesn’t have kids, and from what I gather, she jumped into this fast, she even told me to my face in January that she felt it was a little ‘reboundy’. They were declaring they loved each other 3 weeks into them dating. It all feels like she’s chasing something rather than growing it.

I can’t help wondering if I was just her emotional transition, her comfort while she worked out how to move forward.

Now I’m here, feeling hollow. Blocked. Processing a breakup all over again, except this time… I’m not even sure it was ever fully over it…

I was seeing a guy for a while and wasn’t sure I was comfortable with it. I have distanced myself because he made wildly inappropriate jokes and was pushy about things I was uncomfortable with. I woke up to this text and was appalled. Frankly, I don’t care. I went immediate NC. But I am curious to see what folks think about this because it’s shocking (and it makes me feel gross and awful I even went out with this person). This is the text I received:

So I thought about this a lot last night. I was not very happy with how you talked to me yesterday when you showed up, how you said it was fucked up for joking with you the previous night. It was kinda the icing on the cake, but I think we should call this quits. It's kinda been an accumulation of things: 1) You make me wear condoms and it completely turns me off from having sex. 2) you have a TON of medical issues that I don't think I can handle. It's selfish to say it, but it's nothing I want to help you deal with in the future. 3) I don't think our sense of humors mesh very well together, as made very clear yesterday.

These are just a few things I thought I'd mention, but I'm very sorry for doing this to you. I want this to be a clean split and didn't want to ghost you. Please don't call trying to argue this, I won't answer. Again, I'm so sorry for all this.

Am I out of pocket for being disgusted? Or are these things ok? For context: I was very nervous about an appointment and he kept saying terrifying things to make me anxious for at least fifteen minutes prior to telling me he was joking. The next day, I said I think your behavior the night before really bothered me. You knew I was super anxious and it’s a fucked up thing to do mess with my head like that, I don’t appreciate it. To clarify, I never said he was fucked up.

Thoughts on this?

I was sitting behind my ex in a bar who monkey-hooked me.

She was scared and did everything she could to avoid making eye contact.

For cheaters, the shame can be overwhelming, believe me.

It doesn't matter if her relationship works, I know my worth and I don't let cheaters impact my life.

She acts like we never knew each other, hahaha.

I broke no contact today, out of respect sent a very respectful message and got blanked think this means it’s time for me to move on and not look back.. just hurts

My therapist has simply told me that my ex might have wanted to be with someone whom she has a certain image of in her mind, she thought you were her person, tried, and then found out she was wrong. This is prolly the worst reason possible and if my ex sees this post: if this is true then go fuck yourself i almost lost my life trying to solve each motherfuckin issue in our relationship before and after the breakup and you just quitted just because you wanted someone else at the first place. We both gon talk again in the eyes of our God and you will see. God wont let me down you bitch. And never come back again cuz i simply ended everything the moment i realized this shit.

It was our first relationship for both.it was an 1.5 year relationship we broke up bcos of our attachment style like I'm being avoidant and she is anxious attacher .we both figured it at the end of our relationship and didn't took any effort to repair it..she went into rebound relationship which didn't last for three months because she can't touch an another man...later after an year we bumped into each other both worked ourselves not in relationship on career,self care since we were in common group we avoided allmost every meetup and outings...and ends up meeting alone together

Again we started taking things slowly not dating not love nothing just as like old before our love we used to vibe mates and after one and half year just being friends and supportive beings to each she asked me that "I'm healed pretty enough from my past relationship are you done with ur ex if so I would like to take you to a date". I was like no idea and I told her I'm not healed up and insecured about relationship and girls due to my past and I just stopped the conversation..but that women stopped always reassued me every once and then came behind me and after six months she again proposed and this time I just know I'm just wanna be with her like for my leftover life and yeah we are happily married..

I'm sharing this BCOS every breakup is not an end to an story every time you grow Falling is good.. Just want to share ...just grow